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Sometimes timing isn't always on our side 有时 时机不会来得刚刚好
We might meet people during significant transitions. We are about to make. 在人生转折点时，也许会遇到那个重要的人
Whether it means traveling overseas 也许要去海外
or having to stay in one place longer than we expected 与预期相比 要停留更久
life doesn't stop for anyone 生活不会为谁而停止
All we can really do is take care of ourselves 我们唯一能做的就是好好照顾自己
and get ready for the journey We are about to begin 为踏上下一步地征程做好准备
Here are five signs you might not be ready for a long-distance relationship 这里是5个你可能不适合异地恋地迹象
One you rely on physical intimacy alone to feel close to your partner 第一，你是依靠肢体接触来获取亲密感的人
Does the idea of being far away from your partner scare you? 与爱人远离会让你感到不安吗？
Of course it does and it's okay to admit this. 当然会，承认自己会恐慌没什么
In fact it's better to ask yourself this question before deciding 事实上，问自己这个问题是很好的
whether to go through the motions of holding on to a long-distance relationship 你要认真思考自己是否能接受异地恋
If you need to see your partner every day 如果你需要每天看到你的爱人
and rely on physical touch to feel close to them 你依靠身体接触获取亲密感
Going long-distance may actually do you more harm than good 异地恋对你来说弊大于利
The idea of letting go might be scary 虽然放手听起来有些痛苦
but the emotional turbulence from being far away from your partner 但因远离爱人而产生的情绪激荡
Could be a lot more hurtful in the end 最后可能会造成更多伤害
Two you're already facing communication problems with your lover 第二，你与爱人本就存在沟通问题
Communication is an important aspect 沟通是一个很重要的方面
that often makes or breaks relationships 在爱情中具有生杀大权
But in long-distance relationships 但对异地恋来说
its relied on even more when two people can't communicate in person 当两人无法见面时，沟通就变得更加重要了
If you're already facing problems in person 如果你们经常见面，都存在沟通问题
going long-distance might make matters worse 异地恋只会让你们变得更糟
when misunderstandings are common 当误解常常出现时
and you rely on technology to communicate 单单通过手机去解决问题是不够的
Three you haven't had the difficult conversations yet 第三，你们没有正式讨论过未来
As lovers learn more about each other over time 当一对情侣越来越了解彼此
their differences can sometimes tear them apart 他们之间的差异有时会导致分手
Even if you're not ready to have some of the more serious conversations 即便你还没准备好跟对方谈人生大事
like marriage and children 如果结婚和孩子
You should be clear with each other 你应该在开始异地前
while you are looking for in a relationship before you take it long distance 跟对方说清楚你对这段感情未来的期许
Four you get jealous easily 第四，你很容易吃醋
It's normal to have insecurities. Everyone does 每个人都有不安全感，这很正常
But if you get jealous easily 但如果你太容易吃醋
or often get paranoid that your partner will cheat on you with someone else 或经常胡思乱想，总觉得你爱人会出轨
Those issues have to be sorted out 那么在开始异地前
before the two of you go long-distance 这个问题必须先解决
It's unrealistic to believe 对与你异地的爱人来说
that your partner will not speak to or hang out with other people Ta不跟别人说话，出去玩，这些是不现实的
While you are apart 当你们分割两地
and you will need to trust that they are staying loyal 需要相信你们双方都能保持忠诚
Relationships are built on the foundation of trust 爱情是建立在信任的基础上的
and there will only be less when you can't check in in person 当无法见面时，这样的信任是会减少
Five you're already having second thoughts about who you're with 第五，你已经对感情不那么投入了
Have you ever dated someone only to find out later 你有没有跟一个人在一起后
that the two of you just aren't as compatible as you thought 才发现你俩没想象中合拍
Breakups are hard 分手是很难过的
but it's even harder to stay with someone 但比起跟不合适的人在一起
You know isn't right for you 会比分手还要难受
If you're already hesitating 如果你已经犹豫了
and having a hard time imagining a future together 并且很难想象你们未来的样子
Perhaps it's time to sit down with your partner 也许该跟你的爱人坐下来谈谈了
and let them know what's on your mind 让对方知道你的想法
It's okay to be scared 虽然这样很残忍
but don't let it hold you back from making an important decision 但不要让它阻止你做跟重要的决定
You are your first priority 要把自己放在首位
and you must surround yourself with whatever feels right for you 你需要选择适合自己的留在身边