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﻿"Men are pigs"you say 你说“男人都是大猪蹄子”
stuffing your face with ice cream to fill 一边又往嘴里猛塞冰淇淋以填满
the empty hole of rejection and betrayal 自己被拒绝和背叛的心灵
Any relationship is difficult to maintain 维系任何一段关系都是困难的
but a romantic relationship between a man and a woman is even more so 而男女之间的恋爱关系更是如此
why is this？ 为什么会这样？
while love is a feeling experienced identically 虽然爱的感受经历是相同的
the act of falling in love involves 但是坠入爱河
two entirely different processes for each sex 在男女之间确实完全不同的
in the case of men 对于男性来说
there are seven particular steps men follow for falling in love 坠入爱河需要经历7个特别的阶段
the first step appreciation 第一个阶段 欣赏
is by far the most common 迄今为止最常见的一个阶段
it's the act of checking someone out 他们的表现主要在于观察对方
focusing on the physical appearance of a potential mate 着重于观察潜在对象的外表
physical appearance is not the most important factor 虽然外貌并不是最重要的因素
yet a condition of a man's individual preferences must be met 但也要满足个人喜好这个条件
the second stage infatuation 第二个阶段 心动
involves a need to seduce the target love interest 开始引起目标对方的兴趣
traditional methods involve asking the interest out on a date 传统的方式包括 邀请约会
while alternative methods may be based on shared interests and hobbies 也可以是基于共同兴趣与爱好的其他方法
if he's rejected in this pursuit 如果在这个阶段被拒绝
the man will most likely lose interest 他们基本上就会失去兴趣
the third stage is attraction 第三个阶段 吸引
where the pursued love interest reciprocates interest in him 这一阶段 被追求的一方开始对男方也产生兴趣
heartbreak isn't as difficult to deal with before this point 在这个时候结束恋情 并不会感觉特别心痛
as vulnerability hasn't built up yet 因为还不到被伤害的地步
this is the stage 这个时候
where he attempts to get to know the love interest on a deeper level 他就会试图想要更深地了解对他的想法
a more intense relationship 一段更深的感情
requires both parties to reveal more about one another 需要双方更加了解彼此
impression the fourth stage 第四个阶段 印象
is simply an enhanced version of the previous stage 这是上一个阶段的增强版
the potential mate becomes an obsession to the man 男方对这个潜在的伴侣开始了迷恋
attempting to get their attention in any way shape or form 尝试以各种方法来博取对方的关注
from buying gifts to showing how fun he can be 从送礼物到表现自己有多有趣
regardless of these obsessive signs 尽管有这么多的痴迷迹象
he is still not in love 他仍然没有坠入爱河
conviction is the fifth stage 第五个阶段 确信
yet it is far more flexible than the other steps 相比于第二到第四个阶段的其他步骤
spanning from stages two to four 这个阶段更加灵活多变
this is the stage where the man asks himself  在此阶段 男人会问自己
whether or not he can see himself with the interest in the far future 是否有继续长期交往的兴趣
considering how difficult it is for the man to establish 考虑到如果双方关系更进一步
if the relationship should become more than it is now 继续下去又会有多么困难
this is a background overlying phase 这是男方背景原因叠加思考的一个阶段
yet it needs to be completed in order to each stage six 然而到达第六个阶段 这个阶段必须是必不可少的
reaffirmation is the sixth stage 第六个阶段 再次确认
where the man has successfully met his goal of seducing the love interest 这时男方已经成功引起了对方的兴趣
only when the potential mate is in this state 只有当对方心里也有继续下去的意愿
will he seriously consider whether or not 男方才会开始认真考虑
he wants to have an extreme long-term relationship 他是否想让这段关系天长地久
the man needs space in this stage 男方在这个阶段需要个人空间
in some cases 在某些情况下
he could disappear to weigh the pros and cons 他可能会消失一段时间去权衡利弊
if both parties agree 如果双方都同意
the final stage commitment is achieved 那么就完成了最后一个阶段 承诺
both parties will be committed to the relationship at this point 在这个时候 双方就会全身心地投入这段感情
and considering this is the seventh stage 毕竟到了第七阶段
yes the man is finally in love 没错 男方终于坠入爱河了
it is important to understand 最重要的是了解
regardless of gender to learn how to love 不论性别 学会爱是很重要的
and often this involves falling in love 其中常常包含了坠入爱河的方式
hopefully with these tips 希望有了这些信息
you found an easier path to understanding how romance works in the mind of a typical man 你会发现一条理解典型直男恋爱思维的捷径
males can be fickle 男人可能轻浮多情
but if you're into that 但如果你恰巧喜欢
keep these steps in mind 请记住这7个阶段
you'll be ahead of those who think they know how love works 你就会比那些自以为了解恋爱的人领先一步
and maybe 或许
you'll save yourself a few pints of ice cream as well 你以后就能省下几品脱的冰激凌了
chocolate can't fix everything 巧克力不是万能的
maybe mint but not chocolate 也许薄荷可以 但一定不是巧克力