欢迎大家 I wanna welcome you.
我希望这会是你的一次伟大探险 To what, I hope，will be, for your, a great great Adventure.
因为我们会去调查，探索，发现 For we are going to be probing and exploring and uncovering…
对有些人甚至是揭示 and for some of you guys, we are going to be unraveling…
男人是什么 what a man is,
男人能什么样 what a man can be,
男人应该什么样 what a man should be,
在一些情况下，男人必须做什么 what a man must be on certain occasions
如果他真的想从心里觉得自己是个男子汉的话 if he is going to feel a sense of real masculinity within himself.
有很多人没有这种感觉 You Know There are a lot of guys that don't feel that way.
有很多人的内心只感到自己在随波逐流 There are a lot of guys that inside they just feel like they're drifting.
一件让我非常激动的事情 And One of the things that's been so exciting
是我有机会在过去十年里 about this particular opportunity that I've had to be with men over the last 10 years
和男人们在一起 看到他们找到了一个中心 is to see guys find a center
不是这个团契 而是在自己的里面 not out here, but inside themselves
这个中心开始让他们 更坚实 更清楚 更确定 begin to find a place that they can stand a lot firmer and clear and sure
作为一个男人 自己是谁 about who they are as men
当一个人找到这个中心以后 会发生一些美妙的事情 And You Know Something wonderful happens when a guy finds that
他成了一股不可忽视的力量 he becomes a force to be reckoned with.
当他清楚自己是谁 清楚自己要去哪里的时候 When he's clear about who he is and clear about where he's going
我们今年要讲的是 我们作为男人要去的地方 what we're going to be talking about this year is where we're going as men
我们称之为伟大的冒险 你准备好了吗 我希望你准备好了 we're calling it the great adventure And are you ready for the great adventure I hope you are
比尔有个请求 You Know, Bill was asking for
想让大家举手 看谁参加过男人天空一、二 show of hands for some of you've been to Men's Fraternity one, two, and so on and so forth
我倒想请大家举一下手 Just for a moment, I would like to see a show of hands.
有多少人从来没参加过男人天空 这是你第一次 How many guys have never been through Men's Fraternity I just want to see this is your first time
不不，第一次参加的举起手 No. Is this your first time to go through Men's Fraternity All right, just keep your hand up
天啊 太好了 你们第一次来到这里 Gosh That's just incredible that you're starting out with us
我想大家应该为你们的加入而鼓掌 And I think for the rest of us I think we ought to give you a round of applause for joining with us
几年前 You Know A number of years ago
无意之中 有些人来找我 I stumbled into this because some men came into me
说我们觉得需要聚一聚 因为我们感到很疏远 and they just said you know we just feel like we need to get together We feel disconnected
我问他们为什么有这种感觉 And So I asked them why they felt that way.
很多人都有差不多的感觉 there was a lot of kind of different comments
但又没人说得清楚 but nothing real clear
直到有一个人说 One of the guys in the group said
我就是想和一些真实的人在一起 I just would like to get with some other guys to be real
就像我们在大学兄弟会那时一样 you know kind of like we did when we were back in the fraternity.
我在大学里是参加过一个兄弟会 Well I was in a fraternity in college
我不确定我是否想回到那时候 and I'm not sure I want to go back there
但我觉得他想告诉我的是 But I think what he was trying to tell me
人们大学一毕业 接着就是进入职场 was that you know you you finish college and you get out in the work world
接触到各种各样的人 And there are all these forces that work there
慢慢地 你建立很多肤浅的人际关系 And slowly, though you have a lot of superficial relationships
终于有一天 你发现只有你自己了解 Somehow you'd find yourself one day in a place where you're alone
你自己的感情 你自己的想法 with your feelings and your thoughts,
你自己的梦想 野心 和恐惧 and your dreams and your ambitions and your fears.
而周围这个世界 And somehow the world
让你戴上一个面具 戴着它谈论高尔夫 has caused you to put this mask on where you can talk about golf
说说剃须刀 And you can talk about the razorbacks
也能聊聊生意上的事 And you can talk about business deals
可就是不能谈到你自己 but you can't talk about you.
你能去哪里聊自己呢 So Where can you go to do that?
正是这样的契机 And I think that is really what
让我们这个特殊团契在社区开始成长壮大 started the success of this particular ministry opportunity that we've had in the community
因为我们从几年前在万锦的健身房聚会的50人开始 Because we started with you know about 50 guys over on Markham at the Razorback Gym years ago,
开始只是随便谈论不同的话题 just talking about different subjects. And then
最终我们谈到了 作为一个男人的意义到底是什么 we eventually got to this issue of what it means to be a man
突然一下 每年就有越来越多的男人加入 And all of a sudden more and more men every year started coming first
开始是一两百 后来三百 四百 couple hundred and 300 and 400
两年前到了 700 是不是很神奇 and a couple of years ago, 700. Is that not amazing
但我想说的 正是这样的神奇壮大 反映了一些事情 But let me tell you as amazing that it is it says something
它反映了 我们国家男性气质的现况 It makes a statement about the state of masculinity in our country.
它反映了男人们渴望聚在一起 讨论作为男人的意义到底是什么 It says that men are hungry to get together and talk about what it means to be a man
说明了男人是需要指导的 It means that men need some sense of direction
他们需要探索自己的男子气质 探索他们是谁 他们是什么 They need to explore their masculinity and who they are and what they are
他们要去哪里 这就是今年我们要做的 and where they're going. And that's what we're gonna do this year
事实上 我想告诉你 男人天空 主要会为你做三件事 In fact, I want to tell you that Men's Fraternity basically will do three things for you
第一件 Here's the first one The first thing it's gonna do
是给你一个可以畅所欲言的地方 it's gonna be a place where you can talk openly
公开地 安全地 And I want to say openly and safely
讨论做一个男人的意义是什么 about what it means to be a man.
一个可以公开安全交谈的地方非常重要 It's really important that we have a place where we can talk openly and safely
每年男人天空结束的时候 You Know Every year When we finish Men's Fraternity
我们会调查了一下 大家这一年的体验如何 we kind of take a survey of what the guys experience when they went through this year together.
有一个很重要的反馈是每年都会出现的 And One of the things that comes out of every year that I think is so important
就是很多人都会说到 as men will tell me this They'll say
我发现不是只有我这样 I discovered I'm not alone.
不是只有我有这样的感觉 有这样的恐惧 I'm not alone in my feelings, in my fears,
只有我独自面对一切 in my sense of what I'm dealing with
我以为只有我这样 别人看上去都好得很 you know I thought I was all alone Everybody else look like they're doing great
我问张三 你怎么样 他说挺好啊 I ask joe how he's doing He said, fine
大家都说挺好啊 Everybody says fine.
可我就觉得 But there are things in me that
算不上挺好的 但也不明白问题在哪 are not so necessarily fine and things I don't really even understand
而在男人天空 听到大家在小组的发言 So Men's Fraternity As I listen to other guys talking my small group
让我明白 不是只有我才这样 they help me understand I'm not alone
他们都在面对同样的情况 They were all dealing with the same things And I want you to know
我想让你知道的是 我们都一样 we all are
我们都面对同样的问题 We're all deal with the same issues in life
我们都需要鼓励 and we all need encouragement
我们都需要有人为我们加油 We all need guys to cheer for us
我们都需要一种彼此可以坦诚交流的伙伴 We all need a sense of companionship where we can talk openly with one another
男人们迫切需要这个 我也需要这个 Guys desperately need that I need that
其次 如果你能从头到尾 Secondly, it's a place where I think over the course of the year
坚持把课程上完 这会是一个让你能够完善的地方 if you'll hang with us through the course of the year you'll be a finisher
它会让你自己发展你特有的男性气质 Then what it's gonna do Is It's gonna allow you to personally process your own masculinity
我觉得这是每个人都需要的 And I think every guy needs that.
我们不少人的成长都有一位缺席的父亲 A lot of us grew up with distant dads,
疏远的父亲 让我们失去了一些东西 disconnected dad. So we lost something in that.
我们可能还在从中恢复的过程里 也许你也是 And So we're still in the process maybe of recovering that. Maybe you are.
但即使你有一个父亲 而且是一个善于教导的领导者 But even if you had a a dad who is a a strong nurture and leader
男人还是会进入一个与世隔绝的地方 guys still come to a place where they get cast out in the world on their own and
独自一人去发展他们的男性气质 they're having to process their masculinity now alone
所以他们需要一个地方可以和 其他男人联系起来 去开始这个过程 So they need a place where they can go and connect with other guys to begin that process
这就是那个地方 I want you know that's here,
这里的小组讨论 这里的讲课 和这一年里 that's here in a small group that's here in the lectures that's here
形成的兄弟情谊 就是发展男性气质的地方 just in the friendships that will be formed over the course of this year.
参加过男人天空的人知道 And it's also a place if you've been through Men's Fraternity
这也是个可以让我们自嘲的地方 you guys know it's a place where we can come and laugh at ourselves a little bit
笑有好处 对灵魂有益 It's good to laugh It's good for the soul
要是你上过男人天空一 二 的话 And probably nobody does that better for me
就知道说笑话没人比得过戴夫·贝瑞 And if you've been on Men's Fraternity one and two than Dave Berry
所以我也挑一段作为男人天空三的开场 and I thought i'd start off Men's Fraternity three by just reading a little selection
这样我们就可以开心地完成后边的课程了 So we could laugh a little bit of ourselves where we go on into the rest of the session here today.
他在这个笑话里探讨了男女之间 In this particular thing that I found he's just talking about the differences in men and women
对于家庭清洁的不同价值标准 in regards to their values around the home in cleanliness.
他这么说 Here's what he says.
女人和男人对清洁的概念截然不同 Women and guys have profoundly different concepts of "clean."
女人打扫浴室的时候 会带着许多专门的产品和工具进去 When a woman "cleans" a bathroom she will go in there with numerous specialized products and implements
用来清洁玻璃 擦拭洁具 抛光瓷砖 甚至除臭 for cleansing, scouring, shining, and deodorizing the glass the porcelain, the tile
甚至花几个小时清洁磁砖缝 she'll spend even hours on the "grout."
一个分子 一个分子地清除污垢 She will eradicate dirt on a molecular level
她会追踪并消灭每一个霉菌孢子 She will track down and destroy each individual mildew spore
她能听到细菌的声音 也能让它们怕到尖叫 she can actually hear the germs and she can make them scream,
而如果让男人打扫浴室 whereas the guy If instructed to clean the bathroom
我们拿着一张纸巾就进去了 we'll go in there with a single paper towel
带着看到的第一个喷雾瓶 And the first spray bottle he finds
不管是玻璃水 还是雷达杀虫剂 it might be Windex or it could even be Raid
他不会在意浴室是不是更干净了 He will pay no attention to whether or not he's actually getting the bathroom cleaner
因为他真的相信 because he really believes
当菌霉生长达到一定的规模和攻击性水平时 that when fungal growth reaches a certain size and aggressiveness level
就该搬家了 it's time to find a new place to live
还有洗衣服 And then there's laundry.
我们来看看下面这封信的节选 Let's consider this excerpt from the following letter
亲爱的戴夫 有天早上我丈夫告诉我他没干净内裤穿了 Dear Dave, my husband announced one morning that he had discovered the previous night,
他昨天晚上才知道今天要出差两天 on the eve of a two-day business trip that he was out of underwear
他为什么跟我说这个 我不懂 我从来没跟他说过没干净内裤了 Why he told me? I don't know. I never tell him when I'm out of underwear.
还真是这样 it's true. And the guys
他的解决办法就用最男人的方式 anyway decided to remedy the situation in true guy fashion
从洗衣筐里挑出三条内裤 洗了 by washing exactly three sets of underwear
完全无视还有大把他的内裤躺在洗衣筐里 thus disregarding the bulging hamper full of the rest of his underwear
大概他以为这些内裤自己会变干净 which, presumably he thought would wash itself
阿尔伯克基 的艾莉森·舒勒 亲笔 Signed Allison Shuler from Albuquerque.
戴夫接着说 这是一个典型的 Dave then says this is a perfect example of the kind of hurtful
有损男人形象的偏见 stereotypical blanket statement about guys
女人不断制造这样的偏见 that women, as a group, are always making.
不能只因为 舒勒女士的丈夫 不洗衣服 Just because Ms. Schuler's husband doesn't do the laundry
就否定有数以百万的男性确实洗衣服 doesn't mean that there aren't millions upon millions of males
洗完还自己挂出去 who do do their laundry and then hang it out to dry
让祖玛星球的三个太阳晒干 under the three suns of the Planet Xoomar
因为他们全住在那里 where they obviously live.
我承认 地球上大多数男人 都是能不洗衣服就不洗 I will admit however, that most guys here on earth do not do more laundry than they absolutely have to
这是为什么呢 是因为男人一无是处 都是不负责任的人渣吗 Why is this or guys simply worthless? Irresponsible scum?
是的 Yes.
不过女人也根本不会让男人去洗衣服 除非他接受了多年的训练 But a woman wouldn't let a guy do her laundry anyway unless he underwent years of training
因为她觉得男人会把事情搞砸 让她的内衣缩水 Because she assumed he'd screw it up and cause her garments to shrink down
变成可爱小精灵的衣服 to cute little tinkerbell clothes
或是像电影《苍蝇》里的倒霉蛋一样 在烘干机里被肢解重组 or transmaterialize in a drier similar to what happened to that unfortunate man in the movie the fly
让她穿上有裤腿的胸罩 So she'd wind up for example with the brassiere that had pant legs
我不是在为男人辩护 我只是说我们中的很多人 I'm not defending guys here I'm just saying that a lot of us have developed
都有强烈的洗衣恐惧症 并不断受到它的折磨 a powerful laundry phobia and will continue to suffer from it
尤其是当女人翻着白眼把我们从洗衣机旁推开的时候 as long as women roll their eyes and shove us away from the washing machine
就因为我们要 When we're about to do
把精致的丝制品和船罩放到一起去洗 for example, wash our delicate silks and the same load as our boat cover
没错 我们在这些方面有问题 yes, we guys have a problem in these areas
但这不是我们的错 but it's not our fault
这是天性 We're talking about nature here
这就像猪肉绦虫 It's a lot like tapeworms.
绦虫不会给人什么好印象 Tapeworms tend to have a negative public image
因为他们是令人厌恶的生物 会进入人的肠道 because they are repulsive organisms. They get inside people's intestines
吃人的食物 一直长到60英尺长 and eat people's food and grow to links of 60 feet
但这是他们的错吗 But is it is it their fault?
不 No,
这是他们的天性 it's their nature.
我们也一样 And We guys are no different
事实上 男人就像绦虫一样 In fact, guys are exactly like tapeworms
除了一件事 except in one area
绦虫更有可能帮忙洗碗 tape, worms are more likely to help with the dishes.
嗯 Well
我们想用笑声读过每一年 我们也会谈到 we wanna laugh over the course of the years. Well We wanna talk about
男人的特点 things that make us guys
但最重要的是我们想谈谈 是什么让我们成为男人 But most importantly we want to talk about what makes us men
我想也许我们可以先做一个大的概述 And I thought maybe just to start us out, we'd do a big picture overview
给你一个简单的表格来介绍男人天空间的内容 of Men's Fraternity by giving you just a simply just a a diagram of orientation
你在提纲上可以找到 我们把它放在屏幕上 It's there on your outline and we'll put it up here on the screen
我想让你知道男人天空是什么 But I want to give you a sense of what Men's Fraternity is
因为这包括了三年的课程 because it's really a 3 year curriculum
在这三年里 And over that course of three years
我们朝着一个方向前进 we're building in a direction
对第一次来这里的人 Now, for those of you who are here for the very first time
我想让你知道 这是第三年的课程 I want you to know you're in the 3rd year
今年是全新的男人天空课程 And this is a whole new Men's Fraternity this year
明年我们会重新开始男人天空一 二 三 Next year we'll start Men's Fraternity one again and go one, two, and three.
但是给大家一个概述 来帮助大家跟上进度 But to give you an overview to give everybody know if you'd kind of bring us up to speed
我们先看看男人天空一二三的名称 let's just kind of walk through what the name of Men's Fraternity one two and three is
男子天空一名字是铁汉柔情——真男人 Name of Men's Fraternity one was called the quest for authentic manhood
这是关于男子气质的 基础课程 It's kind of a foundational level concerning manhood.
男人天空二是 赢在家庭和职场 Men's fraternity two was a man at work and at home
专注于两个特定领域 focused on kind of two specific areas
对男人至关重要的两个方面 that predominantly are central to a man's life,
职业与家庭 his career, and his family,
在男人天空三 Then now here in Men's Fraternity 3
说的是男人的世界里 We're talking about a man in his world
以及这个世界之外的事 It's what's out beyond that
还有他的未来 名称是大冒险 And it's what's in his future? It's called a man in his great adventure
男人天空一 像是打地基 第二学年是墙壁 You Know Where the first one was kind of a ground floor Men's Fraternity two were kind of the walls
现在我们给 男子气质的房子加上屋顶 And now we're putting the roof on the house of masculinity.
男人天空一的焦点是男人的核心身份 The focus of Men's Fraternity one was a man's core identity
它讲的是身份问题 It deals with identity issues
一些基本的概念 just basic kind of concepts
男人天空二 讲男人的责任 whereas Men's Fraternity two dealt with a man's responsibilities
他的主要职责 his chief responsibilities
男人天空三 讲的是一个人的天命 and then Men's Fraternity three. What you're herein is a man's destiny.
男人天空一 的主要元素 the chief elements in Men's Fraternity one
是男人的伤口 回顾他的过去 was a man's wounds. It's looking back into his past
看看那些可能扭曲了他男子气质的东西 and looking at the things that maybe misshaped part of his masculinity
所以在男人天空一 我们对一个人的过去做了很多探察 So we do a lot of probing in a man's past in Men's Fraternity one
我们给什么是男人下一个定义 让男人找到自己的角色 And we give a definition of man at a place where guys can finally stand
大多数美国男人做不到这件事 and do what I think most men in America still can't do
如果有人问他们 And that is if they were asked the question
什么是男人 what is a man
如果有人问你你们这些第一次来的人 if you were asked the question you guys who are here for the very first time
什么是男人 你能给我一个简洁的 what is a man Could you give us a succinct
却充满激情的定义 passionate definition of it
把它当成一个作为男人的标准吗 大多数人都做不到 that you say That's what I'm living to be See, most guys can't.
大多数人都答不上来 Most guys just draw a blank at that point
所以在男人天空一当中 So Men's Fraternity one we give this
我们给出了男子气质的定义并概述了一些基本的男子气质问题 definition of manhood and we overview some basic manhood issues
男人天空二的主要元素 Then in Men's Fraternity two the chief elements
是一个人如何享受并以全新的方式从事他的工作 are how a man enjoys and engages his work in a whole new way
其次 他如何成功地和一个女人保持关系 And then secondly, how he successfully relates to a woman,
这是男人生活的一大部分 which is a big part of a man's life
最后在 男人天空三 And then finally in this one Men's Fraternity three
我们要做的是重新发现生活中的一些冒险 what we're gonna be doing is rediscovering some of the adventure of life
我们一会儿再谈为什么要这么做 And we'll talk about why we need to do that here in a moment
但同时也是进一步理解 我是谁 But its understanding also who I am,
作为一个男人 我的独特之处是什么 What are the uniqueness is that I have as a man
所以我们要讨论的是 男人是如何被设计出来 so we're gonna be talking about design issues how men are designed
以及你的独特设计 and how you uniquely are designed
然后探索满意的生活焦点在哪里 and then discovering what I call a satisfying life focus
男人天空一的主要挑战 是这样一个口号 The major Challenge if you were with us in Men's Fraternity one was this call that we made
男孩要死去 如果你上过男人天空一 你明白那是什么意思 the boy must die Now if you were in mister attorney one you know what that means
总有一天 男人要把幼稚的东西放在一边 But there comes a place where a man has got to put away childish things.
在生活的路上继续前进 迎接真正的男子气质 He's got to move on in his life to what I call real masculine real manhood issues
所以你里面的那个男孩必须死去 这是男人天空一 So the boy in you must die in Men's Fraternity one
男人天空二 是让你里面的男人开始向前迈步子 and Men's Fraternity two It's more of the man in you must step forward
迈入到那些你生命中最重要的部分 step forward into those areas that are most central to your life
进入职场 带着坚定的信念 Step forward in the workplace with conviction
一种超越了仅仅为了收入而工作的全新信念 A whole different uh conviction that goes beyond just making a paycheck
让你成为职场上的一股力量 It's being a force in the workplace
进入到你的家庭 作为家庭的头 And then also stepping forward in your home as the leader of your home
如何与你的妻子和孩子相处 这是在家庭里的责任 and how you relate to your wife and your children the responsibilities you have there
在这学年的男人天空中 And then in this particular Men's Fraternity
我们要做的就是冒险 what we're doing is the adventure
我们说的是冒险 你必须经历的冒险 We're talking about the adventure and you must live.
因为在人生道路上的某个地方 很多人失去了人生的冒险 Because somewhere along life's path a lot of guys lose the adventure of life
只剩下艰难地活着 It just becomes hard.
男人天空一 的目标在于追寻你的男子气质 The passion of Men's Fraternity one was seizing your manhood.
男人天空二 的目标是要建立你的男子气质 The passion of Men's Fraternity two was establishing your manhood
男人天空三的目标 是把你的男子气质发展到极致 and the passion of this Men's Fraternity Men's paternity three is maximizing your manhood.
如果你注意最后 关于目标的这部分 In fact, if you look in those that last one on passion
你们这些知道男人的定义的人 For those of you you guys who know the definition of manhood
我看到的是 I really see the real
男人天空一 的核心是拒绝被动 central part of Men's Fraternity one is rejecting passivity
记得吗 这就是男人天空一的核心 You remember that that's really what Men's Fraternity one is.
就是最终站出来 大声说我要做一个男人 It's finally stepping up and saying, hey I'm gonna be a man.
男人天空二 是关于承担责任 那些重要的责任 Men's fraternity two is accepting responsibility those chief responsibilities
男人天空三 是勇敢地带领 Men's Fraternity three is now leading courageously
不是带领家人 也不是在职场 not your family and not in the workplace
带领你自己 勇敢踏上这伟大的冒险之旅 leading you courageously in this great adventure
好让你得到上帝在你这一生中赐予你的一切 so that you might receive all that god's heads for you in this life
这就是为什么在这三门课的标语里 And that's why the directive of the three
我用了最简单的词语 i'd put them just simply this way
男人天空一是 出发 二是 拼搏 三是 胜利 Men's Fraternity one is go, Men's Fraternity two is fight, and Men's Fraternity three is win,
出发 拼搏 胜利 go fight and win
以男人在生活去做这些 in life as a man.
现在让我们回到这个表格 在主要元素这一栏说道 now let's just go back as you see this diagram where it says rediscovering into the chief elements
重新发现生命的冒险 理解我的设计 rediscovering adventure of life and understanding my design
建立令人满意的生活焦点 and establishing a satisfying life focus
我们先在这里停一下 While that diagram stays up there just for a moment
因为我想告诉大家 I just want to stop there and say, you know
为什么我们要把注意力集中在那里 why did we focus there
为什么主要元素是重新在生活中找到冒险 Why is the the the chief elements about rediscovering an adventure in life
那又是什么意思呢 What does that mean
我想先做个调查盘点一下 Well I want to do a little inventory and see
看看你是否有这样的需要 if you have some of the need
是男人天空三会讲到的 that Men's Fraternity three seeks to address
让我先来和你们做一个 个人的盘点 And I want to do that by just taking a personal inventory with you for a moment
问你几个问题 你就坐在那里思考一下 by asking you some questions. And you just sit there and reflect on this.
你喜欢你现在的状况吗 Do you like where you are
作为一个男人 你喜欢现在的状态吗 as a man? Do you like where you are right now?
当你把自己当成男人的时候 你对未来感到兴奋吗 When you think of yourself as a man? Is the future exciting to you?
我是说 要不断重复做同样的事 I mean we're talking about going on and doing more of the same
会让你兴奋吗 还是会让你想要逃跑 Is that exciting to you Or is that something you're saying? No, I kind of want to escape
对那些从20多岁就开始 有一个非常好的开端的人 for some of you guys who start out so strong in your twenties
甚至到了三十多岁也很好 and maybe even into your thirties
当你继续前进 即使你成功了 And as you went on and even as you succeeded
当你成功的时候 生活不断对说你 很好 你做得很好 and as you succeeded life just kept saying ok you're doing good
生活不断往你的肩膀上 压上更多的责任 And what it kept loading on your pack is just more responsibility
在你中年的时候 有没有感觉过 Have you gotten to a place kind of in your mid years
做更多你正在做的事情 让人觉得负担更重 而不是兴奋 where doing more of what you're doing feels burdensome rather than exciting
很多人都有这种感觉 You Know There are a lot of guys that get there.
我们会反复看到 这在人类历史中出现 That's been the constant refrain As we'll see in a moment in human history
男人在人生中途会累的 Guys get tired midway through life
我喜欢爱德·赛斯曼的这首诗 I like what Ed Sissman says in this statement
他写道 他四十模样 夜里起来 He said, men past 40 get up at night
眺望城市灯光 疑惑 look out at city lights and wonder
何处转错了方向 where they made the wrong turn.
生命 为何如此漫长 and why life is so long?
引起你的共鸣吗 Does that strike a chord in you?
对你们中年人来说 For some of you guys in midlife?
你知道你为什么来这里吗 Do you know why you're here?
这是个形而上学的问题 That's a metaphysical question.
为什么生活把你带到了这里 You Know Why you're here in life.
知道你为何而来吗 Do you know what you're here for?
你的生命有被召唤的感觉吗 Is there a sense of calling on your life?
你知道自己的天命吗 Is there a sense of destiny
你的命运会带你去向何方 to your life about where you're going
在你的生活中有什么让你兴奋的原因吗 Is there a cause in your life that you're excited about
一个比你自己更大的原因 That's bigger than you?
你是否越来越觉得 do you have a growing sense
你心中有些东西在慢慢死去 that something is dying in you,
你不知道那是什么 but you don't know what it is.
你能感觉到 You can feel it,
却无以言表 but you can't express it.
但就是越来越感到有些东西好像消失了 But there's just this growing sense that maybe something is missing.
你知道是什么能让你活下去吗 Do you know what makes you come alive as a man?
好像当你在一条野外的小溪里游泳 Do you know the places where if you go into those swim into those streams
一下觉得生活又变得令人兴奋了一样 It's like life becomes exciting again
而不是死气沉沉 你知道是什么让你兴奋吗 as opposed to deadening Do you know what those areas are
最后 你在生活中能享受到乐趣吗 And finally, are you having fun in life
好像过了一段时间之后 男人再也没有乐趣了 You Know It seems that guys after a while they don't have any fun anymore
他们还在进行同样的娱乐活动 They They They're still doing some of the same recreation
但没有那种刺激感了 but it just doesn't have the thrill
激情已逝 The thrill is gone
我们想探索是什么让人活着 We want to explore what makes a man come alive
是什么给他的生活带来了冒险 What brings adventure to his life
是什么让他找到天命 与呼召 What gives him a sense of destiny And calling
这就是男人天空三要讲的 That's what Men's Fraternity three is all about
我喜欢诗篇第90章 上面这么写着 You Know I love the verse in Psalm 90. It says this
求你教我们数算自己的年日 teach us to number our days
这是一首宏大的诗 It's kind of a big picture verse
是那种一句话就让你看到整个生命的诗句 It's one of those flybys Where all of sudden you see all of life just for a moment in a verse
求你教我们数算自己的年日 我把"我们"看作"男人" teach us to number our days that we and I will put we as men
好使我们心有智慧 might present to you a heart of wisdom
当我们回头看我们的生活 不论是二十 三十 四十岁的时候 that when we look over our life whether when we were twenties or thirties or forties
都有一颗智慧的心 there's kind of a heart of wisdom there
当我们过了二十多岁 回头看的时候 可以说 很高兴我这样做了 We're glad we we get past our twenties and look back and go I'm glad I did that
过了三十多岁 回头看看 可以说 很高兴我这样做了 We get past our thirties and look back on our 30 and go I'm glad I did that
直到你的生命尽头 回首往事 可以说 And all the way to you Finally get to the end of your life and you look back and you go
很高兴我这样活了一辈子 I'm glad I live that way
求你教我们数算自己的年日 Teach us to number our days,
所有的人 all of them
心中有大局 心中才能有智慧 to live with the big picture in mind that we may present to the heart of wisdom
然后说到 噢 使我们饱享你的慈爱 And then he says o, satisfy us, that we may sing for joy
我喜欢最后一句 因为它很重要 And I love the last line because it's so important
我们 在这里"我们"看作"男人" And that we we as men in this case
使我们一生充满欢欣喜乐 that we might be glad all our days.
告诉你 当我读到这样的诗句时 我会说 这就是我想要的生活 I tell you, when I read a verse like that, I will go, that's what I want for my life.
我告诉你们 今年我们的目标是 So let me tell you out of that Here's the goal that we have in mind for this year
今年男人天空的目标就是 The goal of this year's Men's Fraternity is just simply this
帮助你 帮助年轻人 对生命有一个长远的思考 to help you and for those younger guys is to help stretch you to think out long term in your life
对于我们这些年纪稍大的人来说 是重新思考我们现在的处境 For those of us who are a little bit older it's to help us rethink kind of where we are
也许还可以重新塑造一下自己 and maybe reinvent ourselves a little bit
但这是为了让我们每个人都带着满足结束自己一生 But it's to help each of us finish this life with personal satisfaction.
然后充满自信地进入来世 这个我们马上会讲到 And enter as we'll talk about later the next life with confidence
我们甚至可能会思考下辈子的事情 maybe even thought about the next life We're gonna think about it
如果我们是真正的冒险者 我们要去某个地方 If we're a real adventure we're headed for somewhere
我们早晚会结束这个冒险 and we're going to finish it sometime. And
如果你的理念是冒险结束了你也就完事儿了 那是一回事 if your philosophy is that when you're finished you're done That's one thing
我要鼓励你去思考得更远 I'm going to encourage you to think even beyond that
带着自信进入下一个生命 to enter the next life with confidence.
我来假设一下 Let me give you some assumptions that I'm going to be making
在我们一起度过的这段时间 一共有四个假设 give you four assumptions that i'll be making as we go through this time together
第一个 Here's the first one
我相信 我们的造物主希望我们活出一场有意义的冒险 I believe, our creator desires for us to live a meaningful adventure.
我们的造物主希望我们活出一场有意义的冒险 Our creator desires for us to live a meaningful adventure
我怎么知道的呢 Now, how do I get to that
如果你打开圣经 读创世记 Well, You Know, I open the pages of scripture If you open up a bible and reading genesis
你读到的第一件事就是上帝对第一个人类亚当说的话 one of the first things you read is what god said to adam the first man
他说 亚当我要你生养众多 遍满地面 he said, adam I want you to be fruitful and multiply
我要你治理这地 And I want you to subdue the earth
好好想想这句话 and just think about that for a moment.
这是第一个人 他是怎么开始的呢 Here's the first man and how did he start?
不是上帝对他说 He didn't start by god stand out
我有一小块地 You Know I've got this little plot of ground
我要你耕种这个小花园 I want you to till it this little garden
他对第一个人说 我要你治理地球 He said to the first man, I want you to subdue the earth.
要我说 这可不是一下就能消化的事情 Now let me say that's quite a that's quite a pill to swallow there.
这是一次冒险 Now that's an adventure
是全球性的 that's global.
当耶稣和门徒在一起的时候 When jesus was with his disciples
在他离开之前 他转向门徒说 right before he left he turned to his disciples and he said
你们往普天下去 go into all the world
对于一些从来没出过远门的人 Now for some guys who had never been much further than
最多不过在加利利海周围 the sea of galilee,
走进世界真是一次不可思议的冒险 going into all the world was an incredible adventure.
然后耶稣亲自对我们说 And then you've got jesus himself saying to us,
作为男人 我来是为了让你拥有什么呀 as men, i've come that you might have life and have it what, tell me
更加丰富的生命 abundantly more abundantly.
在刚才这些小片段里 Now, in all of those little snapshots
至少从属灵的角度来看 at least from a spiritual perspective
我想从中提取一个词 冒险 the word i'd like to extract from that is the word adventure
这对亚当来说是一次冒险 It Was An Adventure For adam
对那些第一批跟随神子的渔民 税吏来说 It was an adventure for those fishermen that tax gather
是一次冒险 who first followed around the son of god
耶稣邀请人们去冒险 It's an adventure that jesus is inviting people into
而我想说 我相信上天赐予一场冒险给每一个人 And what I want to say I believe that that comes from heaven to any man
我们希望你在生活中能有一次冒险 The shout down to us is I want you to have an adventure in your life.
第二 我认为很多男人经常缺少冒险精神 Secondly, many men, I think often miss the spirit of adventure.
有些人的生命中完全没有冒险 And they miss it sometimes totally in their life
但更多的人是在人生中的某一刻丢失了 But I think more often others lose it Somewhere along life's journey
生活不再是冒险了 Life doesn't become an adventure anymore.
几年前我岳父把他的藏书给了我 My father in law several years ago gave me his library
他是个历史教授 He was a history professor
他给我的东西之一就是哈佛经典 One of the things he gave me were the harvard classics
50卷西方文明巨著 50 volumes of the great works of western civilization
我开始翻阅那些书 读一些英国诗人的作品 And I just begin to thumb through some of those books and reading some of the English poets
还有一件事在英国诗人中一直很突出 And one of the things that kept standing out in the English poets
是我觉得那些人总是很忧郁 was the the guys always seemed blue to me.
他们总是在谈论青春的荣耀 They always were talking about the glories of youth.
但从未有过中年或老年时的荣耀感 But there was never any sense of glory in midlife or old age.
有点像我们年轻的时候 周五晚上去看橄榄球或棒球比赛 It's kind of like we're pining away for Friday night football or the baseball diamond
或者在兄弟会里戏耍 or what it was like in the fraternity when we were kids running around with
和朋友们一起做些东西 you know our friends and stuff like that making
比如搭个城堡什么的 you know forks and things like that
但是二十多 三十多的生活 让人只觉得是责任 But life now at twenty five thirty five just feels like responsibility
所以我们总是追忆从前 就像这些诗人一样 So We always look back. That's what they were doing.
我也读了很多哲学家的书 And You Know What i've found i've found is I read a lot of philosophers
他们也这么说 不断地警告人们 they say the same thing They continually give this warning to men
就像是男人只活前半生 that it's like manhood is a half life.
后半生就只有腹黑了 And Then You just brood the second half away,
引用几句做例子 这是梭罗 你已经听过无数次了 For instance. Here's some quotes. Here's Thoreau. You've heard this million times, haven't you?
大多数人过着平静绝望的生活 the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.
真令人沮丧 That is so discouraging.
再看看 艾伯特·史怀哲 的这句 Or how about this quote from Albert Schweitzer?
哀莫大于心死 The tragedy of life is what dies inside a man, even as he lives.
或者但丁的这句话 Or how about this quote from Dante?
在我人生旅途的中点 我在一片幽暗森林中醒来 In the middle of the road of my life, I awoke in a dark wood
在生命的中途 我醒过来的时候 in the middle of my life. I kind of woke up and I was
发现在黑暗的森林里 完全迷失了 in a dark wood and I was wholly lost.
显然男人们都经历过这样的事 Evidently that is an experience that men have
随着他们在生活中航行 当他们到了中年时 as they navigate through their lives But somehow when they get to the mid portion of their life
他们开始觉得 自己可以维持生计 they begin to it's like, i've kind of made a life
但也只是活着 而不是生活 But I mean i've made a living but I hadn't made a life
我在60年代长大 是披头士乐队的忠实粉丝 You Know I was a big beatles fan when I grew up in the sixties. And
女儿给过我一件圣诞礼物 披头士的一张金曲专辑 my daughter gave me for Christmas, the beatles one album, the
收集了他们所有的主打作品 re make of all their number one hits.
我觉得即使是他们 也有点惊慌失措 And I thought you know even those guys kind of sound the alarm a little bit
因为当你听着他们的歌曲 随着他们的心路行走时 because as you follow their little journey along as you listen to their records
开始听到的是 you hear them start out
我想握着你的手这样的表述 You Know I wanna hold your hand kind of expression of
那种充满活力的年轻男子气质 kind of the vitality of you know virulent young masculinity
但随着他们的继续 他们变得沮丧 But then as they go on, they get depressed.
前几天我开车听歌 And then you've got this song I was driving on the other day
听到这首《流浪者》 And I I was just listening the song Nowhere, man
记得《流浪者》吗 Remember nowhere, man!
他是一个真正的流浪者 He's a real nowhere man
整日不知活在何处 living in his nowhere land,
忙着不知所云的计划，不知所为何人 making all his nowhere plans for nobody
没有丝毫的主见 doesn't have a point of view,
也不知要去向何方 knows not where he's going to.
他是不是有点像 Isn't he a bit like
你和我 you and me?
他已经盲目到了极点 He's as blind as he can be,
不知要变成什么模样 knows not what he wants to be.
流浪者 Nowhere. Man,
你还能看见什么吗 can you still see at all
很多男人就是这样生活的 a lot of men live just that way.
如果你是个年轻人 有时候如果你不清楚你要去哪里 And if you're a young man sometimes if you're not clear about where you're going
你会发现自己在一条小巷的尽头 where you're going to find yourself is at the end of an alley
面对一堵巨大的墙壁 with a big giant brick wall.
在漫长人生的某一刻 男人会失去冒险的精神 Men lose their spirit of adventure somewhere a long life.
第三个假设是 男人需要不断的冒险 Thirdly, here's my assumption Men need ongoing adventure
他们需要持续的冒险 They need ongoing adventure
问问迈克尔·乔丹 Just ask Michael Jordan.
看看乔丹 他的运动生涯完美收场 I mean look at what's happened to Michael You Know He finished in such a grand style
谁不想用最后一个进球结束篮球生涯啊 Would you not have wanted to finish your basketball career with that last shot
但你知道吗 坐在写字楼的办公桌旁 But you know what sitting around a desk in a corporate office
却看不到人生的愿景 不是像乔丹这样的人该做的 with no vision for your life is not a place for a guy like Michael Jordan
如果你不知道它会带你去哪里 那你也不该这样做 is not a place for you either If you don't know where you're going with it.
那我们该怎么做呢 当男人不知道目标的时候该怎么办 And So what are we gonna do What do men do when they don't know where they're going
他们会做和 乔丹 一样正在做的事 They do exactly what Michael Jordan is doing
你会去哪 You wanna go where
从前 back
从前 back.
那里有过冒险 现在虽然没有了 That's where the adventure was. It's not going to be there,
可他还想再榨出更多一点的冒险 but he's gonna try to squeeze one more drop of a little bit adventure
因为男人是为冒险而生的 because men were built for adventure
有些人的错误正好相反 some of us make an opposite mistake
他们的生活本来是一次冒险 却想着要控制它 We go out into life and it is an adventure at the beginning And we try to control it
一段时间之后 当我们驯服了生活 把它全把握住了 And after a while when we tame life when we get it all tamed
房贷控制住了 孩子控制住了 连老婆都控制住了 we've got the mortgage under control and the kids under control and the life under control
突然我们抬头看看周围 一下觉得没意思了 All of a sudden we look up and we go, this is no fun,
我一直小心翼翼 I played it safe so long
生活已味同嚼蜡 that life's no fun anymore.
男人需要不断的冒险 Men need ongoing adventure
最后 我相信有冒险精神的人活的不一样 And finally, I believe an adventuresome man often lives differently
其他人却像行尸走肉一般 than others who will applaud blindly onward.
但要做到这一点 他必须做出一些勇敢的选择 But for him to do that, he will have to make some courageous choices.
他得冒点险 And He will have to take some courageous chances.
有时候 他必须要停止随大溜 And At times. He's gonna have to break with conformity.
今年我最想做的 You Know What i'd love to do in the course of this year
是让在座的各位 根据大家的不同情况 with the guys were in this room there are going to be different ones if you'll have this experience
让有些人能得到许可去冒险 but it would be great to give some of you men permission to take a chance
重新找回你内心的梦想 to recapture the dream that's within you
或着内心的渴望 or a desire that's within you
去拼一把 And go for it
而不是一直压抑着 想着总有一天会实现 rather than just keep pressing down thinking Someday i'll get there
但你越是压抑它 越让你心如死灰 But the more you press on that the deader it feels inside the interior of your soul,
有些人需要许可去换个工作 some of you need permission to change a job
因为你从来就不适合这份工作 because you were never meant for that job
有些人需要许可才能跳出去尝试一些全新的东西 Some of you need permission to jump out and try something brand new
来为自己进行一次新的冒险 to take on a new adventure for yourself
不管是爱好 还是某种冒险 Whether it's a hobby or an adventure of some kind
你应该去实现 you need to be able to do that
或者想出一个比你更重要的目标 or come up with a cause that you can live for That's bigger than you
你已经掌握了这个世界 You've got this world mastered. But
但你不单单就是为了这些而活着 this is not why you're in this world just to master this,
你被呼召到这个世界来 是要把自己贡献给 you were called into a world to contribute what is that
一种能让你兴奋起来 甚至一想到都会颤栗的东西 that would excite you so that when you think about it you get tingles
我希望能给大家 去追求那种东西的许可 See, I would hope we could give permission to go for it
去尝试 去冒险 迈出那一步 Try it, risk it step out there
这才是阳刚之气该做的 That's what masculinity was made for.
这些就是全部的假设 So those are the assumptions
我们的造物主希望我们活出一场有意义的冒险 Our creator desires us to live this meaningful adventure
很多男人经常缺少冒险精神 men's oftentimes omit it, miss it
男人迫切需要它 Men desperately need it
但为了实现它 你得冒点险 勇敢地冒险 But to get there you're gonna have to take some chances some courageous chances
你必须勇敢地去带领 就像我们在男人天空一里讲的 you're gonna have to lead courageously as we talked about back in Men's Fraternity one
不是带领别人 而是你自己 not others, but yourself
你自己 yourself.
下面是一些承诺 讲完之后 大家就分组讨论 Now some promises and we'll be finished and you can get in your groups
有七个我认为我能做出并兑现的承诺 Let me just give you seven promises I think I can make and deliver on
首先 你会有很多机会去做男人很少做的事情 first, I think you're gonna have some great opportunities to do something men often times don't do
就是认真想想 你是谁 And that is think deeply about who you are
要去向何方 并在这个过程中对自己有一个深入的认识 and where you're going while making some significant personal discoveries in the process
认真思考 to think deeply
你是谁 要去哪里 在这个过程中 about who you are and where you're going. And in that process,
认识自己 我也要给你个警告 make some personal discoveries. Now I wanna give you a warning.
这很难做到 It's hard to do that.
我们在这里会很直接 我是个很直接的人 We're gonna be real simple here, because I'm simple,
要想深入思考 你是谁 很困难 but it's hard to think deeply about who you are
我们大多数人宁愿做年轻人做的事 Most of us would rather do what young men do
年轻人是这样生活的 And Here's the way young men go into life
他们大学毕业 或者高中毕业之后 You Know After they finished college, or they finished high school.
就变成这个样子 Here's the mode that we go into.
我们就这样一直走 直到撞到墙 and we keep going just like that until we hit a wall.
我们想要做的 And All I'm saying is is that what we wanna do
不论是刚起步的年轻人 还是想要重新思考的 for you guys who are young starting out and you guys old who are trying to rethink
是让你们能抬头看看 is we want to get you to go and look up
看看周围 问些深层的哲学问题 and look around and ask some deep philosophical questions
你是谁 你是什么 你的生活应该去哪里 然后去践行 about who you are and what you are and where you really should be going in life and then to do it
我们会给你这个机会 So we're gonna give you that opportunity
以弗所书五章是这样写的 Ephesians 5 puts it this way
你们要谨慎行事， Therefore, be careful how you walk or how you live your life
不要像愚昧人 当像智慧人 not as unwise men but as wise
要 这是最重要的一句话 要爱惜光阴 making. And this is the key phrase making the most of your time,
因为光阴似箭 because you've only got a short period of time.
你还没反应过来就结束了 It'll be over before you know it,
因为它说现今的世代邪恶 这是什么意思呢 because it says the days are evil And what does it mean by the days of evil
它是邪恶的 因为它会夺走 我们刚才提到的丰富的生命 It's evil because it will steal away that abundant life that we just mentioned a minute ago
这些日子注定要夺走你的生命 These days are meant to take life from you
把你带到死胡同里 从这个意义上说他们是邪恶的 to bring you to those dead ends. They're evil in that sense.
但男子汉不是只有半辈子 But manhood is more than a half life
男子汉有一辈子 可是它在哪呢 Manhood is a full life but where is it
这就是我们要探查的 That's what we want to to probe.
其次 你将有机会与其他能帮助你思考的人交流 Secondly, you will have opportunities to interact with other men who can help you think
让你更清晰客观地思考你的生活 more clearly and objectively about your life
有句箴言说的好 The proverb say that's a good thing
箴言27章17节 说铁磨铁 人磨人 Proverbs 27:17 just says as iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
这就是我们需要的 我们需要和其他有过同样经历的人 去碰撞摩擦 That's what we need we need to rub up with other guys who are going through the same experience we are
向他们学习 倾听他们的心声 让他们听到我们的声音 给我们反馈 and learn from them and listen to them and let them hear us and reflect back to us
他们从我们那里听到的 帮助我们开始 what they're hearing from us to help us begin to
把梦想带回来 to bring that dream back out
把冒险带回来 学会如何抓住它 That adventure back out and learn how we can recapture it for life
或者如何装饰它 对有些觉得自己正在冒险的 or embellish it In some cases some of you guys feel like you're on adventure
你只需要再润色一下就行了 you just need to embellish it a little more polish it
所以我们有小组讨论 That's why we have small groups
一会儿比尔会来为大家分组 And when bill comes up here in just a moment breaks us up
有些人还没有小组 Some of you guys aren't going to be in a small group
你们要来跟他谈谈如何加入一个小组 You're gonna need to come down and talk to him about how to get into a small group
其他人分成小组 讨论大纲最下面的那些问题 The rest of us will break into small groups and answer the questions that are there at the very bottom of your outline
但我想告诉你 我和比尔每年都会得到这样的反馈 But I want to tell you this and we've heard it Haven't we, Bill? Every year
小组讨论 the small group experience
甚至比我每周的认真讲解 i'll try to do a good job every week
还让大家觉得是这一早上最有价值的时间 But the small group experience will be the most valuable moment of the whole morning
你肯定不想错过 and you don't want to miss that.
第三 你将学习如何用生活焦点图表来关注你的生活 Thirdly, you will learn how to focus your life using a life focus chart
这是一个对你有帮助的小工具 我以后会给你 It's a little tool that I'm gonna give you later on in the year That will help you
你可以放在钱包里 可以经常帮你反思你的生活 It's something you keep in your wallet but will help you rethink your life all the time
作为一个让你反思的提醒 这是一个非常小的东西 It'll give something before you. It'll be the simplest thing I can give you
这也是今年一整年我唯一要你做的事 It's the only thing by the way I'm gonna ask you to do all year
但我要告诉你 这对你来说是个真正的挑战 but I'm gonna tell you it's gonna be a real Challenge for you to do it
当你拿到它 开始动手制作它 And if you have that if you can begin to craft that
也就开始在你的冒险中加入了真正的血肉 也让你可以随时回顾 you can begin to put real flesh on your adventure and you can review it anytime
这是一个很简单的工具 我会给你 让你去做 Just a very simple little tool But I'm gonna give you that and have you work on it
并与小组合作 and work with the group on it
所以当你早上起床的时候 可以看着它 So you have something that when you get up in the morning you could look at that
对自己说 是啊 这就是我要做的 and go, man that's what I'm gonna do.
这就是我要去的地方 我对此很兴奋 That's where I'm going. And I'm excited about it.
第四 你要制定一份个人使命宣言 Fourthly, you'll develop a personal mission statement
我认为这有助于你明确自己的人生目标 that I think helps you define the purpose of your life
这本身就是个很大的挑战 And that's quite a Challenge in and of itself
你可能听过很多次这样的话 You Know there have been times where you may have heard this
当你走过一个墓地 可能会看到一些墓碑 but you'll walk through a graveyard and you look at these grave stones
那些墓碑写着字 and you'll see people's names there on those little grave heads
比如某某生于某年 卒于某年 where it'll say such and such and will give his birth and they'll give his death.
而这之间 他的一生是什么呢 只有一条线 And there his whole life is what? Just a dash
别的什么都没有 and there's nothing there.
让你去好奇这中间是什么 And you're going what was there?
我考虑过这个事情 因为我一直在想我的生活 And i've thought about that you know because I i've been thinking about my life
甚至为这事做准备 even preparing this I thought, you know
当有人路过我的墓碑时 when somebody walks by my a grave plate
我想让他们低头能看到什么呢 they look down what do I want them to see
我把想让他们看到的写了出来 So I wrote it out Here's what I wanted to look at
罗伯特·刘易斯 1949年至20某某年 Robert Lewis, 1949, two thousand whatever it's gonna be
但在那条线的地方是 任务完成了 But in over that dash mission accomplished
我想让他们说 那是什么 什么任务完成了 And I want them to say, what is that, mission accomplished?
我想让他们知道 I want them to know
作为一个男人 that as a man
在上帝面前 before god,
我相信我能看清我的生活 我的方向 I believe that I could figure out my life and where I'm going
我可以用一种冒险的方式来生活 And I could live it in such a way that it would be an adventure
我会做造物主叫我做的事 And I would do what I believe my creator call me to do
也按他设计我的样子去生活 as well as how he designed me to be
从头到尾都很刺激 And it was exciting from start to finish
我可以充满激情地告诉你 到目前也真是充满了激情 And let me tell you, it has been I can offer that with passion.
但最后时刻我回望人生的时候 But at the end I want to be able to look back
我想说 我已经完成了在这里的使命 and say i've accomplished what I was here for
而不仅仅是个负号 It's not just a negative sign,
是任务完成了 it's mission accomplished.
我要带着满意结束这一生 And I'm leaving this life with satisfaction
我要开始下一生了 And I'm moving onto the next life
带着满满的自信 with confidence.
接下来 你会更了解 Next, you'll gain a better understanding
你独特的设计 是什么让你活过来 of your unique design And what makes you come alive
在一月 in January. Bill wellons is
比尔会通过一个小工具帮我们探索你的设计 gonna help us walk through a little tool on discovering your design.
我们会帮你 And we're gonna help you
通过他提供的这个工具 go through a process
去经历一个探索的过程 where you discover through what he's going to offer you
去发现是什么让你对生活感到兴奋 what excites you about life
你终于可以把它物化出来 You'll be able to finally bring it out and objectified
让你能说 当我在这些地方做这些事情的时候 And you go when I'm in these places doing these kind of things
这才是我 this is me.
我们会帮你做到 So we're going to help you get to that
帮助你更好地规划 and help use that to help you formulate even better
如何在这个世界上找到可以做你自己的地方 how to find places in this world where you can go be that
不论你要做的自己是什么样子的 in those places in the world whatever that means
这才让人兴奋呢 对不对 Let me tell you that would be exciting, wouldn't it?
知道什么能让你真正兴奋 把这些物化出来 并用在这些地方 To know what really excites you to have that objectified fighting to use that in those places
最后 你会有各种形式的机会 And then finally, you'll have the opportunity in many ways
来选择你的未来 to choose your future.
生活是一种选择 Life is a choice guys.
你知道吗 Did you know that?
汤姆·帕特森写道 Tom patterson writes
一个人最大的悲剧是被环境所控制 The greatest tragedy of all is for a man to be managed by circumstances
过着半死不活的生活 and live a half dead life.
我不想被环境控制 I don't want to be managed by circumstances
我想由我的选择来管理 I want to be managed by my choices
你知道 甚至圣经也呼吁我们 生命是一种选择 You Know Even the scriptures appeal to us that life is a choice
当上帝对以色列人说话的时候 他说 When god spoke to the nation Israel, he said
你看 我在你面前为你安排了生与死 祸与福 you see i've set before you life and death the blessing and the curse
然后他说 选择生吧 And then he says so choose life
你才会活下去 that you may live
生活是一种选择 life is a choice.
你可以在某种程度上选择你的未来 You can choose your future to some degree
做不到完全 但在某种程度上 You can't do it fully but to some degree
有时候是在很大程度上 in in some many large degrees
你可以选择你要过的生活 你要经历的冒险 you can choose the type of life you're gonna have and the adventure you're gonna have
和那里会有的精彩 and the excitement that's gonna be there
但你必须经历一个过程 But there's a process that you have to go through
去发现它 to discover that.
所以我希望你们能够选择生活 And So I want you men to be able to choose life
而且知道你在选择生活 对此感到兴奋 and know that you're choosing life and excited about that
对于年轻人 And For some of you young men for instance,
我想让你跃进到充满激情的前半生 I want you to have a jump start on an exciting first half of life
20到40岁之间的 我都叫年轻人 And If you're between the ages of 20 and 40 I'm going to call you a young man
好吧 All right,
让你一蹴而就 and give you that jump start
其他人 你们可以为自己鼓掌 Yeah There you go You can clap for yourselves
老年人们 You sorry, group
因为年轻人是勇士 because young guys are Warriors
而且他们很忙 很多时候他们的野心都很明显 and they're busy. And a lot of times they have blunt ambition.
如果他们不小心 久而久之他们就会成为黑暗战士 And if they're not careful, they become over time the dark warrior
造成很多伤害 伤人伤己 who does a lot of hurt to themselves and to others.
所以弄清楚我需要做什么是好事 And so it's really good to figure out what do I need to do.
不仅是为了履行我的职责 让我的生活步入正轨 Not only to bring my life into orbit with these responsibilities i've been given
也让人不仅仅只是活着 but also to do more than just make a living
这才是我真正想叫你们年轻人做的 And that's what I really wanna call you young guys to
不仅仅是活着 而是去生活 more than just making a living making a life
别像其他男人那样 and don't do what so many other men do
低头谋生 直到四五十岁才去想什么是生活 is make a living and then try to figure out life in their mid forties and fifties
我们想帮你做到 从现在就开始 you can start doing that Now We want to help you do that
对我们这些40岁以上的老年人来说 And then for us older men 40 and up
我想帮你改造一下 I want to help you retool
为了下半场的精彩冒险 for an exciting second half adventure,
因为你们已经有所成就了 because you guys are established
你至少掌握了或者活了半辈子 and you've at least mastered or survived the first half of life
你有房子，车子，有狗和孩子 I mean you've got the car and the house and the dog and the kids
还有责任 贷款和很多其它事情 and responsibilities and debt and a lot of other things.
我不想让你被压在下面 And what I don't want you to do is be crushed under that
但我想让你重新改造一下 But I want you to retool so you can have
去拥有令人兴奋的生活 因为外面有一场冒险 an exciting life, because out there is an adventure
让你兴奋 让你勇敢 让你动力十足的冒险 that can thrill you can encourage you can motivate you
因为我想让你像亚伯拉罕一样 because I want you to be like Abraham
你知道创世记25章 是怎么说亚伯拉罕的吗 you know what it says of Abraham and genesis 25
这是描述一位老人临终前的最后一句话 Here's this old old man makes this one line at the end of his life
上面说亚伯拉罕死了 It says, and Abraham died
然后它添加了一个语句 and then it adds a statement
对人生心满意足 satisfied with life.
在那一刻 你不想像亚伯拉罕一样吗 Would you like to be Abraham at that moment
多么精彩的一生啊 What an adventure he had
年轻时在吾珥是成功的大商人 as a young guy in Ur big businessman successful
然后上帝呼召他 按他的设计而活 And then god calls him to his design
他说 亚伯拉罕别管这些了 He says, abraham leave all this
出发吧 我在路上告诉你要去的地方 and go to a land that i'll tell you about later when you're on the journey,
这可真需要勇气 man, that took courage,
但这让亚伯拉罕踏上了一段不只是谋生的冒险 but it started abraham on an adventure that was more than just making a living.
这让他开始了一场创造生活的冒险 It started him on an adventure that made a life.
它崎岖而富有挑战性 And it was rugged and it was challenging
有时他失败了 And there were times he failed
但在他生命的尽头 But at the end of his life
他可以回头说 he could look back over and say
我很满意 I'm satisfied.
我期盼这里的每一个人 I covet that for every guy here
都能为自己的生活感到激动 that you would be thrilled with your life
在这一年的课程里 我们想做的就是 Choosing your future is what we want to explore
为了选择你的未来 去探查 去摸索 去为之抗争 去冒险 and probe and grapple with in the year That's ahead of us We want you to have an adventure
我们发放过 Let me close with
约翰·埃尔德里奇 的《内心狂野》这本书 a statement from John Eldredge in the book
我用书里一句话来结束 Wild at Heart that we gave away He says this
冒险 有着必要的危险和狂野 adventure, with all its requisite danger and wildness
是一种深深的精神渴望 is a deeply spiritual longing
写在男人的灵魂里 written into the soul of man
阳刚的心需要一个地方 那里没什么是预先准备好的 The masculine heart needs a place where nothing is prefabricated
没有模块化 脱脂的 密封扣 特许经营 网络 或可微波炉加热的 modular, nonfat, zip lock, franchised online or microwavable,
也没有截止日期 没有手机 没有委员会会议 where there are no deadlines, cell phones, or committee meetings,
只有为了灵魂预备的地方 just simply where there is room for the soul,
一个终于可以让我们的心灵坐标 与地理坐标和谐一致的地方 where finally the geography around us corresponds to the geography of our heart
男人的内心深处 Deep in a man's harder
有一些在餐桌上根本无法回答的基本问题 Some fundamental questions that simply cannot be answered at the kitchen table
我是谁 Who am I
我是什么做的 what am I made of?
我注定要做什么 What am I destined for?
是恐惧让一个男人呆在家里 It is fear that keeps a man at home
一切井然有序 由他掌控 where things are neat and orderly and under his control
但那些最深奥问题的答案 But the answers to his deepest questions
不在电视上 are not to be found on television,
也不在球场或者冰箱里 or at a ballgame or in the refrigerator.
这些答案需要勇敢的冒险 These answers require a courageous adventure
冒险的目标正是最美好的生活 whose quest is nothing less than the best of life.
这就是男人天空三的内容 This is what Men's Fraternity three, it's gonna be all about.