I am currently in a long distance relationship. 我现在就在谈异地恋
For two and a half years it was long distance. 我谈过一次两年半的异地恋
The first was two years and I am in one now. 我第一次异地恋持续了两年 我现在也是在异地恋
We've dated for two years. 我们先是谈了两年
Then we dated a year long distance. 然后一年异地恋
Then we lived together for a year 接着在一起住了一年
and then we did 然后我们又谈了
six months or so long distance 大概六个月的异地恋
before it ended. 然后就没有然后了
We were long distance for a year. 我们之前谈了一年异地恋
What It's Like To Be In A Long Distance Relationship
The hardest part is feeling 最难的部分是感觉
that nobody else thinks 除了你的另一半 没有人认为
that what you're doing is sustainable. 你这份感情能走下去
You don't have to plan your day around it, 你并不需要为了维系异地恋而重新规划你的生活
but you definitely have to make extra effort. 但是多少你还是要付出更多的努力
So there'd be a lot of issues 所以交流方面
as far as communication 肯定会有很多问题
where I'm not willing to Skype for three hours. 因为我不太想用Skype聊天三个小时
We still call each other. Sometimes. 我们会打电话 偶尔
like every three days, I'd say. 大概是三天一次吧
You run out of things to say on the phone. 打电话的时候会没话可说
"How was your day?" "It was fine." 今天过得怎么样 还不错
Like, "Did anything happen?" 有什么好玩的事情没有
It's like, "No, not really," like, 然后就会说 也没有
"It was just like a normal day." 就是蛮普通的一天
And so then there's silence. 然后就是沉默
What was special about my day 我得去想 今天发生了什么特别的
and how did it change me 对我有什么影响
and how can I share that with the other person? 以及 我如何把它分享给我的另一半
Even if you're just sitting in the car 即使你只是坐在车里
driving someplace in silence, 静静地在开车
you're together and you feel that. 你可以真切地感受到两个人在一起的感觉
And you don't have that 但你如果在异地恋
when you're in a long distance relationship 你就不会有这种在一起的感觉
and you're trying to artificially recreate it 你会想努力重现这种感觉
but silence over the phone is, 但打电话的时候 如果沉默
I mean, it's nothing, right? 就什么感觉都没有 是吧
Silence in person means something. 面对面的时候 沉默多少还有点意义
You fall in love and it's hard and it's like, 你谈了异地恋 然后觉得这太艰难了然后你会想
will I connect with someone like this again? 我以后还会用这种方式恋爱吗
And is it worth it? 这真的值得吗
When you really like someone 当你真的喜欢上一个人
or even love someone, 或者爱上一个人
it makes it worth it. 这全都值得了
You're constantly asking yourself, 你会不断地问自己
"Is it worth it?" 这值得吗
And I feel like I learn something new 然后我会感觉我每次问自己这个问题
every time I ask myself that question. 我都会有一些新的认识
I mean, it wasn't worth it, right? 这一切根本不值得 对吧
Cause we broke up. So. 因为我们最后分手了 嗯
But, we were never like, 但是我们不会说
this is ending our relationship. 我们的恋情就到此结束了
Yeah. 是的
It was just, this sucks, 我们只是感觉异地恋太难了
that this is our relationship right now. 但我们必须接受现实
Really when it comes down to it 当你们真的到这一步的时候
any your relationship ends, 当有一方不再在乎另一个人
when either one person stops caring about the other 或者双方都已经放弃了的时候
or both people give up. 什么样的感情都扛不住的
I think the key to doing a long distance relationship 我认为维持异地恋的关键
is having an end in sight. 是要能够看到头
Like a date, she would move in, 会有这样一个日期 她会搬过来
we would move in together 然后我们会住在一起
in July, so, we knew that. 在七月份 所以 我们很早就有预期
And then we did. 然后我们确实住到一起了
We did. 住到一起啦
You really learn about communication 你会学到如何交流
and how to stay open with someone. 以及如何坦率地面对他人
It made us also, like, 异地恋也让我们变得
not dwell as much on, like, little arguments anymore, 不会那么计较那些小的争吵
unless you forget to bring your girlfriend potatoes 除非你忘记带德国餐厅的土豆
from the German restaurant. 给你的女友了
She will drill it home for an hour at you. 她会在回家的路上朝你念叨一个小时
This happened last night. 昨天就是这样
Waiting, you know, several days 等上几天
before you can even talk 才能和另一半
or Skype with the other person. 聊聊天或者打电话
Or waiting months before you can hug them again. 或者是等上几个月以后才能拥抱一下
It's hard. 真的很难
It makes you appreciate loving someone 这会让你珍惜可以有一个
when you can see them everyday. 你每天都能见到的爱人
So sweet. 好感动
I had some.. 我有一些
I texted him twice 我给他发了两条短信
-to ask for these potatoes -No you texted me once. 让他给我带土豆 你只给我发了一条
- after work. - about the potatoes. 下班后 跟土豆有关的
They're good potatoes. 那些土豆太好吃了
They're so good. 确实好吃
But I wouldn't know 但我没法知道了
because I didn't have them yesterday. 因为昨天没吃
Yep. 好吧