Anyone who has attempted to foray into
the great wide world of dating
knows that when it comes to flirting
cheesy pickup lines just don't cut it
attracting a partner can be tricky
and there are many pitfalls one can fall into
but when it comes down to it
flirting is just an evolutionary tactic
to acquire a mate for reproduction
with this in mind
here is a list of 10 psychologically proven flirting strategies
that actually work
number 10
eye contact,
eye contact is key when it comes
demonstrating your attraction to another person
when we make eye contact with a prospective partner
we are actually searching for
evidence of their attraction to us
through the psychological response of pupil dilation
this is also why staring into one another's eyes
can often feel so intimate
therefore one of the best ways
to let someone know you're interested in them
is to gaze into their big brown blue or green eyes
number nine
wear red
not only is red and I caption color
that flatters many different skin tones
red is also a symbol of lust and sexuality
with studies showing
that when both men and women wear red
they appear more attractive to the opposite sex
this may be due to social expectations
however psychologist Adam Pasteur suggests
that our attraction to red may be a hangover
from humans evolutionary past
as animals such as female baboons
display patches of bright red skin
to indicate that they are ready to mate
number eight
be funny
humor is actually a huge factor
in the search of a potential mate
University of New Mexico psychologist professor
Jeffrey Miller
suggests that being funny
is one of the key ways we decide how attractive a partner is
this is because to be truly funny
someone must be able to think quickly and be creative
skills that are extremely necessary for survival
to be humorous is to be smart
so telling a joke could just result
you getting that date you wanted
number seven
play hard-to-get
studies show that when we're unsure of
how much someone likes us
we actually like them more
than when we're told they like us a lot
this could be due to the fact
that playing hard-to-get make someone seem more desirable
and sometimes even out of our league
when someone seems too needy
were likely to believe we can do better
so it may be better to act aloof
number six
are you a woman
smile
not only it does a smile exhibit
a sense of humor and a caring nature
but it also displays good health
research from the University of British Columbia
suggests men find smiling women
more attractive than prideful
possibly because of its association with submission
and maternal urges
number five
are you a man
brood
the stereotype is true
in the same study from the University of British Columbia
researchers found that women rated smiling men
as the least attractive
compared with prideful and shameful looking men
therefore acting like a bad boy
may when you are mate
regardless of whether you're actually bad or not
number four
mirror body language
55 percent of attraction communication
is made through body language
and one of the most subtle
yet most effective methods of flirting with someone
is to mirror their actions
this is because we unconsciously copied
those were attracted to
as a sign that we're interested in what they're saying
mirroring someone
demonstrates that we have good communication skills
but also that were invested in their thoughts and feelings
this is also a way
of knowing whether someone is interested in you
if they copy you're mirroring
they may just reciprocate your feelings
number three
be a smooth talker
pitch and tone actually have a lot more to do
with flirting than one may think
research from MIT
suggests that men are more attracted to women
that vary their tone at which they speak
women whose voices went up and down
in frequency received more romantic interest from men
than those who speak with a flatter tone
the same study also found that
women were more attracted to men
who interjected when they were speaking with phrases
such as I see, okay and yep
this not only suggests the dominance
but also understanding
number two
confidence is key
a study by Dr. Monica Moore
of Webster University found that
when observing real-life person in bars and shopping malls
it was not the most physically appealing people
that were most often approached for flirtation
instead those who signal their confidence
through basic flirting techniques
such as smiling were more likely to attract others
and number one
touch them
most research has demonstrated that touching a person
can increase their compliance
to complete a wide variety of requests
and this may extend to the world of location
Dr. Moore found that
when a young male Confederate in a nightclub
asked young women to dance with him
his request was most likely to be followed
if he touched a woman's forearm for one to two seconds
this could be because tactile contact
is associated with dominance
later when the women were asked to complete
a survey about their experience
a high score of dominance
was associated with the tactile content
and that's our list
hopefully this can help you in the dating world