♪ ♪
约翰·威尔逊： 嘿，纽约。
John Wilson: Hey, New York.
生活在一个 有这么多好玩事情的地方真好。
it's nice to live in a place with so much fun stuff to do.
但是，在一个 有着如此多选择的城市里，
But, in a city with so many options,
制定计划可能会 是一件让人倍感压力的事情。
making plans can be a stressful experience.
(听不清)
(inaudible)
首先，你得想清楚 自己想做什么。
First, you need to figure out what you wanna do.
然后，你得想清楚 想和谁一起做。
Then, you need to figure out who you want to do it with.
(清嗓子)
(clears throat)
接着，你还得定下 一个日期和时间，呃，
Then, you have to set a date and time, uh,
用来执行 那个计划。
in which you want to execute that plan.
这听起来可能很简单， 可一旦计划定下来，
This might sound easy enough, but once a plan is made,
你可能会开始 感到被束缚，
you might begin to feel trapped,
并且开始看到你的未来 所有平庸、
and you begin to see your future in all its banal,
可预测的细节，
predictable details,
直到最后 握手告别的那一刻。
down to the final handshake goodbye.
而在此期间， 你可能会开始幻想
And during this period, you might begin to daydream
用什么方法 来摆脱这个计划。
about ways to get out of the plan.
你可以说 你生病了。
You can say that you're sick.
或者祈祷天气 突然变坏。
Or pray that the weather takes a turn.
♪ ♪
你也可以直接说 临时有别的事，
You could also just say that something else came up,
但你的朋友们很可能 会一眼看穿。
but your friends will probably see straight through that.
所以，当那天到来时，
So, when the day arrives,
你最终还是会硬着头皮 去执行计划。
you just end up going through with the plan anyway.
而结果也正如 你所预料的那样。
And it's exactly what you thought it would be.
当你的生活充满了 各种责任和义务时，
When your life is filled with obligations,
你会感觉自己的命运 仿佛已成定局。
it can feel like your fate is set in stone.
但如果你从一开始 就不做任何计划，
But if you never make any plans to begin with,
你就能活在一个 充满持续兴奋的世界里，
you can live in a world of constant excitement
让命运 指引你的方向。
and let destiny be your guide.
这样一来，你可能会发现 一家有趣的新餐馆，
This way, you could discover a funny new restaurant,
在某个地方遇到 你的一生挚爱，
meet the love of your life somewhere,
或者看到一堆很酷的东西
or see a bunch of cool stuff
否则你根本 不会看到。
you wouldn't have seen otherwise.
所以，跟着我， 我会向你展示
So, stick with me, and I'll show you
如何活在一个充满 无限可能的世界里，
how to live in a world of endless possibility,
在那里你不会知道 一段经历在哪里结束，
where you won't know where one experience ends
下一段又从何开始。
and the next one begins.
然后你就能最终明白 什么才是真正的
And you can finally understand what it truly means
随性而为。
to be spontaneous.
现在，如果你不确定
Now, if you're not sure what
随性的行为 是什么样子，
spontaneous behavior looks like,
在纽约很容易找到，呃，
it's easy to find around New York, uh,
只要你知道去哪里看。
if you know where to look.
这个人 一时兴起决定
This person spontaneously decided
要制造一场交通堵塞。
to create a traffic jam.
看起来好像有人刚刚
It seems like someone just
在这里自燃了。
spontaneously combusted here.
这个人 一时兴起骑着
This person spontaneously rode
他的花旗单车 进了地铁。
their Citi Bike onto the subway.
然后，他们把 所有的贴纸都撕下来
Then, they took all the stickers off
贴在了窗—— 呃，墙上，
and put them on the wind-- uh, the walls,
等他们满意之后，
and after they were satisfied,
他们又随性地 睡着了。
they spontaneously fell asleep.
不幸的是，
Unfortunately,
我们所认为的 大部分随性行为
most of what we take for spontaneity
通常最后都只是 某个周密计划的一部分。
usually just turns out to be part of a meticulous plan.
-(乡村音乐) -这可能看起来像是
-(hoedown music) -This may appear to be
一场即兴的乡村舞会，
a spur-of-the-moment hoedown,
但事实远非如此。
but nothing could be farther from the truth.
诸如此类的事情 都需要大量规划，
A lot of planning went into something like this,
而这整个场面
and this whole spectacle
都是精心编排的 表演的一部分。
is part of a carefully choreographed routine.
他们可能需要长途跋涉 才能来到这里，
They may have had to travel far distances to get here
还得雇保姆 或者重新安排会议
and hire babysitters or reschedule meetings
才得以成行。
to make it possible.
而且如果有一个人 决定不来，
And if one person decides not to show up,
就可能导致一些人 不得不退出，
it could cause some people to have to sit out
毁掉整个活动的 气氛。
and tank the mood of the whole affair.
要做到真正的随性， 你应该避免任何
To be truly spontaneous, you should avoid anything
需要预订 或买票的事情，
that requires a reservation or tickets
那些需要你 提前购买的东西。
that you need to buy in advance.
日历上只要有 任何安排
Having anything on your calendar at all
都会成为一种负担， 你必须一直背负着，
will create a burden you have to carry with you
直到活动当天，
until the day of the event,
甚至可能引发焦虑，
or possibly cause anxiety,
因为你知道最后一刻 很难反悔退出，
knowing that it'll be too hard to back out at the last minute,
呃，如果你， 如果你需要的话。
uh, if you, if you need to.
而且无论你觉得 你的预订有多么稳妥，
And no matter how secure you think your reservation is,
宇宙总能找到 新的方式让你失望。
the universe will always find new ways to disappoint you.
所以，杰森在洛克菲勒中心求婚
So, Jason proposed at Rockefeller Center
那是2019年12月，
December 2019,
到了一月——一月底的时候，
and by Janu-- end of January,
我们整个婚礼的供应商、场地，
our entire wedding, vendors, venue,
我的礼服、他的礼服，
my outfits, his outfits,
全都预订好了。
were already booked.
这实际上就是合同
This is actually the contract
我和精英宫签订的。
I had with Elite Palace.
-威尔逊：哦，真的吗？ -如你所见，
-Wilson: Oh, really? -As you can see,
这绝对是个 漂亮的场地。
it was definitely a beautiful venue.
嗯，今年，2021年 新年过后，
Um, after New Year's of this year, 2021,
那时候 我联系了场地，
was when I contacted the venue,
然后我——就在那时我得知 他们把地方卖了，
and I-- that's when I learned that they sold the place,
而且他们从没告诉我 或者其他任何新人
and they never told me or any other couples
他们要卖掉场地。
that they were selling.
到现在为止，他们拿着我的钱，
And so far, they have my money,
我再也没收到过 他们的任何消息。
and I've never heard back from them.
威尔逊： 你-你-你们场地的 押金是多少？
Wilson: How-how-how much was your deposit for the venue?
嗯，直到八月份，
So, up until August,
我已经支付了22000美元。
I had paid $22,000.
感觉就像我们被打劫了， 如果他们能听到我们的话，
Feel like we just got robbed, and if they're listening to us,
我们只想要回 我们的钱，
we would just like our money back,
并且希望，你知道， 其他所有人也能...
and hopefully, you know, everyone else can...
我们能找到一个办法 来解决这个问题，你知道。
We could find a way to resolve this, you know.
而不是逃避它。 他们现在做的就是这样。
Not just run away from it. It's kind of what they're doing.
威尔逊： 所以如果你不希望 这种事发生在你身上，
Wilson: So if you don't want something like that to happen to you,
那么一次随性的 海滩之旅会是个好主意，
a spontaneous trip to the beach can be a great idea
因为去那里 不需要预订。
because you don't need to make a reservation to go there.
而当你决定 要去的那一刻，
And the moment you decide to go,
你突然感到生机勃勃，
you suddenly feel alive,
然后你去 一元店，呃， 买点防晒霜。
and you go to the dollar store, uh, to get some sunscreen.
当你在那里的时候，
And while you're there,
你看到一些其他很酷的东西， 可以帮你凑够
you see some other cool stuff that will help you reach
10美元的，呃，(打嗝) 信用卡最低消费额。
the $10, uh, (burps) credit card limit.
然后当你 坐进车里，
And then when you get in your car,
试着听一些你 通常不会听的东西，
try to listen to something that you normally wouldn't listen to
一边朝着海滩的 大致方向开去。
while you head in the general direction of the beach.
但是，在你开车的时候，
But then, while you're driving,
你看到一家商店 吸引了你的目光，
you see a store that catches your eye,
于是你下车 进去看看。
and you get out to take a look inside.
通常，这个会到这里，更宽，
Typically, this would be down to here, wider,
袖子更长， 袖口更宽。
longer sleeves, wider sleeves.
所有东西都经过恰当裁剪， 以适合身材较矮男士的体型。
Everything is cut down properly to fit a shorter man's body.
威尔逊： 这有点让我想起，呃...
Wilson: It kind of reminds me of, uh...
你看过电影《U-571》吗？ 是关于潜艇的。
You ever see the movie "U-571"? It's about submarines.
店员： 对于个子高的人， 你需要32、34英寸的内接缝
Clerk: For a taller person, you need inseams of 32, 34
因为它必须 足够长才能覆盖
because it's gotta be enough to cover
你的整个身体，否则你 最终会看起来像这样。
your full body, or you end up looking like this.
-威尔逊：哦是的。 -店员：是的，哦是的。
-Wilson: Oh yeah. -Clerk: Yeah, oh yeah.
我们也拥有 Over510.com，
We also own Over510.com,
所以一旦我们征服了矮个子市场， 我们就会向另一个方向发展。
so once we conquer the short, we'll head the other direction.
-威尔逊：你们拥有 Over510.com？ -是的。
-Wilson: You own Over510.com? -Yes.
威尔逊：哇哦。
Wilson: Wow.
在那里逛完之后，
And after you're done in there,
你又开始 向海滩进发。
you start heading towards the beach again.
但不幸的是，开始 下起了大雨。
But unfortunately, it starts to rain pretty hard.
在堵车 堵了一会儿之后，
And after sitting in traffic for a while,
你意识到你非常想 上厕所。
you realize you have to use the bathroom pretty bad.
所以你在 第一个能下的出口下了高速，
So get off at the first exit you can
然后问汽车旅馆，呃， 你是否能用他们的洗手间。
and ask the motel if, uh, you can use their facilities.
他们说那是 仅供顾客使用的，
They say that it's for customers only,
但谢天谢地，房间 每小时只要15美元。
but thankfully, the rooms are only $15 an hour.
灯罩上还包着 塑料薄膜，
There was still plastic wrapping on the lampshades
水槽上还有 一堆烧焦的痕迹。
and a bunch of burn marks on the sink.
当你在网上 搜索这家旅馆时，
And when you look on the internet about it,
看起来 他们好像真的
it seems like they might actually
有臭虫问题。
have a problem with bedbugs.
所以，你把你的东西 挂在浴帘杆上，
So, you hang your stuff on the shower rod,
而且因为你还 剩下一个小时
and since you still have an hour left
在你办完事之后，
after you did your business,
你给附近住的一个朋友 发短信问问
you text a friend who lives nearby to see
他们想不想过来找你玩，
if they want to come join you
然后你用
and you decorate the room
从一元店买的东西 装饰了一下房间，
with the stuff you got from the dollar store
一边，呃，等待 他们的回复。
while you, uh, wait for their response.
(清嗓子)
(clears throat)
不幸的是，结果发现
Unfortunately, it turns out
他们当时正在 忙工作。
they were in the middle of doing some work.
所以，你在那儿的 剩余时间
So, you spent the rest of your time there
都用来看着电视，
watching TV
并且凝视着窗外
and staring out the window at
所有其他那些 决定
all the other people who decided
随性而为的人们。
to be spontaneous.
你的女朋友非常 擅长做计划，
Your girlfriend is really good at planning things,
但你们最近开始 经常吵架，
but you started to argue a lot recently
因为她说你拒绝
because she says you refuse
对任何事做出承诺。
to commit to anything.
所以，你大致计划了一下
So, you make a loose plan to
去一家水疗中心 做个情侣按摩，
get a couple's massage at a spa
在北部，呃，就在 即将到来的周末。
upstate, uh, over the upcoming weekend.
当你到达那里， 你走进去 问前台接待员
When you get there, you walk inside to ask the receptionist
他们那天下午是否 还有空位。
if they have any openings that afternoon.
但不幸的是，
But unfortunately,
结果发现他们已经被 预订了好几个月了。
it turns out they've been booked for months.
(接待员说话)
(Receptionist speaking)
威尔逊： 嗯… 不用了，我没事。
Wilson: Um... No, I'm okay.
-我现在没事。 不过谢谢了。 -好的。不客气。
-I'm okay for now. Thanks though. -Alright. You're welcome.
所以你查了一下 附近还有什么，
So you look up what else is nearby,
结果发现 你离
and it turns out you're not too far from
世界上最大的 花园侏儒雕像不远。
the world's largest garden gnome.
她说她， 她喜欢这个，
She says that she, she likes it,
尽管你知道
even though you know
她宁愿现在 正在做按摩，
she'd rather be getting a massage right now
而不是站 在结冰的草地上，
instead of standing on frozen grass,
看着一个大雕像，
looking at a big statue
一个小矮人的雕像。
of a small man.
♪ ♪
当你随性的时间 足够长之后，
When you're spontaneous for long enough,
你会习惯于接受 次优的选择，
you get used to going to the second-best version
无论你想 做什么。
of whatever you're trying to do.
你最终只能坐在
You end up having to sit
电影院的 第一排。
in the first row at a movie theater.
你只能看 免费的喜剧表演。
You can only see free comedy shows.
而且，过了一段时间， 你开始希望
And, after a while, you start to wish
你能和你爱的人一起 做些协调一致的事情。
you could do coordinated things with the people you love.
但是，你记得 有一个很好的理由
But, you remember there's a good reason
让你从不尝试那样的事情。
you never try stuff like that.
在你成长过程中，
When you were growing up,
你爸爸总是想 带你去一些地方，
your dad would always try to bring you to places,
但每次你们到达时， 那些地方总是 关门了。
but they would always turn out to be closed when you got there.
这种情况发生得如此频繁， 以至于
This happened so often that
他最终开了一个 名为“关门的地方”的博客，
he eventually started a blog called Closed Places,
在那里他开始发布 每次事件的照片，
where he started posting photos of each incident
以此来排解痛苦。
as a way to deal with the pain.
这让你有点害怕 制定计划，
This kind of scared you from making plans
因为计划似乎 从来都不太顺利。
because they never seem to work out very well.
所以，你就这样浑浑噩噩地 度日，像一块浮木，
So, you just stumbled through life like a piece of driftwood,
任由世界塑造你，
letting the world shape you
而不是试图 去控制任何事情。
instead of trying to control anything.
♪ ♪
几乎你录下的 每一件事
Almost every single thing you've ever recorded
都是随机地 出现在
is the direct result of randomly being
正确的时间 正确的地点的直接结果，
in the right place at the right time,
想到你可能已经错过了 这一切美好的事物，
and it terrifies you to think that you could have missed out
这让你感到恐惧，
on all this great stuff
如果你一开始就 制定了计划。
if you had made plans to begin with.
但是，冲动行事 也并不总是
But, doing things impulsively doesn't always work out
像你希望的 那样顺利。
the way you hoped it would, either.
也许你那次去做 按摩的行程令人失望，
Maybe your trip to get a massage was disappointing
是因为你期望它 会以某种特定的方式进行。
because you expected it to work out a certain way.
♪ ♪
而摆脱 家族诅咒的唯一方法
And the only way around the family curse
就是成为一个真正 随性的人，
is to become a truly spontaneous being
并移除任何
and remove anything
甚至看起来像计划 的东西。
that even resembles a plan from the equation.
你-你-你 如何定义意图？
How-how-how do you define intent?
嗯，意图是 一种心理活动，
Well, intent is an operation in the mind,
在给陪审团的指示中， 它的定义是，
and it's defined, in the jury charge,
通过考察行为发生前、
by looking at events that occurred both before the act,
行为期间 以及行为发生后发生的事件。
during the act, and after the act.
意图可以在 很长一段时间内形成，
It can be formed over a long period of time,
也可以在行为发生前的 一瞬间形成。
or in a split second before the act occurs.
威尔逊： 有没有办法证明
Wilson: Is there a way to prove
我是意外 去了海滩？
that I accidentally went to the beach?
嗯，你必须审视 你所有的行为
Well, you'd have to look at all of your behavior
和通讯记录，
and communications
在你到达海滩之前。
before you arrived at the beach.
所以，如果你用MapQuest查了
So, if you MapQuested
你要去的是 一个棒球场，
that you were going to a baseball field
而且那个棒球场不在海滩附近，
that wasn't near the beach,
那就能证明 你并非有意
that would be evidence that you didn't intend
要去海滩。 如果在你开车时，
to go to the beach. If when you drove,
你本该 向左转，
you were supposed to have made a left,
但你却向右转 并开向了海滩，
and you made a right and headed towards the beach
而且你没有意识到， 并且你能证明
without realizing it, and you can show that
你本打算左转，
you intended to go left,
但你犯了个错误 向右转了，
but you made a mistake and went right,
那也会是相关证据。 如果你到了海滩之后，
that would be relevant. If when you got to the beach,
你说：“天哪， 我在海滩上。”
you said, "My god, I'm at the beach.
“我不想 来海滩，” 然后你离开了海滩，
I don't want to come to the beach," and you left the beach,
那就表明 你犯了个错误。
that would show that you made a mistake.
你是无意中 去了海滩。
You went to the beach unintentionally.
♪ ♪
威尔逊： 他说的都很有道理。
Wilson: Everything he said made sense.
但是，那似乎 需要做很多工作，
But, that seems like a lot of work,
而且你不确定是否 值得付出所有这些努力。
and you're not sure if it's worth all the effort.
你一直很钦佩 你的房东，
You always admired your landlord
她能够说走就走， 搬去拉斯维加斯，
for being able to just pack up and move to Las Vegas,
想到这一点真是令人耳目一新，
and it was refreshing to think
在那个年纪还能如此 随性。
that you could still be spontaneous at that age.
她搬走的时候其实给了你 她的新地址，
She actually gave you her new address when she moved away,
你肯定这会 让她非常开心，
and you're sure it would make her really happy
如果你只是 不请自来地出现 给她一个惊喜。
if you just showed up unannounced and surprised her.
也许你还能学到 一两件关于
And maybe you can learn a thing or two about
如何正确地随性而为， 趁你在那里的时候，
the right way to be spontaneous while you're there,
所以你冲动地买了 一张去内华达州的机票，
so you impulsively buy a ticket to Nevada
想给你以前的 房东一个惊喜。
to surprise your former landlord.
在电影里，当人们决定 去拉斯维加斯时，
When people decide to go to Vegas in movies,
他们通常看起来只是 毫不费力地就出现在那里了。
they usually just seem to effortlessly appear there.
但是，有很多事情 他们没有展现给你看。
But, there's a lot of stuff they don't show you.
这些是所有 你能买到的杂志。
These are all the magazines you can buy.
这些是所有的零食。
These are all the snacks.
这就是等待一个汉堡 的样子，
This is what it's like to wait for a hamburger
在…呃， 他妈的Shake Shack。
at... uh, fuckin' Shake Shack.
这就是等待 登机的样子。
This is what it's like to wait to board the plane.
而这是你上了飞机 之后的样子。
And this is what it looks like when you get on.
这是坐出租车 去你住的地方。
This is the cab ride to where you're staying.
这是排队 办理酒店入住。
And this is the line to check in to the hotel.
(清嗓子)
(clears throat)
当时人真的很多， 唯一
It was really busy, and the only room
他们有的空房间 非常贵。
they had available was really expensive.
但是，你已经排队 等了那么久，
But, you had waited on line for so long
以至于你最后还是， 呃，接受了。
that you just ended up, uh, taking it anyway.
(清嗓子)
(clears throat)
第二天早上， 你起得很早，
The next morning, you get up real early
打车去了 你房东的家。
and take a cab out to your landlord's house.
她完全不知道 你要来，
She has no idea that you're coming,
但是前门 好像是开着的。
but the front gate seemed to be open.
所以，你走进 了门厅，
So, you walk inside the vestibule
试着按了按门铃。
and give the doorbell a try.
(门铃响)
(door bell rings)
她一开始没有应答，
She doesn't answer at first,
所以你等了一会儿，
so you wait a second
-又试了几次。 -(门铃响)
-and try a few more times. -(ringing)
在那之后还是没用，
And after that doesn't work,
你绕到 房子的侧面，
you go around to the, the side
试图引起她的注意。
and try to get her attention.
嘿，妈妈！嘿，妈妈！
Hey, mama! Hey, mama!
但在尝试联系了 大约20分钟后，
But after about 20 minutes of trying to make contact,
你的惊喜拜访似乎
your surprise visit doesn't
也行不通了。
seem like it's gonna work out either.
♪ ♪
你以前从未见过拉斯维加斯的 这一面。
You had never seen this part of Las Vegas before.
所有的房子几乎 一模一样，
All the houses were nearly identical
以数学般的精确度 排列着。
and set up with mathematical precision.
对于这样一个无忧无虑的城市来说，
For such a carefree city,
这里似乎 秩序井然。
there seemed to be a lot of order here.
市中心，街道 呈完美的网格状，
Downtown, the streets are in a perfect grid,
所有的人似乎都在 以一种
and all the people seem to be moving
非常可预测的方式流动。
in a very predictable flow.
每个人都待在指定的 行人区内，
Everyone stuck to the designated pedestrian zones,
自动扶梯将他们 带过高速公路，
and the escalators brought them over the freeway
以一种非常有序的方式。
in a very orderly fashion.
而在你酒店外面的 区域，
And in the area right outside your hotel,
所有的表演者都被迫
all their performers are forced
站在小小的 圆圈里，
to stand inside tiny little circles,
否则他们可能会被 市政府罚款。
or else they might get fined by the city.
甚至他们雇来 清理街道的人
Even the people they hire to clean up the streets
也都完美同步。
are in perfect synchronicity.
他们对任何
And they had absolutely no tolerance for anyone
违反时间限制的人都 毫不容忍。
that violated time limits.
-这里发生了什么？ -(卡车嗡嗡声)
-What happened here? -(truck humming)
威尔逊： 你停太久了吗？
Wilson: Can you leave it parked for too long?
很久了。从一点开始。 所以才这样。
Long time. Since 1:00. That's why.
♪ ♪
威尔逊： 走了一会儿 之后，
Wilson: After walking around for a bit,
你注意到你离 市政厅很近。
you noticed you were close to City Hall.
这也是你在电影里从未见过的 拉斯维加斯的另一面。
It's a side of Las Vegas you also never see in movies.
既然你没有 其他计划，
And since you had nothing else planned,
你决定顺道进去看看。
you decide to drop in.
他们的议程上 有很多事情，
They had a bunch of stuff on the agenda,
但过了一会儿就很难
but it was hard after a while
分辨出哪些是 真正重要的了。
to tell what was actually important.
下午的主要活动
The main event of the afternoon
是一个生日 庆祝仪式，
was a birthday recognition ceremony
为一位备受爱戴的 市议员举办的。
for a beloved city councilman.
他们甚至用一整个墨西哥流浪乐队 给了他一个惊喜，
And they even surprised him with a full mariachi band
乐队就在议会厅里 演奏。
that played on the floor of the council chamber.
(墨西哥流浪乐队音乐)
(mariachi music)
看起来这真的 让每个人都感到惊讶，
It looked like it really surprised everyone,
尽管这肯定需要 大量的规划
even though it must have taken a lot of planning
才能让这样的事情 成为可能。
to make something like this possible.
(墨西哥流浪乐队用西班牙语演唱)
(mariachi singing in Spanish)
(歌曲结束)
(song ends)
(掌声，欢呼声)
(applause, cheering)
然后，在你离开的时候，
Then as you were leaving,
你碰巧经过了 市婚姻登记处。
you happen to pass by the City Marriage Bureau.
你知道拉斯维加斯以 冲动结婚而闻名，
You know that Vegas is famous for impulsive weddings,
你觉得也许你 能在那里找到一些人，
and you thought maybe you could find some people there
和你一样 随性。
who were just as spontaneous as you.
那么，你们计划结婚多久了？
So, how long have you been planning to get married?
哦，我们在一起 25年了。
Oh, we've been together 25 years.
我们觉得 是时候了。
We thought it was about time.
-威尔逊：哦，真的吗？ -妻子：是的。
-Wilson: Oh, really? -Wife: Yeah.
♪ ♪
威尔逊： 你以为你可能问 错了人，
Wilson: You thought that maybe you had talked to the wrong couple,
但你问得越多，
but the more you asked around,
就越觉得他们，
the more it seemed like they,
呃，并非例外。
uh, weren't an exception.
你们计划结婚多久了？
How-how long have you been planning to get married?
我想，大概， 从昨晚开始？
I think, what, since last night?
-不，是... -不。
-No, it's... -No.
我们从初中 就认识了。
We've known each other since junior high.
他四年半前提的婚，然后...
He proposed four and a half years ago, and...
到十一月我们结婚 就满15年了，
We've been married 15 years in November,
所以我们想今年 重申我们的誓言。
and so we wanted to do our renewal this year.
我们结婚26年后 重申了誓言。
We renewed our vows after 26 years of marriage.
-威尔逊：哦，真的吗？ -是的。
-Wilson: Oh, really? -Yes.
威尔逊：你们俩—— 你们不是刚认识的？
Wilson: You two-- You guys didn't just meet?
-不是。 -不。不，不。
-No. -No. No, no.
不，我们是31年前 认识的。
No, 31 years ago, we met.
威尔逊： 哦... 好的...
Wilson: Oh... Okay...
所以，如果你在小教堂找不到
So, if you can't find
你要找的东西，
what you're looking for at the chapels,
就回到市中心的 赌场去，
go back downtown to the casinos,
那里可能是最后一个地方
which might be the last place
保证你能找到证据，
you're guaranteed to find evidence
证明真正随性行为的存在。
of truly spontaneous behavior.
但当你进去之后， 看起来
But when you get in there, it seems like
人们只是把自己固定 在一个地方
people just plant themselves in one place
一待就是几个小时，
for hours at a time,
不间断地玩着 同一个游戏，
playing the same game without any interruption,
希望事情最终会 只是...
hoping that things will eventually just...
如他们所愿。
go their way.
-你相信运气之类的东西吗？ -(机器哔哔声)
-Do you believe in kind of luck at all? -(machines beeping)
不太信，不。
Not really, no.
你知道这些都是设定好的。 没人能在这里赢大钱。
You know these are fixed. Nobody's gonna win big here.
(机器音乐声)
(music from machine)
这都取决于，呃...
It all depends on the, uh...
那个... 你们那边 怎么说？
the... What do you call it around you?
你当时的感觉，
The vibes you have,
你是否睡够了，
if you have enough sleep,
你是否感觉良好， 你是否不累，
if you feel good, if you're not tired,
呃... 等等等等。
uh... such and such and such.
-威尔逊：你现在感觉 怎么样？ -我感觉很好。是的。
-Wilson: How do you feel right now? -I feel good. Yeah.
威尔逊： 你自己也试着玩 了几把，
Wilson: You try to play a couple of games yourself,
但结果只是
but all you did
最终浪费了
was end up wasting money
你不想花的钱。
that you didn't want to spend.
过了一会儿，
And after a while,
你开始怀疑
you begin to question
自己是否能 打破这个魔咒。
whether or not you'll ever be able to break this curse.
有些人是不是有 什么策略
Do some people have like strategies
来，来提高 他们的胜算？
to, to kind of increase their chances?
-经理：是啊，他们以为 他们有！(笑) -他们以为他们有，
-Manager: Yeah, they think they do! (laugh) -They think they do,
而我们喜欢这样。你知道...
and we love it. You know...
作为赌场招待， 你有点喜欢这样
Being a casino host, you kind of love it
因为这只会 让他们觉得
because it's just gonna make them think
-他们是无敌的。 -经理：当有人说，
-they're invincible. -Manager: Don't you love it when a guy goes,
“我有了个轮盘赌的新策略？” 我就想，
"I got a new strategy for roulette?" I'm like,
-放马过来吧，先生。 -(笑)
-bring it on, sir. -(laughs)
有些人是 天生的输家。
Some people are natural-born losers.
无论他们做什么， 他们就是赢不了。
No matter what they do, they just can't win.
不管是 体育博彩，
And it's whether they're betting sports,
玩扑克、 二十一点、老虎机， 他们就是赢不了。
playing poker, blackjack, slots, they just can't win.
他们就是——无论 他们做什么，
They just-- No matter what they do,
他们都没有运气。 就算他们赢了，
they have no luck. And if they do win,
就算他们真的赢了， 他们也会挥霍掉——
if they do win, they blow it--
他们迫不及待地回来 把赢的钱全输回去。
they can't wait to get back and blow it all back.
就是这样，这就是...
It's just, that's, that's...
我年复一年地看到，
I've seen it year after year,
周复一周， 日复一日。 太疯狂了。
week after week, day after day. It's crazy.
♪ ♪
威尔逊：也许认为
Wilson: Maybe it's naive to think
运气总会把你引向 正确的地方是天真的想法。
that luck will always guide you to the right place.
即使你想 掌控自己的命运，
And even if you want to control your destiny,
也总会有一种 无形的力量
there will always be some invisible force
阻止这一切发生。
stopping that from happening.
所以，你只好回到 你的房间
So, you just go back to your room
看那些老掉牙的电视节目，
and watch the same old TV shows
而不是尝试 新事物，
instead of trying something new,
在剩下的夜晚里
and spend the rest of the night
思考着所有让你 来到这里的事情。
thinking about all the things that got you here.
第二天早上， 你在四处走动，
The next morning, you were walking around,
试图充分利用 你剩下的时间，
trying to make the best of the time you have left,
但不幸的是，你的到访 恰好赶上了
but, unfortunately, your visit happened to coincide
拉斯维加斯历史上 最严重的热浪之一。
with one of the worst heat waves
in the history of Las Vegas.
你似乎是唯一一个 还留在
And you seem to be the only person left
人行道上行走的人。
walking around on the sidewalk.
你开始感到 非常脱水，
You started feeling really dehydrated
需要一些 空调，
and needed some air conditioning,
于是你走进 你找到的第一个开着的门
so you walk into the first open door
想凉快一下。
you can find to get some relief.
当你开始 环顾四周时，
And when you start to look around,
看起来你好像 刚刚走进
it seems like you've just walked into
了一个活动的现场。
the middle of an event.
你看到到处都是 标牌，
You see a bunch of signage everywhere
写着一个叫 MPI 的东西，
for something called MPI,
但你不知道 那是什么意思。
but you don't know what any of it means.
MPI 是什么的缩写？
What does MPI stand for?
国际会议专业人士 协会。
Meeting Professionals International.
威尔逊： 随着你继续交谈，
Wilson: And as you continued talking,
你意识到你实际上 刚刚走进
you realized that you had actually just walked into
一个为会议策划者 举办的大会。
a convention for convention planners.
这里全是关于制定 计划的计划。
There were plans about making plans with other plans.
计划多得数不清，
Plans for days,
放眼望去全是计划。
as far as the eye could see.
他们准备了很多食物。
They had a lot of food.
有几十个 可以放松休息的地方。
There were dozens of places to chill.
甚至 Usher 也在那里，
And Usher was even there,
你想知道需要 什么样的人
and you wondered what kind of person it takes
才能参与 这样的活动。
to be part of something like this.
你在生活中做的每一件事，
Everything that you do in life,
如果没有一个 执行良好的计划，
if you don't have a well-executed plan,
就很容易失败。 你的计划越好，
it's fraught for failure. The better your plan,
会议就会越好， 活动也会越好，
the better the meeting's gonna be, the better event,
我喜欢看到一个计划 制定出来，
And I love it when you see a plan put together,
几个月后 付诸实现，
and it comes together months later,
正如你所想的那样。
exactly as you thought.
我总有一个POA， 行动计划，
I always have a POA, plan of action,
还有一个备用计划。 如果那个计划不如预期，
and a backup plan. If that one doesn't go as planned,
我知道 接下来该做什么，所以。
I know what I'm gonna do next, so.
我想正是在会议行业 长大
I think just being brought up in the meetings business
并且在里面工作了这么久，
and working in it so long,
你总是有 另一条路可走
you just always have another avenue to go down
以防你遇到障碍。
in case you hit a roadblock.
每当你 心情不好时，
Whenever you're having a bad day,
戴上你的， 呃，你的AirPods，
pop in your, uh, your AirPods,
打开你最喜欢的 摇滚乐，然后开始，
turn on your favorite rock tune, and start,
你知道，思考如何 开拓新业务
you know, thinking about ways you can drum up new business
以及你如何走出 与众不同的节奏。
and how you walk to the beat of a different drum.
那能给你动力。 那能激励你。
That gives you fuel. That gives you motivation.
那能让你—— 那能让你充满激情。
That gives you-- That gets you fired up.
喔！喔！喔！
Woo! Woo! Woo!
♪ ♪
威尔逊： 这里的每个人似乎都 快乐得多
Wilson: Everyone here seemed so much happier
比起你在赌场遇到的 所有其他人，
than all the other people that you met at the casinos,
你羡慕 他们组织如此复杂活动时
and you envied the confidence they had
所拥有的自信。
in organizing such complicated events.
你甚至碰巧遇到了 真正策划了
You even happened to meet the guy who actually planned
整个会议策划者大会的 那个人。
the whole convention for convention planners.
即使面对着 巨大的压力
And even with the amount of pressure
他肯定感受到了，
he must have felt,
他仍然是你见过的 最沉着冷静的人之一。
he was still one of the most centered people
you had ever met.
他甚至邀请你参加 一个盛大的派对，
He even invited you to a big party
那是他们当晚为庆祝
they were having that evening to celebrate
多年来制定的所有成功计划 而举办的。
all the successful plans they've made over the years.
他们真的考虑到了 一切，
They had really thought of everything,
这让你意识到
and it made you realize
事情能变得多么美好
how good things can get
当你全身心投入某件事时。
when you commit to something.
当你在 拿饮料的时候，
And when you're getting a drink,
你居然遇到了一个人，
you actually run into someone
他为你之前试图去做按摩的
who works for the resort
那个度假村工作。
that you tried to get a massage at.
你告诉他所有 发生在你身上的事，
You tell him all about what happened to you,
他只是笑了笑，
and he just laughs
告诉你下次要 提前打电话。
and tells you to call ahead next time.
有一次你看到 几个人
And at one point you saw a couple of people
跳进了游泳池，
jump into the pool,
这是你完全没想到的 会发生的事。
which you didn't expect to happen at all.
但几秒钟后，
But after a few seconds,
一群其他人也 加入了他们，
a bunch of other people joined them,
他们都开始了，呃，呃， 花样游泳。
and they all started, uh, uh, synchronized swimming.
尽管这显然是 早就计划好的，
Even though it was clearly planned well in advance,
它仍然在人群中
it still created a wave
激起了一阵真正的兴奋。
of genuine excitement across the crowd.
♪ ♪
-(萨克斯演奏) -我在那里待了几个小时，
-(saxophone playing) -I stayed there for hours,
尽可能多地喝着劣质啤酒
drinking as much shitty beer
。
as I possibly could.
(萨克斯音乐)
(saxophone music)
老实说，这是我参加过的 最有趣的派对之一。
It was honestly one of the most fun parties
I've ever been to.
而这一切都是因为 他们有计划。
And it was all because they had a plan.
(萨克斯继续演奏)
(saxophone continues)
♪ ♪
(音乐渐弱)
(music fades out)
(听不清)
(inaudible)
所以第二天早上，
So the next morning,
你找到了你房东的 电话号码
you track down your landlord's phone number
打电话告诉她你 在城里。
and call her to tell her that you're in town.
结果她当时 正忙，
It turns out she was busy at the moment,
但你们计划好了
but you make a plan
那天下午晚些时候 见面。
to meet up later that afternoon.
她见到你真的很高兴，
She's really happy to see you,
你出现时她给了你 一个大大的拥抱。
and she gives you a big hug when you show up.
(听不清)
(inaudible)
她带你参观了 她的新家，
She shows you around her new house,
里面有很多大房间
which has a bunch of big rooms
还有地方放她 喜欢制作的东西。
and places for stuff that she likes to make.
她甚至还有一个漂亮的 小后院，
She even has a nice little backyard, too,
她在那里种些东西 放松身心。
where she plants stuff and gets to relax.
不知不觉间，
And before you know it,
你又回到了
you've settled back into
同样的老习惯里。
the same old routines.
她帮你洗衣服，所以
And she does your laundry so
你回家时就不用
you don't have to go back home
带着脏衣服了。
with any dirty clothes.
(清嗓子)
(clears throat)
也许制定计划也没关系，
Maybe it's okay to have a plan
因为否则，依赖你的 那些人
because otherwise, the people that depend on them
就无法享受 你的陪伴了。
won't be able to enjoy your company.
而且说到底，
And at the end of the day,
不管你认为自己 有多随性，
no matter how spontaneous you think you're being,
你的内心可能一直 都有个计划。
your heart may have had a plan all along.
-我会想你的。 -妈妈：我爱你。
-I'm gonna miss you. -Mama: I love you.
-威尔逊：我也爱你。 -妈妈：我希望能见到你。
-Wilson: I love you, too. -Mama: And I hope I see you.
威尔逊： 我知道。很快就能见到你。
Wilson: I know. I see you soon.
♪ ♪
不过能回到 纽约真好，
It was nice to get back to New York though,
在这里仍然感觉 一切皆有可能。
where it still feels like anything is possible.
你想念火车的声音 和
You missed the sound of the train and
它能带你去的 所有不同的地方，
all the different places it can take you,
即使你不确定 自己要去哪个方向。
even if you're not sure which way you're going.
(威尔逊说话声)
(Wilson speaking)
威尔逊：它要去哪儿？
Wilson: Where's it going?
威尔逊：哦，该死。
Wilson: Oh shit.
当你生活在一个充满 如此多可能性的地方时，
When you live in a place with so many possibilities,
你会感觉自己好像
it can feel like you're doing
一直在做错误的事情。
the wrong thing all the time.
但只要你对惊喜 持开放态度，
But as long as you're open to surprises,
这座城市就永远 不会让你失望。
the city will never let you down.
所以，别担心 计划太多，
So, don't worry about planning too much
因为你总会到达 意想不到的地方，
because you'll always end up somewhere you didn't expect,
不管你喜不喜欢。
whether you like it or not.
(海浪拍岸声)
(waves washing ashore)
我是约翰·威尔逊。
This is John Wilson.
非常感谢您的收看。
Thank you so much for watching.
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