at the time of this recording I'm a
44-year-old multi-millionaire but if I
could go back and give my 20-year-old
self some advice on how to get rich a
lot faster here's what I would say rule
number one don't lean your ladder
against the wrong wall most people don't
plan for Success if you're climbing a
ladder and you're successful you might
get to the top and realize it's leaning
against the wrong wall then you got to
climb all the way back down grab the
ladder walk across the room to the right
wall and then lean the ladder back up
and go through that whole process again
if you don't plan to be successful
you'll live a life of default not
designed so don't get good at something
you hate only to get there to realize
it's not the life you want to live which
brings us to rule number two no one
needs to change for you to win if I want
to win I got to find the people that are
going to support that I don't care what
my parents my friends my partner my kids
say to me I've got to find the people
that want to support my dream if they
don't that's fine that's their journey I
need to go create a scenario or find the
people that are going to help make it
happen I don't ask anybody to change for
me to win I change I do the work I get
good at dealing with the setbacks the
self-doubt everybody second guesses me I
learn how to overcome those things
because that's a world where I control
100% of my outcomes which brings us to
rule number three play stupid games Win
stupid prizes so many people make this
mistake they do business with people
they know are they get involved in
selling crappy products they raise money
to build software that's essentially
vaporware now are there good companies
in those maybe but are you probably
probably going to find the wrong one if
you're just starting off yes trying to
take shortcuts today is only going to
have to teach you those lessons that
you're going to learn down the road when
you actually win which brings us to rule
number four avoid difficult
conversations create a difficult life I
believe that success in all areas of
life is on the backside of hard
conversations don't let the fear of
hurting people hold you back from
seeking the truth most people would be
wildly successful if they only learned
to have hard conversations the idea of a
clearing conversation just speaking your
preferences or speaking your mind or
sharing with other people your vision
for life and being okay with them giving
you that feedback most people are scared
to have those difficult conversations
and if you don't do them it'll just make
pain in your life which brings us to
rule number five stop being so freaking
serious you're allowed to be successful
and have a lot of fun I went 15 years
trying to be Mr serious pants and
realize that I wasn't having any fun the
whole time and it turns out the fun part
of me is actually a lot more fun to be
around turns out top performers enjoy
getting done and also hanging out with
somebody that makes them laugh you're
allowed to be incredibly disciplined and
structured and also live an exciting
life the funny part is most people think
that they're winning because of that
seriousness I actually think they're
winning in spite of that seriousness
which brings us to rule number six which
is Success is Not final and failure is
not fatal here's the big idea success is
not a destination it's a journey and
that Journey should be cherished you
should understand that you have the
privilege of dealing with all the
challenges and setbacks and frustrations
along the path of winning and in the
same breath failing is not fatal it's
not going to hold you back failing is
learning finding that seed of
opportunity that lesson learned when I
create something it doesn't work out the
way I want it to I just ask myself the
question did I learn yes perfect move
forward that's what shapes you that's
what gets you ready to receive the thing
you've been asking for instead of being
upset by these setback asks you should
be grateful I give it zero effort
because I don't want that negative
energy slowing me down for creating in
the future which brings us to rule
number seven stop waiting for the right
moment make the moment right stop
waiting for people to give you opportuni
stop saying well I got to do a b c so I
can do G it's so crazy you're allowed to
just start I heard a guy the other day
he wanted to be a director he asked his
friend how do I become a director he
said just start telling people you're a
director you know how easy that is go
create opportunity and just take
ownership of what you want out of life
there's no person that you look up to
that was handed the perfect moment what
they did is they took action and then
created it that is jfdi if you don't
know what that stands for Google it it's
on my license plate is my core motto it
is what I live by but that attitude will
get you the results which brings us to
rule number eight if you want to go fast
go alone but if you want to go far go
together when you're alone you can make
Precision decisions and move very
quickly certain types of work need that
because money loves speed however if
you're trying to build something big
meaningful durable valuable to somebody
else in the future then you have to go
with other people you're never going to
get to your next level without other
people around you other people are going
to shape your thoughts they're going to
shape your activities they're going to
support you in creating that Vision
learn to recruit to involve to
collaborate with other people
collaboration is the key co-creation is
the path learn to do that like your life
depends on it because it does being rich
by yourself in a mega mansion is the
saddest expression of wealth which
brings us to rule number nine the best
revenge is massive success I remember
when I was starting off 15 years ago I
had somebody that literally said to me
you'll never make it you're not as good
as you think you are and I don't even
know why you try to my face and I took
it and instead of allowing it to beat me
up anytime I made a decision that day
forward and it didn't go the way I want
I just kept saying watch and I knew if I
got up every day and I pushed and I
grinded and I showed up and I did the
thing and I started keeping the
commitments I made to myself in private
every day I did that was watch me if
somebody doesn't believe in you the best
thing you can do is just win here's how
you know you got there that person in
the future apologizes and asks you for
help and if you've developed yourself to
the point at that level where you have
Grace and comp passion you'll give them
that help it'll be tough but it'll be
worth it which brings us to rule number
10 the results you're looking for are
found in the work you've been avoiding I
remember I did this 12-hour hike and it
was one of the hardest things I'd ever
done sounds easy not easy and one of the
questions I brought to ponder was this
Joseph Campbell quote which says the
cave you fear to enter most holds a
treasure that you seek that concept is
life most people avoid their demons when
what they really should be learning to
do is how to slay them stop avoiding
them the work instills the worth doing
the work is what creates you focusing on
the thing that is hard is what's going
to shape you to become ready to receive
the thing you've been asking for your
whole freaking life and instead of being
scared about it I'm encouraging you move
forward lean into it working hard isn't
about long hours either it's not about
hustling working hard is doing the thing
that scares you most do that which
brings us to rule number 11 don't shrink
yourself to make other people feel com
I can't tell you how many years I spent
allowing myself to pull back to play
small to communicate small because I
didn't want to scare people away I
didn't want people to feel uncomfortable
or less than because I had big Visions
for my life and I knew that they didn't
think that way don't do that you have to
be so okay being misunderstood for long
periods of time by shining your light by
being so great or having a vision that
makes other people feel less than or
uncomfortable it's their story not yours
if you want to live in an extraordinary
life then you got to learn to be extra
you got to learn to be comfortable being
extra and you should never dim your
light because it blinds other people
which brings us to rule number 12 fear
will always give bad advice write this
down false evidence appearing real I see
this all the time with people around me
they're like well you know I want to do
this but you know there's always this
risk says who who told you that the
probability of that thing being true is
as likely as the opposite you have the
power to create your future because you
have the power to create the energy that
you create from and if you decide that
fear is something you've made up then
you can decide the opposite is also true
you could ask yourself a simple question
what needs to be true for me not to be
scared to make this decision what needs
to be true for me to move forward
without the fear cuz it's giving you bad
advice you need to create from a place
of abundance abundance that source that
energy that gives great advice which
brings us to rule number 13 exhaust the
body t the mine if you follow me on
Instagram you will see me post almost
daily a picture of me working out with
that quote why because I learned that
the more I put my body through struggle
through stress I decided to go in the
pain cave when I do that woo my mind
gets clear my mind gets sharp all the
problems I thought were problems just
magically dissolved because I've decided
to go all in on the physicality
strategically throughout my day to reset
my energy all the time time especially
if you're 20 years old and you're just
starting off if you can get your Fitness
in check if you can learn delayed
gratification if you can learn how good
it feels to go into the pain cave and
rip those muscles if you can build that
consistency and build your confidence by
keeping those commitments you make to
yourself at 20 wow bank accounts fill up
which brings us to rule number 14 not
everyone will be happy for your success
and that's okay as you start being more
successful the people that you thought
had your back are going to probably talk
and the reason why is that in your
winning you've shown them where they've
decided to pull back like in Australia
they call it crabs in a bucket it's a
metaphor for people trying to get out
and do better and everybody pulling the
crab back down in the bucket when if the
crabs just got together and worked as a
team they could all pull themselves out
of the bucket but that's not human
nature mentors turn into critics and
that's okay you need to just understand
it's coming stay close to the people who
want more for you than more from you
people that are closer to your goals not
far from your goals those people are
going to make the transition easy which
brings us to rule number 15 consistency
can fix 90% of your problems as I've
already mentioned consistency is the
foundation of winning that Foundation is
what you install everything else on top
of if you can't get consistent how are
you supposed to do big things you're 20
with a big vision and you want to create
but it's like shooting a Canon from a
canoe your foundation isn't there I
don't care how rich you want to be if
you can be consistent doing the thing
that you know will support your dreams
then it's not going to work so my
challenge to you is this are you willing
to do the boring work for a thousand
days never missing if you can commit to
that you will come out that other side a
completely different person which brings
us rule number 16 nobody cares about
your story until you win some of you
want your parents to care about how hard
you work some of you want your friends
to acknowledge that you're now
successful but you don't realize that
you've only been doing this for a few
years and they've seen you be a complete
twerp for a decade plus you got to
understand you have not proven to them
that you are that person yet and guess
what no one cares how hard you work
nobody cares how long you work so just
go in don't worry about the Praises the
victory if you need praise to move
forward you've already lost the race you
have to learn to be okay making
decisions with nobody praising you for
you to win so just go out there and do
it and trust me all the setbacks all the
failures they will forget the moment you
win which brings us to rule number 17
the pain you feel today creates the
strength you feel tomorrow most people
can't deal with problems and here's a
crazy idea you've never learned anything
when things went right period full stop
what I've learned is over the years
every setback every frustration every
failed company was teaching me how to
deal with higher level problems and as I
look back the size of my problems
dictates the size of my life if I I
don't go through those challenges I'm
not going to develop the armor that I'm
going to need for the next devil at
every level you will find a new devil
that has to be overcome and the only way
you learn how to do that is if you deal
with the first one which brings us to
rule number 18 peace begins when
expectations end some of you think
you're winning because your
perfectionism and I'm telling you the
thing stopping you is your decision to
be perfect at every step stop demanding
Perfection and start embracing progress
valuate where you've gotten to so far
and celebrate that don't beat yourself
up you know my coach Ed my says this all
the time he's like you can desire for
more and in that same breath be
blissfully dissatisfied for what you've
achieved so acknowledge the journey and
the person you've developed into today
let go of what you think life should be
and just start focusing on what it could
be which brings us to rule number 19 you
receive what you desire for others the
moment I stopped making it about me and
started making about other people my
whole life changed when I realized it
wasn't about me getting rich it was
helping other people get rich I got
richer it's so crazy because you see
this with artists Oliver Anthony he
wrote an incredible song Richmond north
of Richmond he was interviewed by Joe
Rogan and asked him why do you think
that out of all the songs you've ever
written your whole life and being
somebody that was a drunk living in a
trailer why you and he said two things I
started reading the Bible and two I
stopped making about myself and I
started making about other people the
more you desire other people around you
to achieve I'm telling you it comes back
10-fold which brings us to rule number
20 the world will show you where you're
not free it is the one of the most
powerful reframes I use on a daily basis
anytime I'm facing a challenge or I'm
frustrated with a situation I get
curious I go interesting I'm not free
right now what is it about this
situation that's causing me to be
triggered because I believe it's in the
discomfort of life that we are given our
assignments to go do the work and if I
could have figured that out in my 20s
holy crap I would have been even more of
a weapon every obstacle is literally an
invitation to break free from your old
patterns if you do that right you will
grow so fast you will have so much
abundance in your life people won't
understand how you've been able to do it
so quickly there's this book that's been
written called trauma most people like
get this book and put it on the
bookshelf never to be open and I'm going
to encourage you to actually open it up
and read it because as you do that work
you're actually doing it for yourself
but more importantly you're doing it for
the future family you're going to build
if you want to learn how to get it
together click here and I'll see you on
the other side