1 00:00:04,850 --> 00:00:09,410 So this just got a quick exercise for you here, this is just a few questions I'm going to ask you, 2 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:16,310 given your opportunity now to start developing the wise, your wise mind right away if this is something 3 00:00:16,310 --> 00:00:18,860 that you even want to do already. 4 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:26,150 Oh, problems and tensions can be resolved or managed with humble reflection and introspection. 5 00:00:26,870 --> 00:00:30,140 Quite a bold there suggestion statement to make. 6 00:00:30,620 --> 00:00:36,260 But if it's not true, then I guess we don't have any hope that things could possibly ever be better 7 00:00:36,260 --> 00:00:36,680 for us. 8 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:43,190 We're forever going to be reliant on a professional or a mistake or a magic man somewhere to resolve 9 00:00:43,190 --> 00:00:43,670 things. 10 00:00:43,670 --> 00:00:50,750 For us, introspection precedes self-awareness, emotional management and all personal growth. 11 00:00:51,030 --> 00:00:51,370 All right. 12 00:00:51,860 --> 00:00:55,850 So I'm going to ask a few questions here to invoke introspection. 13 00:00:56,330 --> 00:01:01,940 Introspection as a term, though, again, appreciate we've already touched upon is when we just simply 14 00:01:01,940 --> 00:01:08,750 look within what happens if you were to come across an inspector in your local police department, what 15 00:01:08,750 --> 00:01:16,480 do inspectors, the inspectors or if you've ever watched the old film, Inspector Clouseau arranges 16 00:01:16,490 --> 00:01:22,130 to go around with his little moustache and its magnifying glass, and he would look at clues, examine, 17 00:01:22,310 --> 00:01:24,650 examine evidence, things like this. 18 00:01:24,680 --> 00:01:25,010 Right. 19 00:01:25,190 --> 00:01:27,190 That's what inspectors and the police would do. 20 00:01:27,830 --> 00:01:31,400 And when we introspect, we simply reflect. 21 00:01:31,400 --> 00:01:34,580 We contemplate and we look at the facts. 22 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:41,150 We look at evidence within, all right, where we're no longer willing to succumb to our emotions or 23 00:01:41,150 --> 00:01:42,380 our rational opinions. 24 00:01:42,860 --> 00:01:45,670 We're instead seeking to appreciate that, which is true. 25 00:01:46,130 --> 00:01:47,900 So I'm going to give you a few opportunities here. 26 00:01:48,360 --> 00:01:53,810 I want you to consider a relationship in your life in which there is currently a tension. 27 00:01:54,260 --> 00:01:57,830 We understand the difference between problems to be solved, intentions to be managed. 28 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:00,350 So here's your opportunity to grow, friend. 29 00:02:00,890 --> 00:02:05,420 How do you want to manage a relationship tension that you currently have in your life? 30 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:11,410 And just answer this question, right, don't voice an opinion about it, you don't need a 10 page action 31 00:02:11,410 --> 00:02:17,500 plan or anything like that, just simply acknowledge how it is that you actually want to manage a relationship 32 00:02:17,500 --> 00:02:19,970 tension that you have and write it down. 33 00:02:19,990 --> 00:02:21,190 How do you want to resolve this? 34 00:02:21,190 --> 00:02:24,280 Because then all is required for you to do is go and take some action. 35 00:02:24,940 --> 00:02:29,960 Question number two, how do you need to resolve a problem that you have in your life? 36 00:02:31,090 --> 00:02:38,470 We know the problems are generally always systems, are processes orientated, i.e. a lack of systems, 37 00:02:38,470 --> 00:02:42,460 a lack of processes equate to arise and problems. 38 00:02:42,730 --> 00:02:48,310 So identify a problem that you have in your life can be a relationship tension and just simply acknowledge 39 00:02:48,310 --> 00:02:50,650 how you need to resolve this. 40 00:02:51,620 --> 00:02:52,610 And then make a decision. 41 00:02:54,240 --> 00:03:02,100 What opportunity do you have in your life, must you take responsibility for today, what opportunity 42 00:03:02,100 --> 00:03:05,400 can you identify that you must take responsibility for today? 43 00:03:06,070 --> 00:03:11,220 Many people go through life saying things like, oh, I'm just looking for an opportunity. 44 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:13,170 I'm just looking for an opportunity. 45 00:03:13,620 --> 00:03:19,320 The problem is most people don't recognize opportunity because it comes along dressed in disguise, 46 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:22,680 looking like hard work and wearing a pair of overalls. 47 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:31,430 A wise man once said that already so many people only want opportunities in life that are easy, that 48 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:39,420 are quick fix instantly gratifying, but opportunities generally good ones anyway, tend to require 49 00:03:39,420 --> 00:03:44,210 a little bit of effort, ingenuity and an effort. 50 00:03:44,730 --> 00:03:47,280 So opportunity should take responsibility for. 51 00:03:47,550 --> 00:03:48,540 Just have a look and see. 52 00:03:49,030 --> 00:03:49,290 Right. 53 00:03:49,300 --> 00:03:50,360 Never mind what you think. 54 00:03:50,370 --> 00:03:51,450 Never mind how you feel. 55 00:03:51,910 --> 00:03:52,650 It was true. 56 00:03:53,220 --> 00:03:53,830 What is true? 57 00:03:54,720 --> 00:04:00,170 What role have you played and the outcomes that you're currently working in now? 58 00:04:00,450 --> 00:04:03,090 Because this is the state section of the course. 59 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:04,920 Let's look at your current state. 60 00:04:05,070 --> 00:04:13,380 Are you currently working in a place of turmoil, disturbance, panic, stress disorder, chaos? 61 00:04:14,190 --> 00:04:19,470 We're obviously just looking at the negatives here, perhaps mistrust as a relationship falling apart 62 00:04:19,470 --> 00:04:27,840 recently as have you kind of damage the trust in a relationship as a business falling apart, ARIAH 63 00:04:28,140 --> 00:04:30,330 unemployed or you go around in circles. 64 00:04:30,330 --> 00:04:31,020 Are you bored? 65 00:04:31,020 --> 00:04:32,070 Are your lonely? 66 00:04:33,260 --> 00:04:36,870 It is something that you feel yourself lacking in life. 67 00:04:38,370 --> 00:04:41,680 What role are you playing in this outcome? 68 00:04:42,060 --> 00:04:43,360 What part are you playing? 69 00:04:43,740 --> 00:04:45,320 Are you truly the victim? 70 00:04:45,750 --> 00:04:50,580 Genuinely is the world out to get you or are you playing a part in this? 71 00:04:50,790 --> 00:04:51,300 All right. 72 00:04:51,740 --> 00:04:58,350 It's when we accept responsibility for what is true, that we can generally identify the opportunities 73 00:04:58,350 --> 00:04:59,640 that we have to improve and grow. 74 00:05:00,570 --> 00:05:05,210 Question number five, how can you manage yourself more effectively today? 75 00:05:05,940 --> 00:05:08,340 Are you an emotional train wreck? 76 00:05:09,420 --> 00:05:14,100 People who know you well, are you the kind of person who can just be trusted, never mind what you 77 00:05:14,100 --> 00:05:15,800 want to be known as? 78 00:05:15,840 --> 00:05:16,300 Right. 79 00:05:16,350 --> 00:05:18,270 Never mind what your ideal is. 80 00:05:18,270 --> 00:05:18,540 Right. 81 00:05:18,540 --> 00:05:23,360 What you think people could come to you for if you were someone else in your life? 82 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:26,430 What can you actually be counted on for? 83 00:05:27,270 --> 00:05:30,330 An emotionally stable, consistent? 84 00:05:30,540 --> 00:05:37,530 Are you a source of mature guidance and wisdom and input when people have complex problems or complex 85 00:05:37,710 --> 00:05:40,440 relational tensions need to manage much in life? 86 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:45,440 Are you the kind of person you come to for impune wisdom and guidance or are not? 87 00:05:46,290 --> 00:05:47,810 If so, there will be a reason for that. 88 00:05:47,820 --> 00:05:50,010 If not, there will be a reason for that. 89 00:05:50,610 --> 00:05:55,890 How can you manage yourself more effectively today that might result in you earning? 90 00:05:56,930 --> 00:06:03,740 More trust from other people that you have in your life and a final question, what don't you know that 91 00:06:03,740 --> 00:06:05,330 you need to know today? 92 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:06,850 What do you know about yourself? 93 00:06:07,280 --> 00:06:09,340 What don't you understand about life? 94 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:17,300 What don't you fully grasp that you need to grasp in order to conduct yourself more efficiently, more 95 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:23,390 effectively, more productive, more productively in any aspect of your life, your relationships, 96 00:06:23,390 --> 00:06:25,580 your work, your career or whatever? 97 00:06:26,350 --> 00:06:30,170 Right now, obviously, you're the only person in the world who can answer these questions, but you're 98 00:06:30,170 --> 00:06:37,040 only going to answer these questions objectively and wisely if you're not functioning and given a rational, 99 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:44,540 opinionated response or an emotional and irrelevant response or truth based responses to these questions, 100 00:06:44,540 --> 00:06:49,160 my friend, and you shall develop your wise mind right away. 101 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:49,970 Useful. 102 00:06:50,420 --> 00:06:53,560 Spend some time considering the answers and I'll see you again in the next clip.