什么决定什么有趣 what determines what is interesting
你你 you you
没错，没有 that's right there is no
客观有趣的东西 objective thing that is interesting
好像所有这些东西都很有趣，而那不是 like all this stuff is interesting and that isn't
这取决于个人 it depends on the individual
有趣是主观的 interesting is subjective
这就是你要做的 that's what it comes down to you
所以什么决定了什么有趣 so what determines what is interesting
你对什么感兴趣 what you are interested in
就是这样 that's it
如果你感兴趣的话 if you are interested in it
那种氛围 that vibe will
传染给别人，他们也会感兴趣的 rub off on others and they will be interested in it too
如果我 if I
这是给我的一个例子，我非常喜欢数学 and this is the example I was give am super into math
我现在开始谈论数学 and I start talking about math right now
对数学不感兴趣的人会觉得有点无聊 anyone not that into math you find a little bit boring
请举手 raise your hand
是啊，你知道吗 yeah well did you know
如果你取两个 that if you take two
在它旁边加上2 and you put two next to it
这是四个 it's four
不是开玩笑，我女儿才刚刚开始学习 no joke my daughter actually just started learning
将数字相加 adding numbers together
她会在晚上这样做 and she'll do this at night where
她会带几本书，然后 she'll take a couple books and she'll
像老师一样做事 act like the teacher
她会让我们投票 and she'll have us vote
爸爸，你想读什么书 like dad what book do you want to read
我选一个 and I'll pick one
她会用手指，一指一票 and she'll put her finger like one finger one vote
妈妈，你呢，那我就选那个 mom what about you so I go that one
然后她问自己，她把另一个 and then she asks herself and she puts the other one
然后她会看，然后说 and then she'll look and she says
2比1大 two is bigger than one
所以我们要用这本书 so we're going with this book
这内容有趣吗 was that actually interesting content wise
你会觉得很酷吗 are you like oh cool
但是注意到她是这样的 but notice her was like
然后她做了什么 and then what did she do
哦，她问妈妈她想要什么书 oh she asked the mom what book she wanted
她看了看两个 and she looked at two
大于 is bigger than
1 1
赢了两场，我们就用这本书 2 wins so we're going with that book
注意我是如何重复我说过的话的 and notice how I just repeated what I said
而你还是坐在那里被锁着 and you still sat there locked in
2 2
1 1
2大于 2 is bigger than
1 2 1 2
1 1
二是 two is
好然后 good then
1 2 1 2
1 1
现在这是这个 2 now this is this
但注意我每次重复的时候 but notice how also every time I repeated it
我做了什么? what did I do
我实际上放大了它的激情 I actually amplified the passion of it
2 2
1 1
所以这不是真正的内容 so it's not really the content
对，这和 right it's the same as
一个朋友看到你就像 a friend who sees you who's like
我刚看了一部最棒的电影 oh I just saw the best movie
你会很兴奋的 you're gonna be all excited
你都不知道你看的是什么电影 you don't even know what movie you saw
好的，什么电影，什么电影 okay what movie what movie
他们我吃了最好的食物 hey I ate the best food
嘿，2是一样的 hey 2 is one like same thing
这种氛围是会传染的 it's the vibe it's contagious
这对你意味着什么，你不能假装 so what that means for you and you cannot fake this
顺便说一下，对我来说，我真的 by the way for me I'm genuinely
对2合1的故事感兴趣 interested in that 2 in 1 story
因为那是我女儿 because it's my daughter
这是我对它感兴趣的唯一原因 that's the only reason I'm interested in it
这样就能擦掉，我就装不出来了 so it rubs off so I can't fake it
对于你来说，你必须问自己，如果你想成为 for you what you must ask yourself if you want to be
不那么无聊，也更有趣 less boring and more interesting as well
什么真正让我兴奋 what authentically lights me up
是什么让我这么想的 what gives me that
眼睛里的火花 spark in the eyes
它没有向上看 it's not looking up
最有趣的话题是什么 what are the most interesting topics
人们会这么做 people do that
或 or
他们可能会 they might
看看他们想和谁说话，他们就像 look at who they want to talk to and they're like
那个人会怎么做? what might that person
发现有趣的 find interesting
嘿，我想见见那个人 hey I want to meet that person
然后他们在社交媒体上跟踪 and then they do the social media stalking
他们的兴趣是什么? what are their interests
然后他们试着 and then they tried to
请说同样的事 please and talk about the same thing
我听说你喜欢小蛋糕 hey I heard you like cupcakes
我也是 me too
不，没人想那样 no no one wants that
我们还必须意识到，如果你想玩 we also have to realize is if you're trying to play
变成了别人的兴趣 into other people's interests
他们根本不了解你 they're not getting to know anything about you
你就变成了这面镜子 you just become this mirror
嘿，我听说你们喜欢纸杯蛋糕 hey I heard you were like cupcakes
是的，我已经知道了 yeah I already knew that
哦，那很酷，我也很酷 oh that's cool me too oh cool
我能了解一些关于你的新情况吗 can I learn something new about you
你能让我兴奋吗? can you excite me
而不是重复我已经知道的 versus repeating what I already know
我已经喜欢的东西 what I already like
都是一样的 it'd be the same
好像你们都是在活动结束后来找我说话似的 as if you all came to talk to me after the event
或者你听说过放手这件事 or hey you heard about this letting go thing
是的，我教它 yeah I teach it
嘿，你知道放手 hey did you know that letting go
我每天都在谈论这个 and I talk about this every day
给我一些新的东西 give me something new
我兴奋 excite me
什么是令人兴奋的新事物 what's something new that's exciting
好吧，我想了解你 well I want to know about you
什么让你兴奋? what excites you
所以列个清单 so make a list
没有这样的事 and there's no such thing
这在名单上还不够好 that's not good enough for that list
意思是如果你写下来 meaning if you write down you're like
什么让我感兴趣，你喜欢动漫 what does interest me and you're like anime
书呆子视频游戏魔法卡 nerdy video games magic cards
这是很棒的数学，很棒的驾驭 then that's great math great harness that
它与主流背道而驰 it goes against mainstream
上面说不要谈论这个 which says don't talk about that
谈论一些很酷的基本话题 talk about cool flat basic topics
更令人兴奋的是 well what's more exciting
嘿，天气 hey the weather
或嘿 or hey
看看这些神奇的卡片 check out these magic cards
如果你拥有它，那就更令人兴奋了 it's much more exciting if you just own it
你必须拥有它 you have to own it
你必须投入其中 and you have to be into it
你可以谈论一些疯狂的书呆子的事情 you can talk about some crazy nerdy thing
猜猜看，这是一个真实的故事 like guess what this is actually a true story
最近我看了一个叫《攻击泰坦》的节目 recently I watched this show called attack on Titans
有人看过那个节目吗? anyone see that show
这是我一生中看过的最好的电视节目 it is the best TV show I have seen in my entire life
我发誓 I swear
比《绝命毒师》好比《权力的游戏》好 better than Breaking Bad better than game of Thrones
是我这辈子见过的最棒的 the best I have ever seen in my entire life
这让我大吃一惊 it blew my mind
我也不看动漫 and I do not watch anime
我不能看动漫 I can't watch anime
我甚至试过，我想如果这就是动漫 I even tried I was like if this is what anime is
我曾经盲目 I have been blind
我试着看了其他动画，然后我想 and I tried looking at some other anime and I'm like
不能深入讨论吗 can't get into that
对泰坦的唯一攻击 only attack on Titan
我都不知道我看得对不对 and I don't even know if I've seen it right
不管是泰坦还是泰坦，但它爆炸了 if it's Titan or Titans but it blew
我的心灵 my mind
在我看完那个节目后的一个月左右 and for the month or so after I've seen that show
我只能说这些了 it's all I could talk about
好像我会把一切都和它联系起来 like I'd link everything back to it
即使是和没看过的朋友 even with friends who haven't seen it
你真的应该看 like you should really watch it
你看到了吗? did you see it
你知道这让我想到了这个 well you know it made me think of this
我真的会想出一些情况 and I literally would come up with situations
就像我的幽默是很多你会怎么做，如果 like my humor is a lot of what would you do if
我会告诉你怎么做 and I would talk about how
如果你曾经是 if you were to ever be
困在一个永远不会结束的梦里 trapped in a dream that would last forever
或者另一种 or an alternate
现实是你永远被困在那里 reality where you're just stuck there forever
但你得选一个节目 but you had to pick a show
或者是一部你永远困在里面的电影 or a movie that you were stuck in forever
这是对泰坦的攻击 it'd be attack on Titans
我会梦到它 and I'd have dreams about it
我满脑子都是这个 and it's all I could think about
我是一个单维的泰坦生物 that I was a one dimensional Titans being
我觉得连我的内容都受到了影响，因为我 I feel like even my content suffered because I was
像泰坦一样思考 thinking about as Titans
真实的 for real
现在注意到这一点 now notice even this little bit here
我说的是动漫 I'm talking about anime
这是真的，不能伪造，这是真的 now it's authentic can't fake it it's actually true
我希望我在《泰坦》里，我希望生活是《泰坦》 I wish I was in Titans I wish life was Titans
我希望我是泰坦军团的侦察兵 I wish I was in the Scout regiment of Titans
这就是我的梦想 that's all I dream about
相反，我只是一个演讲者在这里悲伤的生活 instead I'm just a speaker here the sad life
我希望我是泰坦 I wish I was Titans
去他的，我要走了 screw this I'm going
就好像他要走了 like what it runs like is he leaving
现在 now
这让 this brings
看，这带来了另一个因素，那就是 look at that brings another component to it which is
把你的身体投入进去 put your body into it
部分原因是 so part of it is
你觉得有趣的是什么? what you find interesting
召唤出有趣的氛围 summons the interesting vibe
但你必须驾驭它 but then you have to harness it
注意我是如何谈论泰坦的 so notice how I could talk about the Titans
我说，哦，这真的很有趣 I'm like oh that's really interesting
但我用身体表达我的激情 but I bring the passion I speak with the body
这是我从很多喜剧演员那里学到的 this is something I Learned from a lot of comedians
尤其是戴恩·库克 and especially Dane Cook back in the day
他的很多小品都是这样的故事 a lot of his skits are these stories
但他全身心地投入其中 but he's like fully putting his body into it
我说我就像泰坦 what I say I'm like Titans
泰坦 Titans
走下舞台 walk off stage
猛踩脚 slam the foot
他甚至从椅子上跳了起来 like go he even jumped out his chair
不同的范围 different range
这是你必须要解开的 and that's something you got to unlock within yourself
你不能强迫，要通过放手来完成 you can't force this it's done through letting go
但如果你在说话 but if you're talking
如果你不想这么无聊的话 if you want to stop being so boring
别这么单调 stop being so monotone
意思是说快说慢，大声说 meaning speak fast speak slow be loud
保持安静 be quiet
慢下来，脚踏实地，兴奋，微笑，悲伤 slow down be grounded be excited smile sad
是的，整个范围都很愤怒 angry this whole range yes
以一种有趣的方式 in an interesting way
你怎么能确定另一个没有得到 how can you get sure that the other one is not getting
比如嫉妒 jealous for example
谁会嫉妒呢? who would get jealous
第一个谈话对象 first to talk to
是的 yes
当你谈论爱情，当你处于一段关系中 when you talk about love and you are in a relationship
另一个可能不是 and then the other one might be not
然后你完全投入其中，然后收集海洋 and then you are fully into it and then collect ocean
现在不是那个对话 now it's not that conversation
你得到了它，你投入其中，你真的 you have got it you are into it and you really
这是另一种叫做社会智力的技能 so that's another skill called social intelligence
是的，如果你在和一个 yes if you're talking to someone who
比如他说 for example he said
他们没有相爱，而你却在说 they're not in love and you're talking about like
所以你在寻找真爱 so you're looking for love
我得告诉你 I gotta tell you
我的关系很抱歉 my relationship is so sorry
是的 yeah
拥有它 own it
你真的很喜欢，然后 and you're really into it and then yeah
哦，天哪，我不知道 oh my God I don't
不要设法去那里 don't manage to go there and
是的 yeah
你觉得这个人很冷，但是 you feel like the person is chillous but
你不知道如何控制谈话 you don't know how to manage the conversation
然后 then
你继续走 you keep going then
这是在唤醒他 that's waking him up
你猜我现在说的很多 guess what a lot of what I'm speaking here
非常谦虚 being very modest
有些人会说 some of you are like
我想成为那样的人 I want to be like that
它在唤醒你 it's waking you up
如果你说我去了动物园之类的 if you speaking about hey I went to the zoo and like
我希望我想去动物园 I wish I want to go to the zoo
好吧，现在开始吧，你还在等什么呢 well now go for it what are you waiting for
正确的 right
那是他们的错，是你的错 well that's on them that's on on you
但你怎么能 but how would you then
想聊就聊吧 want to conversation like do it
如果我想要，我会保留 I keep if I wanted yeah
怎么去追求那种强烈的缺乏呢 how to go for like an intense lack of
谈话 conversation
我一直在说动物园有多棒 I keep talking about the zoo and how awesome it is
如果我喜欢的话 if I felt like it
我们能够联系起来，或者如果我再次感觉到 and we were able to connect or if I sense again
这是微妙的 like then it's nuanced
它总是真实性和相关性 it's always authenticity and relatability
但永远不要在真实性上妥协 but never compromise authenticity
所以，试着让它与一些你不喜欢的人产生共鸣 so try to make it relatable with some people you won't
如果是一个非常刻薄的人 and if it's someone who's like really bitter
说你在动物园过得很愉快 about you having a great day at the zoo
那我就拥有它了 then I would own it
如果他们生气了 and if they're pissed about it
那你就不该和他谈 then that's not someone you should be talking to
这样的朋友可不好 that's not a good friend to have
比如我谈论好的事情 like if I talk about good things
我的朋友们对此很不高兴 and my friends aren't happy for it
或者他们总是说他们像 or they always make it about them like
哦，你去了欧盟，我去了欧洲，我 oh you went to EU I went to Europe and I'm
下一个不是好朋友 not a good friend next
所以我会拥有它 so I would own it and
关于生活的残酷事实也是 the harsh truth also about life is
别再试着 stop trying to
请每个人，和每个人做朋友 please everyone and be friends with everyone
找到你的部落 find your tribe
这就是找到你的部落的定义 that's the definition of find your tribe
这是你的真实 it's own your authenticity
如果你伪装了很长一段时间 and if you've been fake for a long period of time
这也是转型的破坏阶段 this is also the destruction phase of transformation
通过真实 by being real
这会疏远一些人 it's gonna alienate some people
不是每个人都会喜欢的 not everyone's gonna like it
嘿，你开始往上爬，开始谈论这件事 hey you start moving up and you start talking about it
是的，有些人可能会被触动 yeah some people might be triggered
这就是我想说的 and that's where it's like hey
看来我们不能经常在一起了 guess we can't hang out as much
或者你可以有创意地说，好吧 or maybe then you can get creative and say well
也许我们可以在这种情况下一起玩 maybe we can hang out in these contexts
不谈动物园的地方 where we don't talk about the zoo
但我不会隐瞒 but I'm not going to hold back
从表达我对动物园的兴奋 from expressing my excitement of the zoo
为了取悦你 to please you
因为那样的话，你就输了，赢了，这才是取悦别人的方式 because then it's a lose win that's a people pleaser
所以这是真实的 right so it's authenticity when
然后我会用最好的方式交流 and then I'll communicate in the best way
我不想让人太讨厌，等等 I'm not gonna like overly be obnoxious on and so forth
但我不会 but I'm not gonna
不要沟通 not communicate it
如果我真的想表达出来的话 if I authentically feel like communicating it
所以你也得愿意失去错误的人 so you got to be willing to lose the wrong people too
意识到你做不到 realize you can't
控制别人，你就不用为他们负责 control people and you're not responsible for them
要么 either
如果这触发了他们那是他们的事，不是你的事 if it triggers them that's on them that's not on you
这是 that's for
他们做的工作或他们意识到他们应该 them to do the work or them to realize they should
清理空间 clear up space
为他们的一天去动物园 for their day to go to the zoo
否则你就是在迎合他们 otherwise you're pandering to them
简单的小或迎合他们的应对机制 plain small or pandering to their coping mechanism
而不是"我不会适应你的应对方式 versus hey I'm not gonna adapt to your coping
我要做我自己 I'm gonna be me
你可以选择 and you can either
采取行动，停止应付，这样我们才能联系 take action stop coping so we can connect
或不 or not
但你对他们没有任何好处 but you're not doing them any good
应付他们的应付方式就像是迎合他们 coping to their coping like pandering to that
但是回到 but back to
的氛围 the vibe
练习这种表达方式 practice that range of expressiveness okay
我将 I would
练习这个 practice this
一个很好的做法是在家里不要开玩笑 a good practice to add on this is at home no joke
对着镜子照自己5分钟 look at yourself in the mirror and for 5 minutes
送些试音带什么的 deliver some kind of audition tape
所以你可以在YouTube上上网看看 so you can look this up online on YouTube
你现在会看到很多 you'll see a lot of them now
所以你可以说 so you can say
这个角色在电影中这个角色的试镜带 this character's audition tape for this role in a movie
演员们做得好，你想成为小丑 and actors do this right you want to be the Joker
你得把一盘五分钟的试音带 you have to send a five minute audition tape on your
小丑的代表 representation of the Joker
如果他们喜欢，你就会来面试 and if they like it you'll come in for an interview
或者试镜 or an audition
好吧，有个人很突出 okay there was a guy that stood out
他在《怪奇物语》里演过一季 he was in Stranger Things in one of the seasons
他的试镜带在那里 and his audition tape was there
他们就因为这个雇了他 and they hired him just based on that
因为他做了一件独特的事 because he did this kind of unique thing
所以你可以找一些例子，然后问自己 so you can look up some examples and then ask yourself
基于不同的角色 based on different roles
你喜欢的不同的电影 different movies that you like
你的试镜带是什么 what would be your audition tape
所以你必须扮演小丑，然后说 so you had to do the Joker and be like
哈 huh
嗯嗯 huh huh
我是小丑 I'm the Joker
以蝙蝠侠为例 take that Batman
很多人都这样，因为他们就是做不到 like that's a lot of people because they just can't
他们没有那种面部表情 they don't have that facial expression
他们无法打开靶场 they can't unlock the range
他们无法获得情感 they can't get the emotions
你也可以练习什么是你最能笑的 you can also practice what's the most you can smile
有些人真是太疯狂了 it's crazy how some people are like
到此为止 and it kind of stops there
或者如果他们生气了，他们会说 or if they're mad they're like
与 versus
他们没有 they don't have that
你必须解开它 you gotta unlock that
所以现在我说你可能 so much and now that I say you're probably
你会注意到的，因为你的注意力都集中在上面了 gonna notice it because your focus goes on it
但我说话的时候也有很多面部表情 but so much my speaking is also facial expressions
太多了 so much of it
你最好伸伸脸 you better stretch your face
你最好瞄准鱼尾纹 you better aim to get the crow's feet
你最好把皱纹从 you better aim to get the wrinkles from just
面带微笑，滔滔不绝 smiling and speaking so much
你不像皱纹 you're like not the wrinkles
别叫我去长皱纹 don't tell me to get the wrinkles
是的 yes
而不仅仅是打破常规 about official expressions than just breaking patterns
你说过要大声说话 you talked about being loud
是的，你会有意识地思考吗 yeah do you think about it consciously
或者它只是一个形式 or it's just something that comes in a
很好的问题 good question
首先你得让它有意识 at first you'll have to make it conscious
如果你想到只是 if you think of just
因为这是真正的社交技巧 because this is really social skills
沟通技巧 communication skills socializing
这才是真正的生活语言 this is the language of life really
它是人与人之间关系的语言 it's the language of relationships of people
和 and
我们从来没有停下来过，这很有趣 it's quite fascinating how we never actually stop
让人们意识到这一点，或者为之努力 and bring awareness to it or work on it
好吧，我们让生活教会我们 right we let life teach it to us
但是你意识到 but what you realize
这是我之前意识到的 and this is what I realized earlier on is
社会化或社会化的过程 the process of socialization or
如何融入 how to fit into
社会如何沟通是你无法控制的 society how to communicate is done out of your control
也许你在其中 maybe you're in some
你会得到一些负面反馈的环境 environments where you get some very negative feedback
这将会影响 that's going to affect
你是如何学习的? how you learn your
自我表达和你的社交技巧 self expression and your social skills
与另一个环境相比 versus another environment
现在没人能控制环境了 now none of you can control the environments
你是在 you grew up in
这就是生活 that was life
你不能这样 you can't be like
当我两岁的时候，我就应该搬家，不，这就是生活 when I was 2 I should have moved no that was life
但你现在可以重新审视它 but you can revisit it now
并努力解决那些无益的问题 and work on what wasn't beneficial
所以你必须回头看，然后说 so you got to look back and say well
默认值是什么? what's my default
我无意识地做了什么我怎么做的 what do I do unconsciously how do I do it
然后你要让它有意识 then you have to make it conscious
让它有意识会感觉很尴尬 and it will feel quite awkward making it conscious
就像你从来没有意识到你笑了多少次 like if you never were aware of how much you smiled
然后过了一天你就觉得好吧 and then in a day you're like okay
你得知道我有多爱笑 got to be aware of how much I smile
它会让你有点头晕 it's going to put you in your head a bit
你必须经历这一过程 and you're going to have to go through that
尴尬阶段 phase of awkwardness
然后 and then
你会看到，好吧，我把它开发出来了 you'll see okay I kind of developed it worked on it
然后它又变得无意识了 then it becomes unconscious again
就像我现在做的时候是无意识的 like when I do it now it's unconscious
我有时会 I'll sometimes
如果我教的是示范，让它有意识 bring it conscious if I'm teaching to demonstrate
但在很大程度上没有 but for the most part no
我没这么想，因为我只是 I'm not thinking of that because I'm just
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此时此刻 in the moment
但是你必须经历这个阶段 but yes you have to go through that phase
所以微笑不开玩笑也是一个大问题 so smiling no joke is also a big one
如果你不有趣 if you're not interesting
人们不喜欢和你在一起 people don't like being around you
你要多微笑 you gotta smile more
就像我以前教客户的东西一样 like something I would teach clients back in the day is
只要他们想出去 whenever they wanted to go out
和他们的朋友聊天，出去玩 talk hang out with their friends network
把微笑写在你的手上 write smile on your hand
比如拿起一支记号笔，写下微笑的原因 like take a sharpie and write smile why
因为每次你跟别人打招呼 because every time you say hi to someone
说你在和他们握手 say you're shaking their hand
就像微笑一样 it's like smile smile
这是一个不断的提醒 it's this constant reminder
这也是我有这个纹身的原因 also the reason I have this tattoo right here
他们都想知道 they all want to know huh
上面写着西藏 it says Tibet
这是一个词 it's a word
在西藏 in Tibet
不，我开玩笑的 no I'm kidding it's
这意味着无处不在就是无处不在 it means to be everywhere is to be nowhere
也就是在场 aka be present
为什么因为我的倾向 why because the tendency I had
可能有一点 probably a little bit
现在仍然是，但更早的时候是 still now but way more back in the day is
我对自己的处境从来都不满意 I was never happy with where I was
就像在2011年2010年巡演的早期 like even early on touring back 2010 in 2,011
我总是希望我在另一个城市 I was always like I wish I was in the next city
比如说我们现在在维也纳 like saying we're in Vienna now
我就像明天要去巴黎一样 I'm like I'm going to Paris tomorrow
真希望我现在在巴黎 I wish I was in Paris right now
维也纳的人群 this Vienna crowd
现在是巴黎吗 is it Paris yet is it Paris now
我在巴黎的时候发生了什么 what happens when I'm in Paris
我想念维也纳的观众，他们好多了 I miss the Vienna crowd they were so much better
噢，巴黎，就像我一直想去别的地方一样 oh Paris like I always wanted to be somewhere else
想想别的地方 thinking about somewhere else
要么未来过去不停歇 either future past non stop
从来没有出现 never present
所以这是无处不在，无处不在 so it's this hey to be everywhere to be nowhere
出席，出席，出席 be present be present be present
现在就在这里 be right here right now
不断地提醒 constant reminder
微笑，微笑，微笑 just that smile smile smile
如果你很安静，声音很大 if you're quiet loud
响亮的声音 loud loud
不断地提醒 constant reminder
这些都是很关键的 okay so a lot of that is very key
最后还是要像往常一样放手 and then it really comes down as always to letting go
离开你自己的方式，让它流动 get out of your own way and let it flow
并且意识到，是的，你可以润色这个表达 and realise that yes you can polish this expression
但本质上 but at a core
如果你想成为一个社交达人 if you want to become a social natural
那就是放手 that's letting go
百分之八十的方法是放下情绪技巧 80 percent of the way is letting go emotional skills
20%是分析能力 20 percent is analytical
但这确实是一些关键的基础 but this is really some of the key foundations
如果你想让自己不那么无聊 if you want to be less boring and be
更有趣的 more interesting