not to be intimate before marriage, 婚前保持距离
it's so obvious that they're head over heels 但显然他们两情相悦
and deeply in love with each other. 深爱着彼此
My scarf was a little bit too forward. 我的头巾有点靠前
We're going into quite a religious ceremony, so need to cover up. 我们要参加宗教仪式 需要穿戴好
'Tonight, Zohre will meet up with Ali at the house of a family friend. ‘今晚 Zohre和Ali会在亲友的家里见面
'It's the date when she and Muslims remember the death of Fatimah, ‘穆斯林在这天纪念法蒂玛忌日
'the daughter of the Prophet Mohammed.' ‘法蒂玛是先知穆罕默德的女儿’
You can really see it's such an emotional thing. 你可以看到场面很动人
People are in tears out there and it's so interesting to see Zara, 人们热泪盈盈 可以看出
Zohre and Ali and their dedication to their religion. Zara Zohre Ali对于宗教非常地投入
Cooking a big pot of soup where, apparently, you can make a wish 我们在做一大锅汤 在搅动锅时
as you stir the soup. 你可以许下心愿
'Zohre and Ali are also praying for their own future together. ‘Zahre和Ali也为一起为各自的将来祈祷
'Their families are meeting up in three days' time and they're hoping ‘他们两家将在3天后见面
'they'll be given permission to marry.' ‘他们希望家人能够允许两人结婚’
What are you wishing for? 你许了什么愿望
Do you think this will work? 你觉得会实现吗
Zohre and Ali are following tradition Zohre和Ali遵循传统
but other people their age are pushing the envelope. 而其他同龄人正突破传统
Apparently, we've just walked in on a full-blown 我们恰好遇见了典型的
Iranian-style photoshoot, and according to these guys, 伊朗风格的照片拍摄现场 这些人说
these photos are just to upload on Instagram. 这些照片将上传到Instagram
'This group of friends are studying psychology. “这是群学习心理学的学生
'They tell me they're all single but go out on group dates.' “他们说他们都是单身 但会参加集体约会”
-Is this you? -Yeah. -这是你吗 -是的
Stunning. I never get that many! 很美 我做来没拍过那么多
This is serious dedication for social media. 你们真是很沉醉于社交媒体啊
I'm very, very impressed. 我非常地惊讶
Before I came to Iran, I was led to believe that boys and girls were 在我来伊朗之前 以为这里的男孩和女孩
not allowed to hang out together. 不能一起出游
That's obviously not true. 显然这不是真的
Mr Jafari, what do you make of this conversation here? Jafari先生 你对我们的对话有什么看法
There is so much misconceptions about Iran, and so, it should be 人们对伊朗有很多的误解
very interesting to observe it from close, from up close that, you know, 如果能够近距离地观察这个国家 会很有趣
there is so much freedom here. 就会发现这里很自由
'Of course, I'd conducted this conversation carefully, ‘当然 我与他们聊天时非常地小心
'avoiding sensitive topics like banned dating websites, ‘避免谈及敏感话题 比如相亲网站被禁
'parties with alcohol or sex before marriage.' ‘可以喝酒的聚会或者婚前性行为’
-This is not correct? -Not quite, no. -All of our hair should be like this. -这不对吗 -不太对 -所有的头发都应该被包住
The social scene here is amazingly complex 这里的社会非常地复杂
and it seems to be both subtle and quite restrictive at the same time. 既敏感又有很多约束
And because of that, some young Iranians feel trapped. 因此伊朗很多的年轻人感觉受到束缚
Some are between Islamic culture and Western culture 在伊斯兰文化和西方文化中
and they're not quite sure where their identity lies. 有的人找不到自己的归属
'I'm rejoining Saba, ‘我又与Saba见面了
'who's waiting to hear news from the dating agency.' ‘她等着相亲机构的消息’
Saba's taking me on a spot of shopping Saba在等待Mogadem女士电话的同时
before she gets the call from Miss Mogadam. 带我来到购物的地方
So, it's 3.30 and I know Miss Mogadam has promised to call, 现在是3点半 Mogadam承诺会打来电话
so we shall wait and see. 我们在这儿等结果
I'm nervous for you, Saba. 我也为你感到紧张 Saba
'She tells me she's a romantic at heart.' ‘她告诉我 在内心她是个浪漫的人’
Do you believe in love at first sight? 你相信一见钟情吗
'For accountancy student Saba, ‘Mogadam女士为学会计的Saba
'Miss Mogadam's found a fellow accountant.' 介绍了一位会计同行
'In an ideal world, ‘在理想的情况下
'she says she wouldn't use a matchmaker at all. ‘她说她绝对不会找媒人相亲
'The matches seem a bit predictable.' ‘媒人会介绍什么样的人都可以猜到’
'Saba's a conservative girl. ‘Saba很保守
'She won't go on casual dates or break the rules ’她不会随便赴约或者打破规定
'but she wants romance and that's difficult. ‘但想要浪漫 因此很难实现
'She didn't meet up with either of the matchmaker's men.' ‘媒人介绍的两位男性 她都没有见“
We've joined Ali on the drive to Zohre's home. 我们和Ali一起 驱车前往Zohre的家
Their families are meeting to negotiate the terms of the marriage, 双方家庭会见面 协商结婚的彩礼
a process known as Baleh Boran. 这一过程被称作Baleh Boran
Do Zohre's family think you're the right match for their daughter? Zohre的家人觉得你是他们女儿的合适人选吗
We can really relate to you, Ali! 我们完全可以理解你 Ali
None of us have sense, either! 大家都不理智
Do you feel like the love between you and Zohre 你觉得你和Zohre的爱
can survive obstacles like this? 可以克服这样的困难吗
'Zohre's parents like Ali ‘Zohre的父母喜欢Ali
'but her mum says she and her family have concerns.' ‘但她的妈妈说她与家人也有担忧’
Are you all a bit nervous? 你们都很紧张吗
Ali's father is a cleric, Ali的父亲是位牧师
Zohre's dad is a retired teacher. Zohre的父亲是位退休教师
Her parents want to make sure she's provided for. 她的父母希望她的生活可以有保障
There's a number of things to discuss today. 今天需要讨论很多的事情
The trickiest is a monetary guarantee 最困难的是Ali必须要
that Ali must pay to Zohre if she ever demands it. 给出Zohre提出的聘金
It's paid in gold coins 要以金币支付
and is essentially an insurance policy for wives. 这是向妻子提供的基本保障
It's called a Mehrieh. 当地叫做 Mehrieh
Zohre and Ali try to talk alone upstairs Zohre和Ali想在楼上单独谈一谈
but they're joined by her dad. 但她的父亲插了进来
Her parents want her to get 114 gold coins. That's £23,000. 她的父母希望她能得到114金币 约2.3万英镑
Ali thinks it's too much and he can't afford it. Ali觉得太多 他负担不起
Ali offers 14 gold coins - about £3,000. Ali提出给14金币 约3千英镑
Ali's parents side with him, her parents aren't budging. Ali的父母支持他 但女方的父母不肯让步
Things are getting tense and they ask us to stop filming. 现场变得很紧张 他们要求我们停止拍摄
That was nearly four hours of negotiations, and on two occasions, 商谈在两个地方 进行了近4个小时
Ali and Zohre had to leave the room. Ali和Zohre不得不离开房间
How are you guys after that? 经历过这之后 你们还好吗
'The decision is now out of their hands.' ‘现在不由他们决定’
'We leave without knowing the final outcome.' ‘我们不知道结果就出来了’
The young Iranians I've met want to marry someone they love. 我见到的年轻的伊朗人希望与相爱的人结婚
They also want to obey the rules of their faith and their parents. 他们也希望能够遵循信仰的约束和父母的要求
But it's hard to reconcile these different aims. 但这两个不同的希望很难中和
No wonder so many find it easier to stay single. 难怪很多人发现单身更加轻松
After we left Iran, we got a message. 我们离开伊朗后 收到了一条信息
They got married a week later. 他们将在一周后结婚