I know some of you have gone through the whole course now and you're thinking teacher is making some
sound.
There's some good points and yeah you can try that but still I'm nervous.
I'm uncomfortable I'm skeered.
My hands are shaking.
I feel for you.
I want to give you some more tips.
But I do want to give them to you in order of priority because I find people come up with so many techniques
they want to do a shot of boules or beta blockers.
I'll talk about those in a moment of meditation hypnosis.
I'm not saying all of those solutions are always bad but I want to give you my sense of the clear hierarchy.
The number one way to get over nervousness when it comes to speaking is to have actually watched yourself
give the presentation on video and you're looking at it and you're saying wow if I can be half as good
as he is if I can be half as good as she is I'm going to be the star by department or my company or
my organization or my industry.
Now you don't have to visualize a good speech you've actually seen it with your own eyes you saw it
in advance because you took the time to practice on your cell phone iPad or computer far and away that
is the number one way to get over nerves when it comes to public speaking and presentation skills and
communication skills.
It's also vote least popular way of doing it so I understand that.
I spent a lot of my time preaching at people on this.
And when I'm working with them one on one or small groups in person they don't have a choice.
But when I'm talking to people and trying to help them through an online environment let's face it you
can just sit back click next quick skip.
You don't have to do any of this.
But if you're still nervous or uncomfortable What good has the Course done you know.
So that is far and away the number one way to get over nerves to get over being uncomfortable.
Other tips in order of hierarchy practice in that room where you're actually going to give the speech.
Sometimes you're traveling to a different conference room a different board room Convention Center Hotel.
Get into the space and actually practice next try to practice in front of people and get feedback on
what they like what they remember.
Very crucial to build your confidence.
Now other methods that are out there I find much much less effective than those.
But one method is visualization you can visualize yourself having a standing ovation.
But what good is a standing ovation if people don't really remember your message and act on it.
Our goal unless you want to become a professional keynote speaker is not to get standing ovations especially
as a beginner.
Your goal was to actually communicate making sure people understand you and actually remember your messages.
Another common tactic for getting over fear and preparation is practicing in front of a mere.
Here's the problem with practicing in front of him here.
We all have certain things we don't completely love about our face or eyes or our hairline or noses
crooked or something.
So when you're practicing in front of a mirror it's only human nature to look at the things you don't
like in your own face.
Well how does that help us get more confidence for the speech so I do not recommend ever practicing
in front of a mirror.
All it does is distract you and you're not focusing on what you're actually saying you're focusing on
looking at yourself.
So I don't recommend that people ask me all the time well T.J. Can I smoke marijuana which is increasingly
legal all over the world.
Or do a shot of liquor or wine or vodka.
Here's the problem with that approach is it may make you more relaxed.
But sometimes that can slightly impede your ability to have recall.
If you're already nervous speaking the last thing you want is something that's going to slow your recall
down.
Work is when we're nervous we don't remember things as well if we've had a little alcohol sometimes
even one glass or any other kind of drug then it can slow down your ability to remember what you're
going to say next.
And if you're already nervous about forgetting what to say and you lose a second then you end up.
It makes you more nervous.
For some people even a little alcohol can make their face red or make them blush.
That can be distracting.
Also if you have a drink or two but I assume just one.
People come up to you afterwards and say good presentation good job good talk.
They smell alcohol on your breath.
And this is the first time they've ever met you.
That may be the lasting impression people have.
So I don't recommend that.
Sometimes people try to get fancy.
They want to use beta blockers.
Now this is a controversial topic and I can tell you when I've spoken on this on YouTube and other places
I get massive hate mail telling me I'm an idiot and a fool and stupid.
But I want to be completely transparent with you and honest based on what I think is actually going
to help you accomplish your goal of giving a presentation and looking comfortable and confident in the
process.
There are drugs beta blockers that will in fact reduce your ability to get nervous you just don't get
as keyed up.
You don't get is tensed up.
So does this help your body.
The problem is it doesn't actually solve the underlying problem.
The problem is that if you're not giving a great presentation if you're not giving an interesting memorable
presentation you're likely to be nervous if you're no longer nervous about it but you're still giving
a boring or awful presentation hasn't helped matters.
I've had clients who didn't listen to me on this issue took a beta blocker before going on CNBC and
they were less nervous.
Unfortunately the hundreds of thousands of people watching them on TV saw this.
Yes I'm happy to be here today and they sounded zoned out and zombie like and low key and low energy
and they didn't come across as comfortable and confident.
So remember it's not about you just not shaking.
You need to come across as comfortable confident relaxed and interesting than number one.
I've been saving this for the last.
The number one way to not be nervous when you're speaking is to simply focus all of your energies on
really helping the audience member what are you doing to make them better.
What are you doing to help their business their organization their life.
If you're truly focused on helping them you don't even have time to think about poor little me.
All of you have seen these reports I'm sure of the child getting pinned under a truck and then people
sometimes one person are strong enough to lift that up.
The adrenaline surge they're focused on saving one child's life.
Because they're not thinking about themselves they're not thinking about oh how does my pant line look
out of my shoes look they're just running diving trying to help when you're speaking.
That's what you need to focus on now you're not running and diving on an audience member.
But if you're so focused on helping your audience member understand something better you're not going
to be focused on how you do it your way scared and I hope you get through this.
And by the way that one the one final bone bone is you've heard the expression visualize people in their
underwear visualize your audience naked.
Horrible advice depending on your audience is either too disgusting or too exciting don't focus on your
audience in their underwear.
Focus on one individual that time helping them making your ideas come alive to them.
Focus on that you won't have time to be nervous.