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品酒辣妈 汉娜·威廉姆斯
嗨! 我是汉娜 你那邻居家里友好的品酒辣妈 Hi, I'm Hannah, your friendly neighborhood wine mom
汉娜 (品酒辣妈)
如果你是像我一样 and if you're anything like me,
相信每晚8点一杯酒能让你成为更好的妈妈 you believe that a glass of wine at eight PM makes you a better mom.
那么快给自己来一杯 然后我们好好聊聊 So pour yourself a glass and let's talk.
今晚 我在喝玫瑰红酒 Tonight, we're drinking rosé,
因为 我一直都是喝这个呀 because I'm always drinking rose.
你见过我喝其它么 What else am I gonna drink?
一天到晚 都是玫瑰红酒 Rosé, all day.
管教这个话题最近在我视频下的评论很火呀 A topic that runs rampant in the comments of all of these videos is discipline.
我怎么管教我家孩子 How do I discipline kids?
我怎么对付熊孩子 How do I deal with difficult children?
所以今晚的话题就是: 管教孩子的最好方法 So tonight's topic, the best way to discipline kids.
管教孩子的最好方法
我知道我作为一个受认证的辣妈 And I know because I am a certified mom.
我可是被辣妈委员会戳章认证过的 I have been certified by the board of certifiers of moms.
首先，背景 First, context.
每当我想惩罚我家孩子的时候 Whenever I'm about to punish my children,
事件的背景就是一切
我都一定要做个判断 I have to make the decision,
他们是在调皮还是年纪太小不懂事 are they misbehaving or are they just acting their age?
我的大儿子4岁 My oldest son is four.
他喜欢自己的事情自己来 He likes to do stuff himself.
他喜欢自己给自己倒水 He likes to get his own glasses of water.
这是他最近的新爱好 That's his new thing.
所以呢 他会自己搬个小凳 So he gets on his little step stool
然后站上面从水槽旁边的过滤器拿水 and gets water out of the filtered spout next to our sink,
不过他总会把水杯装到满满的到杯子边 but he always fills his water cup up to the very top of the brim,
之后就把水洒得到处都是 and then he spills it everywhere
每次他给自己倒完水 房子到处都是一滩滩水 so there's puddles of water all over the house whenever he tries to get his own water.
但我不会因为这样就惩罚他 But I'm not gonna punish him for that
因为对一个四岁孩子来说这样很正常嘛 because he's four and that's normal.
相反 他以为我没看见就大力推撞他弟弟的话 On the other hand, if he thinks I'm not looking, he'll give his younger brother a big shove.
他就得学会大人什么都看得见 Kids need to learn that we see everything,
所以我知道发生过什么事情我还看见他做了什么 so I know that that's happening and I see it,
而他会因为自己所做的事惹上麻烦 and he will get in trouble for that
因为把水洒了 那还是个四岁的孩子 because spilling water, just being a kid.
但推撞你弟弟 那就是个混蛋 Pushing your brother, just being a jerk.
听起来外面像在蹦迪 Sounds like bumping music outside.
呃? What?
我家这区可有很多10多岁的熊孩子 There are like a bunch of crazy teens in my neighborhood.
太常见了 That's normal.
他们的音乐很快就会吵到令人发指 They're gonna blast their music to a douchey level.
然后 什么? Next, what?
把"哈?"再说一遍
我从来不用一 二 三的方法 I never use the one two three method.
我其实试过几次啦 I've done it several times,
然后我数到三的时候 and I'll get all the way to three
才发现我其实没仔细想过 but I realize that I haven't thought it out
究竟数到三的时候我要怎么做 to even figure out what's gonna happen when I get to three,
所以当我数完之后 然后就 so when I do, it's just like,
没有然后了 okay.
完全就没用了嘛 It totally loses its effectiveness
如果自己不清楚数三之后的行动 if there's no follow through on what's gonna happen
所以我呢 就买了这样一件衣服 so instead, I bought this shirt
上面写着一句短语 and it had this phrase on it that I read
正是我想说的话 and it was just like, this really speaks to me,
它这么写着: 我说"哈?" 不是没听清你的话 and it says, "I say what,not because I didn't hear you
我只是想再给你个机会换个说法 "but because I'm giving you a chance to change what you just said."
短语的字很小 It's in very small letters.
然后每次我孩子说话不经大脑的时候我就说这句话 And so I say that to every crappy thing my kid says.
像是当他说 你真是最冷酷无情的妈 He'll be like, you're the meanest mom ever
而我只不过给了他两块饼干而不是三块的时候 when I don't give him three cookies instead of two,
我就会转身说"哈?" and I'll turn around and be like, "What?"
他就学乖了 说 我开玩笑的 And he's like, oh, I'm just kidding.
这两块饼干真好吃呀 These two cookies are great.
在直接惩罚之前起码给他们一个机会修正自己 It gives them a chance to correct themselves before they get punished,
我觉得这样很重要 which I think is very important.
我的手把酒捂暖了 My hand is making it warm.
我要拿着杯茎 I have to hold onto the stem.
我在评论里有看到喔 I've seen that in the comments.
有亲们提醒 拿着杯茎吧 这样酒才不会暖 People are like, hold the stem and the wine won't get warm.
谢谢啦 Thank you.
下一个 以身作则 Next, lead by example.
己所不欲 (勿施于人)
我想让我的孩子怎么做我自己就会以身作则 I always try to act in the way that I expect my children to act.
想让他们有礼貌 我在他们面前就要注意自己有礼貌 I want them to use manners, so I always use manners when I'm interacting with them.
我让他们做什么的时候会说"请" If I ask them to do something, I'll say please.
在他们把事情做成后说"谢谢" If they do it, I say thank you.
我看很多父母都不会那么做 I see a lot of parents who don't do that
他们自己对孩子大喊大叫 and they just kind of bark orders at their kids
又反过来要求孩子以礼待人 and expect them to use manners and be polite,
我觉得那不太对 and I don't think that's right.
我跟老公聊天 我常常会问 If I'm talking to my husband, I'll say,
亲爱的 今天怎么样呀 你感觉怎么样呀 发生什么了呀 hi, how was your day, how are you doing, what's going on?
所以在我下班回家的时候 我四岁大的孩子 And so when I come home from work and I see my four-year old
第一时间就问我 妈妈 今天过得怎么样 the first thing he asks me is, how was your day, mom?
那一刻真的心都化了 And it's just the most heartwarming thing.
你相信一个才四岁大的孩子问这样的问题是因为他真的关心么? Can you believe a four-year old is asking me and cares enough,
其实他只是被父母的行为耳濡目染 but it's because he sees it in the way that his parents behave with other people.
再想想哈 如果他要再举着一杯酒 一边朝我走来 If on top of that, he came up to me with a glass of wine
一边问我 妈妈 今天过得怎么样 and said, hey, mom, how was your day?
那画面突然就更... That would just be...
开玩笑而已哈哈 I'm just kidding.
我肯定不会让孩子给我倒酒啦 I'm not gonna teach my kid to pour wine for me.
下一个 提供选择 Next, offer choices.
我会给他两个他都不喜欢的选择 I'll offer him choices of two things he doesn't like,
这还是那?
不过这样他会觉得他有控制权 and therefore, he will feel like he's in control
然后把两件他不喜欢的事情都做完 but still ends up doing both things that he doesn't like.
你想先刷牙还是先洗澡呀 Do you wanna brush your teeth first or take a bath?
你想先吃胡萝卜还是先吃西兰花 Do you wanna eat this carrot first or this broccoli first?
这样他就能挑了 He gets to pick.
喜欢挑哪个都行 You pick whatever piece of crap you want.
这就是我很喜欢但很低端的耍心眼 This is some low key manipulation that I like to do,
我相当肯定这是个审问疑犯时候会用到的技巧 and I'm pretty sure that this is a tactic that they use in the FBI or something like that when they are interrogating people
不过对孩子也一样管用 but it works just as well for kids.
有时候吧 就有的时候 And sometimes, there are the rare instances
孩子会说 when the child will say something like,
两个都不要 neither.
两样都不选 I don't wanna do either one.
我不想洗澡也不想刷牙 I don't wanna take a bath, I don't wanna brush my teeth.
我不想吃胡萝卜也不吃西兰花 I don't wanna eat carrots, I don't wanna eat broccoli.
这个时候嘛 就要说 And that's when you pull out the
哈? what?
管教的技巧其实都是相互关联的 It all fits together in this intricate web of discipline.
这集不打嗝 No burps this episode.
下一个 解放自己 Next, go easy on yourself.
对 我是想让我家孩子被正确管教 Yeah, I want my kids to be disciplined properly,
你很棒呢
但有时候 我真的快要崩溃了 but in a situation where I'm about to lose my shit,
我会放弃认输举白旗怎样都好 I gotta give up, I gotta throw in the towel, raise the white flag, whatever.
父母是不会每场战斗都赢的 As a parent, you're not gonna win every battle
但这没问题呀 and that's fine.
人无完人 没有完美的孩子 没有完美的父母 Nobody's perfect, no kid is perfect, no parent is perfect.
没有完美的管教方法 No discipline is perfect,
于是来到我们最终管教孩子的法则 which leads us to our very final and ultimate rule when it comes to disciplining kids.
不要听信陌生人所谓的热心建议 Don't take unsolicited advice from complete strangers.
有太多父母 There's so many parents who are willing to just like
特别是喝酒的视频主播
都宣扬自己所谓的正确管教方法 bark their discipline tactics as truth,
但这是错的 因为每个孩子不一样 and that's not true because each child is different.
每个父母不一样 Every parent is different.
每段关系不一样 Every relationship is different.
在实践的时候什么都不一样呀 Everything is different as far as what works,
如果你正准备分享这个视频还要加评论说 and if you're about to share this video with the caption,
"对于管教孩子她啥都不懂!" "Oh, she doesn't know anything about discipline,
“压根儿没用” "This doesn't work,"
那就是你不对了 因为我就是不懂嘛 jokes on you because I really don't.
我懂什么呀 What do I know?
我不认识你家孩子 I don't know your kids.
我又不认识你 我什么都不了解 I don't know you, I don't know anything.
这只是我有用的管教方式 This is the discipline method that works for me.
但对你未必管用 It might not work for you.
对其他人或许管用 It might work for somebody else.
管教的底线是 Bottom line with discipline,
如果你有管用的 就接着用呗 if what you have is working, keep doing it,
除了打孩子 unless you're spanking your kids
因为那种方式实在太奇怪了 because that shit is really weird.
还是留着跟你亲爱的关上门再用吧 Just save that for the bedroom.
对不起啦 大家 我真的很爱你们的 I'm sorry, y'all, but I really do love you.
这就是今天我要说的全部 So that's all I've got for today.
我是汉娜 你那邻居家里友好的品酒辣妈 I'm Hannah, your friendly neighborhood wine mom
汉娜 (品酒辣妈)
如果有种管教方式是你感觉特别有效 and if there's a method of discipline that particularly works for you,
无论你是临时看护还是保姆还是父母 whether you're a babysitter or a nanny or a parent
你是什么都好 把方法留在评论里吧 or whatever you are, leave it in the comments.
但要友好点喔 因为你不友好的话 But be nice, 'cause if you're not nice,
我们就不能好好玩耍了 we can't be best friends.
看我刚怎样用我的管教方式了么 See what I did there with my discipline method?
如果你做这个 那你就不能有那个 对吧 If you do this, then you can't have this, right?
所以我应该会喝完这一点点 So I'm probably going to finish this little
剩下的玫瑰红酒 what's left of rosé,
然后跟我老公去参加个派对 and go out to have a dance party with my husband
酷炫的父母就是做这样的事 because that's what cool parents do.
下次见啦 Till next time.
不用酒杯更容易呢 It's easier without a glass.
我不爱洗酒杯 I don't like washing wine glasses.