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in today's lesson you learn how to function
effective rule in a cross-cultural environment
in North America in britain and so on
and what you shouldn't not till
this is actually one of two videos that I've recorded
the other one is on good manners and this one
is about bad matters this one is about what you should not do
when you're in North America orange England
okay so I've divided it between what you should not say
and what you should not do let's have a look so
in terms of BK when you're speaking
in a I'll group or in a public place
try not to speak in a very loud voice
don't speak too loudly keep your volume
relative to other people's lawyer alright
lifted now again everything that I'm going to fade here
remember always take it with a pinch of salt
what is this expression will I understand that if not
100 percent like that but generally speaking
it's like that okay next one
in a public situations such as a party
try to avoid controversial subjects what does that mean
a controversial subject to something where people have
strong views such as religion
or politics we try to avoid the subject for example at
social ocasion at a wedding or a party
because if you get into a discussion with someone on the subject
it can become a little bit aggressive it can become a little bit angry
and perhaps that's not very kind to your host or hostess
that are planning a pleasant kind event so remember to keep that in mind
of course with your own friends or people you know well or people you see
often you do share your views on the subject and that may be perfectly OK
to read next we also
avoid speaking about men I know
that a money is of course the great interest everyone
but we usually do not ask people that we don't know well
or acquaintances are people we've just met we don't after and questions like
how much do you make how much do you her
how much do you pay for your house or your car
or something out of arm we don't
after that because it's not polite okay
of course again with people you know well you may share that information and
if somebody decides to share that with you that's fine
but you try to avoid asking next
is not to ask personal questions what do we mean by personal question
you don't usually ask people how old they are or how much they weigh
or something like that or how many if they're married
or if they have kids now again if you were
a married person and you have children and you need another married person and
it's clear
that he or she has children it's perfectly fine to talk about how old
your children are because it's obvious
that you all have children so I don't mean
to never of time but if you need just one person you don't want to start
asking them oh why don't you have children or something like that
because that giving advice very early when you barely know somebody
and people don't like that kind of advice usually next
it avoid talking about yourself because
that can sometimes seem like your boasting
now of course that doesn't mean not to give information about yourself
but not to talk too much about yourself when you talk too much about yourself
when people feel that your
I you just care about yourself instead of that show
tell a little bit about yourself and then turn the conversation in turn the
focus
and the attention onto the other person have them about themselves okay
the next point is not to interrupt
people I in many different cultures there's many different rules about this
but in
North America generally when one person is speaking we try to wait
until they finish speaking and then we say what we want to see
try not to get interrupt while other people are speaking
last point here
is about speaking when your mouth is full
don't do it in other words don't eat
and talk at the same time heat if you're at a dinner
heat finish eating and then speak
nobody likes to see all that food inside your mouth
and neither can we understand you very clearly when
you have something in your mouth so avoid
next let's look at some things which you should not
do don't their at people
don't their at women also I I know that some when I had some students from
other countries they that to me that when they came to Canada they
didn't understand when men were interested in them because
in their country men normally looked at them
when they walk down the street and here men don't usually
do that they look but they don't look show that they're looking
so the women the woman said to me I don't know when anybody likes me because
nobody's looking at me
five-pointer that because she was a very attractive girl
that I'm sure a lot of people like you and like the way you look but
them they're not going to show it so
in a North American environment usually we don't
try to scare at strangers okay
so keep that in mind next point is when you meet someone for the first time
it is not the custom to Keith alright
even apply kiss on the cheek we don't do that in some countries it is perfectly
acceptable
and in fact that part of the custom but in North American
in North America no just shake n and that's not
leader when the when the relationship becomes the friend the year
warmer then sometimes we do give each other
little kids on the G but I'm
be a little better too be careful about that
rather than to do it 27 okay
next is to avoid touching people too much
when you're talking to them or don't touch them at all if there's a stranger
try to avoid touching them
again it's a general rule sometimes men when they need
they will slap each other on the back or something like that
but on the whole if you're not certain it's better not to do that
and Justin shaking hands or something like that
if enough also if you bump into someone
try when you're walking down the street rider avoid
bumping into people it's not expected if it happened
apologized next
avoid any kind of I what could be considered for
on cultured behavior which would mean things like
bidding in your in a public place or scratching your head or scratching your
soften some
private place or burping or farting or anything like that
avoid all of those things that is not considered polite
at all next
is when you're walking you know when you're walking down the street if you
see two people
coming in they think it's clear they're talking to each other try to avoid
walking right
between them walk around then
I if you have to walk through to people who are speaking to each other
or who are clearly together then make sure you
say excuse me I'm story something like that
as you pass but other white avoid that find a way
around them next
don't be impatient in your speech
or in your body language when someone is talking to you
don't go yes haha right
yes yet and then so when you do things like that
people understand that you're trying to rush them you're trying to
hurry then like you're boring them like you are ready
can read their mind and you know what they want to say so
don't do that wait patiently place n
sometimes we do the things that people we live with
and that's probably not very nice there either but
it may be okay at home to do that it's not really okay to do that with others
the next thing is going to be tricky air gun at me like what are you talking
about
there are so many cologne and perfume companies but I have written here
in an office situation in a business environment
don't where cologne or perfume
yes I am saying that why because in many
office environment in North America today they are considered further
fragrance free zones because of the fact that many people
I have allergies they are
it is recommended that people don't use cologne
if you have to use cologne is very very little or just have
just be clean but don't use cologne or perfume certainly don't drench yourself
in that
don't use too much now if you go to a party
again yes you can use cologne or perfume
but don't use too much don't overpower people
because somebody who might be sensitive to smell well actually not
like that at all which is not your intention okay
and the last one which is part of that
cool
it about body older
don't smell bed now you might wonder well
that's why use the colo no you don't want to use the Cologne
to high in your body odor no what you want to do is you want to be cruel
that means your mouth should be fresh use pressure T
you celebrate freshener if you need to especially if you just
eaten I'm food with their water spices in it
also make sure you used deodorant
we are not accustomed to the smell of sweat here so use deodorant or
antiperspirant
so that you don't smell also make sure you take a shower regularly
and make sure that your clothes don't smell of wherever you're being
because clothes can hold on to this male
of food or tobacco or marijuana
or alcohol and all kinds of things so make sure that your clothes are clean
and that they don't smell something
particularly if you're going to an interview or something like that
or if you're going to a party as well okay
so I believe that if you too the 15
things or rather if you don't do be
15 being I you will be
a very affected in in North American culture
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