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today we're going to learn about why
silent people are so successful now
let's begin life is loud chaotic and
distracting it's filled to the brim with
demanding mental and physical challenges
you're swept up in a tidal wave of
stress but successful people separate
themselves from the noise and chaos
successful people understand the power
of silence so here are seven ways that
silence can change your life for the
better
number one thoughtful silence a moment
of silence is a moment of thoughts well
let's say your co-worker asks you for a
favor they want you to drive all the way
across town and deliver some documents
they forgot to send when confronted with
this question you may have a knee-jerk
reaction and without thinking you might
say sure no problem
but 10 seconds later you realize it is a
problem suddenly you're pressed for time
and overwhelmed by stress all because
you answered without thinking a few
seconds of silence can spare you from
these stressful scenarios instead of
answering right away what if you took a
moment to think about your schedule you
remember how much work you already have
you tell your co-worker that you're too
busy so they ask someone else
instead and just like that a brief
period of silence keeps your priorities
straight and your schedule clean that's
why successful people pause whenever
they need to they view silence as an
opportunity to consider their options
because every decision is worth a few
moments the thought now of course not
everyone can silently analyze their
problems you may feel so awkward that
you can barely think straight before
you're able to use these pauses
constructively you have to overcome your
fear of silence that's why many of the
wealthiest and most influential people
in the world are also the quietest
number two persevering integrity a brief
pause does more than simply give you
time to think when you pause for a
second a minutes or an hour your
decision becomes more careful and more
decisive instead of doubting and
second-guessing yourself you know that
you did your due diligence you
weighed the pros and cons and you
double-checked your schedule now with
all your boxes checked you can move
forward unimpeded whether you answer yes
or no your decision is now clear and
firm as you become more decisive you'll
notice a change in the way people treat
you they'll start respecting your
decisions and valuing your choices why
is that well because decisive people
mean what they say for example they
consistently fulfill their promises so
instead of saying yes to everything they
only say yes to the commitments they
intend to keep people will respect you
more because they trust you more when
people trust you to follow through your
word carries more weight that newfound
sense of dependability works wonders in
any relationship personal or
professional your friends and partners
will genuinely believe in the promises
you make your bosses and co-workers will
have faith in your ability to succeed
something as simple as silence can
strengthen your relationships and earn
you the respect you deserve
number three direct and concise talking
a lot and saying alot mean very
different things have you met someone
who rambles for 15 minutes without
really saying anything many people feel
compelled to talk constantly silence
makes them nervous so they fill every
blank space with gibberish and small
talk
the problem is when they're constantly
talking they're rarely thinking they say
very little even if their word count
flies through the roof some people talk
too much and say too much have you ever
heard the term fast talker a fast talker
is someone who tries to trick you by
burying you under a mountain of ideas
and incentives by the end you barely
understand what's going on often times
they do this on purpose to push their
agenda salesmen for example confuse
customers with a flood of information
many people imitate fast talkers by
accident they talk and they talk because
they don't know when enough is enough
they don't realize how little sense
they're making successful people on the
other hand talk a little but say a lot
in other words they're always direct and
they're always concise when a successful
person needs something they present
their needs in a way that's simple and
easy
understand they don't dance around the
point they don't hide their agenda under
a flood of extraneous ideas they say
what they need to say then they stop
this is one big reason why successful
people seem quiet they're experts at
shaving their needs down to the bare
essentials if two ideas can be explained
with one idea they always go short and
sweet
number 4 psychological liberation
silence isn't just a tool for
professional success it's also a
powerful source of mental clarity by
growing accustomed to silence you can
provide your mind with a space to think
and feel freely our daily routines are
packed with crowds of stimuli from
traffic jams on the freeway to densely
packed spreadsheets your brain is
exposed to an incredible volume of
information every day it's challenging
to remove yourself even for a moment
from the downpour of distractors in your
life but as you discover the power of
Silas you'll find a rare opportunity to
set your mind free you can liberate your
thoughts from the shackles of your daily
life instead of worrying about
unanswered emails you can use these
periods of silence to enjoy the present
moment this is one way that successful
people balance their demanding life
styles with such an extraordinary amount
of pressure on your shoulders it's easy
to crumble to lose control and fall into
a downward spiral but moments of silence
keep your stress at bay each time you
feel the pressures of your lifestyle
creeping in just take a brief moment to
yourself just tune out the world remind
yourself about the things that really
matter your goals your passions and your
loved ones remind yourself where you
started and how far you've come tell
yourself that it's okay to make mistakes
that failure is natural gradually these
moments will melt away your stress
returning to your work with a clear head
and a positive attitude you can fill
your day with as much silence as you
need some successful people enjoy
moments of silence every couple of hours
others set aside a longer period of time
to completely relax their minds
according to a 2016 study in annals of
the New York Academy of Sciences
achieving a state of
wakeful relaxation requires just three
simple things find somewhere comfortable
to sits free yourself from distractions
like your computer and your phone and
gently close your eyes the first few
times your mind will be restless packed
with leftover stress and anxiety
researchers call this jumble of thoughts
and feelings monkey mind because your
brain swings from one idea to the next
but over time you'll get more
comfortable in silence you'll learn to
soothe your nerves unravel your stress
and liberate your Restless mind number
five
enhanced concentration not only does
silence help you relax it fine Tunes
many of your most productive traits well
take concentration for example your
ability to focus on a single goal is
critical for any project few
characteristics are as productive or
valuable as razor-sharp concentration
mindful silence has helped countless
successful people to grow their
concentration and it can help you too as
it stands not many people can sit in
silence without getting restless or
bored their itching to pick up their
phones open their computers or do
something active as strange as it sounds
doing nothing is a real challenge but
it's a challenge worth tackling a 2012
study from the Journal of Neuroscience
found that practiced meditators people
who sit in silence on a regular basis
had many cognitive advantages over
people who never meditated the largest
discrepancies revolved around attention
for experienced meditators the areas of
the brain responsible for attention were
much more stable because of that
stability meditators can rein in
distracting thoughts faster than most
people in other words by sitting in
silence you teach yourself to tune out
distractions from your environments and
from yourself you learn how to keep your
mind focused and lengthen your attention
span so you can focus longer and harder
than ever before sitting in silence may
not look like much on the outside but
its impact on your brain is nothing
short of incredible
number six inner wisdom as you become
more comfortable in silence you may
notice a change inside yourself suddenly
you can hear your inner monologue more
than ever before your thoughts were
jumbled indecisive and confusing you
struggle to make decisions and think
through problems on your own but as you
spend more time inside your mind your
thoughts become richer and louder you
overcome nervous hurdles you discover
what you want in life and you give your
inner monologue the opportunity to speak
for itself now at this stage you may be
surprised by how much wisdom you have to
offer normally you're so overwhelmed by
doubt and fear that you ignore your own
instincts you tune out your gut feelings
you invalidate the lessons you learn and
the wisdom you have to offer successful
people use moments of silence to nurture
that voice inside them they trust their
instincts and value their own opinions
but that takes time and practice right
now your head is so noisy that you can't
hear your own voice but as you grow more
and more comfortable in silence you'll
hear your wisdom loud and clear
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