任何试图敲开广袤的 Anyone who has attempted to foray into
约会世界之人 the great wide world of dating
都知道调情的时候 knows that when it comes to flirting
庸俗的开场白必不可少 cheesy pickup lines just don't cut it
吸引异性有时无从下手 Attracting a partner can be tricky
而且陷阱重重 and there are many pitfalls one can fall into
但归根结底 But when it comes down to it
调情不过是 flirting is just an evolutionary tactic
获得生殖伴侣的进化策略 to acquire a mate for reproduction
考虑到这一点 With this in mind
以下列出了十个得到心理学验证的 here is a list of 10 psychologically proven flirting strategies
有效调情策略 that actually work
第十名 number 10
眼神接触 eye contact,
眼神接触是向别人展现 eye contact is key when it comes
吸引力的关键 demonstrating your attraction to another person
当我们和预期伴侣进行眼神接触时 when we make eye contact with a prospective partner
我们其实是通过 we are actually searching for
瞳孔放大的心理反应 evidence of their attraction to us
找出对方吸引我们的证据 through the psychological response of pupil dilation
这也是注视别人的时候 this is also why staring into one another's eyes
会让人觉得含情脉脉的原因 can often feel so intimate
因此 让别人知道你饶有兴趣的 Therefore one of the best ways
最佳方法之一 to let someone know you're interested in them
就是凝视对方棕色 蓝色 或者绿色的明眸大眼 is to gaze into their big brown blue or green eyes
第九名 Number nine
红衣登场 wear red
红色不仅仅是高亮自己 Not only is red an I caption color
彰显不同肤色的色调 that flatters many different skin tones
更是性欲的标志 red is also a symbol of lust and sexuality
研究表明 With studies showing
红袍加身的男男女女 that when both men and women wear red
都更加吸引异性 they appear more attractive to the opposite sex
而这往往是社会期许所造成的 this may be due to social expectations
不过 心理学家亚当·巴斯德尔认为 However psychologist Adam Pasteur suggests
我们对红色的吸引力可能是 that our attraction to red may be a hangover
人类往日进化的遗留 from humans evolutionary past
例如雌性的狒狒 As animals such as female baboons
通过展示鲜红的皮肤 display patches of bright red skin
表明它们已经进入了发情期 to indicate that they are ready to mate
第八名 Number eight
为人幽默 be funny
实际上 在寻觅潜在伴侣的过程中 Humor is actually a huge factor
幽默是一个重要因素 in the search of a potential mate
新墨西哥州大学的心理学教授 University of New Mexico psychologist professor
杰弗里·米勒认为 Jeffrey Miller
幽默是 suggests that being funny
决定伴侣有趣程度的关键途径之一 is one of the key ways we decide how attractive a partner is
这是因为要做到真正的幽默 This is because to be truly funny
为人必须脑子灵光 而且要具有 someone must be able to think quickly and be creative
生存必需的创造性技能 skills that are extremely necessary for survival
幽默意味着聪明 To be humorous is to be smart
因此 讲笑话将使你 so telling a joke could just result
收获心仪的约会 you getting that date you wanted
第七名 number seven
表现得高冷 play hard-to-get
研究表明 当我们不确定某个人 Studies show that when we're unsure of
对我们的喜爱程度时 how much someone likes us
当我们被告知他人表白的时候 we actually like them more
我们其实更喜欢对方 than when we're told they like us a lot
这可能是因为 this could be due to the fact
假装高冷会使人更加心乱神迷 that playing hard-to-get make someone seem more desirable
甚至让人觉得高攀不起 and sometimes even out of our league
When someone seems too needy
were likely to believe we can do better
so it may be better to act aloof
number six
are you a woman
smile
not only it does a smile exhibit
a sense of humor and a caring nature
but it also displays good health
research from the University of British Columbia
suggests men find smiling women
more attractive than prideful
possibly because of its association with submission
and maternal urges
number five
are you a man
brood
the stereotype is true
in the same study from the University of British Columbia
researchers found that women rated smiling men
as the least attractive
compared with prideful and shameful looking men
therefore acting like a bad boy
may when you are mate
regardless of whether you're actually bad or not
number four
mirror body language
55 percent of attraction communication
is made through body language
and one of the most subtle
yet most effective methods of flirting with someone
is to mirror their actions
this is because we unconsciously copied
those were attracted to
as a sign that we're interested in what they're saying
mirroring someone
demonstrates that we have good communication skills
but also that were invested in their thoughts and feelings
this is also a way
of knowing whether someone is interested in you
if they copy you're mirroring
they may just reciprocate your feelings
number three
be a smooth talker
pitch and tone actually have a lot more to do
with flirting than one may think
research from MIT
suggests that men are more attracted to women
that vary their tone at which they speak
women whose voices went up and down
in frequency received more romantic interest from men
than those who speak with a flatter tone
the same study also found that
women were more attracted to men
who interjected when they were speaking with phrases
such as I see, okay and yep
this not only suggests the dominance
but also understanding
number two
confidence is key
a study by Dr. Monica Moore
of Webster University found that
when observing real-life person in bars and shopping malls
it was not the most physically appealing people
that were most often approached for flirtation
instead those who signal their confidence
through basic flirting techniques
such as smiling were more likely to attract others
and number one
touch them
most research has demonstrated that touching a person
can increase their compliance
to complete a wide variety of requests
and this may extend to the world of location
Dr. Moore found that
when a young male Confederate in a nightclub
asked young women to dance with him
his request was most likely to be followed
if he touched a woman's forearm for one to two seconds
this could be because tactile contact
is associated with dominance
later when the women were asked to complete
a survey about their experience
a high score of dominance
was associated with the tactile content
and that's our list
hopefully this can help you in the dating world