their time dear son with my practice I have been realizing how deep and how
strong were the ideologies I built as a child to protect myself from the
instability of my environment and how important for my inner balance it became
to be first at school and how I unconsciously took the habit of always
looking at me as the first to hide my fear and to give me illusionary
confidence and I know that this coming school year will be academically very
challenging so I'd like to have some advice on how to practice in order to go
through this year while these ideologies which were the ground I stood on are
falling down
do time dear Sangha friendship that since she was a young girl and she had a
lot of ideologies that became part of her including the need to be number one
at school and being number one at school and helped her overcome her fear and
gave her confidence striving to be number one but since she has been here
she sees this ideology this need begin to fall apart and it's as though the
ground on which she stood is falling apart underneath him but she still has a
coming school year so she's asking ty for some guidance how to go forward in
this year to come
this is the concern of many people in our military in the Business Circle
people want to be number one because they believe that the number one is a
basic condition for happiness and that is a kind of view it has been
transmitted to us by how maybe our ancestors and maybe our collective
thinking and because of that we have subscribe day and night and pride also
out so that we Israel ghostly you have to play with our whole life and we may
not experience joy happiness relaxation because they hold a kind of view and
maybe we ourselves don't want to hand at view but that view has been transmitted
to us and our parents are trying to to force it on us and also societies and
closing the safe angry and it's based on unerring review of self review of
set it value to be number one because if there is no cell and there will be no
number one so meditation is an act of looking lately and when you when you
look deeply you have rightly when we have do I have to be number one is it a
necessary condition for happiness why my ancestors my parents want me to be
number one and we can find any answers maybe our list is what we never wanted
to be number one but they would not so they want us to do it for them so we
have meditated on that every time we come up and change say let us breathe as
one line Shen as in one body and listen as Juan Mari flowing like a river and
then sell the illusion of Lisa very self overcoming the superiority complex the
inferiority complex and the Equality complex there is to to help us to see we
have to abandon the wrong view of yourself and with the wrong view already
gone the grovel that number one is the only condition for you to be happy to be
God also but sometimes we don't want to be number one
but it happens that you have to be number one and sometime may very often
we want to be number one but we do not become number one
we think that the president of a big country like Barack Obama is number one
the most powerful person in country but I think mr. Obama knows better that he's
not powerful enough he has not had enough power
if you're very powerless there many things he want to do but he cannot do it
so if he doesn't have how can we have enough power and he's
another one happy and that is a meditation so what we want to be number
one how to be happy
so when we are able to transform our room from from you to rightly not only
have ourselves really great it but we liberate our investor and we will
liberate the war from from you that if you don't become number one you cannot
be fully happy and when you I student
if you study only to you are not a happy student because -
sorry can be a very wonderful thing there is a need to to learn understand
because you have two basic needs we want to understand or we want understand life
and then the second basic desire is to love and to be loved the way to basic
needs is a constant andr and and resonant you have a chance
to learn you have your queries about things
unless you study you you satisfy the first need to understand so - sorry is
very fulfilling a good teacher is also someone who study
all the time because he knows that he you know many things you can no more
so both the third students get a lot of happiness like trying to find out more
about reality and to understand now so if you study like that our a correct
academic year will be wonderful but it is having just because you want to get a
diploma degree number one will suffer all whole academic year
so absolutely side and you are if you change your view into a regular making a
rule yeah and many young people every see you
happy and to be happy doesn't mean that is I look loads anywhere you are happier
when you study better and even if you don't want to be number one you must be
Dan Mach number one you see this way then those of us who do not want to be
number one but it just happened like that
that is a bi-product only the first life is a happiness I think we have to tell
our friends in school both teachers and students that our aim is to be happy and
not rely on one and our happiness can can be recognized by other people and we
can set an example for other students also for outages
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