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在本集中，我想阐明actualized.org的核心原则。 In this episode, I want to lay out the core principles of actualized.org.
在更宏观的层面上，我们在这里做什么？ What are we doing here at the biggest picture level?
我的个人发展风格是什么？ What is my style of personal development?
如果我们把actualized.org看作是一个学校，一个教学方式，一个风格或一种哲学，或一个系统， If we think of actualized.org as a school or as a teaching or as a style or as a philosophy, as a system,
那么这个系统的核心原则是什么？ then what are the core tenets of this system?
我想为你列出它们。 I wanted to lay those out for you.
能够远离我们讨论的所有细枝末节非常有用。 It can be very useful to be able to zoom out from all the individual stuff that we talk about.
有时候，我会花上一两三个小时来讨论某个非常狭窄的主题， You know, sometimes I'll spend an hour or two or three talking about some very narrow topic,
这很重要，但那只涵盖了很多原则中的一个原则。 which is important, but that's only covering like maybe one principle out of many, many principles.
这里我们将讨论近65个创造美好生活的原则。 So here we're going to talk about close to 65 different principles for creating the good life.
这是我认为一个人生活美好所必需的。 This is what I feel is necessary for a human being to live a good life.
当然，这是基于我的生活经验、我的个人偏见和观点， Now, of course, this is informed by my life experience and my own biases, my own perspective,
我自己在生活中的经历和我的风格。 my own experiences in life and my own style.
因此，在某种重要意义上，任何你要学习的老师都会有一定的风格组成部分。 So in an important sense, there's a sort of a stylistic component to any teacher that you're going to be learning from.
任何精神教导、任何哲学体系、任何政治理论，都带有一种个性化的风格。 Any spiritual teaching, any philosophical system, any political theory, you know,
所以你还需要自己确定这种风格是否会 resonates 你。 there's a sort of like a idiosyncratic style that comes along with it.
即使这种风格并不完全 resonates 你，你仍然可以从中学到东西。 So you have to also determine for yourself whether this style is going to resonate with you.
所以你不应该只听那些完全符合你风格的老师或教导。 Now, even if it doesn't fully resonate with you, you can still learn stuff from it.
即使这种风格并不完全 resonates 你，你仍然可以从中学到东西。 So it's not like you should only listen to teachers or teachings that are fully aligned with your style,
但请认识到，我说的话当然受到我个人的某些偏见和经验的影响。 but do recognize that, of course, the things I say come from certain biases and experiences that I have.
这并不意味着这些建议适用于每个人。 And that doesn't mean that they're absolutely true for everybody.
同时，我必须说，这些原则中有一些是坚如磐石的原则。 But at the same time, I must say that some of these principles are such rock solid principles
让我情不自禁地想要说，这些原则应该适用于绝大多数人类。 that I'm very tempted to say that they should be true for a large percentage of human beings.
这不仅仅是风格问题。在这些原则中蕴藏着许多深刻的智慧。 So it's not just purely style. There's a lot of profound wisdom in these principles.
现在，完全实践这些原则可能需要数年的时间。 Now, it can take years to be able to fully implement one of these principles.
有时，这些原则听起来很简单，只需一两句话就能表达， Sometimes these principles sound very simple, just they can be stated in one or two sentences,
但要真正地体现它，并让这个原则在你的生活中发挥作用， but to really be able to embody it and to have this principle functioning in your life,
甚至要理解为什么这个原则如此重要，可能需要数年，甚至几十年。 and even just to be able to understand why this principle is so important, can take years, can take decades.
这就是为什么我有很多个别的剧集专门讨论其中的每一个原则。 Which is why I have a lot of individual episodes devoted to each one of these in many cases.
并非所有原则。未来，我会发布更多内容，以确保尽可能深入涵盖这些原则。 Not all of them. In the future, I'll be releasing more to make sure I cover as much of these principles as I can in a lot of depth,
因为我们无法在这里深入探讨，因为我们只能将它们列出来。 because we can't go into a lot of depth here, because here we just have to kind of like list them all out
并为您提供一个总体的视角。 and give you a big picture perspective.
现在，我不打算解释每个原则为什么正确。 Now, I'm not going to go into explaining why each of these principles is true.
这将是一项工作量过大，对于我们所做的这个概述来说，细节过多。 That would be way too much work and way too much detail for this overview that we're doing here.
但是如果你对为何这些原则是正确的感到好奇，想让我向你证明的话， But if you're curious about why these principles are true and you want me to like prove it to you,
首先，我不会向你证明任何事情。 well, first of all, I'm not going to prove anything to you.
那是你的工作，要弄清楚在生活中什么是有效的，什么是无效的。 That's your job, is to figure out what actually works in life and what doesn't.
我只是提出这些作为建议，而不是作为教条，不是你盲目接受的信仰。 I'm just offering these as suggestions, not as dogma, not as beliefs that you take blindly.
但最终为什么它们是正确的，我如何知道它们是正确的？ But ultimately why they're true, how do I know that they're true?
这是因为我所有的人生经历，所有的商业经验， It's because of all of my life experience, all of my experience doing business,
所有试图弄清楚自己生活的经验，处理我自己的神经紊乱和问题，以及困难点， all of my experience trying to figure out my own life, dealing with my own neuroses and problems and sticking points,
我自己的病态，我做的大量研究，理论研究，阅读数百本书， my own pathologies, all of the enormous research that I've done, theoretical research, reading hundreds of books,
与高级老师和开悟大师学习，在全国各地旅行，周游世界 studying with advanced teachers and enlightened masters, traveling around the country, traveling around the world
前往各个地方学习，研究数百种不同的观点，确实是数百种不同的观点， to various places to learn, studying hundreds of different perspectives, literally hundreds of different perspectives,
从复活节传统到西方传统，从现代传统到古代传统，有各种不同的传统； hundreds of different traditions from Easter ones to Western ones, from modern ones to ancient ones,
阅读很多自助书籍，尝试亲身尝试所有这些技巧，并看看哪些有效； reading lots of self-help books, trying to experiment with all these techniques myself and seeing what works,
了解哪些有效，哪些重要，哪些不那么重要； what doesn't work, what's important, what's not so important.
所以从所有这些以及我所有的冥想、思考和记录以及思考这一点； So from all of this and all of my meditating and contemplating and journaling and thinking about this
以及我五年来教授所有这些并得到人们的反馈并专业指导人们； and all of my five years of teaching all of this and getting feedback from people and coaching people professionally,
就像我过去一样，与客户一对一合作，了解他们的困境，与全国各地的朋友交谈 as I used to do, working with clients one on one, seeing what their sticking points are, talking with friends around the country
关于他们的各种困难点，努力改善我自己生活中的各种限制 about what their various sticking points are, working on improving various limitations in my own life
比如我的健康、营养、健身、我年轻时社交能力差和内向、害羞的问题。 like my health and my nutrition and my fitness and my inability to socialize when I was younger and my introversion, my shyness.
所以，通过处理所有这些问题，所有这些都被汇编在一起，构成了我的对现实的理解 So working through all of this stuff, right, all of it is sort of getting compiled together and is informing my understanding of reality
以及生活美好的重要性。 and what's important to live the good life.
当然非常重要的是我忘记提到了这一点：我在迷幻药物方面拥有相当丰富的经验 And of course very importantly I forgot to mention my pretty deep experience with psychedelics at this point
这对我了解怎样过上美好生活起到了至关重要的作用。 has been very instrumental in informing me about what the most important principles for living a good life are.
这是我真正感兴趣的事情，可能追溯到将近20年前的高中时期。 And this is something that I've really been interested in for probably close to 20 years all the way back to high school.
我只是对什么是过上美好生活的原则感兴趣。 I was just interested in what are the principles of living a good life.
那么，话不多说，让我们进入这些原则吧。 So without further ado let's get into these principles.
第一个核心原则，并且我在这里不会按照任何特定顺序列出它们，但这个是如此重要， Core principle number one, and I'm not going to list them in any particular order here but this one is so important,
也许它确实应该排在第一位，那就是不持有任何意识形态和教条。 maybe it does deserve to be number one, is no ideology and no dogma of any kind.
这正是使actualized.org在众多教学和学校中显得独特的一点之一。 This is one of the things that makes actualized.org unique among many other teachings and schools
大多数教导和学校都充斥着许多意识形态和教条，他们只是希望你接受。 is that most teachings and most schools are filled with a lot of ideology and a lot of dogma, stuff that they just want you to accept.
我有一整集节目叫做“意识形态如何运作”，深度探讨意识形态的危险和教条的危险。 And I have a whole episode called "How Ideology Works" which goes into a lot of depth about the dangers of ideology, the dangers of dogma.
不要错误地认为意识形态和教条只是宗教人士犯的错误。 Do not make the mistake of thinking that ideology and dogma is just a mistake that religious people make.
不，不，不。这是几乎每个人都会犯的错误。 No, no, no. This is a mistake that almost everybody makes.
科学家犯这个错误，无神论者犯这个错误，怀疑论者犯这个错误，政治人士犯这个错误， Scientific people make this mistake, atheists make this mistake, skeptics make this mistake, political people make this mistake,
非常聪明的人也会犯这个错误。 very intelligent people make this mistake.
很容易陷入某种意识形态中，因为社会灌输给你的是各种各样的意识形态。 It's very easy to fall into some kind of ideology because that's what society feeds you is various kinds of ideologies.
生活中最困难的事情之一就是质疑并消除你被灌输的所有意识形态和教条 And one of the most difficult things to do in life is to question and undo all the ideologies and dogmas that you've been filled with
在无论哪种文化、家庭和学校体制中成长 growing up in whatever culture you grew up in, whatever family you grew up in, whatever school system you went to.
它们都将各种程序和信念灌输到你的脑海中 They all filled your mind with various kinds of programming and beliefs and ideologies.
因此，质疑和消除这一切，过上无教条，无意识形态的生活是非常具有挑战性的 And so questioning and undoing all of that and living a dogma-free, ideology-free life, that is very challenging.
要理解为什么这是如此重要可能有些困难 And it can be a little difficult to understand why that's even important.
但事情之所以是因为你最终追求的是最高真理和自由。 But the reason that it is is because the thing you're ultimately after is you're after the highest truth and you're after freedom.
你心灵的自由。 Freedom of your mind.
因此，意识形态和教条的问题在于它将你的思维锚定，不允许你的思维探索现实的各个角落和缝隙。 And so the problem with ideology and dogma is that it sort of anchors your mind down and it doesn't allow your mind to explore all the nooks and crannies of reality
你的思维需要探索这些区域，以理解现实是什么，过上美好的生活。 that it needs to be able to explore to understand what reality is and to live the good life.
这些意识形态就像你的思维陷入其中无法自拔的车辙。 You see, these ideologies are like grooves that your mind gets stuck in and then it keeps going down these grooves.
它不断地依循这些凹槽，透过这些镜头看待世界。 It keeps thinking down these grooves and looking at the world through these lenses.
而这塑造并扭曲了你所能看到的东西，以及你能有多灵活以及你如何改变自己的生活。 And that shapes and distorts what you're able to see and how flexible you're able to be and how you're able to change your life.
那些非常意识形态化和教条主义的人，实际上无法改变自己，而这却是我们需要做的。 People who are very ideological and dogmatic, they're not actually able to change themselves, which is what we need to do.
我们需要大幅改变自己，以创造美好的生活。 We need to massively change ourselves in order to create the good life.
而我所有关于认识论或知识理论的研究和思考， And all of my research and philosophizing into the topic of epistemology or the theory of knowledge,
如果我能将所有这些归纳为一个简单的原则，那就是不要僵化。 if I could boil all of that down to just one simple principle, it would just be do not be ideological.
就是这么简单。这是一个非常简单的原则，也是我在任何内容中谈论的基础。 It's just that simple. That's a very, very simple principle and this grounds pretty much everything that I ever talk about ever in any of my content.
我一遍又一遍地强调这一点，因为它非常重要。 And I stress this over and over and over again because it's so important.
你将花费多年的时间才能意识到这一点有多重要。 And it'll take you years to realize how important this is.
但如果你能在生活中遵循这一原则，它将帮助你避免很多痛苦和麻烦。 But if you can follow this one principle in your life, this will save you a lot of misery and trouble.
还有很多陷入死胡同和各种意识形态陷阱。 And a lot of going down dead ends and various kinds of ideological traps.
下一个核心原则是整体思考大于技术知识，并始终胜过技术知识。 The next core principle is that big picture thinking is greater than technical knowledge and always trumps technical knowledge.
这是我工作中一直强调的另一点，即整体思考。 That's another thing that I stress in my work all the time is big picture thinking.
你理解发生在最高层次的真正情况吗？你是否关心这一点胜过所有技术细节？ Do you understand what's really going on at the highest possible levels and are you concerned about that over all the technical details?
整体思考就像是我的最大优势之一。 That's like one of my greatest strengths is big picture thinking.
我不太擅长技术细节。 The technical details of things I'm not really that good at.
那实际上是我的一个弱点。 That's actually sort of a weakness of mine.
有时在传达某些内容或讨论某个主题时，我可能会在技术细节上搞砸，偶尔会出错。 And sometimes when I'm delivering some piece of content or I'm talking about some topic, it's in the technical details that I can screw up and get something wrong here or there.
在过去的节目中，我当然经常做出这样的事情。 I've certainly done that plenty of times in past episodes.
但我从不太担心，因为我始终把注意力放在整体上。 But I'm never too concerned about that because my focus is always on the big picture.
这是因为当我年轻的时候，我看到的是相反的情况。 And that's because what I saw when I was younger is I saw the opposite of that.
我看到我周围的每个人，包括我的老师、整个社会文化、我的教授等等。 I saw everybody around me including my teachers and society and culture at large and my professors and so forth.
他们非常专注于技术知识，但对整体大局了解甚少。 They were so focused on the technical knowledge and yet they had very little of the big picture.
正因如此，他们过着错误的生活。 And because of this, they were living the wrong kinds of lives.
所以你可能拥有完美的技术知识。 So you can have all the perfect technical knowledge.
你可以是自己技术领域的专家，但对整体情况毫无概念。 You can be an expert in your technical field, but have no idea of the big picture.
这样你的生活会变得痛苦、高度失调和病态。 And your life will be miserable and highly dysfunctional and pathological.
相反，如果你掌握了整体情况并专注于把握整体情况，技术细节就不需要花费太多时间、精力去处理。 Whereas if you get the big picture right and you're focused on nailing the big picture, the technical details, you don't need to waste a lot of time, energy on that.
这并不重要。 It doesn't matter.
而且如果偶尔有一些技术细节出错，也并不要紧。 And if you get a few technical details wrong here or there, it doesn't really matter.
所以，就像这个例子中的情景一样，我们将为您提供这 65 个创建美好生活的原则。 So the big picture, like in this example with this episode, is we're going to give you all these 65 principles for creating a good life.
这是一个很宏大的蓝图。 That's a very big picture.
所以，如果您只是智慧地遵循这些原则，而不是机械地生硬执行，那么您应该会取得非常好的进步，创造出美好的生活。 So if you just follow these principles intelligently, not robotically, then you should make very good progress to creating a great life.
请注意，这些原则并不依赖于技术知识。 And notice that these principles, they don't depend on technical knowledge.
我们在这里谈论的是非常广泛的理念。 We're talking about very broad ideas here.
下一个核心原则是直接经验至上。 The next core principle is that direct experience is king.
直接经验至上。 Direct experience is king.
经验确实是唯一存在的事物，也是唯一真实的事物。 Experience is really the only thing that exists and the only thing that is real.
就在此刻，你的经验，无论你现在经历的是什么，那才是真实的。 Right now, your experience, whatever you're experiencing right now, that's what's real.
那才是实际的。 That's what's actual.
这就是现实。 That's what exists.
其他一切都是幻想。 Everything else is fantasy.
其他一切都是想象。 Everything else is imagination.
这是一个非常强大的原则，可以帮助你剖析文化、社会和他人灌输给你的一切废话。 This is a very powerful principle for cutting through all the bullshit that culture and society and people feed you.
也可以帮助你剖析自己的废话。 And also for cutting through your own bullshit.
你自己的心灵在撒的谎言。 The bullshit that your own mind feeds you.
你自己的想象、凭空的假设、理论、哲学和意识形态。 Your own imaginings and musings and theories and philosophies and ideologies.
如何打破这一切？ How do you cut through all that?
让自己扎根于你当前的直接经验中。 By grounding yourself in your present direct experience.
这才是王道。 That's what's king.
如果不是直接经历过的，那就不是真实的。 If it's not present in your direct experience, it's not real.
那是非常强大的。 That's very powerful.
在你探寻现实的过程中，你需要一遍又一遍地运用这个原则，帮助你将谷物与糠秕加以区分。 And you need to use this principle over and over again as you're inquiring into reality to help you to sort the wheat from the chaff.
将实际情况与书本等各种概念和信念区分开来。 To sort the actuality from all the concepts and beliefs that you will be learning from books and so forth.
还有来自你自己内心的想法。 And coming up in your own mind.
下一个核心原则是自我实验。 The next core principle is self experimentation.
Actualize.org 致力于自我实验。 Actualize.org is all about self experimentation.
您如何发现真正有效的方法？ How do you discover what really works?
什么是真实的，哪些原则会引领美好生活？ What is true and which principles will lead to the good life?
相信我吗？ By believing me?
通过阅读一本书吗？ By reading a book?
通过聆听拥有诺贝尔奖的博士教授并信任他吗？ By listening to some PhD professor who has a Nobel Prize and trusting him?
或者一些坐在高座上的大师？ Or some guru who's sitting up on a pedestal?
不，是通过自我实验。 No, it's through self experimentation.
在尝试之前，你不会知道哪些技术适合你，哪些不适合你，或哪些与你共鸣。 You won't know what techniques will or won't work for you or will or won't resonate with you until you try them.
这个原则实际上是直接经验至上这一观念的一个必然结果。 And this principle really is a corollary of the idea that direct experience is king.
因此，正是因为我们意识到直接经验至上，我们也意识到我们需要做很多自我实验，因为只有通过尝试不同的事物，尝试不同的技术，我们才会发现真正适合我们的东西。 So it's because we realize that direct experience is king that we also realize that we need to do a lot of self experimentation because it's only by going out and experiencing different things, trying different techniques, that we will discover what really works for us.
所以这意味着，如果你有某种问题，比如你在亲密关系中有持续的问题。 So what this means is if you have some kind of problem, let's say you have a consistent relationship problem in your intimate relationships.
因此，这个原则，自我实验，它的意思是你将会去尝试各种解决方案。 So self experimentation, this principle, what it means is that you're going to go out there and you're going to experiment with various solutions.
你不会来找我或其他人，也不会试图从别处得到答案。 You're not going to come and trust me or somebody else or try to get the answer from someplace.
您可以进行实验。 You can experiment.
当然，这意味着您可以倾听他人的意见。 Now, of course, this means you can listen to people.
您可以向他人征求建议。 You can get advice from people.
当然，您也可以阅读书籍，而且您应该这样做。 You can read books, of course, and you should.
但是自我实验意味着您解决任何问题的方法始终是尝试实验和排除故障，尝试不同的方法直到找到有效的方案。 But self experimentation means that your approach to solving any problem is always going to be one of, okay, let me experiment and troubleshoot this and try different things until something works.
那你可能会去读一些关于关系的书籍。 So you're going to go maybe read some books on relationships.
也许你会去找一位心理治疗师交谈。 Maybe you're going to go hire a therapist and talk to them.
也许你会去找一个生活指导教练。 Maybe you're going to go see a life coach.
也许你会尝试一些致幻剂，思考你的关系本质以及存在问题。 Maybe you're going to go do some psychedelics and contemplate the nature of your relationship and your sticking points while you're on psychedelics.
或者你会写一些日记，或者你会和你的爱人、配偶进行一次认真的一对一谈话，以尝试解决这段关系的事情。 Or maybe you're going to do some journaling or maybe you're going to have a serious one to one conversation with your loved one or your spouse or whatever to try to resolve this relationship thing.
或许你会独自前往森林进行一周的闭关，思考你们的关系本质。 Or maybe you're going to go do a solo retreat in the woods for a week and contemplate the nature of your relationship.
你知道，这些都是你可以尝试的不同事情。 You know, so all of these are different things you can experiment with.
而你的方法会是，好的，让我尝试这些东西，看看什么会解决问题。 And and your approach is going to be, OK, let me try this stuff out and see what's going to what's going to solve it.
如果你有金钱问题，同样，你会尝试各种自我实验来解决你的金钱问题。 And if you have money problems, same thing, you're going to try various self experiments to resolve your money problems.
如果你有一些抑郁，你会进行更多的自我实验等等。 And if you have some depression, you're going to do more self experimentation and so forth.
基本上解决生活中所有问题的方式就是通过自我实验。 And this is how basically you solve all of your problems in life is through self experimentation.
下一个核心原则是激进的开放思维。 The next core principle is radical open mindedness.
我过去谈论了很多关于这个话题。 I've talked a lot about this in the past.
我有整集节目都在谈论开放思维，将来还会有更多。 I have entire episodes about open mindedness and I'll have some more in the future.
激进的开放思维如此重要的原因是因为我们意识到我们来到这个世界时一无所知。 But the reason radical open mindedness is so important is because we recognize that we enter this world not knowing anything.
我们需要能够完全探索现实中的每一个角落。 And that we need to be able to fully explore every nook and cranny of reality.
不带成见以免意外地与伟大的发现、惊人的洞察和真相失之交臂。 Without prejudging it so that we don't accidentally cut ourselves off from great discoveries and amazing insights and truths.
我们也明白，心灵，自我意识倾向于对新经历和挑战性的新观念持封闭态度。 And we also recognize that the mind, the ego mind tends to love to be closed minded to new experiences and to challenging new ideas.
因此，我们采取相反的行动，违背直觉地展开自己。 And so therefore, we take the opposite step, the counterintuitive move, and we open ourselves up radically.
尽情展开的程度让大多数人感到震惊。 So radically that it would shock most people that were this open.
这意味着你必须对任何想法、任何观点、任何教导保持开放，无论起初它们听起来多么荒谬、疯狂和不真实。 This means you have to be open to any idea, any perspective, any teaching, no matter how ridiculous or crazy and untrue it might sound at first.
这可能看起来很危险，但实际上恰恰相反。 This might seem dangerous, but actually it's the opposite.
开放心态并不意味着你要相信一大堆荒谬的事情。 Open mindedness doesn't mean that you are going to believe a bunch of ridiculous things.
它只是表示你愿意探索不同的想法和观点。 It just means that you're open to exploring different ideas and perspectives.
我们接受并遵循这一原则的原因是因为我们认识到，如果我们不具有激进的开放心态， And the reason that we accept this principle and we follow it is because we recognize that if we're not radically open minded,
然后我们的思想会过早地判断并将我们隔绝在不同的探索途径之外。 then our mind is going to judge prematurely and cut us off from all these other avenues that we can explore.
我们也认识到生活中许多最深刻的真理都违反直觉，在表面上看起来荒谬和愚蠢，直到深入探索后才变得明显。 And we also recognize that a lot of the deepest truths in life are counterintuitive and seem ridiculous and silly on the surface until they are deeply explored.
在深入探索这些各种真理和主题之前，可能需要花费很长时间，直到我们意识到这些真理是多么真实和强大。 And it can take a lot of time to deeply explore these various truths and topics before we realize just how true and powerful they are.
这意味着我们需要在此期间保持开放的心态。 Which means that we need to remain open minded during that time.
否则，如果我们心态封闭，那么会发生的是，我们只会说：“哦，那个东西很愚蠢。那个东西很疯狂。那不可能是真的。”" Otherwise, if we're closed minded, then what's going to happen is that we're just going to say, "Oh, well, that thing is stupid. That thing is crazy. That can't possibly be true.
那件事是不理性的。 那件事是愚蠢和宗教的。那件事是犯罪的。 That thing is irrational. That thing is silly and religious. And that thing is criminal.
我们打算做所有这些，但实际上我们并不打算探索所有这些。 And we're going to do all this, but we're not actually going to explore all of that."
最好的方法是去实际探索所有这些。 It's much better to go and actually explore all of that.
再次强调，并不是变得对其中任何一件事教条化或执着于其中任何一件事。 Which, again, is not the same thing as becoming dogmatic about any one of those things or clinging to any one of those things.
我们对探索感兴趣，真正的探索。 We're interested in exploration, genuine exploration.
探索意味着你不知道会发现什么。 Exploration means you don't know what you're going to find.
有时候你会找到很棒的东西。有时候你会发现丑陋的不好的东西。 Sometimes you'll find great stuff. Sometimes you'll find ugly bad stuff.
下一个核心原则是不要对自己没有亲身经历过的事情做评判。 The next core principle is that you do not judge things which you have not experienced personally.
这再次是对激进的开放思维原则的一个推论。 This, again, is sort of a corollary to the radical open mindedness principle.
但在这里明确指出，因为我无法告诉你有多少次我陷入了判断我没有亲身经历过的事物的陷阱。 But it bears making explicit here because I can't tell you how many times I've fallen into this trap of judging things that I hadn't personally experienced.
而且谈论它，就好像我知道它而且理解它一样。 And talking about it as though I knew about it and I understood it.
但实际上，那只是自我欺骗。 But really, that was just a self-deception.
我并没有真正理解它，因为我没有与这件事有任何经验。 And I didn't really understand it because I didn't have any experience with the thing.
这是心智总是喜欢做的事情。 This is something that the mind loves to do all the time.
它喜欢评判事物，尤其是当它对它一无所知的时候。 It loves to judge things especially when it has zero experience with it.
也许你对中东人或中东国家有偏见。 So maybe you judge Middle Easterners or Middle Eastern countries.
但问题是，你真的去过中东国家吗？ But the question is, have you actually been to a Middle Eastern country?
你有多少中东朋友？ How many Middle Easterner friends do you have?
或许你对致幻剂有偏见。 Or maybe you judge psychedelics.
你曾经尝试过致幻剂吗？ Have you ever even done psychedelics?
当然，心智非常狡猾，所以心智会说，“噢，里奥，但我不需要这样做。我不需要去中东国家。” But of course the mind is very tricky so the mind will say, "Oh, Leo, but I don't need to do that. I don't need to go to Middle Eastern countries.
我不需要使用致幻剂。我不需要尝试那种食物。我不需要探索那种文化。 I don't need to do psychedelics. I don't need to try that food. I don't need to explore that culture.
我不需要研究这种宗教，因为我已经知道这是废话。” I don't need to study this religion because I already know it's bullshit."
那种推理本身就是胡扯。 That line of reasoning itself is the bullshit.
所以在评判你未经历过的事物时要非常小心。 So be very careful about judging things you have not experienced.
你需要擅长意识到当你的头脑要对某事进行评判的时候，然后问自己，“等一下。” You need to become very good at recognizing when your mind is about to judge something and then you ask yourself, "Wait a minute.
我是否真正经历过我接下来要谈论的这件事？ Have I actually experienced this thing that I'm going to be talking about here in a second?
哦，我没有？那我应该闭上嘴巴，敞开心扉。 Oh, I haven't? Then I should keep my mouth shut and I keep my mind open."
这是一个非常重要的技能要培养。 That's a very powerful skill to develop.
很少有人掌握了这种技能，我自己也在努力克服这个问题。 Very few people have developed that skill and I still struggle with that one myself.
下一个核心原则是质疑一切。 The next core principle is question everything.
质疑一切。 Question everything.
没有什么想法是太神圣而不值得质疑的。 There is no idea too sacred not to question.
事实上，任何神圣的事物都需要更多的质疑，甚至更多，三倍。 In fact, anything that is sacred needs to be questioned even more so, doubly so, triply so.
尤其要质疑最明显的事情，那些人们会认为你疯狂或疯狂才会质疑的事情。 Question especially the most obvious stuff, the stuff that people would think that you're crazy or insane to question.
质疑那个。 Question that.
质疑世界是否存在。质疑你是否存在。 Question whether the world even exists. Question whether you even exist.
质疑一切。 Question everything.
你质疑得更根本，就会更好。 The more fundamental you're questioning, the better.
尤其要善于质疑假设。 And especially become very good at questioning assumptions.
这个哲学体系的假设是什么？ What are the assumptions of this philosophical system?
这个科学模型的假设是什么？ What are the assumptions of this scientific model?
这位灵性导师的假设是什么？ What are the assumptions of this spiritual teacher?
你必须擅长辨别假设并对其进行质疑。 You have to get very, very good at sussing out assumptions and questioning them.
当然，质疑你所有的假设和所有的想法。 And of course, questioning all of your own assumptions and all of your own ideas.
所以你不只是外在怀疑，在内心也更加怀疑。 So you don't just question skeptically on the outside, you also question even more so on the inside.
对每个教导都应持怀疑态度。 Question every teaching.
质疑我所说的一切。 Question everything I say.
但当然，要小心，不要让这演变成一种武器，只会提出问题，把理解的重担推给他人。 But of course, be careful not to turn this into a weapon where you're just questioning and you're putting the burden of understanding on others.
在他人身上证明事实的责任。 The burden of proving things on others.
你需要以一种方式提出问题，仍然要承担并负责自己找到真相。 You need to question in a way where you still assume the burden and responsibility of finding the truth for yourself.
下一个核心原则是关心哲学和形而上学问题。 The next core principle is care about philosophical and metaphysical matters.
大多数人不关心这些，因为他们认为没有实际应用。 Most people do not care about these because they think that there's no practical application.
实际上有应用，只是哲学和形而上学问题更抽象，因此需要更多的努力和学习来发现应用。 There is, it's just that philosophical and metaphysical matters are more abstract and therefore it takes more effort and more study to find the applications.
这些有非常实际的应用。 There are very practical applications.
但这需要更多的工作。 But it takes a little bit more work.
如果您未能遵循这个原则，会发生的是您将迷失在日常生活、业务以及做事务性琐事中。 If you fail to follow this principle, what's going to happen is that you're going to get lost in the transactional pragmatic nature of mundane everyday life, of business, of doing chores.
您将迷失其中，而在其中真的找不到灵魂或精神。 And you're going to get so lost in that and there's really no soul or spirit to be found there.
在仅仅从事业务、赚钱或在人际关系中仅仅进行交易中，无法找到深刻或深奥之处。 There's nothing deep or profound to be found in just doing business, just earning money, just being transactional in your relationships.
生活的深度在于思考并解决哲学和形而上学问题。 The depth in life is found in having philosophical and metaphysical matters questioned and resolved.
这是真正充满活力和力量的工作所在。 That's where the really juicy and powerful work lies.
所以你需要关注这一点。 So you need to care about that.
你需要培养一种特定的好奇心，哲学上、形而上学上的好奇心。 You need to cultivate a certain curiosity, philosophical, metaphysical curiosity.
这意味着你不只是追逐实用的自助建议。 Which means that you're not just chasing practical self-help advice.
比如如何获得成功、如何赚一百万美元、如何治疗我的抑郁症。 Like how to get laid, how to earn a million dollars, how to cure my depression.
这些都可以，但你需要追寻更深的东西。 All of that is fine to a certain degree, but you need to go way beyond that.
更深一层的东西。 Something deeper.
你会发现这是actualize.org与许多其他自助材料不同的地方之一。 And you'll notice that that's one of the things that differentiates actualize.org from a lot of the other self-help material that's out there.
大多数情况下，其他材料只是非常严谨地强调交易和实用性，以达到获得特定结果的目的。 Is that most of it tends to be just very, very strictly transactional and pragmatic about having to have, how to get you a particular specific result.
虽然表面上它吸引人，但内里是空洞的。 And while that's sort of appealing on the surface, it's hollow on the inside.
它没有深入解决你生活中根本问题的深度。 It doesn't go deep enough into addressing your root issues in life.
因为你的大多表面问题源自你甚至还没有意识到的更深层的存在形而上学问题。 Because most of your surface level issues stem from your deeper existential metaphysical problems that you're not even aware of yet.
下一个核心原则是真诚地追求真理，无论代价如何。 The next core principle is genuine intent for truth at whatever cost.
你需要真诚关心真理，将它作为最重要的优先事项和价值观之一。 You need to genuinely care about the truth with a capital T as one of your highest priorities and values.
无论取得这个真理的代价是多少。 No matter what the cost is to get at this truth.
无论你需要搬到另一个城市，和所有朋友分手，支付数万美元，加班； It doesn't matter if you need to move to a different city, break up with all of your friends, pay tens of thousands of dollars, work overtime.
无论你需要做什么，如果那是揭示真相所需要的，那就是所需之事。 Whatever you gotta do, if that's what's required to get at the truth, then that's what's required.
你会接受这种代价，因为你对终极真相有真诚的意愿和渴望和好奇心。 And you're gonna accept that cost because you have a genuine intent and desire and curiosity for the ultimate truth.
没有这个，你将不断陷入虚假和迷惑之中。 Without this, what's gonna happen is that you're gonna keep falling into falsehood and delusion.
你看。 You see.
如果你不愿意承担寻求终极真理所带来的代价，你会被卷入生活中的次要事物。 Because if you're not willing to accept the costs that come with seeking the ultimate truth, you're gonna get sucked into the lesser things in life.
你会追求金钱、性、舒适和奢华等东西。 You're gonna pursue money and sex and comfort and luxury and these sorts of things.
所有这些最好都是用虚假来追求的。 And all of that is best pursued with falsehood.
所以，你最终会在生活中陷入深深的自欺中。你不会真正理解生命的最高境界。 See, and you're gonna end up deluding yourself very deeply in life. You're not gonna really understand what life is at the highest level.
因为你从未有过真诚的意图。 Because you never made it a genuine intent.
你的优先事项是追逐物质，而不是追求真理。 Your priorities instead were chasing material stuff.
这与真理无关。 Which has nothing to do with truth.
通常实际上偏向虚假。 And often is actually aligned with falsehood.
通常赚钱最容易的方式是通过虚假，而不是真理。 Oftentimes the easiest way to make money is through falsehood, not through truth.
吸引性伴侣的最简单方式通常是通过虚假，而非真理。 The easiest way to attract a sexual partner oftentimes is through falsehood, not through truth.
下一个核心原则是你需要真诚地意图去理解每一个观点。 The next core principle is you need to have a genuine intent to understand every point of view.
你会注意到生活中有许多不同类型的观点。 One thing you notice about life is that there are so many different kinds of points of view.
人们有各种各样的观点，不同的群体、文化和民族有各种不同的观点。 People have all kinds of points of view, different groups of people, different cultures and nations and ethnicities have all sorts of different points of view.
通常，普通人所做的是停留在自己的观点上，然后批评和评判其他观点。 And usually what the average person does is they just stay in their point of view and then they criticize and judge the other points of view.
如果没有真诚地关心从其他人的角度看世界。 Without genuinely caring to look at the world from the perspective of all those other people.
你需要做相反的事情。 And you need to do the opposite of that.
你需要变得非常好奇，善于站在别人的角度思考，从他们的视角看世界。 You need to get very curious and good at jumping into other people's shoes and looking at the world from their perspective.
这是因为你意识到世界实际上仅仅是不同的观点。 And that's because you recognize that the world really is nothing but different points of view.
世界上不存在不带观点的理解。 There's no such thing as a understanding of the world without a point of view.
你自己的观点并不是最重要或最好的。 And your own point of view is not the most important or the best.
你认识到了。所以当你明白了这一点，嘿，我可以从不同角度看世界中学到很多东西。 You recognize that. So when you recognize that you understand that, hey, I can learn a lot from looking at the world from many points of view.
这是你变得充满激情的事情之一，探索不同的观点。 And that's one of the things that you become passionate about is exploring different points of view.
下一个核心原则是整体思维。 The next core principle is integral thinking.
你需要进行整体思考。 You need to think integrally.
实质上，这意味着认识到每个观点或视角都包含着一些真理的核心。 And what that really boils down to is the realization that every point of view or perspective contains some kernel of truth.
无论是什么。 No matter what it is.
甚至一些最可怕的观点。 Even some of the most atrocious perspectives.
纳粹主义，激进的伊斯兰恐怖主义，以及其他一些看似毫无可取之处的观点。 Nazism, radical Islamic terrorism, and others that you would think have no redeeming qualities.
即使在那些观点中，你也能找到一丁点真理之核。 You can find a kernel of truth even in those points of view.
尤其是相对温和的观点。 And less radical ones especially.
这就是开放思维的重要性所在，对吧？ And so this is where open mindedness comes in, right?
您需要能够整合所有这些不同的观点，并将它们汇集在一起，看看，这里到底发生了什么？ You need to be able to integrate all these different points of view and bring them all together to see, okay, what's really going on here?
这种超越性的观点是什么？ What's sort of the meta perspective?
当我们结合所有这些其他观点时的总体视角。 The meta point of view when we combine all these other points of view.
这告诉我们一些关于生活的什么？ What does that tell us about life?
这能告诉我关于自己的什么？ What does that tell me about myself?
这能告诉我们关于人类的什么？ What does that tell us about humanity?
这能告诉我们关于社会的什么？ What does it tell us about society?
诸如此类。 And so forth.
而且通过这样，你可以获得比坚持自己的观点和捍卫自己的观点更多的东西。 And from that you get so much more than just sticking to your own points of view and defending your own points of view.
这确实是意识形态和教条的反面。 This is really the opposite of ideology and dogma.
因为意识形态和教条试图的是限制你的视角，并捍卫对世界的僵化看法。 Because what ideology and dogma try to do is they try to limit your point of view and defend a rigid perspective on the world.
因此，这是整体思维的反面。 So it's the opposite of integral.
是整体观念的反面。 The opposite of holistic.
因此，拥有这种狭隘视角的人比他们本来可以理解的生活事物少得多。 And therefore people with this limited perspective, they understand so much less of life than they otherwise could.
因此，我希望你牢记这个核心原则，即每个观点都包含一些真理。 And so just I want you to keep this core principle in mind that every point of view contains some truth.
而你的工作是发现那个真理。 And it's your job to discover what that is.
并不是别人的责任告诉你或说服你接受那个真相的核心。 It's not the responsibility of the other person to tell you or convince you of that kernel of truth.
举个例子，纳粹或激进恐怖分子并不需要说服你接受他们的真相。 For example, it's not the job of a Nazi or a radical terrorist to convince you of their truth.
你的工作是去研究他们，发现他们如此热衷的真相是什么。 It's your job to go study them and discover what is the truth that they are so passionate about.
那是什么？ What is that?
非常重要的是，你做这个并不意味着你必须成为纳粹或恐怖分子。 And very importantly, just because you're doing this does not mean that you have to become a Nazi, of course, or a terrorist.
当然不是。 Of course not.
你正在探讨不同的观点。 You're exploring points of view.
你将在一生中探索数百种观点。 You're going to be exploring hundreds of points of view throughout your whole life.
这并不意味着你必须固守某一个观点。 That doesn't mean that you have to get married to any one point of view.
事实上，整体思维是承认每个观点都是局部的。 In fact, integral thinking is the recognition that every point of view is partial.
永远不是终极真理。 Never the ultimate truth.
总是局部的。 Always partial.
这就是为什么我们正在探索这么多观点，因为每一个只是一个小片段。 That's why we're exploring so many of them is precisely because it's just a little piece.
将每个观点视为现实的1%透视。 Think of every point of view as like a 1% perspective on reality.
因此1%并不算很多。 So 1% is not a lot.
因此，我们需要探索数百个观点，让每个个体的观点汇聚成为有实质意义的东西。 So we need to explore hundreds of them for all those individual ones to add up to something substantial.
下一个核心原则是，一切基本上都归结为内在游戏。 The next core principle is that everything basically boils down to inner game.
你生活的质量归结为你的心理状态。 The quality of your life boils down to your psychology.
这意味着所有问题和所有痛苦都是自己造成和自己施加的。 This means that all problems and all suffering is self-created and self-inflicted.
这对许多人来说很难相信，因为它与我们生活在某种严格、固定、外部的现实的想法相悖。 And this is very difficult for many people to believe because it runs counter to the idea that we are living in some sort of rigid, fixed, external reality.
一个拥有不可打破物理定律的物质现实，在那里似乎所有问题都存在于世界之外，所有痛苦是由我之外的世界创造的。 A material reality with unbreakable physical laws where it seems like all the problems are out there in the world and all the suffering is created by the world outside of me.
而且与我无关。 And that I have nothing to do with it.
所以这就是将其完全颠倒过来180度。 So this is flipping that on its head upside down 180 degrees.
认识到实际上所有那些我认为存在于外部的问题，世界造成的所有痛苦，所有那些外部的物质、物理上的困难，这些都是不可改变的东西。 And realizing that actually all of those external problems that I think exist out there, all the suffering that's created by the world, all of that external material, physical, hard stuff that can't be changed.
那到底不就是我内心游戏的一部分吗？ What is that but actually an aspect of my own inner game?
那实际上是我持有的一种信念。 That's actually a belief that I have.
那是我所处的范式。 That's a paradigm that I'm in.
那本身不是外在的，而是内在的。 And that itself is not an outer thing but an inner thing.
这就像打开生活中所有潜力的主钥匙。 This is like the master key that unlocks all of your potential in life.
因为只有当你意识到，决定你生活质量、影响你所做一切、解决所有问题和痛苦的最重要因素是精通你心灵内在软件时。 Because it's only when you realize that the most important thing for determining the quality of your life and everything you do and solving all of your problems and suffering is mastering the internal software of your mind.
当你意识到这一点，你就拥有巨大的力量。 When you realize that, now you have so much power.
现在，所有这些潜力都展现在你面前。 Now there's all this potential that opens up.
你不再是受害者。 Now you're no longer a victim.
而在另一种情况下，你几乎无能为力。 Whereas in the other case, there's very little you can do.
你很容易陷入困境。 You get stuck very easily.
下一个核心原则是终身学习和自我教育。 The next core principle is lifelong learning and self-education.
你需要成为一名终身学习者。 You need to become a lifelong learner.
你需要对学习充满激情。 You need to become passionate about learning.
对于你的教育，你必须要完全负责。 And your education, you've got to take full responsibility for it.
要对教育负责并积极主动。 And take ownership of it and be proactive about it.
不要等待老师让你完成作业或阅读一本书。 Don't wait for a teacher to get you to do some homework assignment or to read a book.
不要等待某个课程或培训来教你东西。 Don't wait for some program or some training to teach you something.
走出去、积极主动地了解生活。 Go out there and proactively learn about life.
这个原则至关重要的原因是，当你出生时，对于这个世界，你一无所知。 And the reason this principle is so paramount is because when you're born, you have no information about the world.
你不知道这个世界是如何运转的，或者它是什么，你在这里做什么。 You don't know how the world works or what it is or what you're doing here.
所以你必须开始学习。 So you've got to start to learn.
而这个学习过程将会贯穿你的整个生命。 And this process of learning will continue for the rest of your life.
这不仅仅发生在学校，也不仅仅发生在大学里。 It's not just school. It's not just university.
事实上，这一切只是你整个教育生涯的开端，真正的起点是在大学毕业后。 In fact, all of that was just the beginning of your entire educational career, which only really takes off after you graduate university.
所以，当然，这意味着要多读很多书。 So, of course, this means reading lots of books.
你应该期望在未来五到十年内读一百到两百本书。 You should expect to read a hundred or two hundred books over the next five or ten years.
这绝对是非常重要的。 This is going to be absolutely essential.
通过这些书籍，你将学到各种观点、技巧、陷阱、错误、教训、原则。 It's through these books that you will learn various perspectives, techniques, traps, mistakes, lessons, principles.
You'll be exposed to new ideas, to new cultures, to history, to things you haven't ever heard about anywhere else.
The quality and detail of information that's presented in books, a quality book,
will be much greater than what you see in a video or on television or on some social media website.
And you need that. You need that solid, high quality, reliable information to get you started.
These are like your leads. These books are the source of leads for you as to what you should be pursuing and what techniques can work for you and so forth.
这些书能帮助你了解你的问题所在。 And these books help you to understand what your problems are.
你要知道，挑战的一部分是你甚至还不明白自己存在的问题。 See, part of the challenge is that you have problems that you don't even understand you have yet.
要花很多时间阅读才能意识到这一点。 Takes a lot of reading just to realize that.
但不仅限于读书。你还需要参加课程、研讨会、讲习班。 But also, don't stop at books. You also need to take courses, seminars, workshops.
现在有许多网上课程可以选择，涵盖几乎你想要学习的任何主题。 There are many online courses that are available these days on almost any topic that you would want to learn about.
您可以参加现场研讨会和讲习班，这对参与非常重要。 You can find in-person seminars and workshops, which are super important to go to.
在线观看视频形式的研讨会或讲习班与亲临现场参加有着很大的区别。 There's a very big difference between watching a workshop or seminar online in video form and actually going to one live in person.
参加同一场研讨会或讲习班的现场活动，您将获得十倍的收获，而不是作为视频观看。 You'll get ten times more from going to the exact same workshop or seminar live rather than watching it as a video.
不要在自我教育方面心存吝啬。 Do not be cheap with your self-education.
正是因为您认识到终身学习原则如此重要，所以愿意投资于学习。 It's because you recognize that this principle is so important, lifelong learning, that you are willing to invest in your learning.
你愿意为课程、研讨会和工作坊支付数百甚至数千美元。 You're willing to pay hundreds and sometimes thousands of dollars for courses, seminars, workshops.
你每年愿意投资500到1000美元购买一大堆新书。 You're willing to invest $500 to $1000 every year in buying a bunch of new books.
另外一个关于终身学习的重点是，我们仍在讨论终身学习的这一个原则， And an additional point about this lifelong learning, we're still talking about just this one principle of lifelong learning,
你需要开发一个系统来记笔记和整理你将要调研和学习的所有内容。 is you need to develop a system for taking notes and for organizing all of this stuff that you're going to be researching and learning.
因为你将学会各种技巧、思想和原则，词汇，所有这一切。 Because you're going to have various techniques and ideas and principles that you're learning, vocabulary words, all of this.
你需要想办法将它们一起编译。 And you're going to have to compile it together in some way.
一个系统。如果你想知道如何做到这一点，请看一下我关于如何保持普通书的一集。 A system. If you want an idea for how to do that, check out my episode about how to keep a commonplace book.
这是我使用的系统。 That's my system that I use.
下一个核心原理是观察。 The next core principle is observation.
观察是生活的关键之一。 Observation is one of the keys to life.
学习的本质是观察。 The essence of learning is observation.
你是如何学到任何东西的？ How do you learn anything?
通过长时间地、非常耐心地、非常系统地观察它。 By observing it for a long period of time, very patiently, very methodically.
一遍又一遍地。 Over and over and over again.
观察的力量是巨大的，远超出任何人的想象。 The power of observation is enormous. Way more than anyone would ever imagine.
Which is why you can spend years and decades doing very careful and painstaking observation.
And observation is the solution to the problem of ideology and dogma and various kinds of belief systems that you get trapped in.
Observation is the antidote to being lost inside your own mind.
What you need to do is to observe.
And that's why science, to the extent that science is successful,
科学之所以对社会有益处是因为它专注于观察。 and has some good benefits for society is because science focuses on observation.
但现在，你需要把这个原则作为自己的准则。 But now you need to take that on as a principle for yourself.
仅仅让科学为你观察并向你报告结果是不够的。 It's not enough to have science observe for you and then to report the results to you.
你需要成为生活和现实的敏锐观察者。 You need to become a keen observer of life and of reality.
观察一切。观察人。观察动物。观察自然。观察树木。 Observe everything. Observe people. Observe animals. Observe nature. Observe trees.
观察自己的行为。观察自己的思维过程。 Observe your own behaviors. Observe your own thinking process.
观察你的动机，你的恐惧。观察你的问题和神经官能症。 Observe your motivations, your fears. Observe your problems and neuroses.
观察当你受苦时。观察当你痛苦时。观察当你快乐时。 Observe when you suffer. Observe when you're in pain. Observe when you're happy.
观察是什么激发你的动力。观察是什么让你沮丧。 Observe what makes you motivated. Observe what makes you depressed.
仔细观察所有这些，通过这个过程你将了解自己，了解世界，了解人类，了解商业。 Carefully observe all of that and through this process you will learn about yourself, you will learn about the world, you will learn about mankind, you will learn about business.
观察。观察任何事物，你会对其进行更精细的区分，并且了解该事物的运作方式。 Anything. Anything you observe you will make finer grain distinctions in and you will learn how that thing works.
因此，观察当然与我们早前的直接体验即王者原则相关。 So, observation is related of course to our earlier principle of direct experience as king.
观察与直接体验紧密相连。 Observation goes hand in hand with direct experience.
而其相反是相信别人告诉你的事情。 And the opposite of that is believing what other people tell you.
因此，要真正能够实践我在actualize.org上教授的东西，你需要进行大量的观察。 So, to really be able to embody the things that I teach with actualize.org you need to do an enormous amount of observation.
多年来对我谈论的一切进行观察。 Years of observation on everything that I talk about.
因此，在剧集中我谈论的事情，您必须亲自观察，并在您自己的生活中看到，噢，是的，这就是它的运作方式。 So, the things I talk about in the episode then you got to go and actually observe it in your own life and see that, oh yes, this is exactly how it works.
或者您可能意识到，不，Leo说的运作方式并不完全正确。 Or maybe you'll realize, no, it's not quite how Leo said it works.
也许他只是一半正确，但我观察到另一半是运作方式与他说的不同。明白了吗？ Maybe he was only half right but the other half I've observed that it works differently than what he said. See?
这可能发生，因为您知道，我的观察绝不是完美的。 And that can happen because you know what, my observation is not perfect by any means.
观察到现实的许多不同方面，难以观察到其中的百分之百，真是令人叹为观止。 There's so much to observe about so many different facets of reality that it's hard to observe a hundred percent of all of it.
因此，如果你想要认真观察，就会观察到一些我谈到的事情，而我自己却没有观察到的地方。 So, you're bound to, if you're going to be seriously observing, observe some things about the things I talk about that I was not able to observe.
通过观察，见识才会涌现。 And it's through observation that insights come.
下一个密切相关的原则是计划每天余生中花费一个小时进行冥想。 The next closely related principle is plan to meditate for one hour every day for the rest of your life.
你已经开始冥想修行了吗？ Do you have meditation practice yet?
为什么不呢？我告诉过你很多次，冥想是你为个人发展做的最重要的事情之一。 Why not? How many times have I told you that meditation is one of the most important things you can do for your personal development?
这是一个基石习惯。你需要养成这个习惯。 It's a cornerstone habit. You need to install this habit.
不要从一个小时开始，先从10、20分钟开始，尽管你可以扩大，但最终你应该建立期望，你将每天冥想一个小时，终其一生。 Don't start with an hour, start with 10, 20 minutes, whatever you can but eventually you got to build up and you should already have the expectations in place that you're going to be meditating for one hour every day for the rest of your life.
这是不可商量的。你只是要去做，并且会享受它。 This is not negotiable. You're just going to do it and you're going to enjoy it.
在你开始享受之前会花一些时间，但你应该已经设想你会享受它。 It'll take you a while before you start to enjoy it but you should already be envisioning that you're going to be enjoying it.
现在，为什么要冥想呢？因为冥想实际上就是观察。 Now, why meditation? Well, because meditation is really just observation.
当你在冥想时，你只是坐在那里，观察着当前的时刻。 When you're meditating, you're just sitting there and you're observing the present moment.
而且，这再次将我们带回到早期的直接体验为王的原则。 And again, that ties us back to the earlier principle of direct experience as king.
什么是冥想？它就是对当前时刻发生的一切的纯粹直接体验。 What is meditation? It's just pure direct experience of whatever is happening in the present moment.
就是这样。"; That's all that it is.
你只是观察，注意自己的思维功能、各种身体感觉和情绪。 And you're just observing and you're observing the function of your own mind, various body sensations and emotions that you're having.
只有通过冥想的观察过程，你才能了解自己以及你的身体和思维是如何工作的。 And it's only through this observation process through meditation that you're going to be able to understand yourself and how your body and mind work.
通过多年的仔细和辛苦的观察。 Through years of careful and painstaking observation.
这就是为什么大多数灵性教导不能直接与人联系的原因。 And this is why most spiritual teachings cannot be directly related to people.
为什么你无法出售灵性进步，无法出售心理成熟，无法出售智慧。 And why you can't sell spiritual advancement and you can't sell psychological maturity and you can't sell wisdom.
你不能向人们出售这些东西，因为他们获得这些东西的唯一途径是通过必须进行的观察工作来获得这些洞察和理解。 You can't sell these things to people because the only way they can get those things is by doing the observational work that's required to have those insights and understandings.
拥有那种经验基础。 To have that base of experience.
你看，就像你给我的任何金额都不能让我把你变成一个像大师般的钢琴演奏家。 You see, it's like no amount of money could you give me to be able to make you into like a master piano player.
你成为一名大师钢琴演奏家的唯一途径是通过经历所有大师钢琴演奏家所经历的直接经验、练习和观察。 The only way you can become a master piano player is by going through all the direct experience and practice and observation that a master piano player has.
这使他成为一位大师。 That makes him a master.
现在将这个思想应用到你的身体、头脑和生活中。 And so now apply this though to your body and your mind and your life.
无论你听我说多少，或者花多少钱请我，都无法替代你需要理解自己头脑和身体机能的观察经验。 No amount of listening to me or paying me any amount of money will get you the experience, the observational experience that you need to understand the functioning of your own mind and body.
这点非常关键。 This is absolutely critical.
这就是为什么心灵成长如此困难，因为大多数人只是不愿意进行观察式工作。 This is why spiritual growth is so difficult because most people just don't do the observation work.
这需要大量的时间和精力，而且困难、乏味，有时也会令人痛苦，你必须熬过去。 It takes a lot of time and energy and it's difficult and it's boring and sometimes it's painful and you suffer through it.
有时候你会观察到一些让你感到恐慌的事情。 And sometimes you observe things which freak you out.
你观察到现实中与你所有意识形态和信仰背道而驰的事物，与你年轻时所接受的所有程序设计相悖。 You observe things about reality which run counter to all your ideologies and beliefs and all the programming you got when you were younger.
这让你感到恐慌。 And that freaks you out.
而当你真正擅长冥想时，那会使你能够进入神秘状态。 And then when you become really good at meditation that enables you to access mystical states.
更高层次的意识，非普通的意识状态，这里才是真正有力量的成长所在，对于拥有美好生活是绝对必要的。 Higher states of consciousness, non-ordinary states of consciousness which is where all the really powerful gains lie and which is absolutely essential for developing a good life.
但是对于大多数人来说，要到那里需要多年的实践。 But it takes years to get there, years of practice to get there for most people.
下一个核心原则是自我是一切人类问题和痛苦的根源。 The next core principle is that ego is the root of all human problems and suffering.
而自我只是指你的那种感觉。 And ego is just that sense of you.
自我是你作为那个人类的感觉，你将有一天会死去。 Ego is a sense that you were born as that human being right there and that you will die one day.
那种你与你所拥有的那个生物体和心灵的身份以及关于你出生、上学和遇到所有这些问题的个人故事的认同，现在你坐在那里就是作为这个物质生物。 That, your identity with that biological body and mind that you have and your personal story about the fact that you were born, you went to school and you had all these problems and now here you are sitting there as this material creature.
这就是自我，所有个人和集体的问题和痛苦都源于此。 That's ego and from that stem all human problems and suffering both individual and collective.
这是一个超级强大的原则。 This is a super powerful principle.
这个原则基本上解释了你自己和全人类。 This one principle basically explains all of yourself and all of mankind.
关于这个原则有很多值得讨论的地方，我在过去的许多集数中已经谈到了许多。 And there's so much to be said about this and I have said quite a lot about it throughout many episodes in the past.
基本上每一集我谈到的话题都或多或少涉及到这个原则。 And basically every episode I talk about touches upon this principle in one form or another.
下一个与之密切相关的原则是自欺。 The next principle which is closely related is self-deception.
自欺是你在生活中需要担心的最大问题。 Self-deception is the biggest thing you need to be worried about in life.
你自己的思维如何欺骗你、诱骗你和欺骗你。 How your own mind lies to you and tricks you and deceives you.
自我意识腐蚀了一切接触到的东西。 The ego mind corrupts everything that it comes in contact with.
比你欺骗他人和蒙骗他人更甚的是，你欺骗自己。 And even more so than you lie to others and that you deceive others, you deceive yourself.
我还有一整个三部曲的系列节目，名为“自我欺骗”，其中我列举了我在过去五至十年中研究的许多自我欺骗机制。 And I have a whole three part episode series called self-deception where I list many self-deception mechanisms that I've been studying over the last five or ten years.
这就是你自己的大脑如何欺骗你的方式。 It's how your own mind tricks you.
你需要非常非常非常擅长看清楚自己的自我欺骗。 You need to get very very very good at seeing your own self-deceptions.
不是别人的自我欺骗，而是你自己的。 Not so much the self-deceptions of others but of yourself.
因为你看到，如果我们试图找到真相，如果我们真的试图在一个大局的层面上真正理解现实。 Because you see if we're trying to get to the truth, if we're trying to really understand reality at a big picture level.
这意味着我们必须面对最大的障碍，那就是自我欺骗。 That means that we have to contend with the biggest obstacle which is self-deception.
因为自我欺骗导致妄念和虚假。 Because self-deception leads to delusion and to falsehood.
所以你最大的障碍就是你自己的思维。 So that's your greatest obstacle is your own mind.
当然，这与之前的原则相联系，即内心的游戏是解决所有问题最重要的事情。 And of course this connects with the earlier principle of that inner game is the most important thing for solving all of your problems.
因为你所有的问题基本上都源于在你的脑海中潜藏的各种自我欺骗，而你对此尚未意识到。 Because all of your problems basically stem for various kinds of self-deceptions that are running inside of your mind which you aren't conscious of yet.
下一个密切相关的原则是自我偏见。 The next closely related principle is self-bias.
您需要认识并能够看清自己内心的自私和自我偏见。 You need to recognize and be able to see within yourself your own selfishness and your own self-bias.
您需要看到您的自我意识或小写 s 的自我是如何扭曲它所感知的一切，因为自我存在的整个目的是生存。 You need to see how your ego mind or the self, lowercase s self, distorts everything that it perceives because the whole purpose of the self is to survive.
因此，您总是会寻找和干预情况，并以一种能够为自己服务的方式来操纵情况。 And therefore you're always going to be looking and interacting with situations and manipulating situations in such a way that it's going to serve yourself.
因此，您的感知系统具有自我偏见，充满利益冲突和双重标准。 And therefore your perceptual system is self-biased, filled with conflicts of interest and double standards.
所以一个非常简单的自我偏见的例子就是，你知道，如果我是一个罪犯，像抢了一家杂货店， So a very simple example of self-bias is that, you know, if I'm a criminal and like I robbed a grocery store,
在审判中，我不能允许自己充当法官和陪审团，因为我会有自我偏见倾向让自己脱罪。 I can't be allowed to be my own judge and jury at the trial because I would have a self-bias of setting myself free.
我会为自己没有犯罪的种种理由和借口进行辩解。 I would create all sorts of justifications and excuses for why I didn't commit the crime.
这就是为什么法官必须在试图案件时，如果与案件有任何实质性的关联，就必须自动回避。 Which is why judges have to recuse themselves if they have any kind of material connection with the case that they're trying.
否则自我偏见就会介入其中。 Because otherwise self-bias is going to creep in there.
当然，这只是自我偏见运作方式中冰山一角。 But of course this is just one little tip of the iceberg of how self-bias works.
这些都是一些明显的例子。它们是自我偏见运作方式中非常微妙的例子。 These are some gross examples. They are very subtle examples of how self-bias works.
基本上你所有的意识形态、信仰以及你认为的一切都总是被自身需求所影响。 Basically all of your ideologies and beliefs and everything you perceive out there is always biased by your own needs.
你的自我需求，你的生存需求。 Your egoic needs, your survival needs.
因此你的人际关系受到自我偏见影响，你的事业受到自我偏见影响，你的政治态度也受到自我偏见影响等等。 So your relationships are self-biased, your business is self-biased, your attitudes politically are self-biased and so on and so forth.
而且所有这一切都在阻止你无法获取你需要过上美好生活所需的真相。 And all of this is preventing you from being able to access the truth which you need to live the good life.
因此，你需要解除所有那些自我偏见，或者至少要非常意识到它们。 So you need to unwire all of those self-biases or at the very least become very conscious of them.
下一个核心原则是所有的恐惧、所有的评判、所有的邪恶、所有的愤怒和所有的痛苦都是虚幻和错误的。 The next core principle is that all fear, all judgment, all evil, all anger and all suffering are delusion and falsehood.
这一点非常重要。这是一个将帮助你减少很多痛苦的重要原则。 This is huge. This is a huge principle which will save you so much suffering.
所有的恐惧、评判、邪恶、愤怒和痛苦都是虚幻的。 All fear, judgment, evil, anger and suffering is delusion.
这意味着每当你经历这些情况，当然你不喜欢经历这些，并且你想找到一个不再经历这些的方法。 That means anytime you're experiencing those and of course you don't enjoy experiencing those and you want a way to not experience those anymore.
那么，你开始变得更加自觉，并意识到所有这些都是虚假的，都源自虚假。 Well, you start to have to become more conscious and realize just how much all of that is falsehood and it stems from falsehood.
所以，我们之所以如此渴望追寻真相，除了我们对真相感到好奇之外。 So the reason that we want to pursue truth so much aside from the fact that we're just genuinely curious about it.
而且这也是因为如果我们发现真相，我们会意识到恐惧、评判、邪恶、愤怒和苦难都是虚假的。 But it's also because if we do discover the truth then we will realize that fear, judgment, evil, anger and suffering have all been false.
这正是我们需要过上美好生活的原因。 And that's precisely what we need to live the good life.
当你活在恐惧中，总是在评判他人，看到世界上的邪恶，感到愤怒时，就无法过上美好生活。 You can't live the good life while you're in fear, while you're judging all the time, while you see evil out there in the world, while you're angry.
而当你痛苦时，根据定义，那就是糟糕的生活。 And while you're suffering. By definition that's the bad life.
所以，糟糕的生活与虚假相伴，而美好的生活与真理相得益彰。 So the bad life goes with falsehood and the good life goes with truth.
另一个密切相关的原则是不要妖魔化任何人。 Another closely related principle here is do not demonize anyone.
一切妖魔化也是一种错觉。 All demonization is delusion as well.
无论何时你认为外面的某个人是邪恶的，你都是错的。 Anytime you think somebody out there is evil, you're wrong.
这是心灵的一种自欺机制之一。 This is one of the self-deception mechanisms of the mind.
它试图讲其他人、群体、实体或组织妖魔化。 It's to try to demonize others or groups of people or entities or organizations.
与此有关的一个原则是现实是完美的。 Somewhat of a related principle is that reality is perfect.
现实中完全没有任何问题。 There is nothing at all wrong with reality.
如果你觉得世界上有什么不对劲，那是因为你内在的游戏以及你看待事物的方式。 If you think that something is wrong in the world, it's because of your inner game and how you're looking at it.
并不是因为它实际上是错误的，或者实际上是坏的，或者实际上是邪恶的。 Not because it actually is wrong or it actually is bad or it actually is evil.
现实实际上是完美的。 Reality is literally perfect.
但只有当你达到极高意识水平时，你才能意识到这一点，并且它才会开始听起来像是现实，而不仅仅是一种神秘的幻想。 But you can only appreciate that and it will only start sounding like something that's real and not just woo woo wishful thinking at enormously high levels of consciousness.
所以你可能需要数年甚至几十年的时间来经历足够多的神秘体验，最终意识到现实是完美的。 So it will take you years and perhaps decades to have enough mystical experiences to ultimately realize that reality is perfect.
在那之前，嗯，你得相信我说的。 Until then, well, you're sort of just going to have to take my word for it.
但这是一个强大的原则，因为你可以利用它来改变和成长。 But this is a powerful principle because you can use it to change and grow yourself.
所以在你生活中任何时候，当你发现有什么让你烦恼或困扰，并认为它本应该不是这样，或者那个人做错了什么， So anytime in your life that you're finding something that is bothering you or annoying you and you think it should be otherwise and that this is wrong or that person is doing something wrong,
你可以随时提醒自己，等一下。 you can always remind yourself, wait a minute.
但我知道心底那个声音告诉我，现实是完美的。 But I know in the back of my mind that reality is perfect.
也许我还没有像莱昂说的那样有过神秘体验，但我能直觉到一些关于那个的东西。 Maybe I haven't had the mystical experience yet to experience that like Leo says, but I can intuit something about that.
也许在我看待这种情况、看待这个人的方式上有一些问题。 And so maybe there's something wrong with me the way that I'm looking at this situation, the way I'm looking at this person.
我是如何在已经存在的完美之中创造出不完美的呢？ How am I creating the imperfection out of the perfection that's already there?
这是一个强大的原则，可以帮助你改变对事物的感受。 It's a powerful principle that you can use to change your feelings about things.
现在，我将要给你介绍的下面四个原则非常重要。 Now, the next four principles that I'm going to give you are very important ones.
生活意义将以四种不同方式来看待。 And there are going to be four different ways of looking at the purpose of life.
生活的目的是什么？ What is the purpose of life?
关于生命的目的，我们可以说很多，我之前已经谈论过这个话题。 So the purpose of life, there's a lot we could say about this, and I've said stuff in the past about it.
但基本上，这里有四种不同的生活目的。 But basically, here are four different purposes of life.
这些是非常宏大的、有助于引导你应该为生活做什么的大局观目的。 These are very overarching big picture purposes which help to orient you as to what you should be doing in your life.
所以，生命的第一个目的是提升你的意识水平。 So, the first purpose of life is to raise your consciousness.
这应该是你从现在开始，每一天都要关心的事情。 That should be something that you're concerned with every single day of your life from now on.
生命的第二个目的是提升你的爱的能力。 The second purpose of life is to raise your capacity to love.
要拥抱整个经历的光谱，不仅仅是好的经历、甜蜜愉快的经历，还有一切。 To embrace the full spectrum of experience, not just the good experiences and the sweet and pleasant ones, but everything.
提升你对一切和每个人的爱的能力。 Raise your capacity to love everything and everyone.
人生第三个目的是珍藏生活的美好。 The third purpose of life is to take in the beauty of life.
你有注意到这一切有多美吗？ Have you noticed how beautiful it all is?
当然，美丽存在于各种形式之中。 But of course, there's also a spectrum of beauty.
当你去博物馆欣赏一幅优美的毕加索画作，或者去优胜美地这样的国家公园欣赏壮丽的山川树木和日落，那一切皆是美丽的。 And it's very easy to see the beauty when you go to a museum and you look at a fine Picasso painting,
很容易在美术馆或国家公园中看到美丽的景观。 or you go to some national park like Yosemite and you look at the beautiful mountains and trees and the sunset, and that's beautiful.
这是一种相对容易看到的美。 That's the kind of beauty that's sort of easy to see.
但你能看到日常生活中的美吗，能看到最平凡的事物吗？ But can you see the beauty of everyday life, of the most mundane things?
你能看到你的身体的美丽，你的双手的美丽吗？ Can you see the beauty of your body, of your hands?
你能看到墙上的美吗？ Can you see the beauty on the wall?
你能看到那支铅笔的美丽，那盏灯的美丽，地毯的美丽，这个房间的美丽，社会的美丽，人类的美丽，甚至丑陋事物的美丽吗？ Can you see the beauty of that pencil, of that lamp, of the carpet, of this room, the beauty of society, the beauty of mankind, the beauty of even the ugly things?
如果你仔细想想，这真的是美好生活的精髓。 That really is, if you think about it, the essence of a good life.
过上最美好的生活实际上就是时刻随时随地看到美丽，并意识到美丽的存在。 To live the greatest life possible is really just none other than to see beauty everywhere all the time and to be conscious of that.
但你必须加以训练，因为社会训练你要做评判，要挑剔，不喜欢丑陋的东西，只喜欢所有爱所涵盖的百分之一的东西。 But you have to train yourself because society has trained you to be judgmental and to pick and choose and to not like the ugly stuff and to only like 1% of the full spectrum of all the stuff that there is to love.
这需要放下自我。 That requires surrendering your ego.
明白吗？自我并不想去热爱，看到一切美好的事物。 See? The ego doesn't want to love and see the beauty of everything.
它想要挑三拣四。 It wants to cherry pick.
因此，你的工作就是不断地交出更多、更多、更多，不断地吸收更多美丽的事物。 And so your job is to surrender that more and more and more and to take in more of the beauty all the time.
这样你就不会有一天只是路过生活，只是在工作中度过，只是打卡上下班，只是赚钱，只是做一些生意，只是照顾孩子，只是做饭，而与这一切美好脱节。 So that you don't have a day where you go by in your life where you're just going through the motions, just going to work, just punching the clock, just earning some money, just doing some business, just taking care of the kids, just cooking a meal, but you're disconnected from the beauty of it all.
非常仔细的观察和冥想最终会教会你的是，它们会教会你发现最简单事物的美。 And that's what very careful observation and meditation will ultimately teach you is they will teach you the beauty of the most simple things.
就像看着你的手，看到手的设计和功能之美。 Just like looking at your hands and seeing the enormous beauty in the design of your hands and how they function.
你知道，你可以坐在那里凝视数小时。 You know, you can sit there for hours marveling at this.
但这只有通过长时间的训练才能做到，而这并不是靠打游戏和看Netflix的日常饮食能够达到的。 But only after enormous training that doesn't come to you from a diet of playing video games and watching Netflix for your whole life.
你是无法做到的。 You're not going to be able to do that.
要花几年的时间训练自己，摆脱看Netflix和玩视频游戏的饮食习惯，才能够看到非常简单事物的美丽之处。 It'll take years to untrain yourself from that Netflix video game diet to be able to see the beauty of very simple things.
你知道，一般人走在人行道上，看到一些狗屎时，他们是看不到其中的美丽的。 You know, the average person when they're walking on the sidewalk and they see some dog poo, they can't see the beauty in that.
你需要训练自己去发现美好。 And you need to train yourself to see the beauty in that.
无论需要做出什么牺牲，你都要去发现美好。 And whatever it takes that you need to surrender to see the beauty in that.
这是你的工作。 That's your work.
这是你生命中最崇高的目标之一。 That's one of your highest purposes in life.
你知道，昨晚我像平常一样深夜驾车。 You know, I was driving yesterday late at night like I like to do.
我晚上在拉斯维加斯四处兜风，仅仅看着灯光，一边开车一边冥想和沉思。 I drive around Las Vegas late at night just looking at the lights and just contemplating and meditating while I drive.
事实上，我最喜欢在开车时冥想。 Actually, I love to meditate while I drive the most.
所以我开车，绕着拉斯维加斯整个城市转一圈。大约需要一个半小时。 So I drive, I do this whole loop around Las Vegas. It takes about an hour and a half.
这大概是80英里左右。 It's probably like 80 miles or so.
我晚上环绕整个城市兜风。 I drive around the entire city late at night.
我当时正在开车，有一段我通常经过的路上有施工正在进行。 And I was driving and there was like some part on the road where I usually drive where there was like construction going on.
我对此感到恼火。我想，“哦，我本来可以享受宁静的驾驶，却要忍受这些深夜进行的施工破坏。” And I got annoyed by that. I'm thinking like, "Oh, I got this peaceful drive and I have to deal with all this construction nonsense that's happening late at night."
但后来我意识到，“等一下，我为什么不欣赏这一切呢？” But then I also realized like, "Oh, wait a minute. Why am I not taking in the beauty of all of this?"
我的意思是，这其实是美丽的。比如施工标志，它们也有某种美感，还有工人们的劳作，他们在建造这个出口或入口，或者其他什么设施。 I mean, it's beautiful. Like the construction signs, there's certain beauty to them and people working, you know, the way they're constructing this off-ramp or on-ramp or whatever it is.
其中蕴含一种美，然后你会意识到，“哦，这就是社会啊。” There's a certain beauty to that and then you kind of just see that, "Oh, this is society."
这有点像蚂蚁在小蚁群上工作，你知道，在路上建造什么。 It's sort of like almost like ants working on the little ant colony, you know, building something on the road.
所以你看到了那种美。而通常我会因此感到烦恼。 And so like you see that beauty. Whereas normally I would get annoyed by that.
在这里，我看到了它的美，它完全改变了那种体验。 Here I saw the beauty of it and it completely transformed that experience.
因此，你需要在越来越困难的情况下不断学会做到这一点。 So you need to get good at doing that all the time in more and more difficult situations.
你知道，当你面对影响你的生存需求的情况时，很难看到美。 You know, it's very difficult to see the beauty when you're dealing with a situation that is affecting your survival needs.
这就是大部分心灵工作发生的地方。 So that's where most spiritual work happens, right there.
生命的第四个目的是每天都感到活着。 And the fourth purpose of life is to feel alive every day.
积极地生活。不要有一天，你只是在经历一些无聊的模式。 To live proactively. To not have a single day where you're just, like I said, going through some boring motions.
只是度过又一个典型的日子。只是在敷衍了事，像个机器人一样。 Just kind of doing another typical day. Just kind of phoning it in and being robotic.
真正地感受活着的感觉。那种参与的感觉。你想要充满激情和活力。 To actually feel alive. That feeling of engagement. You want to be passionate and alive.
无论需要做什么，如果这意味着你需要更多的旅行，那就去做吧。 So whatever that takes, if that takes you doing more travel, then do that.
如果这需要你拥有一份更好的工作来资助你的旅行，那就去做吧。 And if that requires you have a better job in order to finance your travel, then do that.
当然，为了感受到活着，也意味着更加自觉。 But of course, to feel alive, also what that means is being more conscious.
在生活方式上变得更少机械，更少刻板。 Being less robotic and less mechanical in the way that you live.
下一个原则是建立你与现实的形而上学联系。 The next principle is to build your metaphysical connection to reality.
我在我的视频《什么是灵性？》中明确谈到了这一点。 I've talked about this explicitly in my video called "What is Spirituality?"
现在我们可以将这个原则重新表述为“只追求灵性”或“做一个有灵性的人”。 So we can rephrase now this principle as "Just pursue spirituality" or "Be spiritual."
而这意味着发展你与现实的连接。你的形而上学连接。 And what that means is developing your connection to reality. Your metaphysical connection.
这意味着意味着意识到你不仅仅是某种生物，某种哺乳动物的肉囊， And what that means is that means realizing that you're not just some creature, some mammalian meat bag,
生活在围绕太阳旋转的这块岩石上，而是你就是整个宇宙。 who is living on this rock that's rotating around the sun, but rather that you are the entire universe.
你不是存在之中的一个对象，你就是存在本身。 You're not an object that is within existence, you are existence itself.
当我站在这里意识到我是整个宇宙，这仅可能通过所有形而上的思考。 To realize that I am the whole universe as I stand here, that is only possible through all of the metaphysical contemplations
以及我多年来进行的各种冥想。 and various meditations that I have done for many many years.
这种意识正开始在我内心发展，并且只会变得越来越强大。 And that is starting to develop within me and it's only going to develop more and more and more.
随着这种变化的发生，你的生活将变得更加美好。 And the more that happens, the better your life becomes.
因为现在你感觉到生活不仅仅是为了生存和为他人做家务； Because now you feel like life is not just about living and surviving and doing chores for people,
而是真正地与自己以及整个宇宙连接得更深更深。 but it's really just about connecting more and more with yourself as the entire universe.
并且更加意识到这一点。 And being more conscious of that.
下一个核心原则是逆直觉性。 The next core principle is counter-intuitive-ness.
这是一个如此深刻的观点和话题。将来我将专门就此展开一整集的节目。 This is such a profound point and topic. I'll have a whole episode about it in the future.
这意味着现实是非常违反直觉的。 What it means is that reality is deeply counter-intuitive.
生活中几乎每一个有价值的目标， Almost every facet of anything worthwhile that you want to accomplish in life,
你都会注意到其中的违反直觉之处。 you're going to notice the counter-intuitive-ness of it.
这意味着现实会与你认为的方式相反地运作。 That means that reality is going to work the opposite of how you think it will work.
直到你有了足够的经验。 Until you get a lot of experience with it.
所以举个例子，如果你是一个试图吸引女性的男人， So for example, if you're a man trying to attract a woman,
一个漂亮的女人， a beautiful woman,
吸引一个漂亮的女人是非常反直觉的，因为你必须做与你认为会吸引她相反的事情。 attracting a beautiful woman is very counter-intuitive because you have to do the opposite of what you think you would have to do to attract her.
你可能会认为你必须走过去吹嘘，炫耀你的肌肉等等。 You would think that you'd have to go up and brag to her and show off your big muscles and all that.
而事实上，如果你这样做，实际上会击退她。 And counter-intuitively if you do that, you're actually going to repel her.
这需要很多经验来摒弃你一开始天真的直觉，学习真正的运作方式。 And that takes a lot of experience to unlearn that naive intuition that you had and to learn how it really works.
另一个例子就是商业。 Another example is for example business.
在商业中赚钱并取得成功，你必须做的是与你想当然的相反。 In business to earn money and be successful, you have to do the opposite of what you would think.
比如，你可能会认为在商业中赚大钱的最佳方式就是全面营销给所有人。 Like for example, you might think in business the best way to earn a bunch of money is just to market to everybody.
争取尽可能多的关注。 As many eyeballs as possible.
让我的消息尽可能通用，以吸引绝大多数人。 Make my message as most generic as possible so it appeals to absolutely everybody.
但如果你在当今的商业环境中这样做，实际上会导致失败。 But if you do that in business these days, what's going to happen is that actually you're going to fail.
更好的方法是缩小你的领域和焦点，仅针对非常狭窄的特定人群进行广告宣传、销售和产品定位。 It's much better to narrow your niche and your focus and to only target your advertising and sales and your product to a very narrow specific group of people.
比整个人口不到1%。 Like less than 1% of the entire population.
尽管你可能认为这样做会让我疏远99%的人。 And you would think that but Leo, that means I'm alienating 99% of people.
是的，但你将要转换另外那1%。 Yes, but you're going to convert that other 1%.
而如果你尝试迎合所有人，最终却谁也无法转换。 Whereas if you try to appeal to everybody, you're going to convert nobody.
这只是在商业中你将不得不发现的众多违反直觉的事情之一。 And that's just one of the many counterintuitive things that you'll have to discover in business.
关系也是非常违反直觉的。 Relationships are also very counterintuitive.
幸福，对幸福的追求是违反直觉的。 Happiness, the pursuit of happiness is counterintuitive.
恐惧是违反直觉的。 Fear is counterintuitive.
情绪是违反直觉的。 Emotions are counterintuitive.
就像我说的，我指的是生活的方方面面都是如此违反直觉。 Like I said, I mean literally like every aspect of life is so counterintuitive.
它的运作方式与最初你所想的完全相反。 It works the opposite of what you would initially think how it would work.
实际上，这也衍生出一个原则，尽管听起来有些愚蠢，但这是一个非常强大的原则。 And so actually a corollary principle to this is, and this is a very powerful principle as almost stupid as it sounds.
做别人不做的事情。 Do the opposite of what everybody else is doing.
我无法向你解释我在生活中遵循这个原则获得的巨大优势。 I can't explain to you just how much leverage I've gotten out of following this one principle in my life.
有时，我会看到大多数人通常做的事情，然后纯粹基于这个原则，做相反的事情。 Sometimes I will literally just see what is the common thing people do and I'll just do the opposite just based on this principle.
纯粹基于这个原则。 Purely on this principle.
原因是，我知道大多数人所做的事情既不能让他们快乐，也不能让他们成功。 And the reason that is because I know that what most people are doing isn't making them happy nor is it making them successful.
大多数人所做的是在生活的各个领域取得非常平庸的成果。 What most people are doing is they're getting very mediocre results in all areas of life.
所以如果我做他们所做的，我预计我会得到平庸的结果。 And so if I do what they do, I expect I'll get mediocrity.
所以几乎默认情况下，我所做的是尝试成为一个持不同意见者，做相反的事情。 So almost as a default, what I do is I just try to be a contrarian and do the opposite.
大多数人在冥想吗？不，所以我会冥想。 Are most people meditating? No, so I'll meditate.
大多数人在服用致幻剂吗？不，所以我会服用致幻剂。 Are most people taking psychedelics? No, so I'll take psychedelics.
大多数人都在努力寻找自己的人生目标吗？不，所以我会去做。 Are most people working hard to discover their life purpose? No, so I'll do that.
当然你可以找到例外情况，所以我不建议机械地应用这一点，像, Now of course you can find exceptions to this so I wouldn't recommend applying this in a robotic way like,
所以按照这个逻辑，是不是意味着大多数人不吸食海洛因所以我应该吸食海洛因？ 不，当然不是。 Leo, so by this logic does it mean that most people aren't taking heroin so I should take heroin? No, of course not.
所以您必须聪明地应用这个原则。 So you have to be intelligent in how you apply this principle.
但一般来说，这是因为现实是如此反直觉，这是相当聪明的。 But generally speaking, it's because reality is so counterintuitive, it's pretty smart.
你知道，当你意识到事情有多么违反直觉后，下次进入一个新情境时， You know, after you realize how counterintuitive things are, the next time you go into a fresh situation,
你几乎开始期待，嗯，我期待情况会按照这种方式运作， you almost start to expect that, well, I expect the situation should work like this,
但我也知道，现实就是如此他妈的违反直觉。 but I also know that reality is so fucking counterintuitive.
我之前太多次受到事情的违反直觉所伤。 And I've been burned so many times before by the counterintuitive of things.
让我现在先做相反的事情，看看是否奏效。 Let me just now do the opposite thing first and see if that works.
而且经常第一次尝试就会成功。你看，你学到了那个教训。 And often times it will work the first time. See, you learned that lesson.
下一个核心原则是非二元性是终极真理。 The next core principle is that non-duality is the ultimate truth.
现实是非二元的，这意味着所有的边界、所有的类别和所有的区别最终都会崩溃。 Reality is non-dual, which means that all boundaries, all categories, and all distinctions ultimately collapse.
它们都是相对的。 They're all relative.
在里面、外面、物质、非物质、我、他人、好、坏、黑、白、人类、非人类、生命、非生命、有机、无机、科学与宗教之间没有区别。 There is no distinction between inside, outside, physical, non-physical, me, other, good, bad, black, white, human, non-human, living, non-living, organic, inorganic, scientific versus religious.
因此，所有这些二元性，最终都会崩溃。 So all of these dualities, all of these will ultimately collapse.
它们站不住脚。 They don't hold.
如果你一直追随它们，这是一个非常深刻的真理， If you follow them all the way, this is a super profound truth,
这个原则可以帮助你剔除许多废话。 and this one principle can help you to cut through so much bullshit.
并看到心智如何构建所有这些范畴和区别。 And to see how the mind constructs all these categories and distinctions.
看到大部分你从小到大学所学的东西，其实只是人类头脑构建出来的一些概念，非常、非常有帮助 Very, very helpful to see how most of the things you were taught as a child all the way up through university
这些分类仅仅是由人类智慧产生的， have just been categories that were constructed by the human mind, by the human race,
许多这些区分纯粹是概念而非绝对存在， and that many of these distinctions are purely conceptual, they're not absolute in any sense,
随着你不断观察更深层次，它们最终都会崩溃， and that they will ultimately all collapse as you keep observing deeper and deeper,
继续冥想、思考、拥有神秘体验， keep meditating, keep contemplating, keep having mystical experiences,
所有这一切最终都会坍塌为一个统一体，一个终极绝对真理。 all of this will ultimately collapse into one unity, one ultimate absolute truth.
这将引领我们到下一个核心原则，即绝对真理的存在。 Which leads us to the next core principle, which is that absolute truth exists,
但它不可被思考、相信、想象、沟通、言说、书写、证明或辩论。 but it cannot be thought, believed, imagined, communicated, spoken, written, proven or argued.
这对大多数人来说是非常难以接受的，尤其是许多以科学为导向、理性为导向的人。 This is very difficult for most people to accept, especially many scientifically minded, rationally minded people.
他们倾向于假设如果绝对真理确实存在，那么肯定是可以证明它的。 They tend to assume that if absolute truth does exist, then it must be possible to prove it,
或者辩论它，或者传达它，或者写下它，或者想象它，或者思考它。 or argue it, or communicate it, or write about it, or imagine it, or think about it.
但事实是不是这样的，因为所有这些都是有限的，而绝对的真理是无限的，它是绝对的。 But the fact is that it's not, because all those are limited, and the absolute truth is unlimited, it's absolute.
这就是使它如此有趣、特别和重要的原因。 That's what makes it so interesting, and special, and important.
因此，这只是现实的一个残酷事实。 So this is just a brute fact of reality.
你可以亲自去验证，如果你发现了绝对的真相，我所声称的是， You can go test it for yourself, and if you discover the absolute truth, what I'm claiming is that,
如果你坚持实践，总有一天你会发现绝对的真理， if you do the practices, one day you will discover the absolute truth,
当你真正发现时，你会意识到它无法被思考、相信、想象、传达、言说、书写、证明或争辩。 and once you do, you will realize that it cannot be thought, believed, imagined, communicated, spoken, written, proven or argued.
然而，你会比你对世界上任何其他事情的了解更加确定地了解它。 And yet, you will know about it more certainly than you know anything else in the world.
这是怎么可能的？嗯，它无法真正被解释、想象或传达，但是确实可能。 How is that possible? Well, it can't really be explained, or imagined, or communicated, but it is possible.
通过神秘体验，通过大量观察。 Through mystical experience, through lots of observation.
再次强调，这非常重要，这是一个非常重要的原则， Again, that's very important, it's a super important principle,
因为很多人都会陷入争论、试图沟通、想象和思考绝对真理， because a lot of people get stuck arguing, and trying to communicate, and imagine, and think about absolute truth,
而你需要马上明白，这是不可能的。 and you need to just know right off the bat that that's just not possible.
所以，请停止浪费时间做那些事情。 So, stop wasting your time doing that.
你浪费了很多时间做那些事，你浪费了年华。 You waste a lot of time doing that, you waste years and decades doing that.
停止吧，你的生活会变得更美好。 Just stop it. Your life will go a lot better.
另一个核心原则是，现实不是物质的。 Another core principle is that reality is not material.
现实不是任何形式的物质对象，现实是一个巨大的心灵。 Reality is not a physical object of any kind, reality is a giant mind.
你所认为的一切物质，比如墙壁、道路、汽车、行星、太阳系，其实都是一个心灵。 Everything you think is physical, like walls, roads, cars, planets, solar systems, it's all one mind.
这些都是心灵世界中的想象。 These are all imaginings within a mindscape.
并且心境之外没有任何东西。心境永远是全部的存在。 And there is nothing outside of mindscape. Mindscape is all that there ever is.
而且，这不是你所相信的东西，而是通过直接观察所体验到的。 And again, this is not something you believe, this is something that you experience through direct observation.
大量而频繁的观察。 Lots and lots and lots of observation.
迷幻药物也能很好地帮助。 Psychedelics help a lot as well.
下一个密切相关的原则是生活如梦。 The next closely related principle is that life is a dream.
我还有一整集叫《生命如梦》的节目，在那里我解释了这一点，但基本上就是听起来的样子。 And I have a whole episode called "Life is a Dream" where I explain this, but it just basically is what it sounds like.
生命本质上就是一个梦。你所拥有的只是一个梦。 Life is literally a dream. What you have here is just a dream.
在你现在的这个梦境之外并不存在外部世界。 There is no external world beyond this dream that you're in.
这只是一个像你晚上入睡时做的梦一样的梦。 It's a dream just like the dreams you have when you're asleep at night.
就像那些梦境一样，有可能从梦中觉醒，所以你也可以从生活中醒来。 And just like those, it's possible to awaken from the dream so you can awaken from life.
这是一个非常重要的原则，因为它帮助您从所有对这个梦的依恋中解脱出来。 This is a super important principle because it helps you to disidentify from all of your attachments that you have to this dream.
您开始不那么认真地对待这个梦。 You start taking the dream less seriously.
这对过上美好生活非常重要。 And that's very important for living the good life.
要过上美好生活，您必须从梦中醒来。 To live the good life you must awaken from the dream.
否则，您将永远受这个梦和其中发生的事情的困扰。 Otherwise you're always going to be haunted by this dream and the stuff that happens within it.
就像恶梦只有在你意识不到自己身处梦境中时才会吓到你一样。 In the same way that a nightmare terrifies you only because you're not aware that you're inside of a dream.
但一旦意识到这只是个梦，恶梦就不再成问题。 But once you realize that it's just a dream, the nightmare is no longer a big deal.
而你知道吗。 And you know here.
下一个核心原则是现实是无限的，上帝是真实存在的。 The next core principle is that reality is infinite and that God is a real thing.
不是基督教中那个坐在云端、有胡须在审判你的上帝。 Not the Christian God sitting up in the clouds with a beard judging you.
但上帝这个词指向着某种非常真实的东西。 But the word God points to something. That's very real.
它指向着无限。 It points to infinity.
这指的是什么，以及它是如何运作的，那就复杂了。我不会在这里深入讨论。 And just what that is and how it works, that's complicated. I won't get into that here.
这也是非常有争议的。它也被很多误解和陷阱所困扰。 It's also very controversial. It's also much misunderstood with many traps.
这也同样是在谈论绝对。 This is also the same as talking about the absolute.
所以你可以看到谈论或沟通它存在问题。 So you can see that there's a problem talking about or communicating about it.
因为它是绝对的。 Because it's the absolute.
但我有剧集。我有一个名为...的两部曲系列; But I have episodes. I have a two part series called...
叫什么？它叫...; What's it called? It's called...
理解绝对无限，第1部分和第2部分。 Understanding Absolute Infinity, part 1 and 2.
去检查一下吧。 Go check that out.
这解释了无限意味着什么，以及现实如何可能是无限的一部分。 That explains a lot of what infinity means and how reality could be infinite.
还有上帝是什么。 And what God is.
我将有未来的剧集解释上帝是什么。 And I'll have future episodes about what God is explaining that.
下一个非常重要的原则是你就是上帝。 The next very important principle is that you are God.
所以上帝并不是与你分开的存在。 So God is not something separate from you.
从字面上讲，你就是上帝。 Literally you are God.
不是以你可以在世界上为所欲为的自负的意义。 Not in the egotistical sense that you are a God and you can do anything you want in the world.
你可以是个混蛋，可以自大。不是那样的意思。 And you can be an asshole and be arrogant. Not that way.
我是说你从字面上创造了自己。 I mean literally you created yourself.
你创造了整个宇宙。你就是整个宇宙。 You created the entire universe. You are the entire universe.
这是一种非常高级的神秘洞悉，只有通过多年的冥想和灵修才能领悟到。 This is a very advanced mystical insight that you will only get from years and years of meditation and spiritual practice.
不过你可以达到这一境界。 But you can get there.
非常重要的是你意识到自己就是上帝。 And it's very important that you do realize that you are God.
因为只有那时你才会对自己的生活负起全部责任。 Because only then will you take full responsibility for your life.
只有这样，你才会真正理解生命是多么深邃，存在是什么。 And only then will you really understand how profound life is and what existence is.
这一点的一个密切相关的后续原则是上帝就是魔鬼。 A closely related follow up principle to this is that God is the devil.
上帝和魔鬼之间绝对没有区别。 There is absolutely no difference between God and the devil.
它们是同一件事。 They are the same thing.
因为再次，非二元性告诉我们的是每一个对立，包括上帝与魔鬼之间的对立，最终都会坍塌成一个统一体。 Because again what non-duality tells us is that every duality including the duality between God and devil is ultimately going to collapse into a unity.
所以上帝和魔鬼必须合而为一。 So God and the devil must collapse into a unity.
这告诉你，你知道，知道上帝就是魔鬼的价值在哪里。 Which tells you, you know, what's the value of knowing that God is the devil.
那么它的价值在于你不再那么看重邪恶，也不再被邪恶所困扰。 Well the value of it is that you stop seeing evil and being bothered by evil so much.
因为你意识到所有你看到的邪恶，背后都有更高的智慧存在。 Because you realize that all the evil you see out there, there is a higher intelligence behind it.
它的存在是有原因的。 It exists for a reason.
这是无限的一部分。 It's part of infinity.
这是您需要去爱和接纳的一切。 It's part of all the stuff that you need to love and to embrace.
同时也称呼它为魔鬼。 And also calling it the devil.
顺便说一句，理解魔鬼是如此重要，我有一整集关于什么是魔鬼。 The reason understanding the devil is so important, by the way I have a whole episode about what is the devil.
非常好的一集。去看看那一集吧。 Really good episode. Go check that one out.
我觉得这是我最好的之一。 I think it's one of my best ones.
它会改变你对这个问题的整体理解，这种二元性。 It will change your whole understanding of this, this duality.
你知道，你需要理解自私。 Is that, you know, you need to understand selfishness.
你需要理解邪恶的根源。 You need to understand where evil comes from.
你需要理解为什么现实如此具有欺骗性。 You need to understand why reality is so deceptive.
你需要理解玛雅，换句话说。 You need to understand Maya, in other words.
你需要明白这是上帝的一部分。 And you need to understand that this is part of God.
上帝就是一个欺骗者。 God is one deceptive motherfucker.
实际上，这就是现实的产生方式。 And in fact that's how reality comes into existence.
是通过各种形式的欺骗。 Is through various forms of deception.
这就是为什么我们说这都是一念之间，这皆是一场梦。 And that's why we say it's all one mind, it's all a dream.
所以这个梦的一个方面是，它非常催眠，非常欺骗自己。 And so one aspect of this dream is that it's very hypnotic and it's very self deceptive.
这非常扭曲，有时会变得非常神经质和病态。 And it's very twisted and it can be very neurotic and pathological at times.
这都是整体的一部分。 That's all part of the entire whole.
这不是要切除和忽略的东西，而是要理解和拥抱的东西。 That's not something to cut out and to ignore, that's something to understand and to embrace.
否则，通过否认现实的这些方面，实际上你会变得病态。 Otherwise you will actually be yourself pathological by denying those aspects of reality.
另一个非常重要的原则是，所有身份都是相对且流动的。 Another very important principle is that all identity is relative and fluid.
因此，实际上现实中除了统一性外，没有任何身份存在。 So literally there is no identity within reality other than oneness.
因此，任何你创造的有限身份，比如你作为一个身体，你作为一个生物体， So any limited identities that you create, like you as a body, you as a biological organism,
你作为出生在某些父母身边的人，或者也许你认同你的汽车， you as somebody who was born to certain parents, or maybe you identify with your car,
或者你认同于你的房子，你认同于你的工作， or you identify with your house, you identify with your job,
你拥有的所有这些身份，它们都是相对的。 all of these identities that you have, they're all relative.
它们都是你头脑的建构。 They're all constructions of your mind.
它们并非绝对真实。 They're not absolutely true.
它们是流动的，可以改变，实际上它们在你一生中一直在变化。 And they're fluid and they can change and in fact they have been changing for all of your life.
这对理解非常非常重要。 And that's very very significant to understand.
和其他人取得的任何身份， And any identity that other people take out there,
无论是个人还是整个文化身份或政治团体，都会拿走身份，公司创造身份， whether they're individuals or entire cultural identities or political parties, take identities, companies, create identities,
所有这些被创造出来的身份，这都是自我意识，个人自我意识，集体自我意识的一部分。 all of these identities that are being created, this is all part of ego, the ego mind, individual ego mind, collective ego mind.
这都是上帝和魔鬼如何运作的一部分，就是通过创造这些身份。 And this is all part of how God and the devil work, is through creating these identities.
这就是你觉得自己是一个活生生的生物的原因。 It's why you feel that you're a living creature.
但所有这些身份都是相当随意的。 But all of these identities are rather arbitrary.
它们是可塑的，可变的。 And they're malleable, they're changeable.
这是一个非常好的消息，因为这意味着你可以改变你认同的东西， And this is a very good news because it means you can change what you identify with,
这意味着你实际上可以脱离对你的身体和思想的认同， which means you can actually dis-identify with your physical body and also your mind,
且将自己与终极、绝对相认， and identify yourself with the ultimate, with the absolute,
从而克服死亡，获得永恒，这就是诀窍所在。 which ends up being the trick for overcoming death and attaining immortality.
尽管听上去荒谬，但实现这一点是可能的，也是真实的。 As preposterous as that sounds, it is nevertheless possible and it is true.
接下来的核心原则是，99.999% 的人是误解的、沉睡的。 The next core principle is that 99.999% of people are deluded and asleep.
他们对我今天在这里解释的任何事情一无所知。 And they don't know about any of the things that I am explaining here today.
这是非常重要的，因为如果不明白这一点，你就会迷失方向 And that's extremely important to understand because otherwise what's going to happen is that you're going to get lost
被困在其他人的幻想和沉睡中 in the delusions and asleepness of all the other people who are surrounding you.
正是因为其他人都如此沉睡，你无法向他们寻求建议或指导 It's precisely because all the other people are so asleep that you can't look to them for advice or for guidance.
当你四处看看，看到有人做蠢事， Because you look over here, you look over there, you see people doing stupid stuff,
看到有人不在做这项工作，然后你会认为， you see people not doing this work, and then you think that,
嗯，这意味着我应该做他们正在做的事情。我不按照他们的方式行事，所以有点奇怪。 "Oh well, that means I should be doing what they're doing. I'm weird for not doing what they're doing."
实际上你知道他们才是奇怪的人。他们被蒙蔽了。 And you actually know they're the weird ones. They're the deluded ones.
所以，请记住这一点。这就是为什么你不会从科学界和医学界，以及其他传统来源得到对我谈论的事情的大量证实， So, keep that in mind. This is why you won't get a bunch of confirmation from science and from the medical community,
因为他们还未意识到。这将引导我们来到下一个相关原则， from other traditional sources about the things that I talk about.
因为他们还没有意识到。这将引导我们来到下一个相关原则， Because they're not there yet. Which leads us to the next closely related principle,
就是社会仍处于黑暗时代。 which is that society is still in the Dark Ages.
是的，我们生活在21世纪，但不要认为21世纪是某种高度先进的社会。 Yes, we're the 21st century, but stop thinking of the 21st century as being some kind of like highly advanced society.
不，不，不。我们作为一个物种仍处于青春期。 No, no, no. We are still adolescents as a species.
我们非常不成熟，非常不自觉，非常情感停滞，非常被压抑， We are very, very immature, very unconscious, very emotionally stunted, very repressed,
非常神经质，非常病理，非常功能失调作为一个物种。 very neurotic, very pathological, very dysfunctional as a species.
我们对现实、意识以及如何过好生活的理解非常粗糙； And our understanding of reality and consciousness and how to live the good life is very crude,
类似于黑暗时代存在的医学知识； akin to the kind of medical knowledge that existed in the Dark Ages,
他们会使用吸血鬼等粗糙的技术来治疗人们； where they would use leeches and other sorts of crude techniques in order to cure people,
实际上导致了许多人的死亡，而非治愈。 that actually ended up killing many people rather than curing them.
这就是当前社会对灵性、心理学、哲学、科学等许多事物的理解状态。 That's the state of current society's understanding of spirituality, psychology, philosophy, science and many other things.
不要被社会所导演的幕后花絮所诱惑， So do not get seduced by this facade that's directed by society,
我们倾向于认为，\"哦，我们已经经历了黑暗时代，现在我们已经走出了黑暗时代， where we tend to think that, "Oh, well, we've already gone through the Dark Ages and now we're out of the Dark Ages,
现在我们技术非常发达，有飞机、汽车、手机和各种电脑等等， now we're very technologically advanced and we have planes and cars and phones and all of this computers and stuff,
因此我们什么都懂。\" 这只是一个幕墙。不要被欺骗。 and because of this we know everything." That's just a facade. Don't get tricked by it.
而认识到我们仍处于黑暗时代是重要的原因，再次来说， And the reason it's important to realize that we're in the Dark Ages is because, again,
这解释了为什么你没有从社会中得到所有这些认可。 that explains to you why you're not getting all this confirmation from your society.
这是因为你假设你的社会比实际情况要先进得多。 It's because you're assuming your society is far more advanced than it actually is.
明白了吗？ See?
所以不要期望社会在你上社交媒体或看有线电视时直接给你这些答案， So don't expect society to just give you these answers while you're on social media or watching cable TV,
你在那里得到的那些广告与如何过上美好生活毫无关系。 the kind of advertisements you're getting there have nothing to do with how to live a good life.
事实上，生活中有一个相反的因素，这对大多数人来说都是违反直觉的； It's actually all the opposite against this one of the counterintuitive elements of life,
你所学到的东西，主要是学校、媒体和文化传授的那些东西， is that the things that you're taught, mostly in school and through the media and in the culture,
实际上正是那些导致人过着平庸、悲惨生活的东西； are precisely those things which lead to living a mediocre, miserable life,
这就解释了为什么每个人或大多数人都过着如此平庸、悲惨的生活； which of course explains why everyone or most people are living such a mediocre, miserable life.
下一个核心原则是发展与觉醒，不是二选一，而是两者兼顾； The next core principle is development and awakening, not either or, both.
你想要从梦中苏醒， You want to awaken from the dream that you're in,
但你也需要学会掌控生活在梦中，并在梦中成长。 but also you need to learn how to master living in the dream and develop yourself within the dream.
这些就像是你在生命中努力发展的两个核心方向。 These are sort of like two core avenues of growth that you're working towards in your life.
你在发展自己，同时也在苏醒于梦境之中。 You're developing yourself and then you're also awakening from the dream.
如果你只是不断发展自己，却没有苏醒，你将迷失在梦中并饱受痛苦。 If you only develop yourself but you don't awaken, you will get lost in the dream and you will suffer.
如果你只是清醒而没有进步，那么在梦境中生活中就不会有精通或卓越。 If you only awaken but you don't develop, then you're not going to have any mastery or excellence in living in the dream.
因此，你可能醒来了，这很棒，但你的发展在某些方面受阻。 And so you might be awake and that's great, but then your development is stunted in certain ways.
这也不是你充分发挥潜力、尽情享受生活的方式。 And that's also not you living up to your full potentials and getting the most juice out of life.
你需要两者兼具。 You want both.
在考虑觉醒之前，你需要一定程度的发展。 And you're going to need a certain amount of development before you can even think about possibly awakening.
要真正严肃地觉醒，大多数情况下你需要已经非常发达。 To really seriously awaken, you already need to be very developed in most cases.
很少有人在完全未发展的情况下就觉醒。 It's very rare that someone just awakens while they're completely undeveloped.
这对你来说会很难实现。 That's going to be hard for you to accomplish.
有些罕见的人，也许是千万分之一的人可以做到，但我不指望这种可能性。 A few rare people, one in a hundred million maybe could do that, but I wouldn't count on that.
下一个核心原则是找出你是谁，以及你想要什么样的人生。 The next core principle is figure out who you are and what you want out of life.
这非常重要。 This is super important.
这并不像听起来那么容易。 And it's not as easy as it sounds.
你不可能只坐下来十分钟，就能明白自己是谁，想要什么样的人生。 You're not just going to sit down for ten minutes and in ten minutes figure out who you are and what you want in life.
这是一项需要不断努力的工作，需要思考、沉思、记录日记、与教练交谈、与治疗师交流，可以持续数年，甚至几十年。 This is something you're going to have to work on, think about, contemplate, journal about, talk with coaches about, talk with therapists about for years, for decades.
你会不断打磨，深化理解自己是谁，以及你对人生真正的渴望。 You're going to keep honing and honing and honing and refining your understanding of who you are and what you really want from life.
你需要尽可能清楚地了解自己想要的人生目标。 You need as much clarity as possible about what you want from life.
绝对重要。 Absolutely important.
这让你能够做出决策，集中精力和注意力去追求自己想要的东西。 This allows you to make decisions and allows you to channel your energy and your focus towards those things that you want.
如果你对自己的目标不清楚，如果你模棱两可、含糊不清，那你将一无所获。 If you're not clear about what you want, if you're wishy-washy vague and ambiguous, you're going to get nothing.
默认的结果就是你什么也得不到，只会陷入平庸。 That's the default thing that you get is nothing and mediocrity.
不要以为什么都是随随便便就能得到好东西和美好生活的，不知道自己想要的是行不通的。 You're not just going to randomly get a bunch of good stuff and a good life by not knowing what you want.
你必须非常明确和果断地知道自己想要什么。 You have to be very clear and decisive about what you want.
你想觉醒？那就要他妈的明确自己的想法。我想觉醒。 You want to awaken? Then be fucking clear about it. I want to awaken.
你想拥有一所房子吗？是什么样的房子？应该在哪里？成本是多少？要对这些清楚明了。 Do you want to have a house? What kind of house? Where should it be located? How much should it cost? Be clear about that.
你想要女朋友或伴侣吗？是什么类型的？在哪里找到他们？是怎样确实实现的？你真的想要他们吗？ You want to have a girlfriend or a spouse? What kind do you want? Where are you going to find them? How is it going to really work? Do you really want them?
你必须非常清楚地了解所有这些事情，以及关于你的职业和一切。 You have to be very clear about all these things and about your career and everything.
这导致了下一个核心原则，那就是真诚。 Which leads to the next core principle which is authenticity.
你需要每天努力更加真实地生活。 You need to be striving every day to be more and more authentic in your life.
只有当你真实时，你才会真正满足和快乐。 It's only when you're being authentic that you're truly satisfied and happy.
社会对你进行的大部分编程都是为了你不真实的原因和激励。 A lot of what society programs you with is reasons and incentives for being inauthentic.
你在学校和大学时都看到过，在约会时和人们相处时，以及在工作中尝试找到工作和与家人相处时，所有这些都如此。 You see all throughout school and university and when you were dating people and when you were at work trying to get a job and with your family and all this.
你被教导要表现出不真实的行为作为一种生存策略。 You were taught to be inauthentic as a survival strategy.
以至于你甚至不知道什么是真实的意思。那种真实的感觉是怎样的。你和你真正想要的东西以及你应该如何真实地保持你的身体是如此脱节的。 Such that you don't even know what it means to be authentic. How that really feels. You're so out of touch with who you are and what you really want and how you should authentically hold your body.
你应该如何行为。你应该如何说话。你应该如何微笑。对许多人来说，所有这些都是如此虚伪的。 How you should behave. How you should speak. How you should smile. All of this is so fake for many people.
所以你需要更多地接触到你的真实性。剥去所有阻止你真实的社会条件层和阻碍你的所有恐惧和忧虑。 So you need to get more and more in touch with your authenticity. Strip away all the layers of social conditioning that is preventing you from being authentic and all the fears that you have and worries that are preventing you.
为了能够表达你最深层的存在，你最深层的价值观。你需要能够毫不费力地表达这些，才能拥有美好的生活。 Such that you're able to express your deepest being, your deepest values. You need to be able to express that effortlessly to have a good life.
而你的事业需要真实。你的言语需要真实。你的眼神接触需要真实。 And your career needs to be authentic. Your speech needs to be authentic. Your eye contact needs to be authentic.
还有呢？你与家人、配偶、女友和男友的关系也需要真实。 What else? Your relationships with your family and your spouses and your girlfriends and boyfriends that needs to be authentic.
但是要实现这一切，首先你需要发现你是谁，以及你真正想要什么。非常清晰地。 But for you to be able to do that, to achieve that, you first need to discover who you are and what you really want. Very clearly.
而且你需要揭示那些让你保持不真实的恐惧和激励因素。 And also you need to uncover the fears and incentives which are keeping you being inauthentic.
你害怕什么？你真的害怕什么？你会失去什么？你会遭到拒绝吗？你会孤独和痛苦吗？你会受到批评吗？ See, like what are you really afraid of? What are you going to lose? Are you going to get rejected? Are you going to be lonely and miserable? Are you going to be judged?
下一个核心原则是你需要发展一项人生目标。我有一个完整的课程。关于如何制定人生目标的长度达25小时的课程是如此重要。 The next core principle is that you need to develop a life purpose. I have a whole course about that. 25 hours long course on how to develop a life purpose is so important.
人生目标是你在生活中所做事情的意义。再次强调，这一切都取决于清晰度。找到你的价值观与你真正想要的事情之间的正确结合是非常重要的。 Life purpose is the sense of what you're doing in your life. Again, it's all about clarity. It's about finding the right alignment between your values and what you really want.
将你的事业与这些目标融合在一起，然后着手行动。在那里建立一些有持久价值的东西，这样你就可以向世界提供。 And your career and merging those together and then working on that. And building something of lasting value there that you can offer to the world.
如果你对此感兴趣，请查看我的课程。下一个核心原则是对自己的生活承担100%的责任，不要责怪任何人。 So check out my course if you're interested in that. The next core principle is take 100% responsibility for your life and don't blame anyone.
观察自己责怪他人，并停止这样做。训练自己停止这样做。承担全部责任。 Observe yourself blaming people and stop doing it. Train yourself to stop doing it. Take full responsibility.
如果你不承担全部责任，在任何少于100% 的情况下，那意味着在这些你没有承担责任的领域中，你将会成为受害者。 If you don't take full responsibility, anything less than 100%, that means you're going to be a victim in those areas that you don't take responsibility in.
这意味着你会感到困顿、沮丧、痛苦、愤怒和沮丧。 Which means you're going to feel stuck and you're going to feel miserable and depressed and bitter and annoyed and frustrated.
这就是不过上好生活的定义。通过承担责任，你会承担解决所有问题的重担。 And that's the definition of not a good life. By taking responsibility, you assume the burden of solving every problem that comes your way.
这使你变得非常善于应对和创造，因为现在你已经承诺解决所有这些问题。 And that makes you very resourceful and creative because now you've committed to solving all these problems.
通过学习、自我实验、尝试不同技巧、求助不同来源、阅读书籍、视频和课程等等，来解决你的问题。 To studying them, to doing self experimentation, trying different techniques, turning to different sources, reading books and videos and courses and all of this to solve your problems.
明白了吗？只有通过这种态度，你才能真正解决你的问题。 See? And it's only through this kind of attitude that you actually will end up solving your problems.
而大多数人只是找借口，责怪他人为什么问题无法解决。 Whereas most people, they just come up with excuses and blame others for why the problems can't be fixed.
其实，能够解决问题远比终身忍受要好得多。 It's actually a lot better to be able to fix a problem than to suffer through it for the rest of your life.
当你这样做时，会让你感到力量、自信和自尊心。 And it gives you a sense of power and strength and self esteem when you do that.
当你成为受害者时，你会失去自尊，觉得自己很糟糕，感觉很无力，不能应对生活。 When you become a victim, you lose self esteem and you sort of feel bad about yourself and you feel like you're weak and you're not able to handle life.
接着你会脱离生活，变得疏远，只是机械地走过每一天。 And then you unplug from life, you become alienated and you just kind of like go through the motions robotically.
这时你就失去了生命的四大核心目标之一，也就是感受生命。 And that's when you lose touch with that one of those core four purposes of life, which is feeling alive.
你不再感到活力，因为你没有勇敢地面对挑战，而选择沦为受害者。 You no longer feel alive because you're not actually taking challenges head on because you've instead opted to be a victim.
下一个核心原则是成为领袖。 The next core principle is be a leader.
引领自己，引领身边的人。不要等待别人激发你，激励你，告诉你该做什么。 Lead yourself, lead others around you. Don't wait other people to inspire you, to motivate you, to tell you what to do.
你要自己去做。 You do that yourself.
主动一点。果断一点。 Be proactive. Be decisive.
敢于冒险。 Take risks.
这也与活出生命，感受生命的原则联系在一起。 This also connects with that principle of living a life and feeling alive.
作为领导者，积极主动、果断决策、冒险尝试是让你感受到活着的方式。 This is how you feel alive is being a leader, being proactive, being decisive, taking some risks.
这导致了下一个核心原则，即成为创造者。 Which leads to the next core principle, which is be a creator.
激发创造的乐趣。 Tap into the joy of creativity.
你有创造的力量，可以创造出各种美好的事物。 You have the power to be a creator and to create all sorts of beautiful things.
艺术、音乐、电影、写作、小说、杂志、网站，你知道，整个哲学体系、学派、宗教和灵修团体。 Art, music, film, writing, novels, magazines, websites, you know, entire philosophical systems and schools and religions and spiritual groups.
就像有汽车可以设计、飞机、新技术。 Like there's cars you could engineer, airplanes, new technology.
就像有很多东西你可以创造。 Like there's so much stuff you can create.
选择你想成为一个创作者的领域，然后去追求并享受其中。 Pick something that you want to be a creator in and then do that and enjoy that.
你这么做是因为它令人愉快。 You do it because it's enjoyable.
因为作为神，你正在参与整个创造过程。 Because as God you're participating in the creative process of all of creation.
作为一个推论，为人类创造者提供巨大的价值。 And as a corollary here, provide massive value to mankind as the creator.
这是你应该努力追求的目标。 That's something you should strive for.
我如何为人类提供大量价值？ How do I provide lots of value to mankind?
如何为社会做出贡献，改善世界？ How do I contribute to society, improve the world?
这是生活目的的一部分。 That's part of life purpose.
这非常重要，因为如果你的生活中缺少这个要素，你会感到空虚。 That's very important because if you are lacking this component in your life, you're going to feel empty.
而且会发生的是，其他人会用各种低意识的思想来诱惑你。 And also what's going to happen is that other people will come and seduce you with various kinds of low consciousness ideologies.
为了让你填补生活中缺乏目的感的空白。 To get you to fill that void of a lack of purpose in your life.
于是人们就会成为纳粹分子或恐怖分子。 So then what happens is that people become Nazis or they become terrorists.
或者成为一些在论坛上发布种族主义言论的右翼边缘人士。 Or they become some right wing fringe guy who posts on some forums, some racist stuff.
喜欢这种东西，对吧？ Like this kind of stuff, right?
为什么人们会沉迷于这种低意识的意识形态？ Why do people get sucked into these kinds of low consciousness ideologies?
正是因为他们缺乏合法的生活目的。 It's precisely because they lack a legitimate life purpose.
他们没有被教导如何成为有力量的创造者。 They are not taught how to be powerful creators.
他们无法为世界带来巨大的价值。 They are not able to provide massive value to the world.
所以他们转而将精力集中在妖魔化、评判、暴力行为和其他各种诡计和操纵策略上。 So what they do instead is they focus their energy on demonizing, judging, doing violence and other sorts of schemes and manipulation tactics.
为了获得他们对于生命目标的满足。 To get their fill of life purpose.
这有点像是如果你没有一个有品质的人来发生性关系，那么你会... It's sort of like if you don't have a quality person to have sex with, then the way you're going to...
这并不意味着你永远不会发生性关系。 It's not like you're never going to have sex.
你会发生性关系。 You will have sex.
它可能只是以非常低质量的形式出现而已。 It's just it's going to be probably in very low quality forms.
就像在塑料杯里喝水一样。 Like drinking off into a plastic cup.
明白了吗？ See?
因此，生活目标也是同样的情况。 So it's the same sort of thing with life purpose.
如果你忽视生活目标，你将拾起各种功能失调的生活目标。 If you neglect life purpose, you're going to pick up all sorts of dysfunctional life purposes.
不知不觉地。 Unconsciously.
那就像是默认的位置。 That's like the default position.
下一个核心原则是不能相信理性。 The next core principle is that reason cannot be trusted.
这让很多人困惑，这是非常反直觉的。 This throws a lot of people for a loop and this is very counterintuitive.
但理性和理智是不可信的。 But reason and rationality cannot be trusted.
所有最高的洞见和真相都是跨越理性的。 All the highest insights and truths are trans-rational.
不是非理性，也不止于理性，而是跨越，意味着超越理性。 Not irrational, not less than rational, but trans, meaning beyond rational.
从这个角度来看。 Think of it this way.
每一位罪犯、恐怖分子、凶手、强奸犯、小偷、宗教狂热者、骗子和错误的科学家都做了错误的科学。 Every single criminal, terrorist, murder, rapist, thief, religious fanatic, con artist, and wrongheaded scientist who did bad science.
每一个政党、每一个暴君和独裁者。 Every single political party, every single tyrant and dictator.
所有这些人有什么共同之处？ What do all these people have in common?
原因。 Reason.
也许你会认为，不，这些人都不理性。 You might think, no Leo, these people are all unreasonable.
不。 No.
每个人做事情的原因都是充分的，他们认为自己所做的一切都是正确和好的。 Every single one of these people has very good reasons for why they do what they do and why what they do is exactly right and good.
以及为什么他们应该继续这样做。 And why they should continue doing it.
那么你如何能相信理性？ So how can you trust reason?
根据定义，推理对推理者总是合理的。 By definition, reason always feels reasonable to the one who's reasoning.
这就是我所说的自我欺骗和自我偏见。 This is what I mean by the self-deception and by self-bias.
你看，你对自己的推理方式有自我偏见。 See, you're self-biased to your own chains of reasoning.
你不明白的是，理性并非通往真理的工具。 And what you don't understand is that reason is not a vehicle towards truth.
它从未被设计用于那个目的。 It was never intended for that.
理性是你的头脑，通常是你的左脑，主要是你的律师式头脑所构造的谎言，用来为你的自我议程辩护。 Reason is concoctions by your mind, by your lawyerly mind, mostly your left hemisphere for most people, in order to justify your egoic agenda.
这才是理性的真正功能。 That's the real function of reason.
因此，理性就像一个出色的律师，能够为任何立场构建论据和辩护。 So reason, just like a good lawyer, will be able to craft a case and argument for any position.
任何自我的议程。 Any egoic agenda that you have.
所以理智是不可信任的。 So reason cannot be trusted.
每当你听到一个演讲者, 他正诉诸于理性, 争吵并扭曲事态, 说其他人都是不讲理的, 只有我是理性的。 Any time that you hear a speaker who is making appeals to reason and is arguing and saying and kind of framing the situation such a way that all those people are unreasonable, but I'm the reasonable one.
通过理性我们找到真相。 And it's through reason that we get to the truth.
每当你听到这样的话, 每当你看到一个人试图显得格外理性, 那就等同于看到一个试图显得过度道德的人。 Any time you hear that, any time you see a person trying to be extra reasonable, that's exactly the same as looking at a person who's trying to be extra moral.
你立刻对那个声称关于道德和有多么善良以及每个人都可以变得多么善良，但又教训人说他们都是邪恶的，应该像他一样善良的人感到怀疑。 You become immediately suspicious that the person who's preaching about morality and how good he is and how good everyone can be, but how they're all evil and how they should be as good as him.
并且认为道德将解决一切问题。 And that morality is going to solve everything.
你应该立刻怀疑，并期待道德说教者也有不可告人的隐私问题。 You should be immediately suspicious and you should expect that that moralizing person has skeletons in their closet.
他们事实上并不道德。 And they're actually not moral.
同样的道理适用于理性。 Well, the same thing with reason.
对于那些把理性吹捧成一种意识形态或一切问题的解决方案的人。 With these people who tout reason as a sort of ideology or a solution to everything.
如果我们都更理性一些，人类就能相处融洽。 If only we were all more reasonable than mankind would get along.
对此要持高度怀疑态度。 Be very suspicious of that.
下一个核心原则是接受悖论、困惑和不知晓。 The next core principle is to embrace paradox, confusion and not knowing.
再次强调，这是其中一个非常违反直觉的事情。 Again, this is one of those very counterintuitive things.
大多数人认为悖论、混乱和不知道是坏事。 Most people think of paradox, confusion and not knowing as bad things.
作为个人发展的对立面和美好生活的对立面。 As the opposite of personal development and the opposite of a good life.
但事实并非如此，恰恰相反。 But no, it's just the opposite.
你越靠近美好生活，就越会接受悖论、混乱和不知道。 The closer you get to the good life, the more you will embrace paradox, confusion and not knowing.
你将对这些事情感到舒适。 And you will get comfortable with these things.
这个人认为他已经完美地想明白了一切，在这个小模型中把一切都放进去了。 It's the person who thinks he's figured everything out perfectly in this little model and put it all into a little model.
而他认为这个模型完美、连贯、严密、超级逻辑。 And he thinks that that model is perfect, it's consistent and it's airtight and super logical.
这个人是被蒙蔽的。 It's that person who's deluded.
你无法用现实做到这一点。 You can't do that with reality.
因为现实是无限的，而你所有的小模型和计划都是有限的。 Because reality is infinite and all your little models and schemes are all finite.
如果你想了解为什么那是不可能的，请看我的一集关于哥德尔不完备定理的视频。 See my episode about Goetl's incompleteness theorem if you want to understand why that's impossible.
库尔特·哥德尔实际上证明了真理比证明更大。 Kurt Goetl actually proved that truth is larger than proof.
非常令人费解的发现。 Very counterintuitive discovery.
下一个核心原则是情绪掌控。 The next core principle is emotional mastery.
你应该对掌控自己的情绪非常感兴趣。 You should be very interested in mastering your emotions.
你应该对情绪非常感兴趣。 You should be very interested in emotions period.
并了解它们的运作，并花大量时间观察情绪。 And how they work and spend a lot of your time observing emotions.
现在这里有一个关于情绪控制的误解。 Now here's a mistake that people make about emotional mastery.
当我谈到情绪控制时，他们会想，“嗯，Leo，听起来不错。我将保持超级理性。 It's when I say emotional mastery they think, "Oh yeah Leo, that sounds good. I'll just be hyper rational.
我将成为这种超理性、超脱情感的人，超然物外。” I'll be this unemotional, detached person who's above it all."
这不是情绪掌控，而是情绪的抑制或压抑。 That's not emotional mastery. That's a suppression or repression of emotions.
要发展情绪掌控力，你需要更深入地感受自己的情绪。 To develop emotional mastery you need to feel deeper into your emotions.
很多女性所担心的问题就是这种类型。 And this is a lot of the type of concern that women have.
女性可能会对我的一些教诲提出异议，她们可能会说：“Leo，但你正在教我们如何变得无情和机械。” Women can object to some of my teachings they might say, "Leo, but you're teaching us how to be like unemotional and robotic.
我希望更有情感。 And I want to be more emotional."
不，我说的是如何变得更加情绪化。 No, what I'm talking about is how to be more emotional.
情绪掌控并不意味着你停止经历情绪。 Emotional mastery does not mean that you stop experiencing emotions.
事实上，它意味着你更深刻地体验情绪，但更清楚地意识到它们的本质。 It actually means you experience emotions deeper but you're more conscious of what they actually are.
这就是让你掌握和控制情绪的关键。 And that's what gets you mastery and control.
也应该区分负面情绪爆发。 What should also be distinguished from outbursts of negative emotions.
所以这里其他人可能会说，“哦，Leo，你的意思是，要成为情绪管理专家，我必须表达出我所有的情绪吗？”; So somebody else listening here might say, "Oh Leo, so what you're saying here, to become an emotional master I have to let all my emotions out.
并完全真实地表达我的情绪。 And be fully authentic with my emotions.
这意味着如果有人在交通中把我堵住，我会打开车窗，对那个人大喊脏话。 That means that if someone cuts me off in traffic I will open my window and scream expletives at that person.
因为我生气了，现在我是真实的，我在表达我的愤怒。 Because I'm angry and now I'm being authentic and I'm expressing my anger.
这就是在培养情绪管理。不，这不是情绪管理。 And this is developing emotional mastery." No, that's not emotional mastery.
这实际上是一个烟雾弹，阻止你完全感受和观察自己的情绪。 That's actually a smokescreen from fully feeling and observing your own emotions.
对人大声喊叫，爆发，愤怒，暴力，表达负面情绪。 Yelling at people, outbursts, anger, violence, expressions of negative emotions.
这些通常只是一个烟雾弹，阻止你真正反思和感受自己的情绪。 These are often just smokescreens from really self-reflecting and feeling your own emotions.
一个愤怒的人并没有真正感受到他们的情绪。 An angry person doesn't really feel their emotions.
他们只是机械地表现出来。 They just act them out robotically.
你想读关于情绪掌控以及情绪作用的书。 And you want to read books about emotional mastery and about how emotions work.
因为情绪如此狡猾又棘手。 Because emotions are so sneaky and so tricky.
说到理性和情绪，那些理性主义者们认为理性高于情绪。 And speaking of reason and emotions, these rationalists, they think that reason is superior to emotions.
实际上相反。 But actually it's the other way around.
情绪主导着你的推理过程。 It's emotions which are dominating your reasoning process.
那些过分理性的人，实际上并不是真正理性的。 Those people who are hyper rational, they're not hyper rational really.
他们是情绪化的。他们只是并不意识到推动他们理性的情绪而已。 They're emotional. They're just not conscious of the emotions that are fueling their reason.
你看，他们的理性，他们如此执着于推理的理由是出于情感。 You see, their reason, the reason that they're so attached to reasoning is emotional.
这是因为它与充满情感的自我意识相连。 And it's because it's connected with their ego mind which is full of emotions.
情绪在激励你和影响你行为方面比你所有的理由都更具影响力。 Emotions are much more powerful in motivating you and affecting your behavior than any reasons that you have.
原因总是事后出现。 Reasons come after the fact.
原因是合理化的解释。它们是事后的合理化。 Reasons are rationalizations. They're backwards rationalizations.
事实上，你的左脑会后来捏造这些原因，来为你做出的任何情绪上的决定辩解。 Your left hemisphere actually confabulates these reasons later to justify whatever you're doing emotionally.
无论是什么驱使你的情绪。 Whatever's driving you emotionally.
要过上美好生活，你不会仅仅通过理性就能实现。 And to live the good life, you're not going to be able to do that through reason.
通过变得非常观察自己的情绪，你将学会做到这一点。 You're going to have to do that by becoming very observant of your emotions.
通过治愈你的情绪，你的思维过程也将随之得到净化。 And it's by curing your emotions that then your reasoning process will also get purified along with that.
下一项核心原则是你必须整合男性和女性。 The next core principle is you must integrate the masculine and the feminine.
无论你是男性还是女性，无论你更倾向于男性或女性。 No matter whether you're a guy or a girl and whether you lean more masculine or more feminine.
在这里有一个完整的光谱，人们在不同方向上倾斜等等。 And there's a whole spectrum there and people lean in different directions and so forth.
当然，现在我们都知道。 As of course we're all aware at this point.
但是，无论你往哪个方向倾斜，你需要做的是。 But what you need to do, whichever direction you lean in.
假设你是一个倾向于男性的男人，大多数男人都是如此，而你是一个倾向于女性的女人。 So let's say you're a man that leans masculine like most men and you're a woman that leans feminine.
好的，作为一个男人，你需要深入了解你的男子气概是什么。 Okay, so what you need to do as a man is you need to go deeper into your masculinity to understand what it really is.
但与此同时，你也要确保不要让女性形象变得阴影重重。 But at the same time you want to make sure you don't create a shadow out of the feminine.
所以你并不是以牺牲女性为代价。 So you're not doing at the expense of the feminine.
你还需要深入你的女性一面，探索并掌握那一面，并将那个女性阴影整合到你的内心。 You also need to dive into your feminine side and explore that and master that and integrate that feminine shadow into you.
你实际上需要成为两者的综合体。 And you need to actually become sort of a synthesis of both.
同样，对于女性也是如此。 And you know vice versa for the woman.
这对你能够正确地与异性交往非常重要。 This is very important for you to be able to then relate properly with the opposite sex.
否则，你可能会变得过于男性化，但同时拥有女性的阴影，或者反之亦然。 Otherwise you're going to become masculine but you're going to have the feminine shadow or vice versa.
这将为你制造各种关系问题。 And that's going to create all sorts of relationship problems for you.
而且，如果不融合另一面，只是表现出爷们的男性或娇媚的女性，你也不会感觉良好。 And also you're not going to feel as good just being macho masculine or girly feminine without integrating the other side.
所以，我们想要成为全面的、均衡的人类。 So like what we're trying to become is full well-rounded human beings.
但这并不意味着你需要保持中庸的50/50。 Now that doesn't mean that you need to be down the middle 50/50.
如果你是一个阳刚之人，我不是说你需要一半阳刚一半阴柔。 So you know if you're a masculine man I'm not saying that you need to be half masculine half feminine.
你依然可以专注于阳刚，但也需要融入阴柔的特质到内心。 You can still specialize and kind of be predominantly masculine but you also need to integrate the feminine aspects into your psyche.
确保你不要对相反极性持有任何怨恨或批判。 And make sure you don't hold any kind of grudges or judgments about the opposite polarity.
下一个核心原则是非操纵。 The next core principle is non-manipulation.
如果你观察自己的行为，你会注意到你操纵的程度。 If you do a lot of observation of your behaviors you will notice how much you manipulate.
你一直在操控。 You manipulate all the time.
自我意识的角色基本上是不断地操纵一切。 The ego mind that's sort of its whole role is to be constantly manipulating everything.
你操纵着你的想法、你的表情、你的身体、你的姿势、你的关系，以及在你的工作和事业中，所有这些都在不断地操纵。 You're manipulating your thoughts, your face, your body, your posture, your relationships, and in your work, and in your career, and all of this you're constantly manipulating.
所以，如果你想过上美好的生活，其中一个你需要做的事情就是越来越多地放下那种操控。 And so one of the things you need to do if you want to live a good life is let go of that manipulation more and more and more and more.
作为一个不那么善于操纵的人，你的生活将会更美好。 The less manipulative you are as a person the better your life will be.
下一个核心原则是一切都是相对的。 The next core principle is that everything is relative.
这意味着除了绝对、大写的绝对真理外的任何东西都是相对的。 What this means is that anything except the absolute, the ultimate truth of the capital T, is relative.
这意味着它只有相对于其他事物才能被了解。 That means that it's only known in relation to something else.
未来我会有一个关于相对性及其与绝对性对比的整集。 And I'll have a whole episode in the future about relativity and how that contrasts with the absolute.
简单来说，所有传统理解甚至你所体验的传统经验都是相对的。 But briefly here, all conventional understanding and even conventional experience that you have it's always relative.
一只大象只是相对于一只老鼠而言是大的。 So an elephant is big only relative to a mouse.
相对于整个地球，它是小的。 It's small relative to the entire earth.
诸如此类。 And so on.
这个过程一直进行下去，影响你所知道的一切。 And so this goes on and on and on and affects everything that you know.
你所知道的一切基本上都是相对的。所有的观点都是相对的。 Everything you know is basically relative. All perspectives are relative.
你对现实的整个理解是相对的。 Your entire understanding of reality is relative.
所有真理主张，除非是那个绝对实际上根本不是主张，它是远远超出这个范围的东西。 All truth claims unless they're the absolute which is not really a claim at all it's something way beyond that.
一切以言辞表达的真理主张，所有信念，这一切都是相对的。 All truth claims in words, all beliefs, this is all relative.
一切文化规范，一切道德标准，都是相对的。 All cultural norms, all moral standards, it's all relative.
科学是相对的。 Science is relative.
相对于什么？相对于人类思想。 Relative to what? Relative to the human mind.
如果人类思想发生改变，如果人类思想的化学成分发生改变，所有科学都将荡然无存，一切都会发生变化。 If the human mind is changed, if the chemistry of the human mind is changed, all science flies out the window and all changes.
所有都是相对的。 All of them are relative.
明白了吗？你所见到的，你所经历的，你所了解的，政治、政府和商业，一切都是相对的。 See? What you see, what you experience, what you know, politics and government and business, it's all relative.
它是与特定环境和情境相关的。 It's relative to the particular circumstances and context in which it's situated.
当环境改变时，情况就变了，你的知识也改变了。 And if the context changes, then the situation changes, your knowledge changes.
这一切都不是绝对的。 None of that is absolute.
不存在绝对的外部世界，物质世界。 There is no absolute external world, physical world, material world.
这让我们引入下一个原则，那就是上下文胜过事实。 Which leads us to the next principle which is context over facts.
大多数人对事实固执己见，但却没有意识到上下文的重要性。 Most people get very stuck on facts but they don't realize the importance of context.
背景是事实所处的环境。 Context is the background within which the facts are situated.
我制作了一整集关于背景的节目，名为“理解再语境化”。 I have a whole episode about context which is called "Understanding Recontextualization".
去看看那一集吧。这是一集相当深刻的节目，有很多例子，这里就不展开了。 Go check that one out. It's a pretty profound episode with lots of examples that I won't go into here.
下一个核心原则是从数百种多样的来源获取信息。 The next core principle is to pull from hundreds of diverse sources.
这样做是为了不被囿于任何一个视角或范式。 This is done so that you don't get stuck in any one perspective or paradigm.
这绝对至关重要。 This is absolutely critical.
当你度过人生，秉持着终身学习的原则时， As you're going through life and you're doing this whole lifelong learning thing, which is one of your principles,
你需要从许多不同的来源汲取智慧。 then you need to be gathering from a lot of diverse sources.
不要只读西方书籍，也要读东方书籍。 Don't just read Western books, read Eastern books.
不要只读印度教，还应阅读基督教、希腊哲学等，广泛地涉猎。 Don't just read Hinduism, read Christianity and read Greek philosophy and, you know, spread it around.
多样化。像在股票市场中投资股票一样，多样化你的知识和信息组合。 Diversify. Diversify your portfolio of knowledge and information just like you would stocks in a stock market.
出于同样的原因，因为你想避免被困在某一件事情中。 For exactly that same reason because you want to avoid getting locked into some one thing.
某一个糟糕的范式，这会非常有限制性。 Some one terrible paradigm which is very limiting.
如果你学习了数百种不同的观点， And what will happen if you study hundreds of diverse perspectives,
这是actualize.org的核心原则之一，我非常认真地做到这一点。 which is one of the core principles of actualize.org, is that I do this very seriously,
然后真相将从您阅读的所有这些不同来源和书籍中进行三角测量和交叉参考。 then the truth will get triangulated and cross-referenced from all these different sources and books you read.
您知道，您读了数百本书。最终一切都会被三角测量，然后它会显现出来， You know, you read hundreds of books. Eventually it all gets triangulated and then it emerges,
某种大局的全貌显现了。 the sort of the big picture emerges.
如果您只学习一个特定的学派、一个传统， That would be impossible if you were only studying one particular school or one tradition
一个古鲁，或是在大学中某一个学科领域，那将是不可能的。 or one guru or, you know, one discipline within a university.
你无法做到。 You couldn't do that.
而且这仅仅是因为你正在学习所有这些不同的来源，你才会了解到所有的陷阱 And it's only because you're studying all these diverse sources that you learn about all the traps
你会了解到这个被称为人类生活和人类发展的事物的完整多样性。 and you learn about the full diversity of this thing called human life and human development.
而且其中包含的远远超出你从任何一所学校、老师或教学中获得的。 And there's so much more there than you could have possibly gotten from any one school, teacher or teaching.
这当然也适用于我。 Which of course applies to me.
你不能把我当作你唯一的来源。 You can't take me as your only source.
你需要把我作为你学习的其他数百个来源的一部分。 You need to include me as part of hundreds of other sources that you study from.
下一个原则是满足你的基本需求，这样你就不会渴求了。 The next principle is to satisfy your base needs so that you stop craving.
这非常重要。 This is very important.
我以前发布过一集叫做“利用马斯洛的需求层次理论实现自我实现”。 I have an episode that I released quite a bit ago called "Using Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs to Self-Actualize".
所以我之前谈到的是满足你的基本需求, And what I talked about there is it's all about satisfying your lower needs,
庇护、水、食物、性以及其他类似的需求； your basic needs for shelter and water and food and sex and this sorts of stuff
还有一些友谊、自尊等方面的事情，比如你的事业。 and some friendships and some self-esteem stuff like your career.
你必须处理好这些事情，这样你就不会渴望它们。 You gotta handle that stuff so you're not craving it.
这样你才能向塔顶上更高级的形而上学、存在的事物迈进，正如我们之前谈论的。 So that you can move higher up the pyramid to this higher metaphysical existential stuff that we talked about.
这是非常重要的。 This is so important.
这导致了下一个紧密相关的原则：“精通基本生存和谋生技能”。 Which leads to the next closely related principle of "Master Your Basic Survival and Livelihood".
这是非常重要的。 This is utterly important.
如果你不这样做，那就好像你是草原上的狮子，却不知道如何狩猎。 If you don't do this, it's as though you were a lion on the savanna and you didn't know how to hunt.
这些天很多人，特别是年轻人，我经常看到，青少年，二十多岁的人， A lot of people these days, especially young folks, I see this very often, teenagers, people in their early twenties,
你知道吗，他们在美国的一个舒适的郊区长大，或者可能在欧洲 you know, they grew up in a cushy suburb somewhere in the United States or maybe in Europe
他们的父母娇惯他们，所以这些孩子们整个童年都在玩电子游戏 and their parents coddled them and so these kids, they just spent their whole childhood playing video games
看电影，和朋友们混在一起，上学时浪费时间，抽大麻之类的东西。 and watching movies and just like dicking around in school with their friends and stuff, smoking weed and this kind of stuff.
然后当他们二十岁时，甚至可能已经完成了大学学业， And then by the time they're twenty and maybe they finish even university,
他们走进现实社会，却毫无生存或谋生能力的概念。 they get out into the real world and they have no idea about how to actually survive or make a livelihood.
然后他们开始思考我谈论的一些高尚的事情，比如意识和致幻剂 And then they start thinking about some of the high lofty things I talk about like consciousness and psychedelics
还有启悟和这些。 and enlightenment and this.
但是，当你连如何狩猎都不知道时，又能有什么启悟呢？ But it's like, what enlightenment can there be when you don't even know how to hunt?
学会如何狩猎。 Learn how to hunt.
对于现代人类来说，像狮子在热带草原上所做的事情的等同于商业。 The modern day equivalent for human beings of what a lion does on a savanna is business.
学习经商。了解商业如何运转。学会金钱如何运作。 Learn business. Learn how business works. Learn how money works.
这绝对是必不可少的。没有这个，你就会残废。 This is absolutely essential. Without this, you're gonna be crippled.
你需要能够处理一些基本基本的事情，比如支付房租，负担得起食物。 You need to be able to just handle the basic basic things like paying your rent, being able to afford food.
如果你做不到这些，暂时忘记启迪吧。专注于应对这些问题。 If you can't do these things, forget about enlightenment for now. Focus on handling that.
当然，这完全取决于你的内在修养。 And of course, that's all a function of your inner game.
你挣扎于生存和谋生，并不是因为经济不好。 So it's not because the economy is bad that you struggle with survival and livelihood.
而是因为你的父母、你的学校和你的童年，并没有为你养成那些在城市和郊区生活中生存必备的内在求生技能。 It's because your parents and your schooling and your childhood, they didn't program you with those survive the inner game survival skills that you need to learn a living in the savanna,
人类生活和成长的现代草原就是城市和郊区。 the modern day savanna that humans live in and grow up in, which is cities and suburbs.
狮子需要一套特定的技能才能在草原生存，而21世纪的人类则需要特定的技能和心理内在游戏技能来谋生。 See, a lion needs a certain set of skills to be able to survive in savanna and a human in the 21st century need a certain kind of skills and a certain kind of inner game in psychology
才能在城市或郊区环境中生存下去，谋生。 to be able to make a living and survive in a city or in a suburban environment.
这非常重要。 That's super important.
我至少花了大概10年的时间真正地努力发展一种独立生存和自食其力的方式 I spent at least probably 10 years of my life really working on developing a way for how to be independent and survive on my own
不依赖父母、来自其他地方的金钱或者其他任何东西。 without depending on my parents or money from other places or anything like that.
这样我就能够自给自足，然后基于这个基础，我才能去做我所做的更高级的事情。 So I can be self-sufficient and then it's based on that foundation that then I could go and do the higher stuff that I do.
否则我是做不到的。如果我担心明天怎么付账单，我就无法从事我正在做的其他工作，更高层次的事情。 I couldn't do that otherwise. Like if I was worrying about how to pay my bills tomorrow, I couldn't do this other work that I'm doing, the higher stuff.
因为我总是会陷入这种恐惧循环，不知道接下来会发生什么，如何维持生计，这类事情。 Because I would always be in this kind of cycle of fear, not knowing what's next, how to make ends meet, this sort of stuff.
你得搞清楚这一点。如果需要5到10年时间，那也没关系。搞清楚这个。 You gotta figure that out. If it takes you 5 or 10 years, that's okay. Figure that out.
基本上，你需要把你的青少年时期和所有的20多岁一直到30多岁的时间花在这上面。 That's basically what you need to be spending your teenage years and all of your 20s up through your 30s doing.
最好在30岁之前解决这个问题，如果可以更快就更好。 You wanna solve that by the time you're 30 ideally, if not sooner.
下一个核心原则是掌握技艺。 The next core principle is mastery.
你需要在生活中至少拥有一件事情，计划成为其中的大师。 You need to have something, at least one thing in your life that you are gonna plan to become a master in.
我不在乎是什么。有无数的选择。你可以成为绘画、绘画、音乐、DJ、举重、生活教练、写作、编程，或者其他任何领域的大师。 I don't care what it is. There are millions of options. You could be a master at drawing, painting, music, DJing, weightlifting, life coaching, writing, programming, whatever.
不过，你必须选择一个事情并专心去做。而不是碰触一堆毫无意义的东西。 You gotta pick one thing though and do it. This jack of all trades thing where you're just dabbling in a bunch of shit that doesn't work.
你需要成为一个你将要攻克的领域的大师。这是与你的人生目标息息相关。 You need one thing that you're gonna master. This is connected with your life purpose.
这也与我刚提到的关于生存和谋生方式的事情息息相关。 This is also connected with your thing that I just said about survival and livelihood.
狮子是追捕羚羊的大师。 狩猎大师。 The lion is a master at chasing down antelopes. Master at hunting.
这给予你一定的稳定性。 也让你享受其中，因为你将会在大部分时间里做的工作， This gives you certain stability. It also gives you enjoyment because really your work, which you're gonna be doing most of your life,
你从中获取的乐趣取决于你在其中花费多少成为大师。 the enjoyment that you get from that depends on how much of a master you are.
成为某事的大师需要5到10年的时间。 因此，你必须选择一样事物并专心做好。 It takes 5 or 10 years to become a master in something. So you gotta pick one thing and do it.
这样你就可以创造出优秀的工作，成为创造者，为社会提供巨大价值。 So that you could produce excellent work and so that you could be a creator and you could be a massive value provider to society.
我认为如今年轻人，尤其是千禧一代，最大的问题之一就是他们不追求精通。 One of the biggest things I think young people are screwing up on these days, millennials and so forth, is that they just don't pursue mastery.
他们什么都不精通。他们不会做任何事情。 They're not a master at anything. They don't know how to do anything.
因此，他们无法给任何人带来价值。因此，你只能被困在某种类似于招待或在麦当劳工作的工作中。 And therefore they can't provide value to anyone. And therefore you're stuck with some kind of waitressing job or working at McDonald's.
是的，当你什么都不精通的时候就会发生这种情况。 Yeah, that's what happens when you're a master of nothing.
从精通一件事情开始。一件你真正喜欢的事情。 Start by mastering one thing. One thing that you really enjoy.
重要的是，你要享受并掌握这件事。 And it is important that you enjoy this thing that you're gonna be mastering.
因为你将会花费大量时间和精力。所以你最好要非常喜欢它。 Because you're gonna be putting so much time and effort into it. So you better enjoy it a lot.
现在，这并不意味着你不能有爱好。我不是说如果你现在只是为了乐趣弹吉他，你是个业余爱好者，那就不用成为一名大师。 Now, this doesn't mean you can't have hobbies. I'm not saying that right now if you're playing a guitar just for fun and you're an amateur at it, that doesn't mean you have to become a master guitarist.
因为也许你的专长是编程。所以如果你是编程大师，当然你可以尝试弹吉他或涂鸦。这无关紧要。 Because hey, maybe your field of mastery is programming. So if you're a master at programming, sure you can go dabble in guitar and you can go dabble in painting. It doesn't matter.
因为你是编程大师。至少你拥有那个领域的专长。 Because you're a master in programming. You got at least that one thing.
但是，如果你什么也不精通，只是涉猎和尝试各种不同的事物，没有作出选择、决断和明确，也不确定自己想精通什么，那么这种行为将在以后的生活中给你带来很大的困扰。 But if you're not a master at anything and you're just dabbling and trying a bunch of different stuff without selecting anything and being decisive and clear about it and not being certain about what you want to master, that's gonna come back to bite you really hard later in life.
随着年龄的增长，精通事物就会变得越来越难。所以要趁年轻开始。 And the older you get, the harder it is to master things. So start young.
但是，即使年纪大了，也要开始行动。迟做总比不做要好。 But if you're old, still do it. Better late than never.
下一个核心原则是注意分散注意力。我有一个整集的节目。顺便说一句，我关于精通的一集节目。是之前的。你可以去看看。它叫做“精通”。 The next core principle is be aware of distractions. I have a whole episode. By the way, I do have an episode about mastery. It's an older one. You can go check it out. It's called "Mastery."
我有一个关于分散注意力的节目。它叫“自我最喜欢的防御机制：分散注意力”。 I have an episode about distractions. It's called "The Ego's Favorite Defense Mechanism Distraction."
去看看那个我列出自我心智想出来阻止你做这项工作的各种不同干扰的地方。去创造美好生活。 Go check that one out where I list all the different distractions that the ego mind comes up with to prevent you from doing this work. From creating the good life.
当然，这些干扰包括诸如电视、黄色内容、电子游戏、互联网、社交媒体、各种意识形态、家庭可能会成为干扰，孩子可能会成为干扰，追求物质成功、做生意、金钱、毒品，所有这些都可能成为干扰。 These distractions, of course, include stuff like TV, porn, video games, internet, social media, various kinds of ideologies, and family can be a distraction, kids can be a distraction, chasing material success, business, money, drugs, all these can be distractions.
所以你必须非常小心。这都是自我欺骗本质之一，自我的欺骗性质。 So you gotta be very careful. This is all part of the self-deception nature, self-deceptive nature of the ego mind.
下一个原则是系统思维。你需要成为一个系统思考者。学会以系统思维，学会看到系统在工作的各个地方。 The next principle is systems thinking. You need to become a systems thinker. Learn to think in terms of systems, learn to see systems at work everywhere.
培养对事物生态互联性的意识。我有一整集称为“系统思维入门”，将会做到这一点。 And develop awareness for the ecological interconnectedness of things. I have a whole episode called "Intro to Systems Thinking," which will do just that.
向您介绍系统思维，并解释所有这些东西。如果您不知道什么是系统思维，可以在我的书单上找到相关书籍。这是一个非常深刻的话题。 Introduce you to systems thinking and explain all of this stuff. If you don't know what systems thinking is, there are books you can read about on my book list. That's a pretty deep topic.
那些不具备系统思维能力的人通常不擅长解决更大的问题。 People who aren't systems thinkers aren't very good at solving bigger problems.
他们倾向于以非常简单化、黑白化的方式看待世界上的问题。 They tend to think of problems in the world very simplistically in black and white ways.
我认为每个问题都有一个根本原因之类的东西。而在一个系统中，通常会有很多因素在起作用。 And I think that every problem has one root cause or something like that. Where usually in a system you have a lot of factors that are coming into play.
您需要思考各种不同类型的反馈循环。系统往往以违反直觉的方式运作。 You have various kinds of feedback loops that you need to think about. Systems tend to work in counterintuitive ways.
经常情况下，当您试图改变一个系统时，您所做的改变实际上会导致问题恶化，而不是改善它。 Often times you're trying to change a system, the thing you do to change the system actually ends up worsening the problem rather than improving it.
因此，正是因为这一点变得重要。这将帮助您真正做出您想要做出的对世界的贡献。 So it's because of this that this is important. This is going to help you to actually make the contribution to the world that you want to make.
因为您将要与世界中几乎所有有趣的事物互动，这些事物都会是某种形式的复杂系统。 Because almost anything that you're going to be interacting with in the world that's of any interest is going to be a complex system of one form or another.
特别是当我们谈论大群体、企业、社会、文化时。这些都是系统。 Especially if we're talking about large groups of people, businesses, societies, cultures. Those are all systems.
另一个核心原则是成为一个优秀的公民并意识到您的生态足迹。 Another core principle is be a good citizen and be conscious of your ecological footprint.
你是整体中的一部分。你就像蚁群中的一只蚂蚁。 You are part of a larger whole. You are like one ant in an ant colony.
你需要意识到自己是蚁群中的一只蚂蚁，与整个蚁群相连。 And you need to become conscious that you are an ant in an ant colony and that you're connected to the entire colony.
你的存在并非独立行动。你是整体集体的一部分。 That your existence is not something you do independently. You do it as part of the entire collective that you're a part of.
你需要努力了解这是如何运作的。其中一部分是系统思维。 And you need to seek to educate yourself about how that works. Part of that is systems thinking.
因为这个蚁群是一个系统。同时你也需要教导自己你对整体文化以及整个蚁群的运作产生了什么影响。 Because this colony is a system. But also you need to teach yourself about what impact are you having on the larger culture and the larger working of this colony that you're in.
你是在降低意识还是提升意识？ Are you contributing to the lowering of its consciousness or the raising of its consciousness?
你是在制造问题还是帮助解决问题？你是个好公民吗？ Are you contributing to the problems or are you helping solve the problems? Are you being a good citizen?
这需要大量的教育，自学政治和治理知识，以及集体自我如何运作，生态系统如何运作，以及你的环境影响。 That requires a lot of education, teaching yourself about politics and governance and how collective ego works and how ecology works and your environmental impact.
即使在人行道上吃冰淇淋，你会怎样处理包装纸？会扔在地上吗？ Even when you're walking down the sidewalk eating an ice cream, what are you going to do with a wrapper? Are you going to throw it on the ground?
或者你有意识到你是如何参与其中吗？你有意识到开车时是如何导致空气污染的吗？ Or are you conscious of how you're contributing to that? Are you conscious of how when you're driving your car you're contributing to air pollution?
您是否意识到，作为美国公民，您的行为是如何导致美国发动海外战争的？ Are you conscious of how you being a citizen of the United States for example contributes to the wars that the United States starts overseas?
您是否意识到自己在其中扮演的角色，还是对此视而不见？ Are you conscious of your role in that or are you just blind to that?
您是否意识到您所食用的食物对环境、动物和其他人类的影响？ Are you conscious of the kind of food that you eat and how that impacts the environment and animals and other human beings?
您是否意识到您购买的产品对第三世界国家的影响，这些产品可能是在血汗工厂条件下生产的？ Are you conscious of the products that you buy and how that impacts third world countries where these products might be developed under sweatshop conditions?
您是否对此负责并努力成为一位良好的公民？ And you take responsibility for that and you strive to be a good citizen.
否则，你将得到的是一个意识模糊的、糟糕的社会，一个你不想生活在其中的社会。 Otherwise what you get is you get a kind of a crummy society that's unconscious, a kind of society that you don't want to live in.
另一个核心原则是要有战略性。我有一集非常受欢迎的节目，名为“如何成为一个有策略的人”。 Another core principle is be strategic. I have a very popular episode called "How to be a Strategic Motherfucker".
这是我最实用的一集节目之一，这也是人们喜欢它的原因。 It's one of my most practical episodes, that's why people like it.
我在那里详细讲解了如何制定策略的许多微妙之处。 I go into a lot of nuances there about how to be strategic.
但你需要能够耐心地执行你的计划。你需要制定计划，长远规划，想到未来5-10年的事情，规划好生活并有战略。 But you need to be able to be patient with your plans. You need to lay out plans, have a long time horizon, think 5-10 years down the road, plan stuff out in your life and be strategic about it.
为了使自己朝着真正想要的事物前进，您需要设定一些短期目标、中期目标、长期目标等。 So that you're moving towards the things that you really want and you need to have some short term goals, medium term goals, long term goals, etc.
您需要能够经历多个阶段性目标来达到某种目标。 You need to be able to go through multiple stepping stones to reach some kind of goal.
很多人，他们想要的东西在这里，但他们自己在这里。 A lot of people, it's like they want something but then that something is over here and they're over here.
他们看不到达到目标的路径，也无法设置阶段性目标以一步步提升自己。 They don't see a path to get there and they're not able to create the stepping stones to move their way up.
事实上，生活中您想要获得的大部分东西都需要通过多个阶段性目标才能一步步实现。 And in fact most of the biggest things in life that you want to acquire are going to require multiple stepping stones to inch your way towards them.
你不可能一步登天就达到目标。 You're not going to be able to just leap and get it in one step.
下一个核心原则是，只有通过启蒙才能实现幸福。 The next core principle is that happiness is only possible with enlightenment.
所以如果你还没有开悟，不要因为没有快乐而责备自己太多。实际上，这是不可能的。 So if you're not enlightened, don't kick yourself too much for not being happy. It's actually not possible.
幸福源自启蒙。 Happiness comes with enlightenment.
这并不意味着你不能提高自己的幸福水平，当然可以，而且你应该这样做，尽可能努力增加自己的幸福感，即使你没有启蒙，也应该努力增加自己的幸福感，尽管没有启蒙真正锁定幸福的可能性。 Now that doesn't mean you can't improve your level of happiness, of course you can and you should, you should work to increase your happiness as much as you can even though you won't be able to really lock in your happiness without enlightenment.
没有开悟，你根本不知道什么是真正的幸福。 You don't even know what true happiness is without enlightenment.
不仅如此，这个原则还向你展示的是为什么开悟如此重要。 But also what this principle demonstrates to you is why enlightenment is so important.
因为你追求的最终目标就是幸福，而实现幸福的唯一途径就是通过开悟。 Because what you ultimately want is happiness and the only way you're going to get it is through enlightenment.
所以不要拖延太久才开悟。 So don't put enlightenment off for too long.
另一个相关的原则是，任何物质财富都不会让你幸福。 Another related principle is that no material possessions will ever make you happy.
这是不可能的。这就像物理定律一样。 This is impossible. This is like a law of physics.
这比牛顿的万有引力定律或爱因斯坦的 E=mc2 方程更加确定和可靠。 This is like more certain and reliable than Newton's law of gravity or Einstein's equations of E=mc2.
这比那更有把握。 This is more certain than that.
无论是什么，任何物质财产都不会让你幸福。 No material possession will ever make you happy no matter what it is.
汽车、房子、钱、游艇。 Cars, houses, money, yachts.
但不仅仅是物质，还有你通常不考虑的事情，比如关系、家庭、知识、知识的获取、旅行。 But not just that, also the stuff that you normally wouldn't consider material like relationships, family, knowledge, the acquisition of knowledge, travel.
你认为旅行不算是物质吗？嗯，在这里我将所有这些都归类为物质。 You think travel is not material? Well I'm including all of that under the label of material here.
所有这些都不会让你快乐。肯定不会。不可能。 None of that stuff will make you happy. Guaranteed. Impossible.
你越早接受这一点，你的生活就会过得更好。 The sooner you can accept that, the much better your life will go.
如果你还没有理解这个原则，你将会追求很多年。你将浪费几十年的生活。 If you haven't yet understood this principle you're going to be chasing for many many years. You're going to waste decades of your life.
接下来的相关核心原则是要自己保持快乐。 The next related core principle is be happy all by yourself.
训练自己能够独自一人坐着什么都不做时保持快乐。 Train yourself to be happy all alone just sitting doing nothing.
这并不意味着你必须一辈子孤独。 That doesn't mean you have to be a loner for your whole life.
你可以社交并与朋友们享乐，那也可以。 You can socialize and have fun with friends, that's okay.
但是如果你不能在沙发上什么都不做的时候保持快乐，那你真的就达不到快乐。 But if you can't be happy just sitting on your couch doing nothing, you really can't be happy.
其他所有东西只是暂时的小推动，小剂量的肾上腺素和兴奋。 All the other stuff is just temporary little boosts, little shots of adrenaline and excitement.
其实是小毒品。 Little drugs, really.
这些东西只会让你分心，让你忽略内心深处你需要做的工作，让你坐在沙发上享受片刻乐趣都不能快乐。 That are distracting you from doing the inner work you gotta do to just be happy sitting there by yourself on a couch for an hour or two or a whole day or a whole week.
下一个核心原则是让生活简单、简朴。 The next core principle is keep your life simple and spartan.
不要让生活过于杂乱，不仅是物质，也包括各种社交义务和承诺。 Don't over clutter your life, not just with objects, but also with all kinds of social obligations and commitments.
家庭和一群孩子以及所有这一切。但这并不意味着有孩子和家庭有问题。 Family and a bunch of kids and all this. Now that doesn't mean there's a problem with having kids and family.
当然，你可以拥有这些东西，但请注意，每当你的生活有些许空闲时， Of course you can have those things, but just be mindful of the fact that anytime your life sort of frees up,
你的自我意识往往会想要用任何形式的分心或活动填充它。 your ego mind tends to want to fill it with just any kind of distraction or activity.
你需要做的是简化生活，我有一个名为《生活方式极简主义》的完整视频，看看那个。 What you want to do is you want to minimize your life, and I have a whole video called Lifestyle Minimalism, check that out.
简化你的生活，这样你每天会有几个小时的空间来进行自我提升、冥想和感悟生活， Minimize your life so that you have room, several hours every day to do self-improvement and to meditate and do spirituality,
也许尝试一些致幻剂，这样你就能在这里谈论的所有事情上有所作为。 maybe do some psychedelics, this sort of stuff, so that you can work on everything we're talking about here.
我们在这里讨论的一切，所有这些原则的实施都需要大量的空闲时间和工作， Everything we're talking about here, the implementation of all these principles requires a lot of free time and work,
而大多数人将这些时间浪费在各种各样的轻浮活动上。 which most people waste on various kinds of frivolous activities.
不要买一个你实际上并不需要的太大的房子，因为你会浪费时间打理那所房子， Don't buy a house too big that you don't really need, because you're going to waste time cleaning that house,
维护那所房子，做所有这些事情，而实际上你应该买一个更小的房子， maintaining that house, doing all this stuff, when really buy a smaller house instead,
这样，你就可以少浪费时间做那些事情，而是更多地花时间改善自己。 so that you waste less of that time doing that and instead spend more time working on yourself.
因为请记住，真正重要的是内心的修炼。 Because remember, the really good stuff is the inner game.
改变内心的修炼才是真正能让你快乐、满足，获得你想要的一切的关键， Changing the inner game is really what's going to make you happy and satisfied and get you all the other stuff that you want,
而不是拥有一栋大宅邸。 not having a big palatial mansion house.
下一个核心原则是，没有练习、锻炼和技巧，就不会有成果。 The next core principle is that without practice and exercises and techniques, there will be no results.
单单只懂得理论，虽然知道该做什么很重要，但本身并不会产生太多结果。 Theory alone, while important to know what to do, will not in itself produce much results.
就好比你的成果中，有95%会来自于实践、锻炼和技巧，而不是理论。 Like 95% of your results will come from the practices and exercises and techniques, not from the theory.
这并不意味着理论毫无意义。理论非常有用，但你需要更进一步。 That doesn't mean the theory is pointless. The theory is very useful, but you got to go beyond that.
至于技巧方面，让我分享我所发现的最强大的技巧给你。 And as far as techniques go, let me share with you the most powerful techniques that I've discovered.
非常简单，我不会向你保留它们。 Very simple, I'm not going to hold them back from you.
致幻剂、冥想、冥想瑜伽、日记写作、凝视、想象和独自静修。 Psychedelics, meditation, meditative yoga, journaling, contemplation, visualization and solo retreats.
这些是我在过去 5 到 10 年中从事这项工作中发现的最有效的技术。 These are the most powerful techniques that I've discovered in the last 5 or 10 years of doing this work.
对我来说，也许对你来说有其他的技术，但这些技术非常可靠和持续。 For me, now for you there might be other techniques, but these are pretty solid and consistent techniques.
成千上万的人证明这些技术能够带来人生中最大的进步。 These techniques have been proven by thousands and millions of people to produce some of the biggest gains that you can get in your life.
一些最巨大的转变来自于这些技术。 Some of the biggest transformations come from these techniques.
请注意，其中大多数技术都是内在的技术。 And notice that most of these techniques are inner techniques.
即使迷幻剂看起来像是一种外在技术，但它实际上是一种内在技术。 Even psychedelics seems like an outer technique, but it's an inner technique.
这是一种触发内在过程的外在技术。 It's an outer technique which triggers an inner process.
最后一个重要原则是不要将 actualize.org 变成一种意识形态。 And the final principle and a very important one is do not turn actualize.org into an ideology.
Actualize.org 不应成为一种意识形态。它实际上不应成为一种哲学或任何系统。 Actualize.org is not meant to be an ideology. It's not meant to really be a philosophy or a system of any kind.
它并非要遵循任何刻板的原则或规则。 It's not meant to have any rigid principles or rules.
你不应该像遵循《十诫》一样遵循我给你的这65条原则。 You're not supposed to follow these 65 principles that I gave you like the 10 commandments.
绝不可做那种事情，因为那会违背第一个原则，即意识形态和教条。 Nothing like that, because that would violate principle number 1, which is ideology and dogma.
所以每次讲话时，我都要注意不要变成那样。 So I have to be careful every time I speak that it doesn't turn into that.
当然，我需要尽到我的职责，而你也必须尽到你的职责。 And of course, I have to play my part, but you have to play your part.
虽然我尽全力做到一切，但你仍可将我所说的内容变成一种意识形态或教条。 Because I can do everything in my power, but then you can still turn what I say into an ideology or into a dogma.
事实上，这正是大多数人所做的。 And in fact, that's what most people do.
因此，你必须非常小心，不要将actualize.org变成另一种宗教。 So you have to be very careful not to turn actualize.org into another religion.
要能够实施我上面所说的所有内容，你需要对此非常聪明。 To be able to implement all the stuff I talked about above, you need to be very intelligent about it.
而且你需要非常深思熟虑和警觉。 And you need to be very thoughtful and mindful.
你需要非常看重上下文。 And you need to be very context-sensitive.
这不是你只需要简单地遵循的公式。这不是你进行的机械化的事情。 It's not a formula that you just kind of follow. It's not a robotic thing that you do.
这需要意识。这需要你每天都积极参与这些实施的工作。 It requires consciousness. It requires active participation every single day that you're implementing this stuff.
当然，我之所以这么说是因为actualize.org的教诲有一定的局限性。 And also, of course, the reason I say this is because actualize.org teachings have certain limitations.
这仍然是一种观点，尽管我囊括了数百种观点并将它们汇编在一起。 It's still a perspective, even though I cover hundreds of perspectives and I compile them together.
这仍然只是一种观点。这仍然来自于我。它仍然有我个人的一定局限性和偏见。 It's still a perspective. It's still coming from me. It still has certain limitations and biases that I have.
还有我得努力克服的问题。当然，它当然会存在这些。 And stuff that I got to work through. And of course, of course it has that.
这就是为什么你必须谨慎，你必须查看其他来源，不要将其变成一种意识形态。 Which is why you got to be careful and you got to look at other sources and not turn this into an ideology.
所以这就是这 65 条原则。 So those are the 65 principles.
当然，我漏掉了一些内容。这些是 actualize.org 的主要原则。 Now, of course, I have left stuff out. These are like the major principles of actualize.org.
还有成百上千个更为次要的原则，我在其他剧集中提到过，但在这里包含起来会太长。 There are hundreds of more minor principles which I've talked about in other episodes which would be too long to include here.
但是，你知道，我忽略了一些重要的事情，比如身体健康、健身、营养等等，这些仍然很重要。 But, you know, I've left out some important stuff like physical health, fitness, nutrition, and other things like that which are still important.
至于 actualize.org 网站，我认为这 65 条原则涵盖了我所教授的很多内容。 But as far as actualize.org goes, these 65 principles I think encapsulate a lot of what I teach.
好了，就到这里吧。我在这里讲完了。请为我点击那个“点赞”按钮，并查看 actualize.org。 Alright, that's it. I'm done here. Please click that like button for me and come check out actualize.org.
那是我的网站。您可以在那找到我的博客，包含各种见解，我的书单，有很多书籍，生命意义课程以及您可以讨论所有这些内容的论坛。 That's my website. You'll be able to find my blog with various insights, my book list with lots of books, the Life Purpose Course, and the forum where you can chat about all this stuff.
最后，我想说的是这最后一件事。 And finally, I'll just conclude by saying this last thing.
你可以把这想象成最终核心原则。 And this you might think of like as the final core principle.
生活是复杂的，充满挑战。生活极其深邃，同时也广阔无边。 Is that life is complex and challenging. Life is extremely deep but also very broad.
生活有很多、很多、很多方面。 There are many, many, many facets to it.
所以，即使你理解了一两个方面，也不要自以为是，认为自己全都掌握了。 So just because you understand some one or two facets, don't get too cocky and think that you've got it all.
这里有太多东西值得探索。你的一生可能都无法完全探索。 There's so much here to explore. It's going to take you your entire lifetime to explore.
即使如此，你还会有很多剩余时间来探索。 And you still will have much left over for future lifetimes.
生活是充满挑战的，这意味着你必须要珍惜你所知道的，我在这一集中已经深入探讨了很多内容。 And life is challenging which means that you have to appreciate that you know, I went into a lot of depth here in this episode.
这差不多就像是一场两小时的节目。 It's almost like a two hour episode here.
而且我仍然只是粗略地探究了这些原则的表面。 And still I've only kind of just glossed over the surface of these principles.
学习和掌握所有这些原则需要花费您数年的时间。 It will take you years to study and learn all of these principles.
不要被吓倒。要意识到，是的，生活如此复杂，充满挑战。 Don't get intimidated by that. Just realize that yes, that's because life is so complex and it is challenging.
学习所有这些知识非常困难，这正是大多数人过着平庸生活的原因。 It's difficult to learn all this stuff which is exactly why most people have a mediocre life.
因为需要付出大量的努力、能量和时间来学习所有这些知识，亲自验证其真实性。 Because it takes a lot of work and energy and time to study all this stuff, to verify for yourself that it's true.
你知道，仅仅听我说的并相信我所说的是一回事。 You know, it's one thing to just listen to me and believe everything I say.
光是这个就至少需要你在这里花上几个小时。 That in and of itself will take you a couple hours here at least.
但光是这样还不够去实际验证这些原则。 But that's not enough to actually go and verify each of these principles for yourself.
要与其他来源核实和交叉参考，要进行三角验证，要获取其他观点，要看看在这一切中我可能错在哪里。 To corroborate and cross reference with other sources, to triangulate the truth, to get other perspectives, to see where I might be wrong in all of this.
然后将所有这些应用到你的生活中。这需要数年甚至几十年的时间。 And then to implement all that in your life. That will take years and decades.
但嘿，这就是你活着的原因，也是你有80年可活的原因。 But hey, that's why you're alive and that's why you got 80 years to live.
你能做到这一点。这就是生活的精髓。 Is that you can do this. This is the meat of life right here.
你做的其他一切都只是点缀。这才是主菜。 Everything else that you do is just a garnish. This is the main course.
因此，试着安排你的生活，专注于主菜，而不是生活的点缀。 So try to structure your life in such a way that you're focused on the main course and not the garnishes of life.
而且，这也应该提醒你，没有简单的答案。 And also, this should alert you to the fact that there are no easy answers.
看，没有一种技巧，没有一颗神奇的药丸，没有一种方法可以为你解决一切。 See, there's no one technique, no one magic pill, no one method that will solve everything for you.
因为生活远比简单的解决方案要复杂。 Because life is just too broad for that to work.
所以你必须要有细分。这里没有黑白简单化的答案。 So you got to be nuanced. No black and white simplistic answers here.
这就是为什么我的节目时常如此冗长。 That's why my episodes are so long.
因为你知道，你能在五到十分钟的节目中放进什么样的东西？ Because, you know, the kind of stuff you could fit into a five or ten minute episode just like what?
这样做不会对你生活中的真正问题有任何帮助。 It's not going to make a dent in the real issues you have in your life.
这只是在泰坦尼克号的甲板上重新安排椅子。 It's only going to be rearranging the chairs on the deck of the Titanic.
我真的想帮助您找到问题的根源。 And I want to really help you to get to the root of things.
为了获得终极的顶峰体验，那些神秘的经历。 To get to the ultimate peak experiences, those mystical experiences.
您知道，处理金字塔底部的一切，达到马斯洛金字塔的顶峰甚至超越那个顶峰。 You know, to handle all the bottom of the pyramid, to get to the very top of Maslow's pyramid and to go even beyond that.
这就是生活变得真正美好的地方。 That's where, oh man, that's where life gets really good.
这正是我真正热衷于教授和亲身体验的内容。 That's what I'm really passionate about teaching and experiencing for myself.
然后，当然，你将这些智慧带回到金字塔底部，并用它灌注底部。 And then of course you take that wisdom and you bring it back down to the bottom of the pyramid and you infuse the bottom with the top.
这时，你的生活才会变得特别起来。 And then that's when your life really becomes something special.
所以我们会继续越来越多地谈论这个。 So we're going to continue talking about that more and more.
我的所有节目都致力于这一目标。 That's what all my episodes are geared towards.
希望您现在对 Actualize.org 的宗旨有了很好的理解。 Hopefully now you have a good understanding of what Actualize.org is about.
您可以遵循这些原则来创造一个真正强大的生活。 And you can follow these principles to create a really powerful life.
我希望您能看到这里分享的价值。 I hope you can see the value of what's being shared here.
不要视为理所当然。 Do not take it for granted.
从今天开始，如果您真的做出承诺，您可以以惊人的方式改变未来生活的整个轨迹。 This day, today, from this information, from now on, if you really make a commitment, you can change the entire trajectory of the future of your life in an amazing way.
但仅仅做出承诺是不够的。 But it's not enough just to make that commitment.
你还需要记得从现在开始每一天都要努力工作。 You're also going to have to remember to work at it every single day from now on as well.
是的，这是具有挑战性的，但这也是 Actualize 存在的原因。 Yes, it's challenging, but that's why Actualize already exists.
我会持续发布新视频，为你带来更多深刻见解，更多技巧，同时也为了保持你的积极性，激励你，并提醒你已经做出了承诺。 I keep releasing new videos to release more insights for you, more techniques, and also just to keep you motivated, inspired, and reminded that you've made this commitment.
所以继续关注我，即使只是为了让我提醒你，这确实是你想要的。 So stay tuned with me for more, if for no other reason than just to have me remind you that this is what you really want.
因为在所有朋友身边，很容易忘记，再次入睡。 Because it's very easy to forget and to fall back asleep in with all your friends.
然后，在你意识到之前，10-20年已经过去了，你荒废了全部时间，却一无所有。 And then before you know it, 10-20 years goes by and you've pissed it all away and you have nothing to show for it.
你会比以往任何时候更加沮丧、痛苦和懊悔。 And you're more depressed and miserable and regretful than ever.
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