you've probably heard the saying that 您可能已经听说过这样的话
70% of all communication is portrayed 刻画了所有沟通的70％
through body language think about it 通过肢体语言思考
before someone even opens their mouth we 在某人张开嘴之前，我们
already start assuming what they're like 已经开始假设他们是什么样子
just from the way they carry themselves 只是从他们自己的方式
that's why in this video you're going to 这就是为什么在这个视频中
learn exactly how to portray a confident 确切学习如何塑造自信
attractive and respectable body language 有吸引力且受人尊敬的肢体语言
we're going to cover everything from 我们将涵盖从
your feet to the expressions on your 你的脚在你的表情
face and we're going to make sure you 面对，我们将确保您
have a full understanding of why certain 对为什么一定要有充分的了解
types of body language are good and why 肢体语言的类型很好，为什么
certain types are bad so starting with 某些类型不好，所以从
the feet you want to make sure that your 您要确保您的脚
feet are shoulder length apart with your 脚与您的肩分开
toes pointing outward why well the rule 脚趾向外指向为什么规则很好
of thumb when it comes to body language 肢体语言方面的经验
is that closing off your body is 是关闭你的身体是
associated with nervousness and fear 与紧张和恐惧有关
hypothetically if someone was about to 假设有人要
hit you your instinct would be to close 打你，你的直觉就是关闭
off your body to cover your organs and 离开身体覆盖器官
genitals open body language on the other 生殖器开放式肢体语言另一方面
hand is associated with feeling relaxed 手与放松感相关
calm and confident so having your feet 冷静和自信，让你的脚
apart toes pointing outwards is open 分开的脚趾向外张开
while having them together pointing 同时让他们一起指向
inwards is closed moving on to your 内向是封闭的，继续前进到您的
hands do not keep your hands in your 手不要让你的手
pocket 口袋
do not cross them do not have one hand 不要越过他们没有一只手
holding the arm of the other hand and if 握住另一只手的手臂，如果
you're at a party do not hold a drink 你在聚会上不喝酒
covering your chest all of these are 遮住你的胸部所有这些都是
forms of closed body language so what 封闭式肢体语言的形式
should I be doing with my hands and arms 我应该用手和手臂做吗
instead it's best to keep your hands at 相反，最好保持双手
your side relaxed even if you have a 即使有
drink if you're speaking with someone 和别人说话时喝
you can use your hands to emphasize 你可以用手来强调
certain points if you were to ask me to 某些要点，如果你要我
adjust one part of the body that would 调整身体的一部分
have the biggest influence on how people 对人们的影响最大
perceive you it would have to be the 意识到你那一定是
chest this is actually the area that 胸部这实际上是
people have problems with the most a lot 人们有很多问题
of us have what are called rounded 我们中的人有所谓的四舍五入
shoulders our shoulders arc forward past 肩膀，肩膀向前弯曲
the neck 颈部
largely due to our culture which is 很大程度上是由于我们的文化
increasingly dependent on computer usage 越来越依赖于计算机的使用
the ideal way to hold your chest is to 抱胸的理想方法是
have your chest outwards and your 让你的胸部向外
shoulders back like in this image here 像这样在这里像肩膀
for those of you who have a posture 对于那些有姿势的人
problem through the years of computer 多年来的计算机问题
usage there are a lot of exercises out 用法有很多练习
there that will help straighten your 在那里将有助于理顺你的
back and fix your shoulders moving on to 回到并固定你的肩膀继续前进
the head you should stand straight with 你应该站直的头
your head in line with the rest of your 你的头与其他人保持一致
body your head should be facing forward 身体应该朝前
you don't want to tilt it down as it 你不想像它那样向下倾斜
seems too submissive and you don't want 似乎太顺从了，你不想
to tilt it up too much 倾斜太多
as it seems too arrogant the face is a 因为看起来太自大了，脸是
large part of how people perceive you 人们如何看待您
during interactions there are two things 在互动中，有两件事
that you'll want to focus on the first 您将要专注于第一个
is eye contact chances are if you're 是眼神接触的机会，如果你是
watching this video you're not making 观看您不制作的视频
enough eye contact especially if you're 足够的眼神交流，特别是如果您
a male strong eye contact is a huge 男性强烈的眼神交流是巨大的
indicator for confidence I'm sure you've 信心指标我确定你已经
met people who seem totally normal but 遇见了看似完全正常的人
just could not maintain eye contact 只是不能保持眼神交流
this makes the interaction feel very 这使得交互感觉非常
uncomfortable and they come off as very 不舒服，他们脱落非常
very unconfident the magic ratio you 非常不确定你的魔力比
want to maintain is 8020 you want to 想要保持的是8020
spend 80% of the time during the 花费80％的时间
conversation making eye contact and 20% 进行眼神交流的对话和20％
of the time letting your eyes wander 时光流逝
this way you seem very confident very 这样看来你很自信很
interested in what the other person is 对对方是什么感兴趣
saying but at the same time you don't 说，但同时你不
come off as creepy the second thing you 作为令人毛骨悚然的第二件事脱落
want to focus on is your smile do not 想专注是你的微笑
have one of those giant teeth showing 露出一颗巨大的牙齿
smiles plastered on your face 24/7 脸上涂满微笑24/7
because well it actually seems nervous 因为实际上看起来很紧张
these smiles seem forced and fake 这些微笑似乎是强迫的和假的
instead it's best to have a subtle grin 相反，最好有一个微微的笑容
like you're having a good day this 就像你今天过得愉快
projection aura of happiness but seems 幸福的投射光环，但似乎
genuine and not forced now don't get me 真正的而不是被迫现在不要误会我
wrong it's perfectly okay to smile with 错误，与之微笑完全可以
your teeth but save it for those special 你的牙齿，但保留那些特殊的
occasions now that we've covered what 现在我们已经涵盖了
good body language looks like let's talk 良好的肢体语言让我们聊聊
about how you should move your body the 关于如何运动身体
rule of thumb when it comes to movement 运动方面的经验法则
is slow slow slow the slower you move 慢慢慢慢你移动的慢
the more confident you seem a lot of us 你对我们很多人更有信心
are prone to fast fidgety movements you 容易发生烦躁不安的动作
know we like to touch our face or play 知道我们喜欢摸脸或玩耍
with our hands and this just screams I'm 用我们的双手，这只是尖叫我
nervous it makes you look like you're on 紧张会让你看起来像在
the edge all of the time the reason we 一直处于边缘的原因
want to stray away from nervous behavior 想偏离神经行为
so much is that emotions get transferred 情绪转移得太多了
if you're nervous the people you're 如果你对人感到紧张
interacting with will feel uncomfortable 与他人互动会感到不舒服
as well they feel as if something is 他们觉得好像是
wrong and this hinders your overall 错误，这会阻碍您的整体
likability well how slow should we move 讨人喜欢以及我们应该走多慢
honestly you could move pretty slow 老实说你可能会移动得很慢
without it looking weird just don't move 没有它看起来很奇怪只是不要动
too slow like you're in the matrix the 太慢了，就像您在矩阵中一样
last concept we're going to talk about 我们要讨论的最后一个概念
is space this relates a lot to the open 空间与开放有很大关系吗
and close body language concept that we 并接近我们的肢体语言概念
spoke about earlier the more space you 讲的越早，您的空间就越大
take 采取
the more comfortable and confident you 你越舒服和自信
seem when you add a desk spread your 似乎当您添加办公桌时，您的
belongings don't be afraid to have some 财物不要害怕有一些
space between your phone and your 手机和手机之间的空间
notebook but don't be that guy who takes 笔记本，但不要成为那个拿走笔记本的人
up three seats with his book bag and 他的书包坐了三个座位，
jacket when you're sitting don't be 坐着的时候不要穿夹克
afraid to sit with your legs apart drape 怕腿分开坐
your arms on the chair next to you if 如果您的手臂放在旁边的椅子上
it's empty do not be afraid to open up 它是空的，不要害怕打开
your body and that's it if you want to 你的身体就这样，如果你想
be perceived as more confident look more 被认为更自信
attractive and gain more respect you 吸引人并获得更多尊重
just have to keep in mind these concepts 只需记住这些概念
stay away from closed body language move 远离封闭的肢体语言移动
slower take up more space and increase 较慢占用更多空间并增加
the amount of eye contact you make by 您的眼神交流量
making these changes I can a hundred 做这些改变我可以一百
percent guarantee you'll see an 保证您会看到
improvement in your social interactions 改善社交互动
whether it be on things during meetings 会议期间是否有事
at parties or even just hanging out with 参加聚会，甚至与
your friends 你的朋友们