I love marshmallows but then he doesn't 我喜欢棉花糖，但他不喜欢
I don't know what I love more the soft 我不知道我更喜欢柔软的东西
moist tender center or the powdered 湿润的中心或粉状
sugar on the outside that dissolves on 在糖溶解 在外面
contact with my tongue but I digress 我的舌头接触，但我离题了
over 40 years ago the legendary 40 多年前的传奇
psychologist Walter Mischel did an 心理学家沃尔特米切尔做了一个
experiment with four-year-olds that 试验四岁的孩子
change the world 改变世界
he put little kids in front of a 他把小孩放在了前面
marshmallow and told them that if they 棉花糖并告诉他们，如果他们
didn't eat it until he got back he would 直到他回来他才会吃掉它
give them the second marshmallow then he 给他们第二个棉花糖然后他
left for 15 minutes needless to say not 离开15分钟不用说
many of the kids made it but then he 很多孩子都做到了，但后来他
followed the kids that did for 20 years 跟着做了20年的孩子们
it turned out that the kids who could 事实证明，孩子们可以
delay gratification did better in almost 延迟满足几乎没有好转
every area of life they scored hundreds 他们生活的每个领域都有数百人
of points higher on their SAT tests they 他们的SAT考试得分更高
had better relationships and they got 有更好的关系，他们得到了
promoted more often Michelle found that Michelle更频繁地提到了这一点
willpower is a big deal but at the time 意志力是一个大问题，但在当时
he forgot the most important question 他忘记了最重要的问题
that's where Albert bandura and I come 这就是Albert bandura和我来的地方
in 在
here's my experiment I wanted to find 这是我想要找到的实验
out if you can learn willpower in other 如果你能在其他学习意志力
words is will a skill first I brought 14 单词是技能首先我带来了14
four-year-olds into a room and made them 四十岁的孩子进了一个房间而且做了他们
Michele's offer okay do you like 米歇尔的报价好吗？
marshmallows this is for you but I'm 棉花糖这是给你的，但我
gonna leave the room for a while and I 要离开房间一会儿 ，我
get back if this is still here I'm gonna 如果这仍然在这里我会回来的
give you another marshmallow 给你另一个棉花糖
remember you can eat it whenever you 记住，你可以吃，只要你
want but if it's still there when I get 我想要，但是当它到达时它仍然在那里
back I'm gonna give you 我会给你的
you have to to eat then I watch them to 你必须吃，然后我看他们
see how many could wait for the second 看看有多少人可以等待第二个
yummy tree just like in Michelle's 美味的树就像米歇尔一样
experiment some made it let's go find 实验一些让我们去找
you but most didn't it's just so hard 但是大多数人并没有这么难
after a while I could predict who is 过了一会儿，我可以预测到谁
gonna fail within the first few seconds 会在最初的几秒钟内失败
Foss okay this is for you but wait wait Foss好吧这是给你的，但等待等
okay some didn't even take a few seconds 好吧有些甚至没有花几秒钟
but the ones who did this or this or 但那些做这个或这个或那个的人
this 这个
well it wasn't hard to read their body 好吧，阅读他们的身体并不难
language then I took the second group of 语言然后我采取了第二组
14 and tried something different I tried 14并尝试了不同的尝试
to teach them a skill for delay I 教他们延迟技巧我
reassured them it was okay if they ate 他们放心，如果他们吃了就没关系
the marshmallow but then I made some 棉花糖， 但后来我做了一些
suggestions if they wanted to wait for 他们想等待的建议
the second one something you can do to 第二个你可以做的事情
help yourself way is to not look at the 帮助自己的办法就是不 看
marshmallow to think of your favorite 棉花糖想到你最喜欢的
story that your mom would add is read 你妈妈会添加的故事是读的
you or you can play a game with yourself 你或你可以自己玩游戏
in the room then I watch them look at 在房间里，我看着他们看
the clever things they did 他们做的聪明的事情
you 您
a few years after Michelle's original 米歇尔原创后几年
work Albert bandura found you could help Albert Bandura发现你可以提供帮助
kids develop willpower skills by just 孩子们只是发展意志力技能
showing them a video of kids who 向他们展示一个孩子们的视频
successfully delayed after watching my 看完我后成功推迟了
14 kids I can see why a picture is worth 14个孩子，我可以看到为什么一张照片值得
a thousand words the results 50% more 千言万语，结果多50％
kids made it when given advice about how 当给出关于如何的建议时，孩子们就做了
to delay so what's the point 延迟所以重点是什么
willpower has a huge influence on our 意志力对我们的影响很大
ability to achieve what we want in life 能够实现我们想要的生活
no big surprise there but for those of 没有什么大惊喜，但对于那些
us who are feeling weak and out of 我们感到软弱无力
control never forget what these 控制永远不会忘记这些
four-year-olds teach us you're never too 四岁的孩子告诉我们你永远不会
young or too old to learn the skills to 年轻或太老学习技能
increase will 增加意志