what is the single force that controls
the quality of your life if there was
one gift our Creator has given us or the
universe whatever you believe what is it
what is the one power that you have
right now in this moment that can change
everything you haven't I haven't we all
have it if this one singular individual
power that can change anything in our
life regardless of what's happened to us
and I know you know the answer the
answer is the power of choice the one
thing we have in this world is we can't
control the events but we can choose
what to focus on we can choose what
things mean and we can choose what to do
those three choices those three
decisions really control our life it's
not so much the conditions of our life
that control our destiny as much as the
decisions of our life try for a second
to think about something think about
your life and just think about are there
a few decisions if I were to ask you two
decisions you've made in life you know
that if you would have made a different
decision you would have a totally
different life I mean it may be a life
may have been better it may have been
worse I don't know but you would have
different life I'm not asking you to to
by him the fact that you should have
known the answers I'm just wanting you
to see the power of a decision how is
your life better today because the
decision you've made years ago not just
negative ones think about it sometimes a
little decision changes your whole life
like you decide one day to go to a
certain school and you go to that school
or you to go eat someplace and you bump
into person that becomes the love of
your life or you meet someone and you
decide as a result of that that you're
gonna become a photographer or a
software engineer or a business person
or a doctor or a dentist whatever they
impacted you but you made the decision
that's what I really want that's what
that's what my life's gonna be about and
that decision has affected so much of
your life what you do how you live your
life I you spend your time what you earn
or don't earn you know who you attract
into your life beliefs you have all come
from some of these little decisions what
you decide to eat from your dinner plate
each night certainly determines your
physical death
right we all know that at least to a
certain extent I know there's a certain
amount that's genetics but I'm talking
about the stuff you and I can control so
decisions equal destiny it's not our
conditions
it's our decisions so if we want a new
life if we want a new experience we got
to make new choices if you don't like
the way your career is or your
businesses change it if you don't like
your body change it you don't like your
relationship change you first because if
you change it you'll bring you to the
next one maybe it's time to change it
too but change yourself first if you
want to change any of your life you have
the choice so there is no right or wrong
I just want to make you aware in this
breakthrough session that everything in
our life changes the moment we make a
decision I need a real decision a
decision is when you cut off any other
possibility you commit to something with
everything you've got and you take
action but the big decisions start with
little decisions like what am I going to
focus on is whatever you focus on you're
gonna feel
if you focus on all the things that had
been done to you in your life of course
you're gonna feel like hell if you focus
on all the amazing coincidences that
have happened things that maybe they
were guided maybe thought but things
happen and because of that you met this
person that's your best friend your
husband your wife or because of that you
have disability or because you were
there that day god you missed an
accident I don't know what it is but
whatever you focus on you're gonna feel
if you focus on people don't care and
you look through reasons why they don't
care and evidence they don't care you'll
find it everywhere if you look for
evidence that people are really good
people inside that at some level we all
care about each other you'll find it
seek and you shall find the secret is
have you become conscious about your
decision-making because this
breakthrough session is really you want
to change your life make no choices new
life comes from new choices but you
gotta make conscious choices where you
make decisions about what to focus on
and what things mean what to do and your
unconscious you get pretty terrible
results usually now we've all done this
I do it still we all do but if you want
to change your results you got to become
more conscious in your decision-making
so think about it what you focus on you
will feel whether it's true or not you
focus on our people don't care you're
gonna feel they don't care second
decision you make is whether things mean
so you focus on something someone does
and you come up with a meaning and the
meaning is no one loves me the meaning
is they're turning to take advantage of
me depending on what meaning you come up
with and you get to choose the meaning
of anything for some people they say
this situation happened with the economy
and what that means is I'm going broke
somebody else said the situation that
were the economy guess what that means
I'm gonna work harder I'm gonna be more
creative it changed everything everybody
else is gonna quit so we're gonna
dominate the marketplace
Clippy able to do it
is this the end right now or is at the
beginning see whether it's the end of
beginning is your choice you get to
decide cuz once you make up a meaning
it's true if you think if this is the
end of a relationship are you gonna
treat people the same way as if you
think it's the beginning of relationship
no way in fact I tell people if you want
to have a great relationship think about
this treat people like you did in the
beginning of the relationship and there
won't be an end the meaning we give
things is very different if so we feel
different and our life is different in
the beginning you'll do anything for
someone now you make up a new meaning
why should I have to do that for them
little choices like what to believe
about yourself what to believe about
other people whether this is the end of
the beginning start to affect your whole
life and the third decision we make we
decide with the focus on most of us
unconsciously we decide what things mean
and the third thing we decide is what
are we gonna do we decide to quit
because it's overwhelming we decide to
get strong and focus we decide we're
gonna turn it around we decide to wait
and see ultimately your destiny is
determined by what you do your destiny
is determined by your decisions I think
in life there's three things there's our
ability to choose what we're focused on
to commit to get a result to put all our
intention and focus into something
there's our ability to do the right
things to have the right strategy to
execute and then there's some grace
there's what some people call luck some
people call grace there's if you do the
right things over and over again and
with total focus sometimes you know you
get good fortune that comes your way and
you tend to have more good fortune when
you're totally focused and decisive and
you take lots of action than if you kind
of just sit around and accept things
like but you don't have a future we
forget that you don't have to be famous
to have the ability to change at least
your own personal history to change the
direction we go in our life we have the
power to choose even if you haven't
before you can finally say no more I
won't put up with that
within myself or from anybody else
here's what I'm gonna do differently
that's where the breakthroughs really
start to happen now the question is why
do some people stand their ground and
make something change versus other
people just kind of accept things why do
some people make bold decisions and
other people make decisions that are
based on trying to hang on to what
they've got because when you can change
your decisions you can change your life
and you can change the force that
controls your decisions you can change
anything in your life
they'll find five reasons that empower
you why is it that you deserve your goal
what are the five reasons that you won't
give up when life catch you on the
blindside when the messenger of misery
visits you what are you going to do what
will keep you in the game when life
knocks you to the canvas see the Buster
Douglas that fought in the last fight
was not the Buster Douglas that fought
Mike Tyson see the Buster Douglas that
got knocked down while fighting Mike
Tyson had gotten out of an alcohol
recovery center his mother had died his
wife was ill with a terminal illness he
was considered a nothing a bum so when
he got knocked down Buster Douglas had a
reason to get back up because he said
I'm dedicating this fight to the memory
of my mama but when he fought the last
fight that he had and he got knocked
down and he had a guaranteed twenty-four
million dollars in his pocket where he
got up enough
he just said hurry up and count me out
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and I don't blame me why get hurt
said no why'd you leave so soon
somebody's about to get hurt me so
you've got to have some reasons that
when life knocks you down and it's gone
to hell oh it's going to knock you down
when people disappoint you and that's
going to happen when they betray you and
that's going to happen when they lied to
you and that's going to happen they said
oh you can count on me and they won't
show up and that's going to happen when
you want to throw in the towel and give
up yourself and that's going to happen
when life collapse on you and catch you
on the Blind Side it drops you to your
knees to start showing you you got a
dream though I got no dream and that's
gonna happen what reason can you
remember that you can call on that you
can reach on that can make you get back
up find that reason because your life it
knocked me down I said life I'm doing
this because I want to make my momma
proud of me I'm doing this because I
want my children to have a better life
than what I had
I'm doing this because all my life I've
been told I'd be a loser that I wouldn't
make it all my life I heard people said
maybe take him back to the welfare
department I'm doing this to make them
Allah I believe like Frank Sinatra he
said the best revenge in life is massive
success I'm doing this so I can become
massively successful and with that kind
of courage with that kind of affirmation
and reason to empower me I got a saying
that when life knocks you down try and
land on your back because if you can
look up you can get up
so when you run out of money when things
don't work out for you when things
happen that you could not anticipate
what are the reasons that you can think
of that can keep this strong that can
keep you in the game that will be your
rod and staff to comfort you that can be
your bridge over troubled waters those
reasons a very important Nietzsche said
if you know the why for living you can
endure almost any how so find out the
reasons that you do what you do find out
the reasons that will make you strong
that will make you walk by faith and not
by sight that will make you pursue your
dream and everybody is against you or
don't believe in your no more and let me
tell you something that's a lonely
feeling it's a lonely feeling
particularly people that you're doing it
for or people that stand to benefit the
most or people who should be the number
one members in the encouragement Club
but they end up saying you can't do it
and they become members of the
discouragement Club oh it hurts very
badly I know what that's like have
people that you love close to you they
look at you with that look and say why
don't you try something else
why don't you give up I said but this is
my life I have got to do this less you
had a good job at Sears that man like
you mama I can't go back you see I get I
can't do I got to be my own boss I I
can't do that I mean you know it's it's
ladies and gentlemen you don't you work
on a job that's dead in you can see the
ceiling already it's like going in the
middle of a movie and after you've seen
the movie sitting back through that over
again there's something missing you know
the hero's not gonna die you know what
the outcome is already and so that's why
a lot of people lady was telling me she
said when she went to work stuff like a
refrigerator fell on her shoulder as
soon as she stepped in because she knew
she could gone as far as she could go
see they're paying her just enough to
keep her from quitting and she's worked
just hard enough just to keep from
getting fired how many of you know
people like that raise hands
why do you didn't raise your hand you
the world
I'll just eat without just feed all
right here's something else make a
commitment to be happy
see you know I have you're laughing a
lot see life is too short
going through a look at home lit titled
ugly sometimes we take life too
seriously
oh no make a commitment to be happy fine
little things just to get tickled about
and laugh find ways to be happy in the
moment a lot of people say well I'll be
happy when I pay off all my bills I'll
be happy when I get my divorce
oh no don't I'll be happy with the
children god oh no no you want to be
happy now see there are no guarantees no
one say you're gonna be here two three
or four years from now so you want to be
happy right now in the moment repeat out
to me I must make a commitment
to be happy right now right now it's all
I got
take somebody's hand on your right and
left it's that you deserve to be happy
make a commitment to be happy because
life now has new meaning for you just
enjoying the sunset or just looking at
life looking at nature going for walk
it's the little things in life that
counts
here's something else that you want to
begin to do in order to make this your
decade you want to begin to get all the
toxic people out of your life hello
energy drainers get them out of your
life see ladies and gentlemen it takes a
lot of energy to reach your goal takes a
lot of emotional mental and spiritual
energy to reach your goal and you can
run faster with a hundred who want to go
than with one around your neck so there
are two kinds of relationships since
Simon talks about this nourishing
relationships and toxic relationships
nourishing relationships are the
relationships that inspire you they
motivate you they bring the best out of
you
toxic relationships are relationships
with people that always criticize you
all they can do is find for all they can
do is just exploit your weaknesses all
they can do is remind you of the
mistakes that you've made in the past
these people are bad for your health
toxic people can run your blood pressure
up one Apple could spoil the whole
barrel one negative energy or energy
drainer can spoil your whole life I know
people who lives have been ruined
because somebody wasn't good for them
see there's some people that aren't good
for you
hello they aren't good for you've got to
get them out of your life see a lot of
people put up with a lot of foolishness
because they don't want to die by
themselves here's what I believe I
believe in a 1/2 a box theory
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as this question of yourself make a list
of who you communicate with most and ask
yourself the question what kind of
person am i becoming because of this
relationship does it helping me to grow
mentally and emotionally and spiritually
am i becoming a better person because of
this relationship do they bring out the
best in me do they inspire me do they
encourage me to develop my greatness do
they make me stretch so you got to look
at the people in your life and find out
what kind of person are you becoming
because of that relationship my mother
used to say birds of a feather flock
together you run around with losers you
will end up a loser