‫His client let's call him John.
‫I was married with two children.
‫His John's daughter was just about to go to college and John's son was just about to go to high school.
‫He had very little issue with his wife.
‫He had a really good relationships with his daughter but with his son he really didn't have a great
‫relationships.
‫It's not that he had a bad relationship but he just felt like there was really no connection at all.
‫After a few sessions he realized that he was just focusing on most of his time with of course with his
‫wife.
‫But then with his daughter and he thought that the reason is because you know she was going to going
‫out to college and here really needed to give her more focus.
‫By the way I just want to make clear that when I do the coaching that my clients parents are the one
‫who really make all the decisions right.
‫So I never tell them what to do.
‫I may introduce some tools but it is their decision.
‫It is up to them to decide what to do and how to handle situation.
‫So just want to make that sure.
‫And it's generally like in any coaching certain rights and my job is to coach them to help them get
‫where they want to get so back to the story.
‫So after discussing situation he actually did realize that he needed to.
‫He needed to do something to improve relations with his son so what we again we I'm the one just coaching
‫him decided to do was that he was going to do whatever he can to spend more time with his son.
‫So he started doing one or one.
‫So basically just having one now with his son only that's by the way a great thing to do if you have
‫more than one child and even if you're one child it's a great thing to do to have one parent.
‫If it's you know if you live with the partner it's a great to have one partner and have one on one with
‫the child just go out or whatever you do.
‫But just so the focus is hundred percent on the child not on the partying and not back and forth.
‫Nothing other children.
‫And then you have another partner spending also one on one with the child.
‫So he decided to have a more one on one if you will sessions with his son.
‫He would take him out for lunch.
‫Sometimes he would just go out and have dinner with his son.
‫He introduced some games where they all played together and there were also some games where he would
‫just play with his son.
‫When daughter was prepping if you will for college studying so.
‫So in this in this example John had a great relationship with his wife great relationship with his daughter
‫and what he needed to do and what he did was improved relationship with with his son.
‫I actually said I recently spoke to John and I'm really happy to hear that you know he's got a great
‫relation with his son now son is just doing amazingly well in school which he was not doing so well.
‫So it just tells you that he wasn't really focusing on the school you know directly.
‫He was really just focusing on elation with his son and that by itself helped so that his son is a result
‫of of him you know working on relationships and having better course a trust relationship with his son
‫as a result his son was doing so much better in school.
‫So now he's doing great in school.
‫He's doing a sport.
‫He's just he's just so happy how his son is doing so.
‫So again look at your relationship with your entire family and just make sure that across the board
‫you have a good relationship because if you have a good relationship with your partner with your one
‫child but not so great with another child then then you know you want to do something about it so that
‫you know when they grow up and say well you know your dad just loved you and didn't love me and here's
‫why I'm with that.
‫So I'm just making up these stories but this story.
‫But you know these things to happen.
‫Right.
‫So these things do happen sometimes you know when we have more than one child.
‫You know one child turned out to be doing much better in life than the other.
‫It could be so many reasons.
‫But let's make sure that we we are not the reason.
‫Let's make sure that we as a parents do everything we can to give you know equal opportunity if you
‫will to all of our children.