Can introverts have charisma?
First, let's free up a common misconception, though different psychologists may define introversion
slightly differently, introversion does not equal being shy.
Introverts have a preference for quiet, more minimally stimulating environments.
The stereotype of a charismatic person being an extrovert is so prevalent, it seems like a basic requirement.
But let's stop and think for a second.
The most charismatic people, you know, maybe extroverts.
Not every extrovert is charismatic.
Some extra words are better defined by the following words loud mouth bore attention, hog or obnoxious.
You may actually know a lot of introverts with charisma.
Just don't think of them that way because of our societal bias towards extroverts.
Or they may hide their introversion because the expectation is for them to be more extroverted.
The following People are identified as introverts and have done just fine in the charisma department.
Keanu Reeves Neo John Wick.
I can remember was it Bill or Ted?
Steve Jobs, you don't build a trillion dollar company without some charisma.
Steven Spielberg.
The man who brought us Indiana Jones, Eddie and Velociraptors, Warren Buffett, the Oracle of Omaha,
people regularly bid over $1 million to have lunch with him.
Mahatma Gandhi, try to convince anyone, you know what I mean, they're getting hit not to hit back.
Michael Jordan, lots of Championship rings, Snickers and hit movie.
Meryl Streep, watch any movie she has made if the Academy Awards are not enough to convince you.
So how is an introvert able to have charisma?
What makes the difference between those who make an impact and those who fade into the background and
are forgotten?
Once you understand that charisma is about sensing and ultimately delivering what is most needed from
an emotional perspective, we can start to see how neither extroversion, introversion, defiance,
charisma.
The key for introverts is that while still operating within their preference for a minimally stimulating
environment, they can emotionally connect with others and deliver what that other person needs.
For example, a struggling company can be just as energized by a thoughtful leader with an ability to
listen and quietly instill confidence as a brash, macho leader who promises to take no prisoners.
Both leaders can give their employees the reassurance and comfort they need to continue to believe in
the future of the company and bring their pets to work.
The challenge for introverts is they have to be among people to connect with them.
This doesn't mean they have to be around people all the time, and this doesn't mean they shouldn't
take the time they need to recharge.
What helps is to understand that truism happens in the space between people.
My advice to myself as a self-professed introvert and my fellow introverted brothers and sisters is
to make the most of the time go round people the next and know which other emotionally none take the
time you need to recharge, lather, rinse, repeat why charismatic people are more successful.
They make for great listeners.
People tend to undervalue high importance, and listening is not just to make someone feel important,
but rather to understand what he or she has to say and where his or her head is at.
Without listening, you don't know what someone is thinking, asking the right questions with eye contact
appropriate nodding body language.
All this comes into play with communicating with someone who's charismatic, charismatic people understand
what not to say and what to say in many situations.
They know that by simply listening to someone, they've just converted them because they have the ability
to make them feel special.
They're observers.
People underestimate the importance of observing people.
Observation is seeing everything that is going on around you.
The people, the setting, the energy, who's who and what is actually going on beyond what the artificial
purpose of the gathering voice.
Many people might be able to see, but they do not have the vision.
Charismatic people see everything and watch everything.
It is almost impossible to get something passed them or over them because they are so obsessed with
the details of everything.
Remarkably charismatic people walk around as if they have a telescope embedded in their eyes before
they do something or act on something they are studied by watching it.
This allows them to prepare themselves for any situation that may arise.
They know the right time and place for everything.
In a world where there are tons of distractions, charismatic people hold respect for others.
They won't sit in front of you looking at their phones focusing on something unimportant or being easily
distracted.
They give their full attention to others, which makes them feel important.
That's a gift.
Few people give that gift alone, will make others want to be around you and remember you and will make
them want to work harder for you.
There are selfless there.
Understand that you have to give before you get there.
Never focus on what they can get out of something, rather than focus on what they can provide for the
people around them, as well as the world to understand that your input equals the results.
They don't act self-important.
It is OK to be cocky, confident and a bit arrogant, as charismatic people do possess those qualities,
but they also understand that there is a line that they shouldn't cross and that line is acting as if
there are self-important and a big shot.
It's called being a cheap show off, and you see it as too often with people taking credit for things
to make themselves look great.
But those people are easy to identify.
The only people who are impressed by your stuffy, pretentious, self-important self are utter a stuffy,
potentially self-important people.
The rest are unimpressed.
They're actually uncomfortable with the fact that your insecurities leave you feeling the need to show
off there, as many people don't ever cross that line because they can't afford to be public enemy number
one.
They understand how important others are.
Rome was not built in a day, nor was it done by just one person will live in a world where we need
others to help us get where we want.
Not only can you learn from other people, but you can use them in your favours, as well as make people
understand it is not the number of people that you have in your life, but rather the quality of them.
And they value those relationships pretty highly based on what you know but who you know nowadays.
They are humble, great leaders inspire action.
They do this by giving credit to others and being humble.
Never forgetting about it came from I never trying too hard to impress anyone.
They led their actions to speak for themselves, whereas people depend on the rewards to do so.
That is the difference between greatness and mediocrity.
They give praise and those are performing well to inspire them to work harder.
By being humble, they create emotional bonds with their team rather than just a work relationship or
an intellectual relationship.
They know never to cross a line of being overly pompous, because that is how you cause jealousy and
hatred within the group.
They have a vision.
Charismatic leader is always a target.
They know where they are heading and they know where they want to be.
Clarity within the vision is what gets people to believe in and worked hard for it.
And it's not just any vision.
It is incredibly compelling and is in line with your values, interests and desires.
Your passion for this vision should be so intense that other people who fall in love with it a powerful
and current vision, one that really connects with your deepest passions and triggers your highest potential.
It should help you to know why you're doing what you're doing, regardless of what's going on outside
of yourself or the challenges presented to you at any given time.
They only bring positive energy.
You can sense a charismatic person as soon as they walk into the room.
You just have something about them and possess a certain type of energy that many lack that bring light
in and have the whole room interested in what they have to say because of their charisma.
They can entertain anyone and get along with whomever they choose to.
This is a quality that is essential and gets people behind you.
Everyone is drawn to a strong and passionate individual.
This is strength and passion.
Cultivate a cult of personality that creates admiration and an ideal to aspire to.
It is the so-called ideal of ego.
They inspire others.
As the good old saying goes, it's not what you do, it's why you do it.
There is people inspire action within others and make others believe in what they're doing to inspire
them, to help them achieve their goals, then make them believe in their dreams, goals and a greater
purpose.
On top of all that, they make everyone around them feel special and a greater part of the cause, rather
than just a pedestrian employee.