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So here in this video I would just like to continue to unpack how it is that we each experience life

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on a day to day basis.

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Gone back a couple of minutes ago I do believe that I may have suggested that us human beings we are

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meaning making machines with already explored the idea that nothing happens in isolation.

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And if you think about it the quality of our life is always going to be determined and heavily impacted

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by the quality of our thinking.

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I'm hoping that you can at least see the snow in the last video.

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We'll look at how the quality of your thinking and how it is that we interpret life's events or impact

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how it is that we emotionally experience life which will then impact the actions or the decisions that

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we take or don't take or how we behave which then rules on to impact and influence the outcomes that

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we experience in life which we as human beings we will then go on to have more thoughts about.

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And this is the parsec the perpetual cycle of life that if we are not aware of many people can get stuck

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in for anything up to a lifetime we end up blaming other people situations circumstances life our parents

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God the politicians religion for why it is there lives haven't gone the way that we fundamentally want

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them to go.

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So here in this video all I really want to do is just play around with here just a little bit if that's

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okay.

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Just so we can get a little bit clearer on how it is that we arrive at conclusions and how it is that

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we are all as I've mentioned.

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Meaning making machines how it is we're all assigning labels and meanings onto all things of the time.

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So just to get started right just for your warm up session here.

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How about if I was to go well I guess.

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What would that mean.

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What would that mean to you.

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We may be thinking about Winston Churchill.

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Well maybe thinking about victory we may be thinking about peace we may be thinking about something

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like that.

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We could be thinking about anything whatsoever.

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But this is generally throughout the world embraced as a symbol of victory or peace.

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Something like that I think of as a source here today with the end of this second world war.

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I think it was after Didi's or something like that.

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But how about boats right.

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If I was then just to make a minor modification here.

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Right.

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Just.

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No.

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What does it mean.

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All right.

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I'm still sticking my two fingers up in the air.

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All right.

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But let's just turn round a little bit.

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What does this mean.

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Does this mean something this a little bit different than that.

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Well all I'm doing is putting up my two fingers in the air.

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I don't mean anything by it.

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But here's the thing.

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You on this unconscious level or prouty's on a conscious level no just because we're talking about it

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are assigning meaning to this life event.

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What is that I'm doing.

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No what I am going to guarantee is I don't want to be nasty to you here.

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That is not my intention.

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My intention is just to illustrate a point.

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But what you're doing is you are going to be assigning some meaning on to that.

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Whether it's now or whether it start with one of the two.

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And this is what we are all doing all of the time.

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This is all to do with our perception the conclusions the assumptions the judgment calls that we make

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which is sometimes we do make when we don't even have all the facts.

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I mean if you think about the only way that we're ever going to know what on a person means when they

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say and do the things that they say and do would be if we asked them.

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But how often do we do it.

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I mean come on if we're going to be honest here we'll jump to conclusions we'll assume the worst one

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we off other people for the reasons that I mentioned earlier on because we were very very quickly judge

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other people by their actions and by their behaviour.

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Whereas when it comes to ourselves we judge ourselves by our motives.

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So I'm not going to judge myself harshly here because I know that my motives are pure.

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I'm just trying to illustrate the point but you may be getting totally offended right now.

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Kane You're unprofessional.

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How dare you do that to me is the one you're religious and cultural beliefs and preferences.

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You could be doing an absolute fizzy right.

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No.

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So that's example number one.

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How about if we were to then look at example number two.

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This is a plus.

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It's a plus sign.

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No what I could ask you right now is you know are you a plus or minus in the world.

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Do you give birth or do you take it the way.

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Are you a positive influential member of society.

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Or are you just negative.

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Do you contribute towards people's lives or are you one of those leeches that just takes and takes and

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takes and never feels like they have enough to ever give back.

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What sort of mindset.

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Yeah.

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But let's just assume that this is a positive.

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We all love positive things don't we.

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If you think about it one plus one equals increase sometimes inside of our minds we can see that one

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plus one equals whatever we want.

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Why.

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Because it's going to be our perception that if we're not we're the best.

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And we're never going or how we might otherwise be getting things wrong.

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But let's just say that I was to make a couple of minor modifications with this little cross in the

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same way that I made a couple of minor modifications with my fingers.

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What would then happen if I was just turned Who.

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Hello.

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Couple lines here and then a little couple of lines here.

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And then a little couple of flings there.

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And then a little couple of lines there.

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I saw a bulk.

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So just a little bit just like that.

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Right.

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And then I was just to put the pen away and turn back.

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Look at the camera and then look at you look at the year and then look at the board and then start nodding

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my head yeah.

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That's right.

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That's right.

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That is absolutely right.

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Or yeah I was totally right.

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That's totally right.

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How do you feel about that now.

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All right.

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Are you assuming the worst of me because all I'm doing is I'm just agreeing with something inside of

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my mind that I said Around about 45 minutes ago.

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All right.

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Yes I'm just just drawn this thing on the board but I'm not giving it a second thought because I've

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just been and I've just become distracted inside of my mind.

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But something that is said absolutely ages ago.

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I'm guessing that you don't have the faintest idea what it is that I'm thinking about.

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Yeah I'm sure that you know able to acknowledge that we can all be very very quick to arrive at assumptions

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and judgments.

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Do you see.

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And are you able to identify how quickly it is that our perceptions are able to change when we're just

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simply presented with a little bit more information.

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Because as a plus sign that plus sign is a positive.

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What if we were just to simply out a few extra little lines on this plus sign.

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Well it's still a plus sign but I'm guessing you may be associating this with all of their murder death

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kill that happened back in Jane in Germany through the Second World War.

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You may be associating this with with Nazi Germany and Hitler and all the stuff which for you might

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be a positive or negative.

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If you were to draw up a diagram and say stuff nodding your head yes in a room with Jews that probably

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wouldn't go down too well with no one.

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Literally any agreement with us by who we all really want to do here is hopefully just help you see

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how quickly our perceptions can change when we're presented with some new information but also how quickly

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it is that we can arrive at assumptions about what people mean when they see and do the things that

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they do.

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So all this now is going to lead this on to other really cool exercise that we're just prepared with.

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And this is all to do with meaning slight meanings in mind how it is that we assign meanings onto things

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and how it is that we can all be looking at the same thing whilst assigning different meanings onto

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this same thing where two people can be looking at the same thing from different angles but yet be seeing

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things totally different with me.

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So any different materials you're going to find a worksheet and on this worksheet there are I think

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six or seven different images.

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Sorry different different symbols and all that I want you to do is perhaps print or if you've got access

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to a printer two or three copies of this worksheet I want you to fill that out.

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No what I don't want you to do is write out what the symbols are their names or origins or anything

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like that.

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I just simply want you to reflect upon what it is that these symbols actually mean to you.

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And then if you've got a boyfriend girlfriend husband wife mother father brother sister friend whatever.

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Go through a Starbucks or go for a coffee somewhere and give them a copy of it goes off exactly the

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same sheet.

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And then what to do without letting them see what you've written down ask them just to simply interpret

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and be as honest as what they can about what these exact same symbols mean to them know once they've

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written their interpretations and once you've got yours then just simply compare notes and see if you

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can begin to appreciate how it is that we all as human beings interpret things differently.

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I promise this is a fascinating exercise and if you do this it really will create an anchor inside of

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your mind which is just just an association about how it is that we arrive assumptions and conclusions

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that can be a million miles away from the assumptions and the conclusions that other people arrive at.

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And this is just one of these fascinating things about what it means to be human that if we don't appreciate

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we're certain to forever be left in the dark never having the faintest idea why other people see things

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differently from us.

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And what this fundamentally is also going to give us is anarchy practitioners is a greater appreciation

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for deference as are okay.

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This is a sore right now once you have completed this little worksheet in the next lecture in the course

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it's not going to be read in a video but it is in fact going to be.

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Little perception's quiz.

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I'm just Turkish they play around with your mind just a little bit to hopefully help you deepen your

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understanding of sometimes how we see things.

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Isn't actually always the way things are.

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Is this okay.

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Hope it is because this is fundamentally how we all experience life.

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Look forward to seeing you again in the next few

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months.