大家好，我是Actualized.org的利奥 Hey this is Leo for Actualized.org
我想通过这个视频告诉你该如何应对 and this video I wanna tell you how to deal
抑郁情绪 with depression
控制你的心理状态 创造与众不同的人生
我们来聊聊该如何应对抑郁情绪 let's talk about dealing with depression
其实已经有一个视频讲述这一话题了， 所以我今天想 actually already have a video on this topic and now I want to cover it for a
从另一个略不同的角度来阐述 slightly different angle
所以你要去看看艾米丽那期的视频 叫《我为何抑郁》 so you should also check out that Emily down below its called why mine depressed
该视频中，我有另外几点想法 in this video I have some additional thoughts
作为补充 所以在进入正题之前 to add so before we get into the mean of it
我很想在这里告诉你们一些方法 and I really want to get you something here that you can take away
相信你可以利用这些方法战胜抑郁 with you when you can surely to take action on
所以这一视频意义非凡 要认真观看哦 so it can be very powerful video for you to take it seriously
需要你们好好听 敞开心灵之门 and do you really listen and open your mind when I talk to you
在这之前 我想说的是 before you going to that though what I want to talk about is
抑郁情绪的不同类型 that different types of depression that out there
我认为其主要有两种 so I think it's important to basically sort issue two
类型 types
我的意思是有两种抑郁情绪 I'm saying that there's two types there's basically
主要是临床抑郁症 hardcore clinical depression
其实这一症状很少见 这意味着 which is actually a very rare thing and that means that you have actually
在你的大脑里有一些东西 something in your brain
这些东西让你不失去快乐的能力 也许和基因有关 that's eliminating your ability to be happy it could be a genetic thing that
是你与生俱来的 you acquired
也许是后天性的 it could be something that happened because of
在你成长过程中或出生后形成 the way you were raised and when your birth
因此你逐渐失去了传送器 so you literally got missing your transmitters and because of this
于是某处会出问题 那么你就无法得到 something's going wrong in not getting the kind the levels of happiness as you
生活中本该拥有的幸福 should
这是临床医学上 for your life this is clinical medical
严重的抑郁症 问题是如今大多数人 serious depression now the problem is that most people
总是认为他们有这样的病 但实际上 like to think that they have that when in fact that's how they have
他们有的只是 what they actually have is they have a much
一种较轻的抑郁 其实这是一种 more milder version of depression which is really
自己造成的抑郁情绪 这种情绪 self-inflicted formed depression which comes about from
是由于心理状态差造成的 所以如果你愿意的话 having bad psychology so we now if you'd like to use here
不妨把这一问题想成一台电脑 好吗 is think of it like a computer right?
你有一台电脑 你有它的硬件 you have a computer and you've got the computer hardware and you've also got
也有它的软件 computer software
那么 如果你的电脑运行缓慢 now if you're having a problem with your computer is running slow
工作出现错误和故障 you got bugs and glitches in the way that it's working
根本而言 出现了两类问题 then you could have basically two fundamental types of problems
一类是电脑硬件的配置出了毛病 one is that you could have faulty equipment inside the computer hardware
它们可能罢工了 could be
因为它们的 bugged out because they're some
电路坏了 所以该硬件是不完美的 bad circuitry in there so it's just defective hardware
第二类是软件出了毛病 the other title probably could have is that you just have bad software
软件遇到了故障 系统中存在病毒 there's a bug in the software you got a virus in the system
或是有的软件太过陈旧而运行错误 or something is corrupt there so the software runs incorrectly
现在 回到“抑郁”这一话题 now with depression
其实这是重启电脑很相似 it's actually probably similar to recycle the computer we'll have a
当你的电脑出了问题 problem your computer
极少数情况是因为硬件不行 一般而言 rarely is it the case that you got bad hardware usually if the software that's
都是软件的问题 the problem
you've got a virus or something like that is going wrong now
is similar with people who are depressed especially nowadays
right on me more depressed nowadays we have a record
did now numbers a the oppressed people and mostly is
because our own about psychology does happening here
so if you feel like you have a meal
honest clinical depression I mean nothing against that go see a doctor
and get the medication that you need for that you don't get a diagnosis
but also be careful because a lot of times doctors will like to medicate you
when in fact what you guys the best offer problem and that medicine and
getting
is not going to solve this offer problem it will only
work on a hardware problem and if you have a hardware problem
a software solution can also be useful to you
so don't ignore what I'm saying to you here simply because it is a
it's a its psychology it's time just like quality psychology determine the
whole quality of your life
so this is something that can be very powerful for you even if you
got this up problem with the with your heart
so here's basically 8 wanna tell you about the pressure
I was thinking about this because I'm noticing in my own life
you know I work really hard on my own personal development and
want the reasons I do that is because I'm you know I'm wise to the problems
that would happen if I didn't do it
you know one of the reasons that I D person at all this is that they don't
it's exciting it's fine I get a lot out like positive stuff from it
but another reason why do it is kinda the flip side for negative reasons
because I know how of all my life would be
if I didn't do it and a
as I'm working on myself haven't taken want to bash in certain areas in my life
you know I'm setting up my business or setting up my
by relationships or I'm setting up my up by career in my life purpose
and so setting up my health and fitness and I'm doing these things
and I'm really working hard to get good results there I'm also noticing
and I'm wondering clue what my life be like
if I didn't do all that work to create
this a this thing I want in my life
what happened if I was still 65 pounds overweight
overweight the way that was for lost my life and I was growing up
how I feel now what a problem to have my life
how I feel about those problems no I wonder about that stuff
I'm a lot of times you do personal development then you kinda but you take
stuff for granted
nowadays I take my weight for granted it take for program to the fact that I'm
I'm lean healthy and
I also take for granted some other stuff that I learned about
relationships how to manage relationships and I take for granted for
example
on my money situation with my business because I was
working really hard to but that areas of my life
it place so
I wonder you know how what I feel right now in my life if I didn't have my
business
if I didn't have my life purpose if I didn't have
a the stuff but I know about relationships
if I A was still overweight if I didn't work on my negative thinking a lot
if I didn't work on my people pleasing a lot
if I didn't meditate if I didn't go to the gym
if I didn't look after my diet
if I didn't work hard at my job
if I didn't pay my bills on time
if I was at up handling my family situation
in the right way if I was hanging around with native people
if I was living in a bad neighborhood if I was looking at
bad country you know what would my life be like
and I'm pretty sure that I can
make with of depressed it's hard for me to imagine now
that I can become depressed I'm not a nationally to press a person
but i cant easily see how I could be calm that way if I let myself go
here's whole story help illustrate this
are nowhere where I got the idea for this I think it's like a sop stables or
something like that I cycle children story
right where they have they have
squirrels right down to it was really a swirling bird
and the winter's coming right it's the summer now
the winter is coming and the squirrel he's smart
he knows that winter's coming they're talking in a food so he better run
around and stash although they corns
bill to stop a nice mast or a borough that he can
they can women so that he can weather out the harsh winter that the dot-com
the bird or else was the character in done
on the other side to this up the story I
he was like the carefree one he didn't care if you want to build a nasty didn't
want to
go work in East stash acorns are any other kinda
a provision for sale so he was just carefree living in the moment
and then what happens of course winter finally comes
and squirrel the squirrel is nice and happy
sitting in his little burrow with his squirrel family
he's got all those acorn stashed up and you got more acorns
then he couldn't possibly need for the whole winter he's got enough
for two winters so even if this winter and upright
extra long he still gonna survive and you that extra cold
he made sure to make his borough extra copy extra warm
so he's gonna survive just fine
but that bird that bird was very carefree and
didn't put stuff into place in his life
now he's kinda screwed
he's kinda screwed because winter has come and he doesn't have a Nast
he's freezing there's no food anywhere he doesn't know what to do he has no one
to rely on
is just him out there in the cold and a
if he's lucky he might survive and he just might make it
just a traumatized but
he might not be so lucky he might actually that that a
a situation actually kill him which might or
and so that's why I'm telling to you now
if you're depressed because you %ah
when you're so bad family situations maybe you work abused
or maybe you lost a lot of money maybe
up somebody scam to you somebody robbed you
maybe you had some serious medical conditions maybe you lost a limb maybe
became paralyzed
maybe you're depressed because you feel like you are attracted to the opposite
sex
maybe you're depressed because you feel like you can get into a good
relationship or you'll never find that person
that you want to follow up with and get married with
or maybe you're depressed because you feel like you won't be able to
up to earn the money she needed her from struggling financially
whatever you feel like you're stuck in
one telling you is that you're like that bird
and the winter has come and now you're fucked
because you didn't build up that stash obey courts
at the squirrel built up and so now you
desperately need that stache courts
you desperately needed or food or whatever you need that nest
but you don't have it for whatever reason and I'm not
necessarily blaming you I'm not saying
that your situation was entirely avoidable so maybe you had a death in
the family
baby hat you know I a string of bad luck
or whatever happened that made you depressed and maybe not
maybe you're just depressed because you have no
no purpose to your life or you're depressed because
I you don't have the kind of 21 it's looking a little bit more
%uh not were ordinary was serious
whatever your situation is I in hand
the problem is that winter now has calm and you have not built
the psychological resources that you need
to survive
and you now stuck in this rut right
you're stuck in this rut because whatever situation you're in
whether its lack of money or lose a loved one
or not be able to attract that made that you want you know whatever session
oppressed
um that is not
something that necessarily has to keep him depressed
there too many people history who have gone through the same circumstances that
you're going through
and even much worse have come out
perfectly fine in fact they've used add to build themselves up even stronger
to become even happier to learn valuable life lessons
but see if you're depressed right now and is feeling very hopeless
then you feel like a victim you think you know how r options you can change
this to people like its permit
you feel like nothing will help you and see what that is is it's not so much the
reality that's out there
it's more about the mental rut that your in because now winter has calmed
and technically speaking this bird who's out in the cold
and who didn't provision of for the winter he actually can still survive the
winter
if he smart if he mobilizes if he starts to take
action if he puts in the hard work that's necessary
so it's not hopeless for this bird
it's not hopeless is simply that it's going to be difficult
it might be extremely difficult a place that you're in right now
to dig your way out and to to move
forward up to that happy place you want to be
but that amazing what that you want that still something that's
on the table for you even though winter has come
so stop hopeless but the real problem isn't that right now you lack
the psychological resources necessary to actually go out there sees it
so that's what I want to give you here today our show you how to develop those
psychological resources
because right now honestly think that you're really missing are you're missing
motivation here missing willpower
you're missing faith and you're missing confidence in yourself
these are the core things that you're missing that you're going to need
now to you I tell it well leo i cant
be my family on motivation
i cant
improve my my job in financial situation
simply on faith and confidence so you're telling me about all these kinda
nice abstract things automation willpower
faith and confidence but I need something or pork and more practical
need money I need sex I love I need a
better health or something like that stay with me here
because when I'm giving you is a little bit abstract
but you'll see that this is what's necessary to get all the tangible stuff
that you think you need
and also you might not need as much tangible stuff as you think you do
I allotted you what you just need is you need a new way of seeing the world
because you've got filters on that's making the world seem very depressing
and when those filters are removed all the sudden the exact same world
will look very very different and no longer will it be depressed
and to do that to remove those filters to work on yourself
to do the hard work that's necessary you're gonna need that motivation
you're gonna need that will power you need that faith anytime coffins
because right now your brain is treating you and telling you that you can't
that she won't picture stock but it's hopeless
right and that will be that big companies charge to commit
so the winter is here for you
and it might be a very real winter
it might not be an illusory winter
the fact that you're already depressed and lack these mental resources
P psychological resources that in and of itself is a winter
because tell me one of the scariest things in life is not that I run out of
money
although I we got that sometimes or that I don't have the relationship I want
or that my friends sleepy or something like that for me to scare thing is that
I lose my resourcefulness in order to acquire that
I lose my drive I lose my ability to get myself
mobilized to take action
I lose my purpose in life I'll is my passion
I lose my ability to think critically independently
so that's the scariest thing and so because of that year to pressure is
actually real
even though it might be illusory because you might feel like you need something
they don't actually need
or that something happened to you in the past you feel like has really
crippled you today but actually it might not be crippling you but
you believe it is already enough and so you don't have the mental resources
and not is a big problem
why the problem because winter is here
any to go any together a quartz
you need to eat otherwise your star
but you don't have the ability to go out there no blots
and the reason is because you see that
there's an emotional labor involved for you here emotional labor
it means that there's going to be pain and struggle
to get yourself out on this
BP peephole that you're in it and that in itself can be depressing
so you're mentally weak now
you can turn this right and you feel like it's hopeless
because from where you are now to where you want to go or where you need to go
even maybe to reach common normal level not even and awesome level a life coach
Donovan average little
you might him I feel like you've got to work a lot it might seem like you don't
even see the light at the end of the tunnel it's so far away
but
this is my solution for you is that you need to mobilize
to fight that's the solution is this how you handle the pressure it might seem
simple
but this is what it takes simply the desire to mobilize
to fight right now a localization needs to happen
for you right you can't run away from it anymore
you can't keep avoiding the emotional labor you can't
keep procrastinating it and hoping that somehow
you can weasel your way out of it because it's too late for that
you could have done that you could have prepared before
when it was some are you prepared when it was Paul
you still could have prepared but now it's the middle of winter
its ice-cold you can prepare anymore
now its mobilization time now it's time to fight
this is the fight for your life that's what it's and you need to realize that
they need to accept it
that's the problem that you don't accept it right now
you don't accept the pay I want to help you to accept it up
see normalization is an interesting thing because human beings
and other organisms and other
not just organisms but other Fibernetics systems a fiber intake system is that it
kinda
complex system that has internal in back loops which allow it to adjust for
various situations are having environment soap
a thermostat is very simple cybernetic system but your computer is a more
complicated one
and of course your are you human brain in your body
is a his a very complicated cybernetics system
up especially summoning systems that have evolved
could have to had to go through up it fitness process up askew
survival the peace process up
those organisms they have developed resources to mobilize to take
massive action when necessary tough fight when necessary
that's what your fight and flight response or four so if you get pregnant
by a wild animal or burglar the night all the fun going to feel
like you have much more energy act to fight
to rock right because it a life-and-death situation your body
always house
extra reserves allowed to localize to handle
I really dangerous life-threatening situation well
this is kinda the system that you need to tap into right now
and it's not going to be for one day it might take you
six months it might take you twelve months it might take you three years
on this mobilizing in order to conquer
whatever demons you have whatever should come says you have to get out of this
depression
but you can do it it's within you
the problem is that you don't really want to do it right
especially right now if there's no dire
emergency situation on your hands you can feel very depressed
but there something that's really light a fire under your ass
there's no quickly bear staring at your face that's about a mall you
which will get that adrenaline pumping so it's a little bit tricky
which is why I'm sure this video I'm talking to you by I
you can you come to us all globalization
it was interesting in world war two you can interested in history
you've studied this that whenever there's a major war
in some country it's amazing how that country's able to mobilize resources to
defend itself
so in world war 2 per sample the United States
if you've ever watched Meadows Discovery Channel History Channel documentaries
you know that the United States ditomasso massive mobilization effort
to produce like incredible
up output industry
in order to help %uh something germans enter
tipped to it prevent world war two from advancing
I'll and this happened I believe in what were once well
so what's going on here is for example the United States started to create
ships just like bait creative production lines where they were literally creating
giant
shapes for for naval warfare and they were doing it
such a ridiculous rate where they were like building a shipping date
like it was it was incredible how quickly and how much they were building
ships
oMG when you kind of look at a nation during peacetime
it seems like it up the nation some problems you watch the news are portable
problems
democrats republicans there they're always bickering and fighting with each
other they can get anything past
it takes them 10 years to pass a certain you know health care reform stuff like
that
I'm but see that's the country does not noted
that's always the country that the country that has the luxury to do is cut
between
and nonsense that kinda wondering that we had actually asked the United States
comment we can we can discuss it back and our get off to a stop
but when push comes to shove and there's like a war going on
what are really serious why not talking a little more like the war in Iraq up on
a really up
of threatening war to the United States are battling a serious what like world
war two
where the slight United States wanna felt I like they're actually threatened
there's actually attacked on Hawaii with a harder et cetera
so there's a real no more serious threat there that if the jury took over Europe
then
you the US was next on their to hit list so
their like fight and flight response
starts to kick it adrenaline to kick it when I kicks in
it's like bail we can produce ships by you know by the time
so many ships we don't even know what to do with a om
it's interesting that works so what I'm proposing is that your cable I'll
this exact same thing you're also capable this
I but you need to mobilize yourself
he to get yourself already to endure
the pay because there's pain ahead but you gotta do it
see right now you think you're so I don't want to do is pay
I don't wander all the change I have to do in you know the fuck you gonna do
you don't do it the reason that is
is because of course you would rather postpone it
rather procrastinated another day another week the month
over here but no more more that you do that the deeper and deeper you sink
into this depression LS cable you pick up
so that's a dangerous game you're playing if you play for too long
are you might really really get yourself into a very very deep hole that may be a
pic
you won't even be able to dig yourself out so to prevent that from happening
when I want to hear help you
all right now to mobilize
to deal with this pain talk accepted into taking on a challenge
that's what is going to take so whatever your challenges right now
thinking in your head money relationships
how you feel about yourself whatever it is
i watch you to draw a line in the saint
were drawn a line in the sand right now right here
unique right we're doing this for you
were drawn a line in the sand and once we on that line in the sand
he gonna step over that line you're not gonna come back
by stepping over this line what you're saying to yourself
is that you are mobilised that you are willing to take on the pain
the emotional labor that's going to go into that
you know what I mean by Moshe labor right emotional labor is
all that work that could happen to you that's not gonna feel very good
in order to really build yourself up so
we're not squirrel was running around warning about the winter
gathering all those acorns doing all that hard lifting and pushing and
and collecting and storing that was emotional labor for him
now you're gonna have to do that
are you ready alright I want you to draw a line in the sand
and I want you to say this with me
I am of course I'm a force
to be reckoned with and I have resources within me
that I can't even cautiously tap right now
but I know that they were in there am gonna tap into it
now because this depression I've been under this this said this with my wife
has been going this what that I've been in
no more that I wanna do anyway that's too painful
in fact that's more painful that if I just accept the payment take on the
challenge
on globalizing myself to fix this
and I'm gonna fix it through brute force
I want a brute force it there's not going to be any weed when all solutions
I'm not going away for some magic to happen or the perfect time to calm
next year for me to do whatever I need to do to lose that weight
or to fix my health or to get that relationship handled
want to get the money situation handled now
now through brute force it's gonna happen now
for a massive action it's gonna happen and I will do anything
to make it happen absolutely anything
I'm willing to do what does it take tell me what it takes
I'm gonna do it what does it mean doesn't mean I have to go to jail
every single day for two hours I will do it
does it mean to move to differ City a different state
a different country I will do it does that mean I need to go
find a new job they going to find three new jobs
I will do it there's any item break of this relationship and get a divorce
I will do it what does it take tell me what it takes I want to do it
anything absolutely anything I will literally work myself dead
be four I surrender
and I'm stepping over the line
you need to have to mobilize has how you mobilize yourself
you know I've never been to press there've been times in my life where I
felt very down
about my prospects about my future and there've been times in my life where
have to mobilize
like this rape I knew for example that my weight
I was overweight my whole life I knew that that was something I need to really
mobilize myself or
because there was no way I'm gonna break all those
decades a bad habits without this kind of intense mobilization I diet
I did exactly that with my weight and a
that really work for me %uh
another area in my life where I really mobilized hard with Western by business
really all hard hard hard mobilization to do that
because that was also kinda a do or die situation I knew that if I was going to
find my life purpose if I was going to do what I really like love to do
I me to become potential independent and you do not have to go
%uh impart on on brand new journey
%uh entrepreneurship that I didn't have any ideas about how to manage
I don't know who's going to success while I'm doubt as I just had to
report my way through that and also with my relationship like really brute force
my way
through that because I was so bad with relationships that I literally thought
that if I didn't
mobilize myself right here right now that I would die
I all lonely I would not ever going to relationship anybody
I was that bad and I was that
get will not depressed but %ah you know I
I knew I did crystal clear picture of what was going to happen I just
continued on like her track
so you need to
surrender yourself here
not surrender your life want to surrender to the emotional labor
there's work involved you probably know how much work ahead
for example I know how much work will help I need to lose lightweight
but I surrender myself to
after mobilizing
what's nice is that when you accept the challenge
when you accept the paint bucket I was going to do whatever it takes
literally anything all deal and then the fun just words we actually go out and
and followed up with action casually realize that you don't need it
the end result right now to feel happy you don't need to wake
a year to lose all that weight you don't need to wait two years to picture money
problems
I'm just by starting to mobilize to take them ass in action
already you're gonna start to feel a lot of relief even start to feel better than
you felt
in a long long time because you surrender to the emotional labor and
that's really what you're resisting right now
here trying to weasel your way out of it know it
I do too we all do it nobody wants to
go head on and coli with a lot of pain a lot of work
quite emotional labor nobody likes to do that
but hearing the truth is that your stock right now
and if you don't take this option then you wanna have any other options what
so your stock now because you've been avoiding this labor
you've been avoiding it you've been putting it off been procrastinating
he didn't want the pain all the fears that you have about all the things that
could go wrong
how uncomfortable it's gonna feel
how much pain you're going to be how much suffering is gonna be in there for
you
if you keep your giving into those fears
keep taking them seriously if he'll surrender to them
then you can stay stuck and
I'm honestly not optimistic for you because most people
when they're not situation based a step if I had to put my money on it I would
always always always bet that you're not going to localize
every time I would bet that you're not because few people will
it takes inner strength in a resolved
so they have to click in you I hope so they could see me now
because if
something cooking now you're saying stock and the more you want the deboers
gonna
its gonna get it's going to get worse so the solution is to bite the bullet
you simply have to bite the bullet right now
surrender to whatever you have to do
to whatever it takes and you're going to see that this is the way
is actually not going to be depressing for you to do the surrender
what the pressing for you now is that you don't have any options
once you do the surrender and want to tell you something you doing anything
whatever takes
you're no longer depressed because you're taking action you're moving
forward
it's not hopeless if you tell her something to you anything it takes
you're gonna find a way maybe it's gonna be a long tortuous
inconvenient way but she'll find a way
but if you're telling yourself well I'm gonna wait for
a good way to radio talk to me you might be waiting for the rest your life
so we can say that about that that's why this was a globalization powerful
it because when you're back into a corner and your life is at stake
van your body someone's hidden
inner resources that
you don't even know you had that allow you to overcome
amazing obstacles an and
you overcome those obstacles are gonna yeah that's gonna be
1 a.m. the one of the most rewarding and a
and powerful experience in your life you're gonna look back on it
five ten twenty years from now and say wow that was amazing that I had the
strength to localize when I get
and that after mobilizing I stay with it I kept with it
I stay with my word I stay true to the fact that I would do anything
and throughout and only through that I'm broke out
and if I didn't localize that I would have been stock
and maybe even twenty years thirty years were passed
and we're still state stock and how miserable would that be
how big a bowl away so what would that be
he would definitely regret doing that if you are
your future wife herself so try to take on that was the right now
well I just hope right now bite the bullet right now
surrender to the pain right now and you will start to move ahead here
feel much better because you can open up a whole world of possibilities for you
alright this is Leo what I have to say about
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