Welcome back.
In this section we're literally going to talk about how you were created.
That's pretty exciting right.
Here it is.
We are a product of our history.
We are mostly the sum of our experiences.
Now most people say Oh I know that.
That's kind of common knowledge.
Well you know but you don't know it.
A lot of people attributed this to Freud but it actually goes way back to the Greeks.
And if you look on the other side of the pond over in Asia they had this literally thousands of years
ago.
So this is old information and you should know it.
But we'll we're going to talk about is something entirely different of how you were actually programmed
as you were raised.
So let's jump right in.
I'm gonna teach you a rare psychological concept.
This is really hard to find even in the psychological literature.
I was lucky to run across it.
It's something called the imprint period the imprint period is a time that you were programmed.
And this is where you got 80 percent of your personality somewhere between the ages 0 and 5 and 7.
80 percent of your personality is locked in.
You're a young kid.
Here's the challenge at this age your brain develops over time you've ever studied even had like one
psychology course they probably talked about Piaget Piaget was a French psychologist scientist who is
studying young children especially his own children.
He was fascinated by it.
He tried to figure out what they could and could not do at different stages in their life.
And he found that there was multiple stages at one stage you could you couldn't do something at the
next stage you did think of it this way they use like the object permanency test.
I hold up a pen little kid sees it.
I put it behind my back.
It disappeared.
Bang I'm the best magician ever.
I pull it out in front of me it reappears.
I put it behind my back.
It disappears.
They literally think it's gone year or so later.
Kids a little older brain development has come along.
I put a show on the pan.
They're like great.
I think I know this trick.
They put you put it behind your back.
And the kids like you just hide that behind your back.
Come on.
We know things don't disappear.
We know things are permanent object permanency.
So you have a lot of stages like this and I'll teach an interesting psychological fact your brain isn't
fully formed until you're 21 years old.
And the last thing to come in is the higher end executive functioning which is basically critical thinking
and good solid planning and decision making.
So a good thing they raise the drinking age to 21.
So 80 percent your personality's form between age of 0 and somewhere between 5 and 7 depending on who
you like in the literature and think of it this way if 80 percent of your personality is locked in at
this age what's the chances that the other remaining 20 percent is significantly significantly influenced
by the initial 80 percent that it's what based on.
So some people in the literature will say the imprint period really affects a minimum of 80 percent
and it's more like 90 95 98 percent of your personality is developed during this time.
Some of it just has to wait a little bit longer to develop but it's based on what the original core
personality
so the imprint period.
This is when most of your values and beliefs are programmed into you.
This is the systems by which you're going to think and you're going to perceive the world.
Here's the challenge when you're this young you may ask a lot of questions you know as you become verbal
obviously but you do not question the answers Steve Martin used to have a funny jokey itself on the
stage.
He says hey I've got a great joke for you to play on a five year old.
He says here's what you do.
You hold up a pen and you say the kid Banana banana banana and a couple of years later when the kid
goes to school it's gonna be shaking his pen and be like damn thing doesn't work.
You know he'll shout out to the class will be like anybody have an extra banana I can use a banana.
Anybody a banana.
Now that's a funny joke.
But not if you're that kid.
You believe everything you are told because again you do not discriminate.
That's a later psychological function that you physically do not have in your brain yet you are plug
and play.
You take commands from the outside world.
Everything you see.
You literally believe everything you hear is gospel as if it came from me to God to you.
You are simply being program.
This is a dangerous time and I to tell you why
it's a dangerous time because here's who's who is influencing your child or looking back retroactively
who influenced you
so who impacts us during the imprint period.
First and foremost major influence our parents now I think most parents are very kind and they're loving
and they want the best for their kids but they're also experimenting on their children as they go.
Most parents and you know I go over this my parenting class.
They do what's called Nothing to it parenting on the job training.
They're going to learn as they go along.
You know my joke in my family because I'm the baby I have four older sisters is that we had four rough
draft before the final masterpiece.
Now I laugh at that but my sisters don't.
So but that's true.
Okay.
My parents experimented on child number one child number two child number three job number four.
Guess what.
If you practice something you get what you get good at it.
So they got better and better as they went.
It's a little less fortunate if you're the first second third or fourth child.
Best if you're the fifth.
Boom.
By time you get really good at parenting what you're at a business not a great way to do it.
And again most people do nothing to parenting what they do is they say to themselves I am awesome.
Naturally you probably instinctively knew that about me.
I'm awesome.
I'm an awesome human being.
That's what everybody says to themselves.
But I had these little flaws and if my parents had done these five things you know why I didn't have
these traumas in my life these these things didn't happen to me if I could just eliminate these couple
of bad things in these you know five things that my parents did wrong I'd be super duper double awesome.
If that's if that's a real thing.
So let's say it is.
So what do they do.
They raise their kids exactly the way they were raised except they alter those five things and they
don't realize that their parents said the same thing in their parents before them and their parents
before them.
I used to do a survey at my parenting classes I would say you know or when I was doing therapy with
people I'd say OK let's go over your list of parenting skills just so I'm kind of up to date with what
you have and what you don't have.
So I won't share any information that you might already have because that would be a waste of our time.
Remember I'm very expensive.
So I would say OK how many people in here have a bachelors masters or doctorate in parenting or family
therapy.
Anybody know no hands.
OK.
So anybody taking a maybe a seven day workshop or something like that you had you had one class in it
a class.
Anybody with class almost no hands go up.
All right
check in again.
Anybody read a book on parenting.
Virtually no hands go up.
This might be in a room of 300 people at a seminar so far three hands are gonna then I say well maybe
listen maybe listen to a cassette tape when you're driving around your car.
Anybody.
Bueller Bueller little or no hands going up.
Well maybe I was sitting around the podiatrist office she picked up a pamphlet flipped her magazine.
You know something almost no hands going up.
Think of it this way for me to go into your home and to give you a little bit advice about your child.
I got to get a bachelors which is four years.
I got to get a masters which is another four years.
Now it's now eight years in.
I got to do a two year internship.
And now I'm Brandy new.
I probably stink at it but I got ten years into this and I can give you one piece of advice about your
job.
That's how complex it is.
But parents go out and say Oh there's nothing to it.
I'm just going to do it like my parents did and I remember exactly how they did it and I'm not going
to make these five mistakes that they made.
And my kids are gonna be super double awesome.
It's simple because it's me and I'm a damn genius.
That's not how it works.
That is not how it works.
That's like trying to say well I'm a heart surgeon and I can go ahead and I can do surgery on anybody
including myself because you know I've seen every episode of Grey's Anatomy doesn't work like that.
So these are the first people that are imprinting either you looking back retroactively or your child
let's see who the next influences teachers.
Now I think teachers try to do a good job but they got 20 to 30 kids coming at them out a whack and
some teachers say no it's not 30 Paul it's 35 or 40.
Depends on how large the classroom is right.
But they can care about a child as much as they want but they will never care about that child like
you do.
And if you had 30 kids I guarantee you draw your attention your focus your caring would be one thirtieth
of what it would be if you had one child.
It simply has to be divided.
Now these teachers may not believe the way that you believe.
They may not think the way you think they may not be instilling the values that you want your child
to have.
Or they may be a stilling values you want your child not to have major major influence next major influence
the media most kids their babysitter is the TV and the media's only job is it has one sole purpose and
that's to sell you things including the government.
Their job is to sell you a bunch of B.S. their belief system so that you take it out and become a good
little drone and go out there and obey.
That's what you're supposed to do.
So you are getting programmed in the media all the time
corporations and the government control all the media.
It's always one or the other.
This is not a good source of morals and values or even critical thinking.
It actually tries to discourage critical thinking
here's your other other major source of influence.
You have two major sources parents and then France here's the challenge.
Unfortunately these kids are between the age of zero and somewhere between 5 and 7.
They're also young and clueless.
And for a good portion of that time they're still pooping their pants.
These are not the people I would go to to get good life advice.
This is the blind leading the blind.
This is going to go horribly horribly wrong.
It's not their fault now Einstein said you can't solve a problem at the level of thinking that created
it.
What I take that to mean it's just one way to take it there's multiple ways to take it.
But one way that I take it you can take it take it for me is that if I'm five years old and I've got
a five year old bulk of experience store of experience and you're a five year old and you've got a five
year old store of experience you'll have a little bit different experiences that may see you might be
able teach me a few things.
But basically I'm in a five year old level year at a five year old level to go higher I really need
something that's six seven eight nine.
Could be 90 but I need them to be above a five year old level.
Unfortunately we tend to hang out with kids at plus or minus a year or two are our age.
That's how we lose
and we don't get a smarter as we get older.
Look at your high school kids.
They're all trying to figure out dating and who are they asking.
Not mom and dad who had like you know 10 years of dating experience or 20.
In this day and age right.
And ah you know 20 30 years older than them.
They're asking their other clueless friend that's been dating for about six months or six days or six
minutes or hasn't even dated yet just lies about it or says you know hey I'll give you some advice even
though I have zero experience.
So we tend to do this throughout our lives.
Rarely do we seek out experts and rarely do we seek out our elders
now in this imprint period.
Remember you're being programmed.
You're like a computer.
You have a hard drive.
So I'm gonna teach a computer term it's called giggle.
It's pronounced giggle G.I. Joe.
Garbage in garbage out data in is the data that comes out
so whatever is put in that's what's going to come back out.
I tell people don't read crap don't watch crap don't listen to crap.
You know why.
Because that's what's going in.
And eventually if enough crap goes in you're going to be what.
That's right ladies and gentlemen.
You're gonna be full of crap.
You ain't got time for the good stuff that good information.
At least skip the crap
so mental programming.
This is a great old psychology phrase born to succeed but programmed to fail.
So I want to tell you something and this isn't to let you off the hook.
Well it is a little bit but also to empower you.
You are programmed one way so you can be reprogrammed another.
We're gonna talk about that later.
I want you to know that a lot of the things that you did in life most of the things that you've done
at least up until now.
Right.
We're gonna teach you a little bit better.
Was based on programming you were running a program you in a lot of ways we're not free to be any other
way.
You were the accumulation of your programming of your experiences and you just ran that program.
Matter of fact there was a guy named Skinner we talked about him earlier in the first section and said
you know if I can control the pain and pleasure I can control the outcomes.
Well if I can control the programming how you think your belief share philosophies I can also control
you.
And life has done that to you at a point where you are helpless to defend against it.
Where the bulkier personality was already locked in if you were raised to be a thief and then you steal
something.
I wouldn't say you were a thief.
I'd say you are a good product of your training.
Like everybody everybody is a perfect product of their training.
And just like Einstein said you can't exceed your current level of thinking.
You can not break free of or exceed your programming until you've been trained had a deep program yourself
and how to reprogram yourself to show you how to do that.
Later in this program so you'll want to go all the way through this training.
Don't miss that you will miss the only thing in life that will set you free.
I won't repeat it if you miss that flight.
The last section of the training are very close to it if I remember correctly you will be stuck and
you will not be able to change.