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Welcome back.

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In this section we're literally going to talk about how you were created.

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That's pretty exciting right.

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Here it is.

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We are a product of our history.

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We are mostly the sum of our experiences.

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Now most people say Oh I know that.

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That's kind of common knowledge.

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Well you know but you don't know it.

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A lot of people attributed this to Freud but it actually goes way back to the Greeks.

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And if you look on the other side of the pond over in Asia they had this literally thousands of years

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ago.

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So this is old information and you should know it.

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But we'll we're going to talk about is something entirely different of how you were actually programmed

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as you were raised.

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So let's jump right in.

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I'm gonna teach you a rare psychological concept.

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This is really hard to find even in the psychological literature.

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I was lucky to run across it.

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It's something called the imprint period the imprint period is a time that you were programmed.

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And this is where you got 80 percent of your personality somewhere between the ages 0 and 5 and 7.

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80 percent of your personality is locked in.

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You're a young kid.

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Here's the challenge at this age your brain develops over time you've ever studied even had like one

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psychology course they probably talked about Piaget Piaget was a French psychologist scientist who is

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studying young children especially his own children.

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He was fascinated by it.

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He tried to figure out what they could and could not do at different stages in their life.

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And he found that there was multiple stages at one stage you could you couldn't do something at the

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next stage you did think of it this way they use like the object permanency test.

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I hold up a pen little kid sees it.

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I put it behind my back.

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It disappeared.

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Bang I'm the best magician ever.

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I pull it out in front of me it reappears.

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I put it behind my back.

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It disappears.

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They literally think it's gone year or so later.

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Kids a little older brain development has come along.

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I put a show on the pan.

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They're like great.

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I think I know this trick.

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They put you put it behind your back.

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And the kids like you just hide that behind your back.

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Come on.

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We know things don't disappear.

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We know things are permanent object permanency.

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So you have a lot of stages like this and I'll teach an interesting psychological fact your brain isn't

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fully formed until you're 21 years old.

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And the last thing to come in is the higher end executive functioning which is basically critical thinking

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and good solid planning and decision making.

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So a good thing they raise the drinking age to 21.

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So 80 percent your personality's form between age of 0 and somewhere between 5 and 7 depending on who

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you like in the literature and think of it this way if 80 percent of your personality is locked in at

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this age what's the chances that the other remaining 20 percent is significantly significantly influenced

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by the initial 80 percent that it's what based on.

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So some people in the literature will say the imprint period really affects a minimum of 80 percent

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and it's more like 90 95 98 percent of your personality is developed during this time.

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Some of it just has to wait a little bit longer to develop but it's based on what the original core

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personality

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so the imprint period.

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This is when most of your values and beliefs are programmed into you.

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This is the systems by which you're going to think and you're going to perceive the world.

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Here's the challenge when you're this young you may ask a lot of questions you know as you become verbal

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obviously but you do not question the answers Steve Martin used to have a funny jokey itself on the

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He says hey I've got a great joke for you to play on a five year old.

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He says here's what you do.

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You hold up a pen and you say the kid Banana banana banana and a couple of years later when the kid

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goes to school it's gonna be shaking his pen and be like damn thing doesn't work.

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You know he'll shout out to the class will be like anybody have an extra banana I can use a banana.

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Anybody a banana.

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Now that's a funny joke.

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But not if you're that kid.

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You believe everything you are told because again you do not discriminate.

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That's a later psychological function that you physically do not have in your brain yet you are plug

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and play.

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You take commands from the outside world.

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Everything you see.

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You literally believe everything you hear is gospel as if it came from me to God to you.

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You are simply being program.

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This is a dangerous time and I to tell you why

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it's a dangerous time because here's who's who is influencing your child or looking back retroactively

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who influenced you

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so who impacts us during the imprint period.

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First and foremost major influence our parents now I think most parents are very kind and they're loving

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and they want the best for their kids but they're also experimenting on their children as they go.

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Most parents and you know I go over this my parenting class.

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They do what's called Nothing to it parenting on the job training.

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They're going to learn as they go along.

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You know my joke in my family because I'm the baby I have four older sisters is that we had four rough

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draft before the final masterpiece.

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Now I laugh at that but my sisters don't.

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So but that's true.

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My parents experimented on child number one child number two child number three job number four.

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Guess what.

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If you practice something you get what you get good at it.

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So they got better and better as they went.

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It's a little less fortunate if you're the first second third or fourth child.

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Best if you're the fifth.

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By time you get really good at parenting what you're at a business not a great way to do it.

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And again most people do nothing to parenting what they do is they say to themselves I am awesome.

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Naturally you probably instinctively knew that about me.

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I'm awesome.

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I'm an awesome human being.

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That's what everybody says to themselves.

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But I had these little flaws and if my parents had done these five things you know why I didn't have

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these traumas in my life these these things didn't happen to me if I could just eliminate these couple

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of bad things in these you know five things that my parents did wrong I'd be super duper double awesome.

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If that's if that's a real thing.

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So let's say it is.

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So what do they do.

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They raise their kids exactly the way they were raised except they alter those five things and they

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don't realize that their parents said the same thing in their parents before them and their parents

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before them.

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I used to do a survey at my parenting classes I would say you know or when I was doing therapy with

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people I'd say OK let's go over your list of parenting skills just so I'm kind of up to date with what

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you have and what you don't have.

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So I won't share any information that you might already have because that would be a waste of our time.

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Remember I'm very expensive.

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So I would say OK how many people in here have a bachelors masters or doctorate in parenting or family

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therapy.

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Anybody know no hands.

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So anybody taking a maybe a seven day workshop or something like that you had you had one class in it

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a class.

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Anybody with class almost no hands go up.

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check in again.

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Anybody read a book on parenting.

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Virtually no hands go up.

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This might be in a room of 300 people at a seminar so far three hands are gonna then I say well maybe

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listen maybe listen to a cassette tape when you're driving around your car.

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Anybody.

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Anybody.

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Bueller Bueller little or no hands going up.

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Well maybe I was sitting around the podiatrist office she picked up a pamphlet flipped her magazine.

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You know something almost no hands going up.

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Think of it this way for me to go into your home and to give you a little bit advice about your child.

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I got to get a bachelors which is four years.

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I got to get a masters which is another four years.

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Now it's now eight years in.

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I got to do a two year internship.

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And now I'm Brandy new.

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I probably stink at it but I got ten years into this and I can give you one piece of advice about your

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That's how complex it is.

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But parents go out and say Oh there's nothing to it.

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I'm just going to do it like my parents did and I remember exactly how they did it and I'm not going

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to make these five mistakes that they made.

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And my kids are gonna be super double awesome.

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It's simple because it's me and I'm a damn genius.

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That's not how it works.

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That is not how it works.

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That's like trying to say well I'm a heart surgeon and I can go ahead and I can do surgery on anybody

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including myself because you know I've seen every episode of Grey's Anatomy doesn't work like that.

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So these are the first people that are imprinting either you looking back retroactively or your child

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let's see who the next influences teachers.

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Now I think teachers try to do a good job but they got 20 to 30 kids coming at them out a whack and

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some teachers say no it's not 30 Paul it's 35 or 40.

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Depends on how large the classroom is right.

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But they can care about a child as much as they want but they will never care about that child like

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And if you had 30 kids I guarantee you draw your attention your focus your caring would be one thirtieth

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of what it would be if you had one child.

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It simply has to be divided.

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Now these teachers may not believe the way that you believe.

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They may not think the way you think they may not be instilling the values that you want your child

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to have.

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Or they may be a stilling values you want your child not to have major major influence next major influence

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the media most kids their babysitter is the TV and the media's only job is it has one sole purpose and

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that's to sell you things including the government.

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Their job is to sell you a bunch of B.S. their belief system so that you take it out and become a good

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little drone and go out there and obey.

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That's what you're supposed to do.

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So you are getting programmed in the media all the time

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corporations and the government control all the media.

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It's always one or the other.

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This is not a good source of morals and values or even critical thinking.

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It actually tries to discourage critical thinking

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here's your other other major source of influence.

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You have two major sources parents and then France here's the challenge.

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Unfortunately these kids are between the age of zero and somewhere between 5 and 7.

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They're also young and clueless.

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And for a good portion of that time they're still pooping their pants.

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These are not the people I would go to to get good life advice.

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This is the blind leading the blind.

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This is going to go horribly horribly wrong.

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It's not their fault now Einstein said you can't solve a problem at the level of thinking that created

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What I take that to mean it's just one way to take it there's multiple ways to take it.

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But one way that I take it you can take it take it for me is that if I'm five years old and I've got

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a five year old bulk of experience store of experience and you're a five year old and you've got a five

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year old store of experience you'll have a little bit different experiences that may see you might be

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able teach me a few things.

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But basically I'm in a five year old level year at a five year old level to go higher I really need

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something that's six seven eight nine.

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Could be 90 but I need them to be above a five year old level.

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Unfortunately we tend to hang out with kids at plus or minus a year or two are our age.

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That's how we lose

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and we don't get a smarter as we get older.

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Look at your high school kids.

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They're all trying to figure out dating and who are they asking.

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Not mom and dad who had like you know 10 years of dating experience or 20.

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In this day and age right.

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And ah you know 20 30 years older than them.

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They're asking their other clueless friend that's been dating for about six months or six days or six

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minutes or hasn't even dated yet just lies about it or says you know hey I'll give you some advice even

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though I have zero experience.

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So we tend to do this throughout our lives.

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Rarely do we seek out experts and rarely do we seek out our elders

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now in this imprint period.

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Remember you're being programmed.

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You're like a computer.

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You have a hard drive.

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So I'm gonna teach a computer term it's called giggle.

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It's pronounced giggle G.I. Joe.

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Garbage in garbage out data in is the data that comes out

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so whatever is put in that's what's going to come back out.

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I tell people don't read crap don't watch crap don't listen to crap.

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You know why.

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Because that's what's going in.

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And eventually if enough crap goes in you're going to be what.

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That's right ladies and gentlemen.

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You're gonna be full of crap.

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You ain't got time for the good stuff that good information.

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At least skip the crap

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so mental programming.

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This is a great old psychology phrase born to succeed but programmed to fail.

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So I want to tell you something and this isn't to let you off the hook.

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Well it is a little bit but also to empower you.

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You are programmed one way so you can be reprogrammed another.

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We're gonna talk about that later.

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I want you to know that a lot of the things that you did in life most of the things that you've done

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at least up until now.

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We're gonna teach you a little bit better.

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Was based on programming you were running a program you in a lot of ways we're not free to be any other

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way.

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You were the accumulation of your programming of your experiences and you just ran that program.

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Matter of fact there was a guy named Skinner we talked about him earlier in the first section and said

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you know if I can control the pain and pleasure I can control the outcomes.

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Well if I can control the programming how you think your belief share philosophies I can also control

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you.

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And life has done that to you at a point where you are helpless to defend against it.

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Where the bulkier personality was already locked in if you were raised to be a thief and then you steal

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something.

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I wouldn't say you were a thief.

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I'd say you are a good product of your training.

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Like everybody everybody is a perfect product of their training.

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And just like Einstein said you can't exceed your current level of thinking.

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You can not break free of or exceed your programming until you've been trained had a deep program yourself

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and how to reprogram yourself to show you how to do that.

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Later in this program so you'll want to go all the way through this training.

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Don't miss that you will miss the only thing in life that will set you free.

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I won't repeat it if you miss that flight.

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The last section of the training are very close to it if I remember correctly you will be stuck and

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you will not be able to change.