‫Now, here's an amazing thing to say.
‫You can change anything about yourself, apart from probably your height.
‫But anything about your personality, you can change if you want to.
‫And that's because all of your habits, all of your behavior comes from something called scripts, which
‫are stored inside your head.
‫So all of your emotions, all your feelings, they all come from your subconscious and your subconscious
‫is a part of your brain where everything is stored.
‫So if we were able to look into your brain, we would see beliefs you have about yourself, which is
‫stored as life scripts.
‫So you might have a script which says, I worry a lot.
‫I just can't help it.
‫It's how I am.
‫And whenever somebody says I can't help it or it's how I am or I always seem to I always seem to give
‫up just when I should carry on.
‫Whenever somebody says that, I always think, aha, that's the script.
‫So what happens is that these scripts control our behavior.
‫So if you have a script which says I always seem to give up just before the finish.
‫Then just before you get to the finish, your brain will think, oh, well, I always give up.
‫So that's what will happen.
‫Or if you have a script which says, I always worry, then that's what will happen.
‫Your brain will think, well, how do I behave in this situation?
‫Oh, yes, I worry.
‫So, for example, I've got a skit which says I'm impatient.
‫So when I find myself in a queue, then my brain thinks, how shall I behave?
‫It thinks, Oh, well, yes, I'm an impatient person.
‫So I'll stamp my feet and I'll go and I'll look at my watch and I'll make impatient noises from the
‫back of the queue.
‫And that's what I do, because I have this belief that I'm an impatient person.
‫So the question is, if you've got a script that makes you unhappy, like I'm impatient or I worry a
‫lot or whatever it is, then can you change those scripts?
‫And the answer is yes, you absolutely can.
‫And the way to do that is to feed new scripts into your brain by self talk.
‫Now, talking to yourself is a bit weird, isn't it?
‫Because who's talking to who?
‫But what it actually is, is your conscious brain is talking to your subconscious.
‫So when you say I don't have to be like this, you're saying to your subconscious mind you could have
‫some different scripts if you wanted.
‫So what you do is you feed in different scripts.
‫So I could say when I'm in a queue.
‫I am always calm and patient.
‫Now, that's going to feel weird because I know it's a lie.
‫I've got 30 years of evidence of myself stamping my feet in queues in post offices.
‫But the point is that if I say it, where is that message going to go to?
‫My subconscious is going to receive that message and go.
‫Now, I don't believe that.
‫And that's called cognitive dissonance.
‫But if I keep saying it, if I keep saying I'm calm and patient in queues, my subconscious after a
‫while starts to think, well, you know, he does keep saying this and, you know, maybe something's
‫changed.
‫So if you worry a lot, imagine what would happen if you started saying, I never worry.
‫Everything's always fine.
‫I know that things will work out just fine.
‫What will happen?
‫And to start with, you'll have cognitive dissonance and you'll be thinking.
‫But no, that's.
‫But it won't work out fine.
‫But if you keep saying it after a while, your subconscious starts to think, well, you know, he keep
‫saying it.
‫So maybe it's true because your subconscious doesn't know what's true and what isn't.
‫It just knows what it's seen in the past.
‫And then what you're telling it now, if you keep putting that new script in after a while, you can
‫overwrite your unhappy scripts.
‫So here is some happiness related scripts that you could try.
‫You could say to yourself every day, I am a naturally happy person.
‫What would happen if you said that I am a naturally happy person?
‫Now, I can say that about myself.
‫I don't have a problem.
‫But some people would find that very weird to say.
‫So if you find that difficult to say, that's all the more reason why you should say it, because it
‫will gradually become true.
‫If you keep saying it, because it'll become one of your life scripts and it will start to then control
‫your behavior.
‫Another script you could have is minor setbacks.
‫Don't knock me off course.
‫Minor setbacks are nothing.
‫I always recover or I can see the good in situations.
‫Any situation, I always see the good.
‫I see the good in people I meet.
‫And I see the potential in situations or things will always work out fine.
‫I think that's a great script to have.
‫Things will always work out fine.
‫If you believe that it's more likely to be true and you can say it to yourself until it becomes something
‫that you genuinely believe.
‫Another happiness script I really like is.
‫I get on well with everyone.
‫So I'm not brilliant at this because there are some people who irritate me.
‫I've got to admit, but I'm working on this and I'm saying to myself, I get on really well with everyone
‫I meet.
‫And increasingly it's becoming true because our behaviour only comes from the beliefs we have about
‫ourselves.
‫So we can change that.
‫Another script, which I really like and I do believe in this one myself, is I can solve any problem.
‫Whatever comes up there will be an answer.
‫So what I'd like you to do is to pick a particular happiness script that you like.
‫It might be one of the ones I've suggested, but it could be one of your own making.
‫And just say it to yourself every day.
‫So let's suppose that your plagued by.
‫Jealousy.
‫You're always jealous of other people and people who are more successful than you make you unhappy.
‫And that's a big cause of your unhappiness.
‫You could get rid of that script instead of saying, well, I just can't help it.
‫You could say I'm not bothered about other people.
‫I'm happy in my world.
‫Other people can do what they like.
‫I'm happy in my world.
‫And that could be your script or your mantra that you keep repeating to yourself.
‫So pick your negative emotion.
‫Think about what the antidote to that is going to be.
‫What is going to be the script that you're going to replace that negative emotion with and say to yourself
‫every day until it becomes true.
‫Keep saying it until it becomes true.
‫And the great news is it's pretty quick.
‫You've only got to say it every day for a few weeks and it will become true.
‫Experiment on yourself with your scripts.
‫You'll be amazed at how well they work.