>> Announcer: TODAY ON AN ALL NEW DR. PHIL. SHE STOLE HER SISTER'S
BOYFRIEND
>> DR. PHIL: YOU STARTED
SLEEPING WITH HIM.
>> HE KNOCKED ON MY DOOR.
>> YOU ANSWERED IT.
>> THEN SHEMARRIED HIM.
>> YOU NEVER ADMITTED YOU DID
ANYTHING WRONGMENT YOU DON'T
CARE.
DID YOU SHED A TEAR?
WHEN IS AN APOLOGY IS SUPPOSED
TO COME THROUGH WHEN YOU ARE
DOING THIS ALL THE TIME?
>> HOW ARE YOU SELF-RIGHTIOUS
IN THIS THING?
>> LET'S DO IT.
>> DR. PHIL: THIS IS A SAVE
PLACE TO TALK ABOUT HARD THINGS.
¶ ¶
>> STANDBY.
WE WILL COUNT YOU DOWN.
>> DR. PHIL: I TRY TO BE AN
EMOTIONAL COMPASS AND POINT YOU IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION.
>> 5, 4 ...
>> DR. PHIL: I AM NOT GIVING
UP ON YOU.
>> Audience: DR. PHIL!
DR. PHIL! DR. PHIL!
[ CROWD CHEERING ]
[ APPLAUSE ]
¶ ¶
>> DR. PHIL: HOW ARE YOU? [ APPLAUSE ]
¶ ¶ >> DR. PHIL: HOW ARE Y'ALL?
>> THIS IS THE TALE OF TWO
SISTERS TORN APART BY ONE MAN.
NOW, ANGEL WAS DATING IT BRIAN
FIRST, UNTIL AMBER SEDUSED HIM
ALL THE WAY TO THE ALTER.
>> HER FACE MAKES ME SICK.
IT MADE ME SICK THEN AND IT
MAKES ME SICK NOW.
BRIAN AND I WERE IN LOVE.
I THOUGHT WE WOULD SPEND THE
REST OF OUR LIFE TOGETHER.
MY SISTER AND I ARE CLOSE, I
SPENT A LOT OF TIME WITH HER,
I WOULD CONFIDE IN HER.
YOUR FAMILY IS SUPPOSED TO BE
THE ONE THING YOU CAN DEPEND
ON IN YOUR TIME OF NEED.
YOU ARE SUPPOSED TO BE ABLE TO
TRUST THAT THEY WILL BE THERE
FOR YOU NO MATTER WHAT.
[ SOBBING ]
¶ ¶
>> WHILE I WAS TRUSTING HER TO
BE THERE FOR ME ...
SHE WAS HELPING HERSELF TO MY
FUTURE.
NO ONE KNEW WHAT THEY WERE
DOING UNTIL SHE GOT PREGNANT.
>> OH, MY GOSH T. TURNED MY
STOMACH. HMM-HMM.
SO ...
>> THAT TURNED ME INTO A
MONSTER. IT PUSHED ME OVER THE EDGE.
AND IT MADE ME A REALLY,
REALLY UGLY, EVIL PERSON.
I LAID IN BED AT NIGHT AND
PLOTTED PEOPLE'S DEATH.
I WAS A BLACK HOLE OF MISERY
THAT WANTED TO SUCK PEOPLE IN,
AND MAKE THEM AS MISERABLE AS
I WAS.
IT HAS BEEN 7 YEARS.
AND SHE STILL HASN'T
APOLOGIZED.
WHY WOULD I WANT SOMEONE IN MY
LIFE THAT HAS NO HEART AND HAS
NO SOUL?
AND CAN HURT SOMEONE THEY LOVE
[ SNAPS ] WITHOUT BRINKING AN
EYE.
WITHOUT REMORSE.
-- BLINKING AN EYE.
>> DR. PHIL: AMBER ADMITS SHE
WAS WRONG BUT SHE SAYS ANGEL'S
WOUNDS ARE OLD AND SHE NEEDS
TO MOVE O.
>> BRIAN AND I WERE SLEEPING
TOGETHER FOR A YEAR BEFORE I
GOT PREGNANT.
I DIDN'T WANT TO TELL ANGEL
ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN
BRIAN AND I.
I DIDN'T THINK OF IT AS
LONG-TERM.
THEN I GOT PREGNANT.
WHEN ANGEL FOUND OUT SHE WAS
ANGRY, SHE WOULD THREATEN ME,
LEAVE ME VOICE MAILS THAT WERE
HATEFUL.
SHE WOULD YELL AND SCREAM AT
ME ABOUT HOW MUCH IT WAS MY
FAULT.
MY FAULT?
OKAY.
SO, THE LAST TIME I HAD A
FRIENDLY CONVERSATION WITH
ANGEL WAS BEFORE I GOT
PREGNANT ABOUT 7 YEARS AGO.
RECENTLY, I CALLED HER.
I GAVE HER AN OPPORTUNITY TO
APOLOGIZE.
ONE THAT SHE DIDN'T TAKE
ADVANTAGE OF, WHATSOEVER.
AND PROVE TO ME ONCE AND FOR
ALL, HOW "NOT SORRY" SHE WAS.
>> I HAVE MADE SEVERAL
ATTEMPTS TO APOLOGIZE TO ANGEL
THROUGH TEXT MESSAGE, I SENT
HER A CARE PACKAGE WITH
HOMEMADE BROWNIES WITH MINT
CHIPS (I KNOW THAT'S HER
FAVORITE).
>> DR. PHIL: OKAY YOU ARE
HUGELY UPSET ABOUT THIS.
>> ABSOLUTELY.
>> DR. PHIL: BECAUSE IF I GET
THIS STRAIGHT, YOUR SISTER
STARTED SLEEPING WITH YOUR
BOYFRIEND WITH WHOM YOU HAD
ALREADY HAD TWO CHILDREN?
>> YES, SIR.
[ AUDIENCE OOHS ]
>> WE HAD BEEN TOGETHER 7
YEARS PRIOR TO THE AFFAIR.
AND WE WERE --
>> DR. PHIL: SO YOU AND BRIAN
WERE TOGETHER 7 YEARS AND HAD
TWO CHILDREN?
>> YES, SIR.
>> DR. PHIL: THEN YOU COME IN
THE BACK DOOR AND START
SLEEPING WITH HER SIGNIFICANT
OTHER AND FATHER OF HER
CHILDREN?
>> I WOULDN'T SAY I CAME
THROUGH THE BACK DOOR.
HE WAS THE ONE KNOCKING ON MY
DOOR.
[ AUDIENCE OOHS ]
>> DR. PHIL: WELL, HELL, YOU
ANSWERED IT!
>> YES, I DID.
YES, I DID.
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> DR. PHIL: FRONT DOOR, BACK
DOOR, DOWN THE CHIMNEY, IT'S
STILL NOT YOUR MAN.
THIS IS YOUR SISTER'S MAN.
AND YOU STARTED SLEEPING WITH
HIM?
>> YES.
>> FOR A YEAR.
>> YES
>> DR. PHIL: AND YOU NEVER
FELT BAD ABOUT IT?
>> I DID FEEL BAD.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU SAID IT WAS
NOT THAT BIG OF A DEAL.
YOU DIDN'T THINK IT WAS THAT
BIG OF A DEAL.
I DIDN'T EXPECT IT TO GO
ANYWHERE.
>> I DIDN'T EXPECT IT TO GO
ANYWHERE.
I DIDN'T PLAN A RELATIONSHIP
AT THAT TIME.
>> DR. PHIL: WHAT DID YOU
CALL HAVING SEX WITH HIM FOR A
YEAR; THAT WAS NOT A
RELATIONSHIP?
WHAT WAS THAT?
>> YOU KNOW, I NEVER THOUGHT
WE WOULD BE MARRIED AND HAVING
OUR OWN FAMILY AND STUFF.
>> DR. PHIL: OF COURSE NOT.
HE WAS ALREADY WITH HIM.
>> YEAH, I WAS SUPPOSED TO DO
THAT; HOW COULD YOU THINK
ABOUT THAT.
>> I WASN'T THINKING ABOUT IT.
>> YOU WERE NOT THINKING ABOUT
ME OR ANYBODY ELSE WHEN YOU
WERE DOING THAT.
>> I WAS SELFISH AT THE TIME.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU WHAT?
>> I WAS SELFISH AT THE TIME.
I WAS 20 YEARS OLD.
>> DR. PHIL: HERE'S THE
THING, YOU CONFIDED IN HER
THINGS ABOUT BRIAN.
>> OH, NOW--
>> SHE WAS MY CONFIDANT AT THE
TIME.
I WAS RECOVERING FROM BACK
SURGERY AND DEPENDED ON HER TO
HELP ME WATCH MY CHILDREN AND
I DEPENDED ON HER AS MY
SISTER, TO HELP ME WITH MY
CHILDREN.
I WAS RECOVERING FROM BACK
SURGERY.
AND I AM TELLING HER HOW I
FELT LIKE, I CAN'T DO THINGS
SEXUALLY WITH HIM BECAUSE OF
MY BACK; AND YOU KNOW, I AM
LIKE REALLY CONCERNED ABOUT A
LOT OF THINGS AND SHE TAKES
THAT INFORMATION AND GOES
THROUGH WHATSOEVER DOOR YOU
CHOSE TO GO THROUGH, TO GO
AHEAD AND TAKE ADVANTAGE OF
THAT SITUATION.
>> DR. PHIL: SO SHE USES YOU
AS A CONFIDANT AND YOU USE
THAT INFORMATION?
>> I DIDN'T USE THAT
INFORMATION FOR ANYTHING.
THERE WAS NO MANIPULATION.
I DIDN'T HAVE TO MANIPULATE
HIM, I DIDN'T TAKE ADVANTAGE
OF HIM.
>> AS A SISTER, MY DEAR.
I --
>> I DID NOT TURN HIM DOWN,
THAT WAS WHERE I WENT WRONG.
>> HOW DID IT HAPPEN FOR A
YEAR.
I DON'T UNDERSTAND HOW YOU
COULD THINK, I ASKEDURE-- I
ASKED YOU.
>> WHY DIDN'T YOU TELEME THE
FIRST TIME?
OH, LET'S SLEEP WITH HIM FOR A
YEAR AND THAT WOULD MAKE IT
BETTER?
HOW CAN YOU THINK THAT -- YOU
SHOULD KNOW ME.
THE RESPECT WOULD HAVE CAME TO
YOU IF YOU WOULD HAVE JUST
TOLD ME THE TRUTH! BUT YOU
WERE NOT EVEN THE ONE WHO TOLD
ME.
IN FACT, YOU HAVE NEVER
ADMITTED TO ME THAT YOU HAVE
DONE ANYTHING WRONG.
>> NOT TRUE.
ANGEL! THAT'S NOT TRUE.
>> REALLY, REALLY?
A FAKE APOLOGY DIDN'T EVEN
HAVE ADMISSION OF GUILT.
IT DIDN'T HAVE REPENTENCE.
THESE ARE REQUIRED OF
FORGIVENESS, MY DEAR.
>> DID YOU READ THE TEXT
MESSAGES?
>> I DID ADMIT MY GUILT.
I AM TRULY SORRY.
I DID A HORRIBLE THING.
>> YOU SAID I AM DEEPLY SORRY
FOR ANY PAIN THAT I HAVE
CAUSED YOU; YOU ARE MY SISTER
AND I WOULD LIKE TO FIX THIS.
THAT'S WHAT YOU SAID AFTER 7
YEARS.
>> SEVERAL TIMES --
>> NO, YOU HAVE NOT!
>> EVERY TIME WE ARE ON THE
PHONE, THIS IS HOW IT HAPPENS.
JUST ON MONDAY, THAT'S EXACTLY
WHAT HAPPENED.
YOU DIDN'T EVEN ASK ME--
>> ON MONDAY WE TALKED TO EACH
OTHER.
[ LAUGHTER ]
>> EXCUSE ME.
>> ON MONDAY, WHEN I CALLED
YOU, YOU HAD YOUR OPPORTUNITY
TO APOLOGIZE THEN!
IN FACT, DID YOU EVEN SHED A
TEAR WHEN I CALLED YOU?
EXCUSE ME, IN FACT, I BELIEVE
THAT --
>> WHEN IS AN APOLOGY SUPPOSED
TO COME THROUGH WHEN YOU ARE
DOING THIS ALL THE TIME?
>> I'M SORRY.
I'M SORRY.
YOU ARE NOT LISTENING TO THE
WORDS COMING OUT OF MY MOUTH.
>> DR. PHIL: Y'ALL DON'T
REALLY NEED ME FOR THIS, DO
YOU?
[ LAUGHTER ]
>> I MEAN, DO I HAVE TO BE
HERE FOR THIS?
>> HONESTLY WHY DO I HAVE TO
BE HERE FOR THIS WHEN
HONESTLY, THROOGS NOTHING TO
CHANGE HER -- THERE'S NOTHING
TO CHANGE HER MIND ABOUT
ANYTHING.
SHE'S NOT LISTENING TO
ANYTHING I HAVE TO SAY.
>> IT'S QUICK.
>> DR. PHIL: WHERE DID THAT
COME FROM?
>> IT CAME FROM MY BRA.
THIS IS FROM THE BIBLE.
PROVERBS 2:16.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU HAVE THE
BIBLE IN YOUR BRA?
>> I DO!
>> DR. PHIL: AND LATER ...
>> YOU BROUGHT ME ON TO THIS
SHOW BECAUSE YOU WANT TO CRY
ABOUT HOW I WON'T FORGIVE YOU.
>> WHY ARE WE HERE?
>> Announcer: TOMORROW ON AN
ALL NEW DR. PHIL HER YOUNGEST CHILD WENT MISSING.
MY SON SKYLAR WAS CHARGED WITH
MURDER.
>> DR. PHIL: DO YOU BELIEVE
SKYLAR KILLED HIS LITTLE
BROTHER.
>> THAT'S A LOT OF UNANSWERED
QUESTIONS.
>> HE PLED GUILTY TO IT.
>> I HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH MY
SON'S DEATH OR COVER-UP
>> DR. PHIL: DO YOU THINK SHE
HELPED HIM MOVE THE
>> DUE TO THE PAIN THAT MY SISTER HAS CAUSED ME, I HAVE A HARD TIME SAYING HER NAME.
I CALL HER BS; WHICH DOESN'T
STAND FOR BEST FRIEND.
IT STANDS FOR BITCH FACE.
I HAVE BEEN USING THE LETTERS
BF, TO STAND FOR HER ALL THIS
TIME BECAUSE I CHOKE, I CHOKE
ON THE WORDS AS THEY COME OUT.
SO BF, IS EASIER TO SAY.
>> DR. PHIL: I HAVE A COUPLE OF QUESTIONS. >> UH-HUH.
>> DR. PHIL: UM,
>> YOU SAID THAT SHE'S UPSET
AND THAT THIS IS TEARING THE
FAMILY APART AND ALL OF THAT.
>> HUH.
>> DR. PHIL: WHAT DO YOU
EXPECT HER TO FEEL?
>> I EXPECTED HER TO FEEL LIKE
THBUT FOR HER TO DRAG IT ON
THIS LONG --
>> DR. PHIL: BUT, HELL!
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> I'M SORRY.
>> WHEN DOES IT END.
HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO
APOLOGIZE.
WHEN CAN WE MAKE A TRUCE.
WHEN CAN WE STOP THE HATRED
AND THE ANGER.
THE KIDS ARE EFFECTED.
>> WHAT DO YOU EXPECT TO DO
WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN WITH
THE FATHER OF MY CHILDREN.
YOU MADE AND MARRIED HIM.
YOU MADE MY CHILDREN, THEIR
OWN UNCLE!
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> NOW YOU TELL ME HOW THAT'S NOT SUPPOSED TO UPSET THE
CHILDREN.
>> THAT'S NOW HOW WE RAISE
THEM, ANGEL.
>> I DON'T CARE.
>> I KNOW YOU DON'T.
BOTTOM LINE SYOU DON'T CARE.
OKAY?
LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING.
CAN I EXPRESS SOMETHING REAL
QUICK, DR. PHIL, CAN I EXPRESS
SOMETHING REALLY QUICK?
>> DR. PHIL: MY SECOND
QUESTION ... [ APPLAUSE ]
>> DR. PHIL: YOU SAID YOU DIDN'T EXPECT THIS TO GO ANYWHERE?
YOU WERE HAVING UNPROTECTED
SEX.
>> I WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL THE
WHOLE TIME EXPECT FOR THE VERY
END, I MISSED MY APPOINTMENT.
I DIDN'T REALIZE I MISSED IT
UNTIL I GOT REALLY SICK AND
WENT TO THE DOCTORS.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU WERE HAVING
UNPROTECTED SEX.
AND YOUR RESPONSE IS: OH, I
WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL, RIGHT UP
UNTIL, WELL -- THE END WHEN I
WASN'T AND GOT PREGNANT.
>> I DIDN'T GET PREGNANT ON
PURPOSE.
>> DR. PHIL: OH, REALLY,
COME, -- COME --
>> I WAS ON BIRTH CONTROL THE
WHOLE TIME.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU WERE NOT ON
BIRTH CONTROL THE WHOLE TIME.
YOU GOT PREGNANT OFFOF BIRTH
CONTROL.
>> I MISSED MY APPOINTMENT.
>> DR. PHIL: STOP SAYING YOU
WERE ON BIRTH CONTROL THE
WHOLE TIME EXPECT FOR THE TIME
YOU WERE NOT.
YOU DON'T ACCIDENTALLY GET OFF
BIRTH CONTROL.
YOU ARE 20, YOU KNEW YOU
WEREN'T ON BIRTH CONTROL AND
YOU HAD SEX WITH HER 7-YEAR
BOYFRIEND, BABBY-DADDY AND HAD
UNPROTECTED SEX.
COME ON.
WHAT YOU WANNA DO IS GET PAST
THIS, TO GET PAST THIS YOU
HAVE GOT TO GET REAL.
>> THANK YOU.
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> I NEVER --
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> IF YOU WERE NOT PLANNING TO
HAVE A BABY OR PLANNING ALL OF
THIS STUFF --
>> ADMIT YOU ARE WRONG.
>> I HAVE! DID YOU NOT HEAR
ME?
I JUST SAID --
>> ANGEL, I DID SCREW UP, I
MADE A HUGE MISTAKE.
I APOLOGIZE.
>> MAYBE IT'S THE FIRST TIME
YOU ARE NOT TALKING WHILE I AM
SAYING IT.
>> REALLY?
BECAUSE I CALLED YOU AND SAID,
HEY, DO YOU REALLY WANNA DO
THIS?
PAUSE.
HERE'S YOUR OPPORTUNITY TO
SPEAK.
AND YOU DIDN'T TAKE IT.
[ AUDIENCE OOHS ]
>> NO, NO, I'M SORRY.
>> DR. PHIL: CAN I ASK A
THIRD QUESTION?
HOW ARE YOU SELF-RIGHTIOUS AND
SANCTIMONIOUS IN THIS THING?
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO TALK
TO HER.
I CAN'T TALK TO HER.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU SAID, "YOU
DON'T LISTEN, YOU ARE NOT
THIS" IF IT WERE ME, I WOULD
KINDA -
>> SHE SCREAMS AND SCREAMS AND
SHE DOESN'T HEAR YOUR APOLOGY
AND WHEN I DO, IT'S: YOU ARE
FAKE.
>> DR. PHIL: WHY DO I SAY YOU
ARE BEING SELF-RIGHTIOUS AND
SANCTIMONIOUS.
THAT'S WHY.
>> THANK YOU, THANK YOU.
>> IF I CAN PLEASE SAY
SOMETHING?
>> IF YOU WILL MAKE IT QUICK,
AND THEN WE ARE GOING TO THE
BREAK.
THEN I AM GONNA TELL YOU WHAT
I THINK YOU NEED TO DO AND
THEN WE ARE DONE.
>> THAT'S ABSOLUTELY FINE.
MY WHOLE THING IS JUST THAT,
YOU KNOW, I HAVE GIVEN HER
OPPORTUNITIES AND THE THING
IS, IS THAT, WHEN YOU HAVE THE
WILL AND DESIRE TO DO
SOMETHING YOU SHOULD TAKE IT
AND IF YOU HAVE THE GUILT AND
THE FEELING OF REMORSE IN YOUR
HEART, I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU
HAVE TO DO TO EXPRESS IT, IT
SHOWS.
AND I DO HAVE SOMETHING THAT I
WOULD LIKE TO READ IF
POSSIBLE?
[ LAUGHTER ]
>> IT'S JUST REALLY QUICK. >> DR. PHIL: WHERE DID THAT
COME FROM?
>> IT'S IN MY BRA.
IT'S FROM THE BIBLE.
IT'S PROVERBS 2:16.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU HAVE THE
BIBLE IN YOUR BRA?
>> I DO.
I HAVE IT ON MY PHONE, TOO.
OKAY.
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> CAN YOU LISTEN?
BECAUSE ...
WISDOM WILL SAVE YOU FROM THE
ADULTROUS WOMAN, FROM THE
WAYWARD WOMAN WITH SEDUCTIVE
WORDS WHO HAS LEFT TO THE
PARTNER OF HER YOUTH AND
IGNORE THE COVINENT SHE MADE
WITH GOD.
SURELY HER PATH IS WITH THE
SPIRIT OF THE DEAD AND NONE
WHOM ATTAINT PASS OF LIFE --
ATTAIN THE PASS OF LIFE.
>> DR. PHIL: DURING THE
BREAK, SHE WILL ENTREPRENEUR
-- INTERPRET THAT TO HER
SISTER, WHAT THEIR MOTHER HAS
TO SAY, WHEN WE COME BACK REALL?
¶ ¶
[ APPLAUSE ]
¶ ¶
>> BRIAN LIKED TO CALL ME A BITCH NO MATTER WHAT I. AFTER THEY DID WHAT THEY DID,
I MADE BEING A BITCH A
LIFESTYLE AND IT WAS LIKE, YOU
WANNA SEE ME BE A BITCH?
WELL, DR. FRANKENSTEIN, HOW DO
YOU LIKE THE MONSTER YOU
CREATED?
BECAUSE I KNOW HOW TO BE A
BITCH, BELIEVE ME!
¶ ¶
>> Announcer: FRIDAY, ON AN ALL-NEW DR. PHIL. >> SHE THOUGHT SHE HAD THE
PERFECT FAMILY.
>> HE WAS THE BEST DAD.
>> SHE HAD NO IDEA.
>> VICTIMS HAD THEIR TEETH
FOUND AND THEIR EYES WERE
COVERED WERE TEETH.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU FOUND LADIES
NYLONS AND HE SAYS, THESE ARE
FOR YOU.
>> THEY FOUND A PREDATOR.
>> IT WAS A BROWN PAPER BAG.
>> THEY FOUND A STUN GUN AND
LEG SHACKLES IN
>> MY SISTER HAD THE PLEASURE OF MARRYING THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!
>> MY SISTER, ANGEL, WILL
CREATE SITUATIONS WHERE SHE, AND BRAY BRY WERE ALONE --
BRIAN WERE ALONE.
WHEN WE DO THE CHILD EXCHANGE,
SHE DEMANDS THAT THEY BE
ALONE.
>> I DON'T THINK SHE LOVES
HIM, NOT THEY DID.
AND I DON'T THINK HE LOVES
HER, NOT LIKE HE LOVED ME.
HE'S REALLY THE ONLY MAN I
EVER LOVED.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU ARE PROBABLY
WONDERING WHERE BRIAN IS?
THE MAN CAUGHT IN THE MIDDLE
OF THE THIS LOVE TRIANGLE.
HE WAS GONNA BE HERE ... [
AUDIENCE OOHS ]
>> DR. PHIL: UNTIL ABOUT 2
A.M. THIS MORNING, AND HE
CALLED IN AND SAID, YOU KNOW,
DARN, I CAN'T MAKE IT.
>> UH-HUH.
>> CAN'T GET THERE.
>> DR. PHIL: I COULD BE ON
THE PHONE IF YOU WANTED ME TO
CALL IN OR WHATSOEVER.
I SAID, NO, I WILL PASS.
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> SO HE ADMITS FALLING IN LOVE WITH ANGEL'S SISTER WAS NOT IDEAL.
IT WAS ANGEL THAT ENCOURAGED
AMBER TO MOVE WITH WITH HIM.
>> ANGEL AND I WERE TOGETHER
FOR SEVERAL YEARS AND THEN SHE
CHANGED INTO A DIFFERENT
PERSON.
>> BRIAN AND ANGEL NEVER
AGREED, ALWAYS ARGUED, DIDN'T
SHARE THE VIEW OF A LOT OF
THINGS AND THEY HAD
DYSFUNCTION; IT WAS A TOXIC
RELATIONSHIP.
>> ANGEL WANTED TO HAVE
ANOTHER BACK SURGERY AND MOVE
BACK WITH HER MOTHER.
I WAS AGAINST MOVING BACK WITH
HER MOTHER.
ANGEL AND I DECIDED IT WAS
BETTER FOR ME TO GET MY OWN
APARTMENT.
SHE WALKED OUT ON OUR
RELATIONSHIP.
SHE SAID AMBER COULD STAY WITH
ME FOR A WAY TO KEEP AN EYE ON
ME.
>> ANGEL FEELS LIKE I TRAPPED
HIM.
BRIAN SEDUCED ME.
>> BRIAN AND I MARRIED A YEAR
AGO.
WE HAVE TWO CHILDREN TOGETHER
AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR THIRD
CHILD.
WE ARE SOUL MATES AND WE HAVE
A CLOSE RELATIONSHIP.
>> I ADMIT I WAS WRONG, I
TRIED TO APOLOGIZE AND MAKE
AMEND-WISE ANGEL.
IS THERE -- AMENDMENTS WITH
ANGEL.
>> CAN I SAY SOMETHING,
PLEASE?
[ LAUGHTER ]
>> DR. PHIL: DO I HAVE A
CHOICE?
>> I DIDN'T ENCOURAGE IT.
>> DR. PHIL: DOESN'T MATTER WHETHER YOU DID OR DIDN'T.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU DROVE HIM
OVER THERE AND ROLLED HIM IN
ON A DOLLY, IT DOESN'T JUSTIFY
YOUR SISTER CRAWLING IN BED
WITH HIM.
>> YOU ARE RIGHT.
I LOVE HOW THEY KEEP TURNING
THIS AROUND AND CALLING IT MY
FAULT.
>> YOU BROUGHT ME ON TO THIS
SHOW BECAUSE YOU WANT TO CRY
ABOUT HOW I WON'T FORGIVE YOU
>> THAT'S NOT WHY I AM HERE.
>> DR. PHIL: WHY ARE WE HERE?
>> BECAUSE OF HOW THIS AFFECTS
THE CHILDREN.
>> DR. PHIL: LET'S TALK TO
YOUR MOTHER.
JOINING US ON POLYCOME, YOU
ARE ON YOUR HONEYMOON IN
HAHAPPEN.
LOVE THE FLOWER AND THE LIAI.
>> WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT
THIS DIVISION BETWEEN THE
SISTERS?
>> YOU ARE IN THE MIDDLE OF
IT, EXCEPT I AM MOM.
I CAN SEE THE EXPRESSION ON
YOUR FACE, THE EMOTION, THE
PASSION.
NOW TRY BEING MOM.
>> DR. PHIL: YEAH, I GET
THAT.
SO, WHAT HAPPENS ON HOLIDAYS
WHEN YOU ALL GET AROUND THE
THANKSGIVING TABLE.
I MEAN, DOES THE TURKEY FLY?
>> TWO HOLIDAYS.
>> TO KEEP IT FROM BEING
THROWN AT EACH OTHER WE HAVE
TWO HOLIDAYS.
>> DR. PHIL: SO YOU HAVE TO
SPLIT IT UP.
>> TWO THANKSGIVINGS, TWO
CHRISTMASES.
OR HALF AND HALF.
HALF AND HALF, THAT'S WHAT I
MEAN BY 2.
>> IT'S HALF AND HALF.
>> DR. PHIL: SO, MOM, WHAT DO
YOU WANT TO SEE HAPPEN HERE?
WELL, --
>> WELL, WHAT HAPPENED TO
ANGEL IS NOT RIGHT.
AND I WILL NOT -- US BEING
CHRISTIAN WOMEN, AND ALL OF US
HAVING A PAST, THE ONLY WAY TO
GO FORWARD AND WHAT GOD
EXPECTS US TO DO IS TO LOVE
ONE ANOTHER UNCONDITIONALLY,
TO FORGIVE AND MOVE FORWARD.
AND YOU CAN'T MOVE FORWARD IF
YOU ARE CARRYING A TROSS OF
JUNK.
EVERYBODY DESERVES A SECOND
CHANCE.
BUT THERE HAS TO BE REMORSE.
>> THANK YOU.
>> I LOVE MY GIRLS.
I LOVE THEM DEARLY.
>> DR. PHIL: DO YOU THINK
AMBER IS REMORSEFUL?
>> I KNOW SHE IS.
ONE THING ABOUT AMBER IS THAT
SHE BACKS OFF FROM ANY
AGGRESSION AND PUTS UP A WALL
OF FALSE PRETENSE.
I CAN SEE ANGEL -- BUT I HAVE
SEEN HER CRY.
>> SHE CAN REALLY HOLD IT IN.
>> IF THIS IS THE TIME TO SHOW
IT, THOUGH, SHE'S SUPPOSED TO
SHOW SHE'S SORRY.
IF SHE'S SUPPOSED TO BE HERE
TO MAKE AMENDS.
>> DR. PHIL: HOLD ON, HOLD
ON.
LISTEN, I FEEL REALLY BAD
ABOUT INTRUDING ON ON YOUR
HONEYMOON BECAUSE THESE GIRLS
ARE DOING WHAT THEY ARE DOING,
BUT, AT THIS POINT, YOUR
CONCERN IS THAT THIS IS
TEARING THE FAMILY UP.
THERE ARE CHILDREN INVOLVED,
IN FACT, YOUR CHILDREN DO HAVE
TO SPEND TIME WITH THEIR
FATHER/UNCLE OR STEP-FATHER,
WHATEVER.
SO, THEY DO GET KINDA -- AND
YOU WANNA SEE THAT RESOLVED
FOR THOSE CHILDREN, CORRECT?
>> I DO.
BECAUSE I AM STARTING TO SEE
AS THEY ARE GETTING OLDER, THE
ANGER.
THE ANGER AND THE WAY THAT
THEY TREAT EACH OTHER IS
REALLY EFFECTING THE CHILDREN
AND I CAN SEE IT.
I KNOW IT'S HARD TO MOVE ON
FOR ANGEL FOR ANYBODY.
I HAVE A SISTER, AND I CAN'T
IMAGINE WHAT I WOULD FEEL.
I WOULD FEEL A LOT LIKE ANGEL
HAS, BUT I HAVE HAD A LOT OF
THINGS HAPPEN TO ME MYSELF,
AND I CAN TELL YOU, YOU HAVE
GOT TO LET IT GO.
YOU HAVE GOT TO FORGIVE.
YOU HAVE GOT TO BELIEVE THAT
GOD'S LOVE, HE HAS A ABOUT
THER PURPOSE FOR IT.
>> MOM, WHY CAN'T YOU
RECOGNIZE HOW FAR I HAVE COME?
I AM THE ONE WHO HAS DONE ALL
THE WORK.
I HAVE FORGIVEN HER.
I TOLD HER I LOVED HER ON
MONDAY! DID YOU RETURN IT?
>> YEAH, RIGHT BEFORE YOU SAID
THAT YOU WERE WILLING FOR ME
TO LOSE MY BABY SO YOU COULD
FIGHT ME AND THEN YOU COULD
FORGIVE ME.
>> NOT TRUE.
WHAT I SAID --
>> I HAVE IT ON SPEAKER PHONE
>> DR. PHIL: I WILL GIVE YOU
MY THOUGHTS AFTER THE BREAK!
¶ ¶
[ APPLAUSE ]
¶ ¶
>> IF I WAS GONNA BE QUIET WITH DR. PHIL GOES AHEAD AND MAKES
>> I MISS MY SISTER VERY MUCH. I WANT A TRUCE. I CAN UNDERSTAND IF SHE
DOESN'T WANT TO FORGIVE ME.
>> SHE'S HEARTLESS AND IT
HURTS BECAUSE THAT'S MY BABY SISTER, AND I TOLD HER "I LOVE
YOU".
I LOVE YOU.
[ SOBBING ]
YOU ARE MY SISTER, I LOVE YOU!
DO YOU THINK SHE TOOK THE
OPPORTUNITY TO RETURN IT?
SHE DIDN'T TELL ME SHE LOVED
ME BACK! AS A MATTER OF FACT,
ALL SHE COULD DO IS ARGUE WITH
ME.
¶ ¶
>> DR. PHIL: I AM HERE WITH ANGEL AND AMBER. UM, WE HAVE INTERRUPTED MOM'S
HONEYMOON, AND I DON'T WANT TO
DO THAT ANYMORE.
BUT, LET ME JUST TELL YOU, UM,
WHAT I THINK ABOUT -- DO YOU
WANT TO KNOW WHAT I THINK
ABOUT THIS?
>> I DO.
I AM LISTENING.
I AM JUST HURT AGAIN BY MY
FAMILY NOT RECOGNIZING MY WORK
AS A CHRISTIAN MOM TO FORGIVE
HER AND LOVE HER DESPITE WHAT
SHE'S DONE, YOU TOOK THAT AWAY
FROM ME IN YOUR STATEMENT.
SO I WILL BE QUIET WHILE DR.
PHIL GOES AHEAD AND MAKES HIS
STATEMENT.
[ LAUGHTER ]
>> DR. PHIL: OKAY.
ALL I CAN DO IS TELL Y'ALL
WHAT I THINK.
AND THEN YOU ARE GONNA DO
WHATEVER YOU WANT WITH IT.
IT'S BEEN 7 YEARS.
>> YES, SIR.
>> DR. PHIL: AND YOU HAVE A
HIGHER CALLING HERE, AND A
DUTY TO THE CHILDREN INVOLVED.
>> YES, SIR.
ABSOLUTELY.
>> DR. PHIL: AND SOMETIMES
PEOPLE THAT REALLY HAVE A LOT
OF ANGST, FOR ONE ANOTHER HAVE
TO CO-PARENT.
IN THIS SITUATION YOU HAVE TO
CO-PARENT WITH THE FATHER OF
YOUR CHILDREN, AND YOUR
SISTER, TO WHOM HE IS NOW
MARRIED.
>> YES, SIR.
>> DR. PHIL: NOW YOU HAVE
SHARED THINGS WITH US THAT,
THAT RELATIONSHIP WAS PERHAPS
ANYTHING BUT PERFECT.
>> ABSOLUTELY.
>> DR. PHIL: AND I FRANKLY
THINK THAT IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU
MAY HAVE REALLY DODGED A
BULLET HERE.
>> HONESTLY, I BELIEVE THAT
GOD --
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> TOOK HIM OUT OF MY LIFE,
LIKE THE CANCER HE WAS.
>> DR. PHIL: I AM NOT SAYING
-- THE TWO OF YOU HAD A
VOLATILE RELATIONSHIP AND
THERE WAS A LOT GOING ON THERE
THAT DIDN'T NEED TO GO ON.
BE THAT AS IT MAY, THAT'S OVER
AND YOU ARE OUT.
>> I ARE RIGHT.
>> DR. PHIL: BUT YOU MADE THE
CHOICE TO BRING TWO CHILDREN
INTO THIS WORLD WITH THAT MAN
AND WHEN YOU BROUGHT THOSE
CHILDREN INTO THE WORLD, YOU
BECAME A PARENT.
PARENT IS A NOUN AND A VERB.
YOU ARE NOT JUST A PARENT, YOU
MUST PARENT.
THAT MEANS THERE ARE THINGS
YOU HAVE TO DO AS A FIDUCIARY,
TO THOSE CHILDREN.
BAD-MOUTHING THEIR DADE --
LISTEN.
>> PUTTING THE CHILDREN IN THE
MIDDLE OF A TUG OF WAR WHERE
THERE'S ANGST, BETWEEN YOU AND
YOU, AND THEY FEEL THAT AND
PERCEIVE THAT, THEY PICK UP
THE TAB FOR THAT.
>> ABSOLUTELY.
>> DR. PHIL: AND IF YOU ARE
SAYING THAT YOU HAVE FORGIVEN
HER, IT DOESN'T MEAN WHAT SHE
DID WAS OKAY.
FORGIVENESS IS ABOUT YOU NOT
ABOUT HER.
>> IT'S NOT RECONCILIATION,
EITHER.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU DON'T HAVE
TO RECONCILE.
YOU JUST HAVE TO CO-PARENT.
>> EXACTLY!
>> DR. PHIL: THAT MEANS YOU
DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO TO
KEEP THOSE CHILDREN FROM BEING
IN THE CROSS-FIRE OF A BATTLE.
>> THANK YOU.
>> BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR
SISTER.
TAKE THE HIGH ROAD, THERE'S A
LOT LESS TRAFFIC UP THERE.
>> I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DO
THAT.
>> DR. PHIL: BUT IT ISN'T UP
TO HER! LISTEN.
YOU JUST NEED TO CHOOSE TO DO
WHAT YOU NEED TO DO.
IF SHE CAN CHOOSES TO NOT DO
IT, YOU CAN'T HANDLE THAT.
BUT YOU NEED TO DO WHAT YOU
NEED TO DO.
YOU ARE OBVIOUSLY EMOTIONALLY
CHARGED ABOUT THIS; AND I AM
SAYING THAT AT SOME POINT
(IT'S BEEN 7 YEARS) IT ISN'T
GONNA CHANGE.
LET IT GO.
>> CAN I ASK YOU A QUESTION,
DR. PHIL.
>> BRIEFLY.
>> WHY WOULD I WANT TO SPEND
TIME WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS NO
REMORSEFULNESS FOR WHAT SHE
HAS DONE.
I HAVE DONE WHAT YOU HAVE
SAID, BUT I AM NOT GETTING
CREDIT FOR IT.
>> DR. PHIL: IF SHE EARNS
YOUR TRUST AND RESPECT BY
MAKING NEW HISTORY, THEN YOU SA.
THAT'S A HUGE WORD.
EARN
>> DR. PHIL: MY NEXT GUEST
LOOKS GOOD IN HER SELF-IES BUT
HER ELF -- SELF ESTEEM IS NOT
WHERE IT SHOULD BE.
WE WILL TALK TO HER AND HER
BEST FRIEND WHEN WE COME BACK.
>> DOESN'T THAT MEAN THAT YOUR
LIFE GOING FORWARD IS REALLY
BLEAK?
¶ ¶
>> DR. PHIL: BECAUSE YOU ARE GONNA LOOK WORSE ...
[ LAUGHTER ]
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> Announcer: TOMORROW, ON AN ALL-NEW DR. PHIL. HER YOUNGEST CHILD WAS
MISSING.
>> MY SON SKYLOR, WAS CHARGED
WITH MURDER.
>> THERE'S A LOT OF UNANSWERED
QUESTIONS.
>> DR. PHIL: HE PLED GUILTY
TO IT.
>>I BELIEVE SHE TRIED TO COVER
EVERYTHING UP. >> I HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH MY
SON'S DEATH OR COVER-UP
>> Announcer: A SHOCKING
ACCUSATION.
>> DO YOU THINK SHE HELPED HIM
MOVE THE BODY?
>> I TOLD HER, I KNOW YOU TODAY.
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>> ON THE UP SIDE, MY NEXT GUEST JENN LOOKS CONFIDENT AND BEAUTIFUL.
DEEP BETHE -- BENEATH THE
MAKEUP AND HAIR SPRAY SHE'S IN
A STRUGGLE, COMPARING HERSELF
TO EVERYONE IN THE ROOM
ESPECIALLY HER OWN BEST
FRIEND, MEGAN.
>> MEGAN IS SO BEAUTIFUL THAT
BEING AROUND HER IS HARD ON
ME.
I AM JEALOUS.
I FEEL LIKE SHE'S JUST WAY
PRETENER.
SHE JUST -- PRETTIER.
>> SHE HAS CONFIDENCE ABOUT
HERSELF THEY ENVY.
>> WHEN WE AS WOMEN LOOK IN
THE MIRROR AND WE SEE
SOMETHING WRONG WITH
OURSELVES, WHAT'S THE FIRST
THING WE DO?
WHAT CAN I DO TO FIX THAT?
>> JUST ME, RAW, BARE, MOW
HAIR DONE, NO -- NO HAIR DONE,
NO MAKE UP.
I DON'T THINK I AM PRETTY.
I FEEL LIKE I AM LOSING A
BATTLE.
I AM AFRAID OF PEOPLE NOT
LOVING ME OR THAT SOME DAY,
THERE'S GONNA BE THAT FUTURE
GIRL THAT WILL BE MORE
ATTRACTIVE THAN ME.
>> SHE'S HER WORST CRITIC.
I LOOK AT IT MORE AS A
COMPETITION.
GITO THE EXTREMES AND I SEE
WHAT I CAN DO.
>> I WANT THE REAL ME TO LOOK
BETTER.
I DON'T WANT TO FIX MYSELF.
>> DR. PHIL: OKAY. ARE YOU JUST THE WAY YOU LOOK?
>> YOU MEAN WITHOUT ALL OF
THIS MAKEUP AND HAIR? I DON'T LOOK THE SAME?
>> DR. PHIL: YEAH.
WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT TO THE TWO OF YOU HOW YOU LOOK?
>> BECAUSE IT MAKES ME FEEL A
CERTAIN WAY. >> DR. PHIL: YEAH.
>> IT GIVES US CONFIDENCE.
>> DR. PHIL: YEAH.
>> I FEEL LIKE I AM NOT AS
WORTHY OR RESPECTABLE ENOUGH
IF I DON'T CARRY MYSELF WELL.
>> DR. PHIL: AND YOU THINK
YOUR APPEARANCE , YOUR LOOK,
EQUALS SELF-WORTH?
BE HONEST.
I MEAN THAT'S WHAT YOU SAY.
YOU COME IN THE ROOM AND
THAT'S HOW YOU MEASURE YOUR
WORTH AND VALUE
>> YES, I FEEL LIKE I AM , UM,
I FEEL LIKE I AM WORTH MORE.
I FEEL LIKE I AM BETTER.
I FEEL LIKE I CARRY MYSELF
BETTER.
>> DR. PHIL: YEAH.
>> I HAVE BEEN ON THE OTHER
SIDE AND I -- IT JUST -- I DON'T FEEL AS GOOD AS MYSELF.
I, UM, IT'S LIKE NOT MANY
PEOPLE CARE TO GET TO KNOW
YOU.
>> DR. PHIL: DOESN'T THAT
MEAN THAT YOUR LIFE GOING
FORWARD IS REALLY BLEAK?BECAUSE
BECAUSE YOU ARE GONNA LOOK WORSE. [ LAUGHTER ]
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> DR. PHIL: GOING FORWARD.
TAKE IT FROM ME.
[ LAUGHTER ]
>> I LOOK LIKE AN OLD
CATCHER'S MITT.
AS YOU GET OLDER THINGS GET
CLOSER TO THE SIDEWALK.
AND --
[ LAUGHTER ]
>> DR. PHIL: YOU ARE GONNA, I
MEAN, WRINKLES WILL BE MORE
PRONOUNCED.
AND YOU ARE GOING TO BECOME
LESS COMPETITIVE, VISUALLY
THERE'S ALWAYS GONNA BE
SOMEBODY CUTER, YOUNGER,
FRESHER.
THERE ALREADY IS.
TRUST ME.
>> I KNOW.
AND THAT'S WHY WE TRY TO DO --
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> OR TRY TO DO WHAT I CAN, BECAUSE JUST LIKE YOU SAID, I
FEEL LIKE THERE'S ALWAYS
SOMEONE OUT THERE BETTER,
PRETTIER, AND I FEEL LIKE IT
GIVES ME MORE, UM, BOOST TO
TRY TO CONTINUE TO WORK
HARDER.
>> DR. PHIL: YEAH, BUT YOU
LOST 70 POUNDS, RIGHT?
>> I DID.
>> DR. PHIL: GOOD JOB ON
THAT.
FOR A COUPLE OF REASONS.
I SAY HAFOR A COUPLE OF -- SAY
THAT FOR A COUPLE OF REASONS,
IT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER.
AND #2, THAT'S A RETURN TO
HEALTH.
I GUARANTEE YOU, YOUR LAB WORK
WENT FROM OUT HERE TO CENTER
AND UP, YOU BECAME MORE ACTIVE
AND ALL OF THAT.
>> OFF THE COUCH.
YEAH.
>> DR. PHIL: AND YOU WERE
INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE THAT
DUMPED YOU FOR --
>> SOMEONE YOUNGER.
>> DR. PHIL: IN HIS MIND,
SOMEBODY THAT WAS YOUNGER,
CUTER, FRESHER.
>> RIGHT.
>> DR. PHIL: AND, THAT PERSON
CAN BE BEAT OUT FOR SOMEONE
YOUNGER AND CUTER.
LIKE A GUY CAN BE DUMPED FOR
SOMEBODY THAT IS E -- THAT IS
MORE STUDLY.
YOU CAN NEVER WIN THAT
FOOT-RACE.
WHICH ONE OF YOU SAID YOU
WOULD TAKE THE PERFECT
SELF-IE.
YOU DON'T LET OTHERS TAKE THE
PICTURE.
>> HOW DO YOU TAKE THE PERFECT
SELFIE?
>> YOU HAVE TO ANGLE IS LIKE
THIS.
IT HAS TO BE UP AND YOU HAVE
TO HAVE LAKE THE RIGHT
BACKGROUND AND THE RIGHT
LIGHT.
á
>> AND YOU HAVE TO HAVE, LIKE,
THE RIGHT FACIAL EXPRESSION.
>> DR. PHIL: OH, YOU ARE IN
THE RIGHT TOWN FOR ALL OF
THIS.
YOUR SELF-IMAGE IS DAMAGED
BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT FOCUSING
ON THE RIGHT THINGS.
>> IT'S MORE OF A CONTROL THE
ABOUT THER I DO, THE MORE I
AM-- BETTER I DO, THE MORE
CONTROL I HAVE OF MYSELF.
>> DR. PHIL: SUMMER IS THE
SEASON MOST KIDS LOOK FORWARD
TO NO SCHOOL, LOTS OF FREE
TIME AND WARM DACE TO GO OUT
AND PLAY.
FOR MANY, SUMMER MEANS A LOT
LESS TO EAT.
DURING THE SCHOOL YEAR, MORE
THAN 21 MILLION CHILDREN
RECEIVE FREE OR REDUCED
LUNCHES BUT IN THE SUMMER THE
NUMBER DROPS TO OVER 2
MILLION.
THROUGH THE SUMMER FOOD
SERVICE PROGRAM, MEMBER FOOD
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MEALS TO KIDS WHO DEPEND ON
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¶ ¶ á
¶ ¶ >> IF YOUR BODY IMAGE AND SELF-IMAGE ARE TIED TOGETHER,
YOU ARE MAKING A SERIOUS,
SERIOUS MISTAKE.
AND I SAY THAT BASED ON WORK
WITH PEOPLE THAT HAVE BEEN
INJURED AND BECOME PARAPLEGIC
AND QUADRAPLEGIC.
THAT -- THEY HAVE TAUGHT ME
THAT SELF-IMAGE AND BODY IMAGE
TRAVEL CONNECTED TOGETHER EVEN
THOUGH IT SHOULDN'T BE.
THAT IF YOUR BODY IMAGE
DETERIORATES YOUR SELF-IMAGE
TENDS TO GO WITH IT.
>> YES.
>> DR. PHIL: AND PARTICULARLY
WITH MEN, ACTUALLY, I MEAN,
MEN THAT CAN NO LONGER STAND
UP AND FEEL STRONG AND
MASCULINE, THAT FIRST SHOCK
FOR THEM IS TERRIBLE!
IT'S A TERRIBLE SHOCK.
BECAUSE THEIR BODY IMAGE HAS
BEEN DAMAGED.
SO THEIR SELF-IMAGE GOES IN
THE TANK.
AND THEY ARE NOT LESS OF A
MAN, THEY JUST FEEL THAT WAY
IN THE BEGINNING.
AND IF YOUR SELF-IMAGE AND
SELF-WORTH IS TIED TO YOUR
PERCEPTION OF YOUR BODY IMAGE,
YOU ARE IN FOR A ROUGH RIDE
GOING FORWARD.
YOU HAVE GOT TO EXPAND IT,
BEYOND THAT.
I MEAN, WHAT'S YOUR BEST
QUALITY?
ARE YOU SMART?
>> YES.
>> DR. PHIL: CAN YOU CARING?
>> VERY.
>> DR. PHIL: IS SHE A GOOD
FRIEND?
>> THE BEST
>> DR. PHIL: IS SHE LOVING
AND CARING AND SUPPORTIVE.
>> THE MOST GENUINE PERSON I
KNOW.
>> DR. PHIL: THOSE ARE THE
THINGS YOU SHOULD VALUE ABOUT
YOURSELF.
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> DR. PHIL: THOSE ARE, I AM
NOT SAYING THERE'S ANYTHING
WRONG WITH TAKING PRIDE IN
YOUR APPEARANCE, BUT IF THAT'S
HOW YOU ARE DEFEIGNING YOUR
SELF-WORTH, IF THAT'S HOW YOU
ARE DEFINING YOUR SELF-IMAGE,
THEN THOSE THINGS DON'T AGE.
I MEAN, YOUR TRUE QUALITIES OF
BEING CARING AND GIVING AND
CONTRIBUTING SOMETHING, AND
BEING LOYAL AND SUPPORTIVE TO
YOUR FRIENDS, THOSE ARE THE
THINGS THAT -- THOSE THINGS
DON'T AGE.
THE OUTER RACK HERE DOES AGE.
AND YOU CAN FIGHT THIS BATTLE
AND YOU CAN RUN, YOU ARE JUST
GONNA DIE TIRED BECAUSE IT
WILL CATCH UP WITH YOU.
I MEAN YOU ARE GOING TO AGE.
YOU CAN DO THINGS TO HELP AND
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, IT'S
INTERESTING, YOU EACH SAY THE
OTHER IS PRETENER.
>> YEAH.
-- PRETTIER.
>> SO THAT MEANS YOUR
SELF-DAMAGED BECAUSE YOU ARE
NOT FOCUS INGON THE RIGHT
THINGS -- FOCUSING THE RIGHT
THINGS.
>> I HAVE BEEN BATTLING THIS
SINCE HIGH SCHOOL.
AND I THINK THE BETTER I DO,
THE BETTER I AM, THE MORE
CONTROL I HAVE WITH MYSELF.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU GOTTA FOCUS
ON DIFFERENT THINGS.
WE WILL BE RIGHT BACK.
[ APPLAUSE ]
¶ ¶
>> Announcer: MONDAY.
>> CHRIS SAY PATHOLOGICAL
LIAR.
HE SAID HE WAS A PILOT, BUYING
A 500,000 HOUSE.
>> I LIFE OF DECEPTION
>> DR. PHIL: DID HE ACCUSE
YOU OF KIDNAPPING YOUR CHILD?
>> I WANTED MY SON.
>> Announcer: HE MAY HAVE
FALED OTHERS
>> DR. PHIL: I MADE A LIST OF
HIS LIES.
>> Announcer: BUT HAS HE MET
HIS MATCH?
>> WHAT DID YOU DECIDE IS THE
BEST WAY TO PLAY ME.
>> I DON'T LIKE THE FACT --
>> DR. PHIL: I DON'T EXPECT
YOU TO LIKE IT
>> Announcer: THEY SAY HER
DAUGHTER'S BOYFRIEND HOOKED
HER ON HEROIN.
>> HE'S THE DEVIL.
>> DO YOU THINK HE LOVES YOU?
TAKING YOU INTO A DINGHY MOTEL
ROOM, THAT'S NOT LOVING YOU.
>> DO YOU GET IT?
DO YOU WANT HELP?
>> I
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>> BUSEY'S A
>> >> DR. PHIL: BEAUTY IS AN INDIVIDUAL THING.
YOU CAN BE WHERE YOU THINK YOU
ARE AT YOUR ABSOLUTE BEST.
AND SOMEONE CAN LOOK PAST YOU
AND SOMEBODY ELSE MIGHT THINK
SO.
SO, IT'S ALL IN THE EYE OF THE
BEHOLDER AS THEY SAY.
[ APPLAUSE ]
>> YOU JUST --
>> DR. PHIL: WHAT YOU GOTTA
DO IS REALLY FIND WHAT IT IS
YOU THINK IS SO UNIQUE AND
SPECIAL ABOUT WHO YOU ARE.
AND, I MEAN, I WAS JOKING
ABOUT BEING IN THE RIGHT TOWN.
I MEAN LOOK AT THE PEOPLE THAT
ARE SUCCESSFUL IN HOLLYWOOD?
THEY'RE NOT ALWAYS THE
BEST-LOOKING PEOPLE, THEY ARE
DIFFERENT.
THEY ARE DIFFERENT.
THEY ARE UNIQUE PEOPLE THAT
BECOME MOVIE STARS.
FIND SOMETHING ABOUT YOU
THAT'S UNIQUE.
FIND SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR
PERSONALITY THAT POPS.
FIND SOMETHING ABOUT YOU, AND
THOSE THINGS DON'T AGE.
TRUE?
>> RIGHT.
>> DR. PHIL: I MEAN -- THAT'S ALL I AM SAYING.
>> YEAH.
>> DR. PHIL: YOU ARE FOCUSING
ON THE WRONG STUFF.
WE ARE OUT OF TIME.
THANK YOU TO MY GUESTS FOR
BEING HERE.
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[ APPLAUSE ]
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