‫There are really three major reasons that kids would become adults turn up to be really great or quite
‫frankly some of us turn out to be messed up.
‫So what are these three major reasons.
‫Number one is the things we as a parents tell our kids.
‫What do I mean by that.
‫As a parent you can be telling your kids you're never going to be good at soccer.
‫You're never going to be good at playing guitar.
‫You're just not good at science or you might be telling your kids you know what with your hard work
‫dedication passion and enthusiasm.
‫You can become anything in any anything you want to be.
‫You can achieve anything in life.
‫Just follow your passion follow your love.
‫You can become anything.
‫There is a really big difference between really encouraging go kids and supporting them and telling
‫them they can they can do anything they want in life.
‫They can become you know anyone anything they want to become in life or discouraging them and basically
‫telling them that you'll never be good at this you'll never be good at that big big difference kids
‫who were truly supported by their family by their parents who were told that they can be anything they
‫want to be.
‫Are the kids who succeed in life those are the kids that regardless of circumstances regardless where
‫they live regardless of the money their parents had they succeeded.
‫Those are the most kids succeed.
‫The kids who were told by parents that they cannot do this and they never going to be good at this and
‫they're never going to be good at this are kids school quite frankly often didn't really make it good
‫in life.
‫So I know we want them of course to be the best they can be.
‫So please this is important thing.
‫If you if you watch any of like interviews of of you know successful well know people if you read so
‫many biographies in most of them in most of them you will see that their parents told them you can be
‫anything you want to be.
‫I mean that is like the best encouragement that one of the best things we can do for our kids.
‫So that's the reason no one.
‫What's the reason number two the reason number two they can turn up one way or another is what their
‫teachers family members and friends are telling them now.
‫We cannot control what their teachers and sometimes friends and family telling them.
‫If we are not around.
‫But what we can do is we can discuss this with our friends with our kids.
‫And if they ever come back and say teacher said You know I'm never going to be good at this I never
‫gonna be good at that.
‫You need to sit down and talk to them.
‫We need to sit down and make sure that they understand that if they really want to be good at that whatever
‫that is.
‫Of course they can.
‫And help them become good at whatever that is that their teacher telling them they will never be good
‫at.
‫You know unfortunately.
‫And I'm hoping this is happening less and less.
‫But you know I'm talking here too.
‫You know folks from hundred seventy countries and not everything is you know same as it is happening
‫here in the western United States.
‫And unfortunately there are still a lot of schools and teachers who have a different view.
‫What is the best for kids who have a view that maybe it's good to tell them oh you're not good at this
‫and so on.
‫Right.
‫The old teaching model if you will.
‫But we know that doesn't work.
‫We know that that destroys kids self-confidence.
‫We know that.
‫So.
‫So again we cannot control if we are not there but we could discuss that with our kids.
‫Take them back and explain to them that of course of course they can do anything they want to do in
‫life.
‫And there is a number three that kids teenage kids turn up to be really really great.
‫You know success successful in life or you know maybe not so great.
‫Well the third a very important reason is things that they tell themselves you don't have like the entire
‫program when the stories we tell ourselves and how we can rewrite that story.
‫So if chances are if you encouraging and supporting your kids in the idea that they can truly become
‫anything they want to be regardless what's happening outside of home yet they will tell that story to
‫themselves.
‫I mean you know if I just think of my childhood and what my mom was telling me it was always about I
‫can become anything I want to be.
‫Then she kind of after you know started going to high school you going to be my engineer you'll have
‫a funny life.
‫I see you love.
‫You always laugh you you know you sing you'll really enjoy your life and you will be successful.
‫And you know I get the goose bumps when I think about this.
‫But if we tell stories I wish my mom is around so she can hear this.
‫But if you tell things like this to your children to your teenage children trust me that you are going
‫to help them tremendously to succeed in life.
‫You're going to help them so that now they will tell that same thing to themselves.
‫They will say this their stories will become I can be anything I want to be I can succeed in this this
‫and that I can become you know number one in this sport I can whatever it is that they want to be and
‫then they will work hard on it.
‫It's not going to be easy.
‫You know when they want to become number one.
‫But knowing that they can and following their passion and enthusiasm then yes they can.
‫And yes they will.
‫So please be aware of these three things that are really major categories if you will of helping out
‫children our teenage kids become truly successful in life and and have a good mental and and you know
‫body healthy if you will.
‫So a number one is what we tell them.
‫Number two is what their teachers friends family member tell them.
‫And number three is what they tell themselves.