I'm dr. Lisa Aronson Fontes I'm going to
speak about steps to take if you are in
a controlling relationship and have
decided you'd like to get out maybe
you're in a relationship where you're
being isolated insulted micromanaged
manipulated maybe you're being subject
to sexual coercion or physical violence
I know you can feel really trapped in a
relationship like this here are some
tips connect with other people in person
on the phone online don't allow yourself
to become or stay isolated being with
others helps rebuild your confidence and
people can offer you practical
assistance to develop some regular
habits that take you out of the house
such as going for a walk each day or
going to the store to buy a pack of gum
or take out the trash being in the world
is good for you even if your partner is
not physically violent a domestic
violence advocate can help you together
you'll develop a personalized safety
plan that fits your life and what you
want you'll update the plan as your
situation changes an advocate can help
you access money police protection
transportation and housing if you need
it an advocate will listen to you and
support you not push you have the
advocate help you get police protection
if you need it if your partner has
access to guns this is especially
important a counselor or therapist who
understands course of control can also
help you feel strong enough to move on
however a therapist who does not
understand course of control may give
you bad advice couple therapy is not
right if there is abuse or control
between partners it may even be
dangerous you want to protect your money
and your children if you have children
you may need legal advice a domestic
violence age
see can help you find a lawyer who
understands course of control interested
in learning more please check out my
book invisible chains overcoming
coercive control in your intimate
relationship and look for my other
videos on course of control thank you