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i spent my whole life being told what to


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wear


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how to act and what to be when i grew up


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my name is sarah


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and my parents were the absolute worst


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they were always trying to control me


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they were famous lawyers and i was


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destined to be one too while they were


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at work


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i painted a picture of the three of us


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and when they got home


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my mom said what is this ugly painting


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my dad tore the picture up this is a


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waste of time


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they went to their office and slammed


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the door in my face


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my dad asked me what i wanted for my


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birthday i want to go horseback riding


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he blew up what how dare you it's books


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or


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nothing but i don't want to be a lawyer


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they


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exploded you'll be a failure if you


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don't go to law school


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you'll end up just like those kids on


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the other side of town


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they'd shower me with fancy clothes and


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expensive dinners to buy my obedience


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when i was in the seventh grade my


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parents started making me proofread


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their notes in


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court documents for smart people they


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really couldn't spell


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and sometimes i made mistakes on purpose


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i wanted to try being a normal girl for


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once


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what's the worst that could happen i


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came home with a temporary tattoo 

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came home with a temporary tattoo 

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came home with a temporary tattoo and my parents


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and my parents


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lost their minds they hated tattoos more


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than anything


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lawyers don't have tattoos i was just


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having fun for 

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having fun for 

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having fun for i ran up to my room and slammed the door


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i ran up to my room and slammed the door


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i just decided


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to follow their rules not because i like


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them or anything


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it's just because i want them to let me


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live in peace until i met a gorgeous boy


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his name was tyler he played guitar and


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loved video games


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tyler was kind of a dork but in a cute


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way he


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even played in his own band but our


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first meeting


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didn't go so well he tried talking to me


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one day in between classes


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hey sarah was all he said i slapped him


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don't talk to me i didn't mean it i felt


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so bad because he wasn't popular like me


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and my friends


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my parents would kill me if they found


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out about him


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he never talked to me after that


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incident i was sure he hated me


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one day after school tyler was sitting


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up on the bleachers and practicing


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guitar


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whatever he was playing sounded


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beautiful he caught me listening to him


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from behind the snack bar


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he got nervous and stood to walk away i


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yelled out


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wait don't stop i swear i'm not gonna


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slap you this time


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but he kept going i tried to chase after


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him but my high heels


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made it hard to run i took them off and


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ran barefoot after tyler


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i could tell he was surprised once i


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caught up to him why are you talking to


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me


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is this some sort of prank i thought i


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wasn't cool enough for you


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i like your music really you're such a


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good guitar player


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i answered and i meant it we stood in


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silence for a moment


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we didn't know what to say to each other


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so i blurted out


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can you teach me he smirked your dad is


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gonna kill me you know


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forget about him he's stupid let's just


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go back to your place


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tyler agreed and we met up every tuesday


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and thursday after school for


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secret guitar lessons on the bleachers i


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knew my parents wouldn't approve


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i told them i was working with my


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history teacher to learn about


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famous 19th century court cases they


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were impressed and didn't question it


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tyler had an extra guitar he let me


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borrow for lessons but i didn't dare


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bring it home


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he even let me borrow a few cds of his


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favorite bands to listen to for


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inspiration


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my parents were not the musical type


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when i would sing happy birthday


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my mom would cover her ears stop you're


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giving me a headache i wasn't bad at


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guitar


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i wasn't good either but it was never


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about being good or bad


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it was about doing something that i


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wanted to do


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something that made me happy for once


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one day my mother decided to call the


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school


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and personally thank my history teacher


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for helping me with my studies


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of course he didn't have a clue what she


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was talking about


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she drove to the school and caught me


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and tyler on the bleachers


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she marches right up ripped the guitar


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out of my hands and


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smashed it over the metal steps how dare


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you lie to me sarah


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she turned her attention on tyler don't


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you dare come near my daughter again


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i'd had enough i wasn't about to let her


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treat tyler the way she treated me


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get away from him i screamed and pushed


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her away


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to my horror she lost her balance and


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tumbled down the bleachers


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landing on the dirt below i felt


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terrible and ran down to her immediately


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saying i was really sorry but she just


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brushed me aside and yelled


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have fun walking home and with that she


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stormed off


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my life got worse after that when my


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father found out he screamed


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at me you're not allowed to see any of


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your friends


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ever again he took all my cds and


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stomped on them till they were tiny


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little pieces


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one night after not seeing tyler for


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almost two weeks i got a text from him


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he asked if i wanted to come and see his


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band the cadets played a house party


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across town


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i sent back an enthusiastic yes


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and started planning my outfit later


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that evening i pretended to go to bed


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early


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but instead i snuck out of my bedroom


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window hopped onto my bicycle


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and went off to the given address i got


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to the party and


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stuck out like a sore thumb in my pink


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top


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everyone was wearing torn t-shirts and


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tight jeans


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a rock band was playing loudly in the


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living room i recognized a few kids from


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my high school but


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none of them wanted to talk to me it was


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pretty obvious i didn't fit in


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hey sarah tyler ran over tripped and


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spilled his drink on my


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cute top i was mortified but tyler


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laughed and grabbed my hand


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follow me he walked into the kitchen


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where it was a little less crowded


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he reached into a box and shuffled


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around for a bit


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finally he pulled out a t-shirt for me


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to change into


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i stared down at my stained pink top i


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grabbed a lighter off the table and set


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it on fire


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burn burn burn i screamed


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easy there give it to me tyler threw the


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shirt in the bin


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then he grabbed his guitar and hurried


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out of the kitchen he got


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on stage in the living room with the


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rest of his band everyone was dancing


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and singing along


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the cadets were actually really good


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they might actually make it big one day


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it was the greatest night of my life


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tyler drove me home and kissed me


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goodnight


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it was my first kiss and it was amazing


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i had the best night's sleep ever but


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the next morning


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i was rudely woken up by my mom's


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screams


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what's this she had found the cadets


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shirt in the laundry


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where is the pink top i got you for your


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birthday i set it on fire


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it was uncool just like you oh yeah


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she took my cadet shirt downstairs and


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threw it in the oven


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let's see how well this holds up at 400


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degrees


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i tried to open the oven door but my


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mother held it shut


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please please tyler gave that to me


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i told you i don't want you seeing that


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boy


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now go to your room and study i can't


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wait to go to college


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i can't wait to be away from you and


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this house


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i stormed off and slammed my door


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college was only a few weeks away


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even if it meant i wouldn't see tyler


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again at least i'd get away from my


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parents


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but i could never really get away from


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them i met


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all sorts of new people at college but i


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only focused on my classes and didn't


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make any friends


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i could always hear my father's voice in


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my head how is


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making friends going to get you into the


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country's best law program


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my parents told me i wasn't even allowed


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to get a job


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they wanted nothing to distract me from


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my studies


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so they gave me a credit card to take


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care of my expenses


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the only thing i'd really started


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enjoying was studying at a quiet little


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cafe i'd discovered


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but dad even found a way to ruin that


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for me sitting


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hundreds of miles away i didn't give you


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a credit card to spend


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hundreds of dollars on coffee stay in


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your dorm to study


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one morning i noticed a help wanted sign


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on the front door of the cafe


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i marched up to the counter and instead


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of ordering my usual coffee


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i asked for an application the job was


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easy it was


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fun even making my own money felt so


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good and i also realized something i


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didn't want to pour coffee for the rest


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of my life but owning my own cafe


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sounded


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really cool i went to pay my family a


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visit on the weekend


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and for a change i was actually looking


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forward to it


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the minute we sat down for dinner at a


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fancy restaurant


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the questions started pouring in how's


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school


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how are your grades even grandma chimed


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in


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where are you going to get a job as i


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cut up my steak i


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casually replied oh grandma i already


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have a job


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at a coffee shop they stared at me like


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i'd lost


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my mind what are you doing wasting time


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in a coffee shop


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how's that going to help you become a


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lawyer i look dad


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straight in the eye it won't because i'm


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not going to be a lawyer


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dad went ballistic and smashed his plate


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onto the floor


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everyone in the restaurant was staring


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at us but he didn't seem to care


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are you crazy we spent so much money on


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you and gave you


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everything and you just want to throw


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your life away


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i'm gonna cut off your allowance i


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didn't scream back


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i stood up and took his credit card out


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of my wallet


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then i snapped it in half and walked out


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of the restaurant


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they would never control me again i went


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back to college and reconnected with


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tyler


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we met up for a cup of coffee at my


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favorite place


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he told me that the cadets were playing


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a few towns over and


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needed a tour manager and even though


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the opportunity to travel the world


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seemed really exciting


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i wanted to complete my degree and save


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up for my coffee shop


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so i turned his offer down but we


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started dating


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we got married a few years later and he


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was my biggest support in setting up my


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dream cafe


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to this day i run the most popular cafe


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in the city


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even my parents eventually forgave me


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and they sometimes stopped by for coffee


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in between court dates


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people from all walks of life come


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through my doors


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each with a unique dream or goal here in


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my little coffee shop


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i hope they make their dreams come true