we spend our lives on the Internet's 我们将生命放在互联网上
we're no longer really interacting with 我们不再真正与之互动
people in the real world you know even 甚至你所知道的现实世界中的人
if you're walking down the street you're 如果你走你的街道
on your cell phone all the time 你他妈的手机所有的时间
you go home you chat on Facebook 你回家后在Facebook上聊天
probably most of your friends you chat 可能大部分你聊天的朋友
with them more on Facebook than in 与Facebook相比， 他们更多
person or on whatsapp more than in 人还是比whatsapp多
person 人
it's like you'd rather text 这就像你想要的文字
relationships now guys would rather they 现在人们都会宁愿他们关系
like the relationship where they text 就像他们发短信的关系一样
more so than in person it's crazy 比亲自更疯狂
there's that same like long term you 就像你长期以来一样
know long-distance relationships don't 知道长途关系不
work at this point we're getting more 在这一点上的工作我们越来越多
and more hooked on the long-distance 更加迷上了长途
it's like we'd rather get our little hit 这就像我们宁愿得到我们的小小命中一样
of text and let our imagination fill it 的文字，让我们的想象力填补它
in and there's kind of in person you're 在和人有一种你
like yeah there she is but then you get 就像她在那里，但是你会得到
your hit and you're like traveling it's 你的命中，你就像旅行它
crazy like I have friends like that 疯狂像我有这样的朋友
they're rather be further away and 他们宁可和更远
they'd rather they keep going for girls 他们宁愿他们继续为女孩
where it's like long-distance just so 这就像是长途旅行
they can get to high off the text back 他们可以把文本背得很高
and forth so it's kind of weird I mean 所以我的意思是很奇怪
it's awesome to have the Internet's but 它的真棒有 互联网，但
in a way it's like we're more connected 在某种程度上，它就像我们更加连接
yet more alone you know even in terms of 即使在你看来，你也知道更多
socializing like back in the day you 社交就像当天你一样
know before we were all born before the 在我们出生之前就知道了
internet most likely you finish work you 互联网最有可能你完成你的工作
go home and you have a need to socialize 回家， 你需要社交
you have a need to talk to people versus 你需要和人对话
just be isolated and because you 只是他妈的孤立，因为你
can't just jump on a computer you get 不能只跳上你得到的电脑上
out of the house and go talk to people 走出房子去和人交谈
you go out and do right now you can 你 现在可以 出去做狗屎
virtually fulfill that need just at home 实际上只是在家里满足这种需求
you're like oh I need to socialize jump 你就像哦，我需要社交跳跃
on the computer chat on Facebook if you 如果你在电脑上在Facebook上聊天
get a video game like World of 得到一个他妈的电子游戏，比如Worldof
Warcraft not only do you socialize now 不仅是魔兽，你现在应酬
you have a purpose it's crazy 你有一个疯狂的目的
it's like that could be your purpose and 这就像这可能是你的目的和
there's the friends the alliances you 有朋友是你的联盟
have you have like different missions 你有喜欢不同的任务吗？
you level up your characters you're 你升级你的角色
growing as a character too you have that 成长为一个角色也是如此
sense of fulfillment yeah you're staying 是你留下来的满足感
the same 一样
you're just virtually doing it now I 你只是做几乎现在我
think it's cool I mean it's 认为这是他妈的很酷我的意思是它
crazy with technology but on your end 疯狂的技术，但在你的最后
there's still that little need you know 仍然有那么一点需要你知道
less unfilled and what's happening is 没有空缺，发生了什么
we're spending so much time in the 我们在这里花了很多时间
virtual world that we can't really 虚拟世界，我们不能真正
interact normally anymore in the real 在真实中正常交互
world people are gotten less and less 世界人民越来越少
socially savvy you know meaning there's 社会精明， 你知道这意味着什么
a certain context and different 一定的背景和不同
interactions there's a certain context 互动有一定的背景
even in this room here say when asking 即使在这个房间里，在询问时也会说
certain questions and people just 某些问题和人
and grasp it and what happens there's 抓住它，发生什么
these weird awkward interactions now 这些奇怪的尴尬交互现在
where you're acting in the real world is 你在现实世界中扮演的角色是什么
if you're online and it's super weird 如果你在线，这是超级怪异的
and it communicates such low value and 并传达如此低的价值和
it just kills a lot of opportunities for 它只是杀死 了 大量的机会
you if you see two different 你如果看到两个不同的
interactions happening you should get a 互动发生你应该得到一个
feel emotionally for what's going on and 情绪上感受发生了什么事情
saying one interaction like something we 说一个互动就像我们一样
talk about a lot is giving value versus 谈论很多是价值对比
taking value if you see an interaction 如果您看到互动，就会获得价值
where it's like taking value you'll get 这就像获得价值一样
a certain feel for it if it's giving 如果它给予了某种感觉
value get another feel for it and I 价值获得另一种感觉，我和我
showed you know footage of say me 让你知道说我的镜头
interacting with all these people I'm 与所有这些人互动
like here's the difference and more and 就像这里的差异和更多
more guys couldn't see the difference 更多的人看不出差异
they would need a logical explanation 他们需要一个合理的解释
but they couldn't feel the difference 但他们无法感受到这种差异
now this is not necessary your fault 现在这不是你的错
just the direction we're going in and 只是我们进入的方向
this is the cool thing about going out 这是关于走出去的很酷的事情
and socializing with people and it 和人与 它交往
doesn't matter who you are you know it's 无论你是谁，你知道这是
like go out and like is a little daily 喜欢外出，喜欢有点 日常
ritual everyday just talk to three new 每天的仪式只是谈三个新的
people if you just do that you will get 人， 如果你只是这样做，你会得到
so much value because that's you 非常他妈的价值，因为那就是你
develop that social intelligence and 开发社交智能和
then if someone said here it's like 那么如果有人在这里说这是这样的
start noticing the different dynamics 开始注意到不同的动态
start asking yourself okay what was the 开始问自己没事吧
person thinking or feeling don't just 思考或感觉的人不只是
get so caught up in you you you you you 让 你 如此深深地迷恋于你你
because that happens to you're going up 因为这发生在你身上
you're like what about me well they see 你像 他们看到我有什么 好
the little wrinkles in my shirt how they 我的衬衫上的小皱纹 如何
judging me can they see this oh my god 判断我能否看到这个噢，我的上帝
what are all these other people think to 这些其他人想到的是什么？
me it's like maybe it's like get out of 我可能就像是离开了一样
your head 你的头
okay what about this other person what 好的，这个其他人怎么样？
are they feeling what are they thinking 他们觉得他们在想什么？
what happens if I say something like 如果我说的话会发生什么
this in this context what if I say it 在这种情况下，如果我这么说的话
this way huh okay that doesn't click 这种方式很好，没有点击
what about like this and then you start 怎么样，然后你开始
recognizing different patterns that's 认识到不同的模式
the key to social intelligence its 社交智能的关键所在
massive social references and pattern 大量的社会参考和模式
recognition you go out and you interact 承认你出去和你互动
with thousands upon thousands of people 成千上万的人
you're gathering more social experiences 你正在收集更多的社交体验
than most people would in their entire 比大多数人都会
lives and then you start getting 他妈的生活，然后你开始得到
a feel for what's appropriate and when 对于什么是适当的，当感觉
and that's a skill set that more 这是一个他妈的技能更多
and more people are lacking social 更多的人缺乏社交
intelligence is knowing what is 情报知道是什么
appropriate to whatever context you're 适合你的任何背景
in at the moment I'm that goes to 在我现在就是这样的时刻
certain context is also mean use 某些上下文也意味着使用
appropriate something that is considered 适当考虑的事情
common sense and something that isn't 常识，而不是
right now in a seminar like this for 现在在这样的研​​讨会上
example if I'm talking right now about 例如，如果我现在谈论的话
social intelligence we're building up 我们正在建立的社交智能
towards the point where 对这种地步
exploring this topic what that's the 探索这个话题是什么
context what would be inappropriate if 上下文什么是不适当的，如果
right now in the middle of a sentence do 现在在一个句子中间呢
it 它
good what's your question would you like 好什么是你的问题， 你想
to add on to what we're talking about 以增加我们正在谈论的内容
how do I text a girl that would not be 我怎么给一个不会的女孩发短信？
appropriate to this context okay and 适合这个背景没关系
what does that communicate about that 这是什么沟通呢
person not to dis that person and not to 人不要去那个人而不去
scare you from asking any questions 恐吓你提出任何问题
what does it communicate that that 这是什么传达的
person can't see outside of himself he 人不能看到自己以外，他
can't grasp okay here's the dynamic of 不能把握这里的动态
the group here's the environment here's 这里的团队就是这里的环境
the context this what's going on 这是什么发生的情况
it just communicates that he has no 它只是表明他没有
social intelligence no social intuition 社会智力没有社会直觉
what would be appropriate to the context 上下文适合什么
here for example asking a question that 在这里例如问一个问题
adds value that adds what we're talking 增加了增加我们所说的内容的价值
about when you ask the question same 关于何时提问相同
thing here's there's two ways children 这里的事儿有两种方式
come again what's up they were building 再来一次，他们正在建造什么
there's a lot of energy what's up I have 我有很多精力
a question with the social intelligence 社交智能问题
and the question that kills that sucks 以及杀死那些糟糕的问题
the energy out of the room 他妈的能量离开了房间
everyone's like well it's like you're 每个人都很喜欢它，就像你一样
building it's a gun ended up done don't 建立它是一把枪最终完成不了
do that that is so low social 那么社交这么低
intelligence where this rambling for too 智力在哪里这也是漫不经心
long you know I kind of cut a few people 多久你就知道我有几个人被砍了
short earlier on it's like I have a 早些时候它就像我有一个
question so when I was 5 years old and 所以当我5岁的时候问题
here's my entire life story I'm like 这是我的整个人生故事
what's the question I'm getting to it 我得到了什么问题
and when I was seven missing it's like 当我七岁的时候就是这样
okay what when I was nine it's coming 好吧，当我九岁的时候，它即将到来
it's coming like what's the damn 它就像是该死的他妈的
question that is something that also 问题也是这样
sucks out of the room okay the way you 按照你的方式把房间吸了出来
ask it it's always like ad in the vibe 问它它总是像在盛传的广告
add a smile add some energy let's pump 添加一个微笑添加一些能量让我们抽水
it let's create something here together 让我们一起在这里创造一些东西
that's appropriate to the context some 这是适当的上下文一些
other examples would be you know say say 其他例子是你知道说的
I tell a joke right now and say everyone 我 现在 讲一个笑话，说每个人
laughs what would not be appropriate 笑什么都不合适
would be to be like say I do the joke 将会像我说的那样开玩笑
everyone's laughing and I'm like hey 每个人都在笑，我很喜欢嘿
wait a minute wait a minute 等一下等一下
by the way do you guys really get the 顺便说一句， 你们真的得到了
joke it's funny because this equals this 开玩笑这很有趣，因为这等于这个
ha ha that kills it that sucks the air 哈哈，杀死它，吸空气
out of the room do you guys get this I 走出房间你们会得到这个我
hope yes I there's another one too this 希望是的， 我还有另外一个
isn't 不
it was Jeff he was with a client and he 他是杰夫， 他和一个客户和他在一起
was like standing on this on the on this 就像在这上面站着
stair thing and he was talking this 楼梯的事情，他正在说这个
girl's like really really tall and she 女孩喜欢真的很高，她
was joking because he's small but he's 在开玩笑， 因为他很小，但他是
standing on it and she obviously know 站在上面，她显然知道
what he's standing on it she's joking oh 他站在上面是在开玩笑哦
man you're really tall he's like yeah 男人你真的很高，他就像是
and like jokes around a bit 就像笑话一样
the guy who's with Jeff he's like no no 与杰夫在一起的那个人，他是不是没有
no no listen let me interrupt everyone 不听不让我打断每个人
let me interrupt he's actually not tall 让我打断他实际上并不高
look there's a step so you see he looks 看起来有一个步骤， 所以你看他看起来
tall cuz he's standing on the step that 高高的因为他站在台阶上
just kills it sucks the vibe out there's 只是杀死它吸引了那里的氛围
no design that social intelligence and 没有设计，社会的智慧和
this is something that you have to learn 这是你必须学习的东西
okay and the way you learn this is very 好吧，你学习的方式是非常的
straightforward but not necessarily easy 直截了当，但不一定容易
to do it's massive social references and 做它大量的社会参考和
pattern recognition yes in the back okay 模式识别是在后面好吧
now couple big Grady when you think 现在， 当你想到时，就会 结合大格雷迪
great you been hey hot spot spot spot 伟大的你是嘿热点现货点
but oh my god 但我的天啊
okay best example of social intelligence 社交智能最好的例子
number one it didn't seem like you 第一，它不像你
mean that great event man first 他妈的意味着伟大的事件男人第一
of all um Queensland where is this mug 所有这个昆士兰州，这杯子在哪里
great event man yeah 伟大的事件人他妈的是的
and number two number two if I talk but 如果我说话的话，排在第二位
there's bit the three points okay what 有位的三个点什么好
are your three points I hope they're not 是你的三点，我希望他们不是
three complaints but proceed 三个投诉， 但继续
but is that when you move to LA yeah 但是，当你移动到洛杉矶是的
nothing to offer but I think the 没有提供， 但我认为
important things that you offer work 重要的事情，你提供的工作
like a is not talk about your show and 如不谈论 你的节目，
it's not not only now yes hey putt are 现在不只是嘿，推杆
you do you think right now I'm going to 你现在认为我会去做
sound like a dick but it's for your own 听起来像一个鸡巴，但它是为你自己的
good do you think right now people 你认为现在的人很好
you're adding we're taking do you think 你在补充，我们正在采取你的想法
people are into what you're saying no 人到你在说什么没有
you want to know why because they came 你想知道为什么，因为他们来了
to see me I'm joking I'm just the 看到我我在开玩笑，我只是
intentions are really good behind what 意图是非常好的背后
you're saying but then it's like the 你说的但是那就像是
context so there's always an appropriate 上下文，所以总是一个合适的
context and because your intentions are 上下文， 因为你的意图是
good that's awesome but because you 这很好，但因为你
don't are not aware of the context 不要不知道上下文
happens in like just any interactions 就像任何互动一样发生
like if you again don't seek to 就像你再次不寻求
understand first understand who that 先了解了解谁是
person is where they're coming from 人是他们来自的地方
who the crowd is where they're coming 谁是他们来的人群
from what the context of this event is 从这个事件的背景来看
it's not going to click and it's going 它不会点击，它会继续
to make things worse that's like me 让事情变得更糟，就像我一样
coming up to a I don't know 来一个他妈的我不知道
business event and I interrupt the guy 商业活动和我打断了这个人
speaking or say you're in 说或说你在他妈的
University and there's a teacher like 大学里有一位老师喜欢
okay so this is what you do I'm sir sir 好的，所以这就是你做我先生的先生
sir 先生
first of all great class um I love what 首先是伟大的班级，我喜欢什么
you're writing there seem like fuck's 你写在那里看起来像他妈的
this guy but but I just want to make it 这个人，但我只是想做到这一点
clear for all these who didn't 清除所有 这些谁没有
understand let me just repeat what you 明白让我重复一下你
said so guys with two plus two and make 说， 所以两个加两个球员，并作出
four and I think that's very important 四，我认为这非常重要
you understand his teacher told us great 你明白他的老师对我们很好
point sir the second thing he said every 点先生他说的每一件事的第二件事
was like dude we were all there we 就像哥们儿，我们都在那里
appreciated we were all there but who 感激我们都在那里，但谁
the are you not to diss it again 他妈的是你不要再失去它
the intentions really good just like 意图非常好，就像
that awareness of the context it kills 意识到它所杀的背景
every time and that's what I'm saying 每一次，这就是我说的
it's shocking too because I mean how the 这也是令人震惊的， 因为我的意思是
would you know you know it's like 他妈的，你知道你知道它是这样的
it's all three different references if 这是所有三个不同的参考如果
you're just spending a lot of time and 你只是花了很多时间和
this is everyone today on the 这是今天每个人都在他妈的
computer and then you got in the real 电脑，然后你得到了真正的
world you have no idea because on the 世界，你不知道，因为在
computer guess what there's a live video 电脑猜猜有什么实况视频
a webinar what's next to that 一个网络研讨会什么是他妈的旁边
webinar the chatbox hey guys big dicks 网络研讨会聊天室嘿家伙大迪克斯
and all this weird and then you 和所有这些奇怪的狗屎，然后你
come to a seminar like this and you're 来参加这样的研讨会，你就是
like I guess the chatbox is I just speak 就像我猜想聊天盒就是我说的
up in front of everyone 在大家面前
dick pics yes notes 迪克图片是笔记
the context the context the context and 上下文的背景和背景
again it's like it's it's harsh to say 再次，这就像说它是苛刻的
here and again I really appreciate and I 一次又一次我真的很感激我
do agree with everything you said by the 同意你所说的一切
way that's I'm saying the place is 这就是我说的地方
coming from and what you're saying is 来自并且你说的是
on points but because it doesn't 他妈的点，但因为它没有
connect it just kills and you'll repel a 连接它只是杀死，你会击退一个
lot of people just in terms of you need 很多人只是在条款的需要
after this in your life if you do 在这之后，如果你这样做的话
because you could be the greatest guy 因为你可能是最伟大的人
intentions have the greatest ideas but 意图有最伟大的想法，但
it won't click with other people because 它不会与其他人点击， 因为
of that this is Julian and welcome to 的，这是朱利安和欢迎
transformation amazing this was 他妈的令人惊讶的变化是
huge for me this was so so important it 对我来说这非常重要
gave me by far the credit as I've ever 像我一样给了我迄今为止的信誉
had this made me finally confront my 这让我终于面对我的了
deepest fears we got a real deep and I 最深的恐惧， 我们得到了一个真正的深刻和我
found some issues within myself one of 找到了心中 的一个的一些问题
the best things less is reform or less 最好的东西少于改革或更少
or your best experience going through 或者你最好的体验 经历
this program is what completely changed 这个程序是完全改变的
my life on every single level okay be it 我的每一个级别的生活都可以
health wealth relationships higher 健康财富关系更高
purpose you name it this is a stuff that 目的你的名字，这是一个东西
finally finally produced that true long 终于终于产生了真正的漫长
lasting personal transformation we're 我们是持久的个人变革
all after 之后
you 您