- Oftentimes in my in-person or virtual workshops,
I will ask my clients to stop immediately,
don't move a muscle, and take a look at each other,
either through the screens like this
or around the room like this,
and tell me what the body language of the other people
is sending to you?
Whether or not you're sitting or standing,
your body language posture is already sending a message.
For example, as I'm sitting before you right now,
I am towards the middle of my chair.
I'm not leaning back against the back.
I'm leaning about 30 degrees forward to show interest,
and energy, and enthusiasm.
If I were that much closer,
it would look like I wanted to jump up and leave the room,
so I don't go too close.
If I'm this farther back,
it's starting to look like I'm disinterested,
or I'm a little more informal, or a little more relaxed
and not quite as engaged.
Your standing posture, same thing.
The more that you can stand and lean to slightly in
towards the person whom you're speaking,
don't interrupt that interpersonal space,
but give your strength and your core some energy.
Pull in that core,
pull in those muscles as you're sitting or standing.
Not only does it send a signal of focus and energy
to your audience, but here's what's really important,
if you're starting to lose interest
or you're starting to lose a little bit of focus,
it can happen, strengthen that core
and you give yourself that energy
and your posture is going to indicate and remind yourself
to stay in focus as well.
So your posture sends a great message to others
and yourself.
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