(old-time piano music)
- My father gave me the sex talk around 17.
- I first learned about sex probably
when I was like 10 or 11, probably from HBO or the internet.
- When I was six years old, my mother gave me
my first sex talk.
She said read this book, and then come and talk to me.
- My parents never gave me the sex talk.
I thought that you just get pregnant when you got married,
and that was like an automatic thing.
- I knew what a vagina was, I was confused
because I remember seeing lots of pictures of it
covered in hair, and I was like, well how do you find it?
- I remember thinking none of these vaginas
really look like mine.
- The most surprising thing about sex is how short it is.
- [Interviewer] So we would love for you to call your mom.
- Umm...
- Call dad.
(phone ringing)
- [Mom On Phone] Hey honey, what is it?
- Do you remember the sex talk you gave me?
- [Mom] Oh gosh.
- I'm trying to remember if we actually had
like a nuts and bolts sex talk.
- [Dad On Phone] No, I don't think that we did,
but you know, we always had, you know,
that you have to be very respectful of the girls,
make sure that you don't get anybody pregnant.
- [Mom On Phone] I started giving you the sex talk,
and you, you just went and started yelling things,
you didn't want to hear about it.
And they taught you in school.
- Okay, yeah, sounds all 100 percent familiar.
- [Mom On Phone] When you were in elementary school,
I remember you talked about how the baby,
you know, became a baby.
So I thought, oh okay, that's good,
the school is doing my job, so it's good, it's good.
- [Dad On Phone] I never had the sex talk with my dad.
I don't think that sex existed then.
- [Dad On Phone] I had to find everything out on my own.
- [Mom On Phone] My mom never talked to me about that.
I think I did my best, but it's only my best.
- Is there something that you wish you would have told me
about sex, looking back.
- [Mom On Phone] You just always seemed
like such a responsible person.
- What I wish you would have told me,
I wish you would have told me about how complicated
sex was emotionally.
- I think I wish I had listened and let you tell me
your talk, hear what you had to say versus
what they taught us, and what we learned on our own.
- [Mom On Phone] If I have another little girl,
I may be a better mom.
- You were, you're a great mom, so.
- [Mom] Yeah, thank you, love you.
- Love you too.
You guys, she made me cry.
- [Dad On Phone] Bye bye everybody.
- Bye, thanks, love you.
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(vibrant soul music)