As we grow and learn we come to believe that our own pathways are the best rules to follow often regardless
of whether they're really leading us in the best direction.
Those roads become our beliefs about everything.
It made no difference what was really true and what wasn't true.
Those were the messages we received in time.
Each of us began to believe that the picture we had of our own identity was set and still we believed
we could make little changes.
But when it came to changing the big things our personality our intelligence our happiness set point
and so on we believed making those kinds of changes was psychologically impossible.
Changing your self-talk clearly works and it makes life changing differences in people's lives.
Here's how self-talk and the neural plasticity work together in everyday life.
Let's say Jennifer really wanted to lose weight and keep it off.
She knew her self-esteem was low and she wanted to change it.
Lately she hadn't liked herself and she didn't like how she looked after trying unsuccessfully to deal
with.
One died after another.
Jennifer finally decided to change the negative program she had about herself and to replace them with
a healthier Mandl picture of herself instead of changing diets she decided to change herself thok.
When Jennifer changed her self-talk she changed her programming.
By doing that she actually changed the wiring of her brain.
Jennifer wasn't dwelling on the wiring that was going on in her brain but she felt different and she
felt a lot better.
She was creating a new picture of herself and with her new self-talk she was learning to value herself
more highly because of that new picture of herself in her mind.
Jennifer began to become the new picture of herself but her new self-talk had created.
The key point here is that before Jennifer change her self-talk she had been fighting the symptoms of
the problem instead of fixing the problem itself.
In this case years of negative self-talk that had destroyed Jennifer's picture of herself by changing
her self-talk she wired new circuits into place.
The old negative programs were eliminated and so was the extra weight.
Jennifer had been trying to lose self-talk and neuroplasticity work together to create actual changes
in something as important and essential as self-esteem and weight loss.
It requires the choice to do it.
And there are rules to follow but anyone who wants to use self-talk to change things in his or her everyday
life can do so.