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As we grow and learn we come to believe that our own pathways are the best rules to follow often regardless

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of whether they're really leading us in the best direction.

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Those roads become our beliefs about everything.

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It made no difference what was really true and what wasn't true.

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Those were the messages we received in time.

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Each of us began to believe that the picture we had of our own identity was set and still we believed

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we could make little changes.

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But when it came to changing the big things our personality our intelligence our happiness set point

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and so on we believed making those kinds of changes was psychologically impossible.

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Changing your self-talk clearly works and it makes life changing differences in people's lives.

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Here's how self-talk and the neural plasticity work together in everyday life.

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Let's say Jennifer really wanted to lose weight and keep it off.

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She knew her self-esteem was low and she wanted to change it.

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Lately she hadn't liked herself and she didn't like how she looked after trying unsuccessfully to deal

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with.

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One died after another.

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Jennifer finally decided to change the negative program she had about herself and to replace them with

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a healthier Mandl picture of herself instead of changing diets she decided to change herself thok.

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When Jennifer changed her self-talk she changed her programming.

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By doing that she actually changed the wiring of her brain.

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Jennifer wasn't dwelling on the wiring that was going on in her brain but she felt different and she

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felt a lot better.

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She was creating a new picture of herself and with her new self-talk she was learning to value herself

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more highly because of that new picture of herself in her mind.

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Jennifer began to become the new picture of herself but her new self-talk had created.

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The key point here is that before Jennifer change her self-talk she had been fighting the symptoms of

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the problem instead of fixing the problem itself.

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In this case years of negative self-talk that had destroyed Jennifer's picture of herself by changing

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her self-talk she wired new circuits into place.

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The old negative programs were eliminated and so was the extra weight.

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Jennifer had been trying to lose self-talk and neuroplasticity work together to create actual changes

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in something as important and essential as self-esteem and weight loss.

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It requires the choice to do it.

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And there are rules to follow but anyone who wants to use self-talk to change things in his or her everyday

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life can do so.